Legit curious here.
The idea in the mainstream, Universities, and Feminism is that men are privileged in many ways women are not, even though what they call "male privilege" only typically applies to a certain top percentage of men and not all, or even most.
I've noticed there exists this deep taboo idea that you cannot openly mention or discuss attractive female privilege of being unconditionally being taken care of and supported in the way the most privileged cases of women are. Even though women can indeed handle many of the responsibilities men can, but there are some who just want the carefree life provided to them by a high status "privileged" males, and rely entirely on their beauty to do so. Feminists talk about unreasonable beauty expectations, but even they look at it from a patriarchal perspective and pretty much shy away from talking about how privileged those women are whom go along with the status quo and marry a rich man. Women and men alike inherently already know that an attractive woman is hella privileged and very powerful. Billions of dollars a year is spent on cosmetics for this very reason.
I often hear about how rich and successful men didn't really "earn what they got" through privilege and whatnot, and that they should pay back to society. Meanwhile their often wives and girlfriends, and even daughters in the background just glide off the coattails of his success are the most privileged and coddled people in the world and literally no one says a thing about it when it could explain alot of the issues.
The WIFE of a CEO is arguably more privileged than than the CEO. In the meantime I hear what women did before the 60's was all unpaid labor, but they don't seem comprehend that those women were being paid by being taken care of and provided for in ways men never were and still aren't. It's why the homeless population is predominately male, and that there are less social support programs and shelters for men.
If equal rights were theoretically a court case with a judge and jury, then anything concerning woman being taken care of and provided for would practically be inadmisable evidence. It's off the table and unusable, even though its it's the smoking gun, the dead body, and witnesses combined it still cant be used or talked about
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I've thought about this for years now and haven't quite come up on any theories or ideas on why this is - on why attractive women, and corresponding privilege, are immune and completely off limits to any sort of discussion, even Feminists don't really touch it.
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https://www.thebalancecareers.com/how-to-get-a-job-as-a-nanny-2062574
.. indicating that if you want to earn the better salaries, you need qualifications + experience. The same for a Personal Chef. I seriously doubt people go from "cooking at home" to earning middle-range professional income as a personal chef. *Why would anyone even give you a job if you just said "Well I cook really well at home!"
But you also ignore that "professional work" carries a whole bag of responsibilities that "doing it at home" doesnt.
Case in point. I worked as a graphic designer. There are tons of people who can "draw well" at home, under their own conditions, drawing/creating what interests them.
But what makes a >professional< is the other stuff. Dealing with clients. Dealing with bosses. Doing work that you dont like and that has no personal connection to you, but keeping it up even when it's pointless and you hate it. Not just "doing stuff for yourself the way you want to". It's "Bullshit". And "Politics". And "Critical reviews" from people who you dont respect. Unreasonable requests. Following guidelines that make no sense to you or are unclear. Getting told off for being 5 minutes late. Being nice to people you hate. Finding more work. Looking presentable. Passing interviews. etc etc etc.
If it wasnt for that kind of stuff I would still be working as a graphic designer. It turned something that I enjoyed doing, into something that I didn't enjoy doing. But that is exactly the stuff that you dont have to deal with when you are just "doing your own work for yourself". And that stuff is what makes you a professional, and gets you a professional wage.
So it's just disingenuous to say "Well I clean my house, so that work is the same value as a professional cleaner cleaning houses out there in the world". Or "I take care of my kids, so that has the same value as someone who takes care of other people's kids professionally". It's not the same at all. It's the difference between an amateur musician that plays their own music, and a professional musician who jumps through the hoops required to earn serious money with what they do.
And men suffer horrific complications from supporting their wives and kids.
And yet who has the shorter lifespan, women or men?
Only proving that skydiving is an incredibly safe endeavour.
And not all of them suffered complications. And, at least until the mid to late 1800s, if we are going to look at "history", then "coal mine"-like jobs were the standard for men. Hard, gruelling physical labour.
You also leave out the fact that the whole "career" of motherhood extends maybe 20 - 30 years for women. (Lets not even add the complication of children helping raise children) Mothers get to "retire" when the kids are old enough to take care of themselves. At that point, they are essentially free from the "raising children burden".
But who has to keep working to pay for the food and rent of the now "empty nest"?
Whose responsibility was it to work hard enough so the kids could attend a good university and have a better life than their parents? Whose shoulders did that pressure fall on "historically"?
You are moving the goalposts. We arent talking about those women. We are talking about the women who were "provided for" as OP said. And that was the norm for a long time (if we are talking "history"), and which is still a not uncommon "privilege" (if we are only talking about "present").
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