Bi and very submissive in the bedroom. Is there any hope?

quicklogaccount · 2017-05-02T14:26:55+00:00

I can't say a lot regarding the other guys, you should try altTRP for that.

Maybe you're rather being submissive to relieve yourself from the pressure of leading?
How's your performance anxiety when you're not in the lead?
Women wise, not even very experienced women I hung with did a good job leading and I get the feeling that the ones that do a good job there will inevitably look into cucking you with men that lead them.
Maybe see if you have an easy time with women leading you (although you're unlikely to find one that does a good job I bet you'll find some willing to try), see how anxieties (performance and other sources) go. Maybe you're not really bi, or maybe your passiveness towards other men relieves you from performance anxiety and lets you enjoy sex.

It doesn't look like you're "fucked" from here. From here, it seems more likely that your head is a mess and you need to figure out some shit (and practice is the only cure there) than that you're actually poorly wired.
I guess alternative environments allow a lot of experimentation far more easily, so maybe just do your thing and you'll be ok. lol

Tommy_407 · 2017-05-02T15:37:35+00:00

There would only be one logical solution in my opinion. A little routine and self improvement, and not sure if it will work but number one I can promise you never ever tell yourself that there's no hope. being that you're decently good looking you're far from fucked.

First, you need to seriously get into bodybuilding 6 days a week to improve your inner game, self image, and dominance.

Then, you will do cardio six days a week, something very aerobic that will get you sweating buckets for 30 to 45 minutes. this will help your spirituality, relieve tons of anxiety and stress and cause a paradigm shift.

While doing this work on your wardrobe, build it up and try to save some more money too.

You should do this in monk mode for a few months or as long as it takes, until you begin to believe that others submitting to you is the natural order of things. As you continuously improve inner game this should begin to slowly happen.

Next, we need to raise your testosterone and also help with the ED. Order some L-arginine raw supplement powder on Amazon.com and start taking several teaspoons of the stuff mixed in water daily. 10 to 15 grams a day would be a good way to start but you can read up more on that. The arginine will help blood flow and performance in the bedroom and it's natural and should seriously help with the ed.

After all this, if you must be bi-sexual, let's see if we can't get you into 3somes with one man and one other woman where you are the dominant partner towards both of them. Start dating broads and learn how to lead.

If you must be submissive towards a broad I recommend meeting a dominatrix at a BDSM event, because being in a vanilla relationship with a broad who is [unwillingly] leading you, is going to do nothing but get you sent to CUCKSVILLE.

Also, if you are watching any forced bisexual cuckold porn, cut it out. Stop watching all porn, especially cuckold. You wanna be bisexual then whatever, but we can't have you going through life as a submissive for no good reason. hope that helps.

MrTyler_Durden · 2017-05-03T00:07:20+00:00

I used to be submissive. As a teenager and young adult, the idea of a woman dominating or "teaching" me always turned me on. And I was submissive sexually in a lot of my relationships. Like you, I could be dominant if the night called for it, but it didn't get me going exactly like how you say. I know exactly what you are talking about.

I think I kind of grew out of it though. Eventually I'm my relationships, I lost attractiveness to the girls because the more and more I got know women and the older I got and more experience I got, I started seeing women less and less as "teachers" and more as children. I saw their true nature and it was no longer sexy, because seeing a female in a dominant role felt fake because every experience I had with women they turned out to act like children.

Then I discovered TRP at the young age of 20 and since then I just "faked" the role of being dominant. I had this "cool" alter ego that was slowly starting to take me over. And then eventually, the idea of dominating a girl started to get me going more then the idea of being submissive to a girl. So I started going out and gaming girls and hooking up and being dominant in the sack all the time. Eventually that just became my thing, and I've been doing it for almost 8 years now and can safely say that I will never go back to being submissive because the opposite is just too much fun.

I think you just need to "own" it man. Fake it till you make it.

Title	Bi and very submissive in the bedroom. Is there any hope?
Author	trpHiHello
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Date	May 2, 2017 2:10 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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