I was watching the following video https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wweYUGiyddw (German Man Marries an Asian Nightmare) and thought to myself, "The husband is being held hostage by his wife because she knows she can use the government against him." Seriously, if you've got 19 minutes check it out. To summarize it, a man is asking for advice because his life is being controlled by his wife and son. People who have that much control over you understand that they can take advantage of you with impunity. That man is a second class citizen and if he isn't absolutely careful he could end up in a worse situation than he's in, all because the two people he provides for can use the government as a weapon against him. If you or someone you know has been in a similar situation, open up about it. However much you can share.