How can I build confidence?

Impossible-asset · 2019-10-17T23:47:21+00:00

Well the best thing to when it comes to the presentation of confidence that others perceive, then the secret is to realize that most peoples opinion about you regarding (activity X) doesnt matter a hill of beans. Is it your job, family, or immediate social circle? No? Their opinion doesnt matter. That's a pretty sound generalization to follow.

For yourself. What you need to do is focus on the activity or aspect about yourself that you are NOT confident about, and then practice, refine, study, and immerse yourself in until it becomes as much of a familiar habit as jerking off. Once you can perform (action X) basically as a habit, then you wont have any lack of confidence because you would have mastered the thing.

FearUnicorns · 2019-10-17T04:20:46+00:00

I'm not great at this but two things:

Knowledge

Experience

Pick what you want to have confidence in and work on those two things.

DopaMonkey · 2019-10-17T05:25:02+00:00

> What are some practical steps I can put into motion to build myself up?

The idea that you need to be confident comes from the ego. Focusing on minimizing the ego is IMO very important to developing confidence in a healthy way, no denial coping systems like stoicism or rubbish that gets spread around on self-improvement forums. You're comparing yourself to the people around you in order to develop a self-image that helps you fit into the dominance hierarchy - which is a misguided thought process. Like animals, humans cast judgement on other humans in order to form what is known as the "dominance hierarchy" (like a pecking order in chickens but not so obvious). If you can understand the system, you can rise above it and GYOW.

So it doesn't matter if you're confident or not, that being said it's important to improve quality of life - so here are some steps :

1.Start exercising (push are great to start out with) - take how many push-ups you can do in one set and then halve it,
do this amount 5 times a week until they start to feel easy. Increase amount over time. The reason you shouldn't
being doing a lot is because you want to come back to this, sure a bunch of volume everyday is going to get you
there faster but it really doesn't matter if you're only 17. There's a bunch of time to slowly build up the discipline and
not worry about missing training sessions (because it will feel good to workout, you will want to do your daily push-
ups. A muscular physique will place you higher on the dominance hierarchy and people will start treating you better,
which will raise your confidence.

Meditate twice a day (time is irrelevant), this is important because it can help out a lot with existential despair and
is basically the only
way to become stoic (it changes your brain structure - the fight or flight reflex goes down and other good parts
increase in size). "Some guys that I know are just unshakable and I feel like I can fall over in the wind some days" -
this will help a lot in that aspect of your concern.
Remove gratification that serves no self-fulfilling purpose (videogames, youtube, porn etc) - it's important if you want to be better.

mgtowco · 2019-10-17T06:57:53+00:00

How would you walk if you are confident? Maybe you walk superman? Move as if you confident, in time you will confident.

801735 · 2019-10-17T07:54:56+00:00

Compare yourself only to yourself from yesterday? Make progress compared to that instead to others?

DisorderAgent · 2019-10-17T10:47:08+00:00

Apart from everything you have been told, you could read about stoicism.

Heisenbergeffect · 2019-10-17T20:46:55+00:00

If you really want to know, you have to realize confidence is not a thing in itself.

It's a byproduct of self worth.
One you start realizing that your worth, confidence comes with it.

So ask yourself, why do i doubt my worth.
Maybe try some basic self affirmation techniques. Tell yourself that you are. Repeatedly, every day.
Look up self affirmation techniques and go from there.

Anthony_Fellowlin · 2019-10-19T02:54:34+00:00

Confidence is not only being happy with yourself but also mot giving a shit about how people perceive you.

Don’t worry about excersice or practicing giving a girl a high five (sarcasm). Working out is fine and all but mot actually needed to feel confident.

My personally, i would be just be myself no matter what and when people didnt care or didnt like what i do (hunt, talk politics, give my own opinion on anything) i would simply think “eh who cares what they want me to be” and just keep doing it. At first it sucked because i went from completely silent to somewhat talkitive about how i feel about things which i forced myself to come out of my shell to do.

In the end more people talk to you knowing that you know what you want and arent afraid to say it, and even though some people wont like that change from you being complacent as to avoid stress to being yourself regardless, just think about how much you shouldn’t care.

Title	How can I build confidence?
Author	I_will_be_great_
Upvotes	8
Comments	8
Date	October 17, 2019 3:57 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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