My girl hits me, and I don't know what to do

thefuckdidijustsee · 2017-05-17T12:17:12+00:00

don't hit her back because as you say you'll be the one who gets in the shit, just leave her. move out. forget about her and get on with your life.

psychotronofdeth · 2017-05-17T13:08:17+00:00

I'd say be sure to record everything if shit hits the fan. I saw a video where a girl started hitting and bruising herself , but the guy luckily recorded it, and it saved his ass.

theDynamiteJet · 2017-05-17T15:39:33+00:00

Time to bounce out, bro. You're in a no win situation.

KyserTheHun · 2017-05-17T13:48:28+00:00

GTFO as soon as possible.

2017-05-17T14:43:44+00:00

Get out. It won't get better.

Video may be useful as backup if she is likely to be vengeful when scorned, but : don't provoke her.

Yosharian · 2017-05-17T18:29:00+00:00

Your options are as follows:

1) Explain to her that if she continues to hurt you physically, you will leave the relationship. Be prepared to follow up on that. (Harder than it sounds - try seeing a shrink about it if you can't mentally see yourself leaving the relationship)

2) Continue taking those hits and eventually you will snap and hit her. She'll press charges against you and you will spend time in jail and have a criminal record, plus you'll be known publically as a wife beater and she will get tons of sympathy.

That's it, those are your options. Man up, tell her to fucking quit it and leave if she doesn't. Or be a pussy and keep getting hit, and eventually end up in jail for retaliating. (I know it sounds strange to associate 'pussy' with 'taking hits without responding' but it's a huge misconception that tough guys take shit from people without giving back - that's actually a beta trait)

She's either a psychopath (not literally, but it also might be possible) in which case you need to GTFO of there, or she's shit-testing you and you are failing hard by not addressing it (VERBALLY). Either way if you don't sort it out it sends a message that she can do whatever she likes to you.

And I second, third and fourth the recommendations to set up video. Just in case shit goes south when you give her the ultimatum. At the very least set up your phone to record audio in your breast pocket or something.

Terribledragon4Hire · 2017-05-17T20:07:08+00:00

Stop dating her.

insickness · 2017-05-17T20:55:53+00:00

My advice to you is that next time she does that, tell her you don't like it and leave her alone for the evening. Walk out the door.

Whenever a girl does something to violate my boundaries--says something or does something--the first thing I do is take away the prize: me. I take away my attention. If a girl disrespected me in anyway, I would walk out the door or simply stop talking with her. How long I stay away depends on the severity of the violation. If she did something minor that was disrespectful, like call me a name I didn't like, I might hang around and just ignore her for a while. If she did something like slap me, I would probably walk out and not come back. I have a zero tolerance policy with women. They learn pretty quickly that if they do something shitty, they don't get to hang around with me, so it never comes to anything major.

RainyReese · 2017-05-17T12:53:16+00:00

Are you two in a relationship? Just curious here. Also, really should have a talk with her about that because she's lucky you aren't someone who just snapped on her. Might happen to her in the future with someone else. Could save her some grief later with a talk.

tmone · 2017-05-17T16:38:58+00:00

best advice in here: hit up /r/mensrights

they will give you all the legal, financial, friendly support you could ask for. That is what they specialize in. serious. go there now.

2017-05-17T22:17:02+00:00

Hits you in what context? Like a playful hit, or throwing a tantrum and punching fuck outta u?

This will probably get downvoted but...

My ex used to hit me, it was more of a 'oh stop that' or if I was winding her up. I told her that even though she was a lot smaller it still hurt and I didn't want her to ever lift her hands to me. She forgot a few times (she's usually apologise straight after - it was more of a reflex) but after I reminded her she stopped doing it.

Obviously I don't know your circumstances from your OP but just sharing my experience (6ft, 220lbs - also ex-boxer vs 120lb 5'5)

Davigozavr · 2017-05-18T07:30:30+00:00

/u/Yosharian said it:

she's shit-testing you and you are failing hard by not addressing it (VERBALLY). Either way if you don't sort it out it sends a message that she can do whatever she likes to you.

That's it.

angry_krausen · 2017-05-17T20:00:08+00:00

film her doing it and you bitch-slapping her for it, problem solved

SIRPORKSALOT · 2017-05-18T08:59:16+00:00

My wife used to do this to me. Started off as a good natured swat, and then slowly developed into her straight out hitting me. One night, bad back, had just slipped into sleep, when BAM! she hits me, not out of anger, just out of.... habit. I bolted awake, scared, angry, confused; damn it! enough is enough, bad back and all, got on top of her, pinned her arms over her head, totally immoblized her, put my face and inch from hers and said, "if you ever hit me again, I'm gonna kick your ass!" And I meant it and she knew it. It's been 13 years, she hasn't hit me since.

callosciurini · 2017-05-18T13:35:47+00:00

Leave her. But to avoid retaliation from her:

Take notes. See a doctor when you get injured and get that documented. (They will not laugh.) Have witnesses over when you break up. Tell her the reason.

NEVER accept her back.

Hope499 · 2017-05-18T17:09:08+00:00

Probably talk to her about it like a normal person....?

If she says its something she cant help and will always do it, find a new chick?

Kind of weird your reaction is to assault her, imo.

drassaultrifle · 2017-05-17T15:02:39+00:00

Record it. At least now, you'll have proof. Tell her to stop and that you have proof, if she keeps assaulting you, tell the cops.

KneeDeepThought · 2017-05-17T14:45:45+00:00

The next beating will always be worse than the last beating. You need to GTFO of this relationship. Record your home and get a view of each room to prove nothing is busted up. Record yourself breaking up with her to prevent false allegations later. Then go to your local police precinct and get a restraining order against this violent bitch. If she ever contacts you or shows up where you work or live BAMMO she's in jail.

If you don't lay down an evidence and paper trail first, she will and you will be screwed. She's on the downslope of "about to walk out on you" because you won't fight her back and she doesn't respect you, but if you did fight back you'd be even more her bitch. The only weapon you have is surprise, so get all your shit together and hit the road pronto.

Tdmort · 2017-05-17T23:56:40+00:00

record her hitting you and show police.

2017-05-18T02:27:27+00:00

Dump her like a hot bag of cow shit. You can do far better.

therighttobecool · 2017-05-18T09:33:51+00:00

There are women that deliberately hits gently playfully but for getting made fun of but sounds like that's not that kind of woman.

2017-05-18T10:01:09+00:00

Film it and call the cops

Kinslayer2040 · 2017-05-18T13:35:28+00:00

Beauty fades in time, Then what are you left with? Some ugly bitch still beating on you. Is it worth it then?

j2m3craiden · 2017-07-13T20:18:20+00:00

I am better than 4 decades. As apparently many non Iberian Celtic males in western civilization (particularly the U.S.), I have been assaulted by american females since age 5. Their ages ranged from 4 to more than 60. As a child in institutions, I was instructed by the female moderators, "When a girl hits you, that means she loves you." {sic} My cracked spinus process number 6 did not feel like love. I should have let that Korean family smuggle me out of america. The long and tall of it is. . . If you are white male, get out of this fetid cesspit ,and move to the wheat fields of Hokaido where one can spend their days at the world's nicest noodle shop.

SoapyMassagesForYou · 2017-05-17T15:20:15+00:00

HIDDEN CAMERA. Those things are all over Amazon and for 30-40 dollars no doubt. Set that shit up and call the police. COME ON DUDE, SERIOUSLY, don't let that shit go without video.

BukM1 · 2017-05-17T20:51:13+00:00

record it, and either prosecute or retaliate (while recording) despite what these idiots here think you absolutely can defend yourself and provided you have proof she is the agressor you will be safe from prosecution

To the dumbfucks who doubt it : http://www.nj.com/middlesex/index.ssf/2016/11/no_charges_for_man_who_punched_woman_19_near_rutge.html

and he fractured her skull and put her in a coma.

so many people here believe in conspiracy-esque bullshit that being a man means you have no right to defend yourself, the law disagrees. and promoting this bullshit myth than "Men can never defend themselves else you will be arrested" actually plays into the hands of the agressor because it makes people afraid to actually defend themselves.

shut that bitch down, also there is no question you have to dump that bitch like a stone, if you get back with her or stay with her, you are effectively consenting to this shit (not legally, but logically) as you know full well what she is doing.

DUMP THE BITCH ASAP

Zokalex · 2017-05-18T04:02:25+00:00

Record her hitting you.

(Optional, something I read on /b/ a while ago) Tell her you're breaking up with her, if she for whatever reason tried to bruise her self to blame you do this:

1-record her for a few minutes

2-when she stops, you'll give her the best slap you have in your arsenal, you punch her in the eye too.

3-she calls the cops, show them the video.

4-???

5-profit, she's in jail.

Justincouldbemyname · 2017-05-18T13:09:48+00:00

Get a woman to kick her ass.

2017-05-17T16:08:52+00:00

just bash her fuckin' head in, swear on me mum'.

2017-05-17T19:26:26+00:00

grab her by the wrists, dont let go, and look her dead in the eyes and tell her to stop. If she doesn't listen to reason after that, you know the drill....

get a lawyer, hit the gym, delete FB,...

ShortWarrior · 2017-05-17T13:13:10+00:00

Grab her shoulders and shake her.

That's a joke I stole from Chris Rock.

Title	My girl hits me, and I don't know what to do
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Date	May 17, 2017 12:04 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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