I'm an incel. Was fired from my job. Any advice on my situation when asymmetrical relationship opportunities for men and women seem to poise the average man in the 21 century for a future of loneliness?

d_nijmegen · 2020-10-09T11:04:13+00:00

What makes you call yourself a incel? Why not just single?

Tough break on the job man. That sucks.

My first tip is stop calling yourself a incel. That's just self victimization. Build a independent life with friends and hobby's. You'll see that when you're happily single. Women will come after.

Actually, I have a unusual tip. Go online and try to find a dungeons and dragons group. It will give you a recurring social interaction, and a safe place to play around with your communication skills. Try out different roles. Get out of your shell. It's basically acting for a small audience. It can help you a lot.

You'll be able to get over the nervousness and fear of coming across silly. When you're used to it a bit.

FootyMD · 2020-10-09T10:18:07+00:00

I honestly dont think this is the best platform to get this sort of advice. Consider seeking professional help, it would be better to really find areas to improve on, discuss issues you have in a more controlled setting.

2020-10-09T13:52:46+00:00

If you're real, I hope you find happiness.

Your language and references - early Roosh, late Roosh, Jordan Peterson, etc - suggest that whatever you're suffering from isn't a shortage of advice.

Whether you're real or not, what you're saying will be received within a narrative in which people like you are the baddies. Everything you say about yourself - well brought up by your parents, did your homework, moved out of home, found a respectable job - all good healthy things that will be recast as your White Privilege. People will feel as sorry for you as they would for a white losing his job in South Africa. The escalation of this narrative is that as an Angry White Man, you'll do what Holden Caulfield's teacher worried he might do - "dying nobly, one way or another, for a highly unworthy cause".

It will suit everybody to give a psychological diagnosis for your issues, to park you in therapy and drug you up. Your saying that don't have any phobias or disorders will be seen as denial. From looking at the video still above your your sad face in the bad light with "Loser" written beside it, the first thing you probably need is fresh air and friends. But you're not a teenager and nobody here is your mother, so we can't "nudge* you into joining a hiking club or phoning an old friend to catch up.

On "losers" and sociopaths in the corporate world, see also this theory.

-Cyber_Renaissance · 2020-10-09T18:28:59+00:00

I am sorry that you were fired, but why do you consider yourself an incel? From what I've heard, incels objectify or hate women.

powerninja200 · 2020-10-10T02:03:06+00:00

Dude, you don’t even look bad. Stop with this intel nonsense.

2020-10-10T21:55:43+00:00

I really don't know why you're calling yourself a Incel, as that's degrading and you're not going to get anything from it. My advice, workout. Hit the gym and build some confidence.

jonnyhaldane · 2020-10-12T02:42:41+00:00

This whole incel insult is kinda stupid.

My theory is that most people, or at least a good chunk of them, aren't regularly having sex.

Most people under 18 aren't having sex.

Most people aged over 60 aren't.

Most people in long-term relationships stop fucking after a few years. People with children often don't have the time or energy.

Really it's just pretty people in their 20's who are fucking all the time. Most other people are too bored, busy or ugly for it.

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