So this girl and I made plans - last time she was super fucking late and didn't show much IODs - I wrote it off but figured what the hell I will ask her out once more - she accepts and that was it - in terms of communication I didn't feel the need to talk anymore now that she agreed to meet up - plus I could sense her magnet pulling me into her orbit.

Today the day before we were suppose to hangout she actually gave me some courtesy in saying shes had a rough couple of days and needs time to be alone... blah blah blah. The old me would've tried comforting her or showing her that it's okay I am here for you - some beta form of orbiting.

Instead I responded back saying oh well that worked out I was actually going to cancel anyway.. sorry to hear your going through a rough patch.

I followed up quickly with a message saying if she needs someone to talk to I know a great therapist/psychiatrist and sent her his website email and proceeded to block her number.

It felt surprisingly good to offer her realistic advice (like if you need someone to talk to about your problems, I am not your emotional tampon, but just in case things really aren't ok here is a guy who charges 300$ hour have fun.) But also to hold frame and not feel affected by her actions whatsoever.

My gut is saying she was just bailing to bail and will probably do something with someone else - but instead of having no spine I felt that in this instance my sarcastic retort was so apropos that it made me feel good to reverse the locus of control and not cave in like I used too.

Was this clever or too much of a douche move - I really can't tell.