I'm new to this sub, but after being severely abused by two romantic partners in my life, I've become much more personally involved with men's rights. I might get into it in future posts but here's my current concern...

Just now on facebook, I saw a post telling us to teach men to not normalize touching women's waists as you pass them by. I've never personally done this or felt a need, and of course touching someone like that shouldn't be accepted, but I've become admittedly jaded. Yes, I agree it shouldn't be done, but the wording of the post came off as bigoted and demonizing to men. I immediately thought: what about all the women I've known that say "excuse me" once, and then proceed to push the man out of the way before he even has time to react.

It's not just they they push past them, they do it aggressively. What I observe is that the specific women who do this enter the situation expecting to be disrespected. The last time I saw this was at a bar, and a man was standing talking to a group of friends. The woman said excuse me and he obviously didn't hear her, simple as that. She perceived it as him purposefully ignoring/disrespecting her, and proceeded to elbow him out of the way. No one said anything, no one did anything. They allowed it to happen and let her get away with it without consequence. To me, this normalizes it, because the woman who got away with it leaves the situation feeling as if she's in the right, because no one told her it was wrong.

It's funny to me, because society views men as the aggressors, but in my experience, most of the aggression and hostility I've experienced has come from women. Now, obviously I'm not saying this to diminish violence women have experienced, I'm simply describing something men experience and nothing more. In hindsight, I see men being physically pushed around a lot; concerts, bars, and subways to name a few. It's not necessarily an every day occurrence, but it happens enough that I notice it, and no one seems to care enough to speak out about it.

Has anyone else noticed this trend? I know for a fact I wouldn't appreciate being elbowed, and I sure as hell am not out to disrespect anyone. If I don't move, it's because I didn't hear you.