Sorry to dump my crummy life story on you guys but I'd really like a little 3rd party input.

I'm not exactly a newbie here, I've been reading TRP on and off since the beginning but did not successfully implement it.

I've always been something of a loner/loser and was never great with women. On top of that, for many years I was on a medication with a side effect of clinical depression.

Getting off that medication has been a bizarre and frightening experience. My addiction to mindlessly browsing the Internet disappeared and I have been spending a lot of time just sitting on my couch with nothing to do but realize how bad I've let my life get.

Highlights:

  • 27 year old virgin, no successful experience with escalation

  • Went from a solid performer to a semi-useful loser at work (and my pay now reflects this)

  • Lots of stress from the work situation, on my mind 24/7

  • I still talk to my 3 closest friends but that's about it

  • I know 2 women, both coworkers

  • I'm not fat but am otherwise very unattractive

  • I go to the gym in an irregular manner, very slowly building muscle (thanks TRP for inspiring that)

  • My already-poor social skills have lapsed to a really bad state. I don't know how to meet new people or carry good conversations, and clam up when the topic becomes sexual

I'm facing some decision paralysis right now. What do I do next, like today and this coming week? Quit my job? Buy new clothes? Go to the bars alone? Talk to a shrink? Nofap? Stop drinking booze? I'm missing something specific to act on.

I'd appreciate any advice or suggestions, thank you!