So just to make this brief. I play volley ball with a group of friends on a weekly basis and I've even dated some women on the court. The volley ball host introduced me to a friend of hers who was playing with us for the first time. She's not a regular, she was in town and decided to come try it out. Our interaction was brief but the vball hosts informs me a few days later that she likes me. I never tried anything with this girl because she was from out of town and I wasn't sure I was into her. that must have been 2 months ago. occasionally the vball group hangs out side of the vball courts. Long story short I get a text from the vball hosts that this girl wanted to see me and hang out. the vball host and this girl were playing pool. She even friend requested on facebook before I got to the billards place. to keep it short she was very responsive to my grilling and teasing of her. we ended up kissing and many times through out the night while drinking. She even grinded on me while dancing and grabbed my crotch on the dance floor. we ended the night going back to the vball hosts place for wine.

so lets recap:

  • she likes me
  • she kissed me
  • she grinded on me while dancing
  • she grabbed my cock
  • she even left a huge hickie on my neck

so of course I reciprocate just the same.

so back to the vball hosts place.

I laid down in one of the rooms as I was in and out from drinking. I wake up and see the girl. I guess to check up on me and I saw an opportunity to escalate with her in the room. I put her on the bed with me. Kissing her and removing her bra and unzipping her pants. she said no.....i kept going....she said no again and I kept going....I finally start fingering her and for the third time she told me to stop. I understand that escalation is important and that no doesn't always mean no but by the third time....I felt I had to stop. I liked her and no intention of hurting or scaring her. All this happening in less than 30-45 seconds. She left shortly after.

this happened last sunday.

  • I messaged her on facebook on monday to make sure everything is ok. Didn't hear back from her.

-I messaged the vball host and apparently the girl told her and the girl was not ok with my antics but she's not talking about it further according to the vball host.

I don't know what I did wrong here from a red pill perspective.

I'm ready to move on from this and I just want feed back. What could've I done differently?