Deep void inside? wtf is happening..

Bigblackbuck73 · 2017-05-16T12:53:54+00:00

You are missing your purpose, and when you find it, the emptiness will go away. I'm an older guy, 44, when I talk guys I tell them to spend more time reading, learning, and lifting. Self improvement should be your default state, but that isn't enough. You need more than just self improvement, you also need exploration, discovery, and excitement. Get some hobbies(seriously) 3 of them specifically:

One that helps keep you fit. One that brings you a secondary or tertiary income. One that is your creative outlet.

Work on all of that and you will find your purpose sooner than later. I know that's not very red pill advice, just the words of a older man telling you what he wishes he would have been doing since he was your age.

MattyAnon · 2017-05-16T18:29:20+00:00

At the present moment I decided to focus on my self-improvement. I'm not going to worry about women for a while, I just want to get my shit done and improve as much as I can as a real man.

Not worrying about it is a great plan.

But do keep trying and escalating. You don't want to get too rusty about being in the SMP.

However there's something inside my soul draining my energy. Like a hole filled with anger, sadness, desire, loneliness

Yeah. That sucks. And now you've learned that a woman isn't going to fix this for you. I can't say what will, but it's not a woman.

It's damn annoying to fake a smile every day at work and listen to other's bullshit. Funny thing is people are selfish.

Yeah, don't fake it so much. And don't let other people complain about their lives - find a way to stop that happening. You're not a free psychologist service.

Mescuzzi · 2017-05-16T15:54:36+00:00

You're going to have good days, and you're going to have bad days (right now, probably more bad days). You're probably a little depressed right now, which is okay, because you've taken the "rose colored lenses" off. What you need to do is find out what you like to do, what hobbies you enjoy. For me, its been volleyball and landscape photography (the latter because I dont have to rely on people and I can go on adventures).

You need to start re-framing your mental perspective. Right now you're ego (the voice inside your head) is filling your mind with negative thoughts. You have to be first: aware that you're having these thoughts, and start changing them. When you think about something negative, replace that thought with a positive outlook. It may sound silly, but it'll work. You have to do it all the time.

Another thing, start looking into books about Stoicism. I like the book "A Guide to the Good Life" by William Irvine. Read up on the practice of negative visualizations. It'll help you feel grateful for the things you currently have. I try to practice that when I feel like I'm in a shitty mood.

Don't get caught up drinking and doing drugs. I fell into the wrong crowd earlier, and I'm paying for that with shitty relationships with friends (crabs in a bucket). Watch for those that don't try to put you down in front of others (real friends), and keep your distance from those that do (frienemies).

If you need anything else, feel free to PM. Im 31, been on TRP for almost a year, but have been on a self-improvement path for about 10 years now.

JustLookingAroundman · 2017-05-17T00:05:41+00:00

You probably have that void because you're finding it hard to meet relatable people. That and probably because you haven't found a solid purpose or passion you want to pursue. Following TRP advice is just advice. You need an end goal that satisfies you in order to make use of TRP advices. Don't do it just to do it.

Title	Deep void inside? wtf is happening..
Author	uselessshitface
Upvotes	6
Comments	7
Date	May 16, 2017 11:07 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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