Not coming back after soft next?

LordThunderbolt · 2017-05-19T14:16:57+00:00

You fucked up by texting her. Delete her number and move on.

walawalawa · 2017-05-19T17:27:34+00:00

When i put on my shoes she snapped totally and started screaming to me telling me how i was the biggest douchebag on earth. Normally a very calm girl. She also blocked me on facebook.

Something similar happened to me. I was constantly soft-nexting the girl I was banging for a variety of infactions...mostly she was "hanging out" with two "friends" of mine...both thirsty fucking losers who didn't know we were together. I never bothered telling them because...well I didn't bother telling them. We kept it low key

Anyway, mine started to escalate a fight by going mental via text because I didn't want to use a flyer she designed for an event of mine. I was positive and thanked her...but I could see from her texts she was pushing me to explode. I didn't.

She did....like yours, called me all sorts of nasty names, victimized herself....blah blah blah.

That was 5 months ago. I have not spoken to her, looked at her, responded to her since.

She has stalked me, showed up at my event and dropped off the Christmas gifts I gave her once, paraded these two fucking losers in front of me at different times.

Nope...I made the decision to Hard Next. I left.

You need to stop playing fucking games with these girls. You have to understand what a soft-next is.

It's a time out that you call by just disappearing and then re-appearing.

In your situation, like mine, she got so upset she blocked and deleted you. I only noticed mine because as I was about to block and delete her, I noticed she'd already done so....kind of a power-grab.

She later unblocked me....then blocked me again. I have never spoken to her since. I actually saw her on the subway 6 weeks ago...our eyes met. I moved to another car.

What do you guys think is the best move with this, just wait for her to return or send another text? (she might have blocked my number, this seemed like a very big deal to her)

You're done dude. Leave while you still have your balls and dignity.

Find someone who you don't have to constantly "manage" with soft-nexts and dread. Any attempt to reach out---especially since she blocked you---will lower your value even more.

Learn to move on.

RedEyesBlueShades · 2017-05-19T16:01:22+00:00

You dodged a bullet, she seems unstable. Hard next.

Oh, and as someone else said, you fucked up by texting her. Hard next just because of that.

shadexs55 · 2017-05-19T16:24:01+00:00

It's called a soft next because if she doesn't message you it turns into a hard next.

Title	Not coming back after soft next?
Author	Red_Chip
Upvotes	1
Comments	4
Date	May 19, 2017 2:01 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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