Anger about Anti-male bigotry and Misandry

scruffist · 2016-06-04T04:20:12+00:00

I also get angry. And I get mad at myself sometimes for getting angry about the more petty ones. But other times I feel it's completely natural to be angry about extreme examples of what you're bringing up.

As far as dealing, I've been working on being conscious of when I begin to feel angry and to try to disrupt the mental cycle while still taking in the stimuli. Mike Cernovich sort of covers this in his mindset writing and youtubing, but there's a lot of other places I've seen it written about. There was even an example, from NYT or New Yorker or some such place, of a guy who would get angry at his wife nagging him. His therapist recommended his wife record her nagging and hand over the tapes. The guy would listen to the tapes and do deep breathing exercises and basically become desensitized or detached from his anger. The result was he could take in a whole barrage of vitriol and fix what it was possible to fix without getting emotionally sucked in. Kind of fucked up, from an MRA perspective, but he felt better in control of his life and emotions.

In other words, continued, controlled exposure to the things that upsets you can help you deal with that which upsets you. You don't have to stop being informed about the bad stuff going on. Instead you work to be able to take in upsetting information without letting it get to you. And it's a worthy goal, because how can you think clearly and help the cause if you're too close to it? Not easy to do, but worthwhile pursuit, IMO.

DougDante · 2016-06-04T04:20:29+00:00

OK, if these articles are too much for you, don't read them. Don't go on reddit.

If they make you upset, you may respond in the comments.

Please note that you will sometimes be harassed and downvoted. Please understand that the responses to your post may be influenced by RES social tagging, harassment from SRS, gang downvoting, and a variety of other gang harassment mechanisms. Reddit has a major problem with misandry.

You can also respond to action opportunities in /r/mractivism

ThirdTurnip · 2016-06-04T04:30:41+00:00

Anger can't solve the problem by itself and isn't necessary. Speak up. Sign petitions. Join a local men's rights group. Whatever you can manage to help be part of the solution.

Unless you're Harry Potter you can't just wave a magic wand at this to make it all go away. And if you tried, the toxic feminists would probably crucify you anyway for aiming an obviously phallic object at them as some form of rape terror.

cld8 · 2016-06-04T09:02:03+00:00

If these articles are getting you angry, I strongly suggest you stop reading them. It's not healthy for you to do so.

There are a lot of injustices in the world. While misandry is a serious issue, it is nowhere near as serious as starving kids in Africa or the damage to the ozone layer. Let's keep things in perspective. Also remember that articles are often biased and don't tell the whole story, and even if they do, these stories are not representative examples.

2016-06-04T15:32:34+00:00

I don't want to dispel these feelings.

CruelCrow · 2016-06-04T19:10:19+00:00

It might help you if you try to do something about your feelings (ironically I find this phrase somewhat annoying to be told, sorry). If you're angry, it's a natural response, and while it can dissipate with time or keeping your mind occupied, you aren't actually addressing the cause of your stress.

Have you tried anything that confronts it more directly? Writing, perhaps? Even if you don't publish it anywhere, it could help you "focus" what your frustration in a more organized way.

A lot of the problems we're facing are definitely frustrating especially when there's essentially an entire culture telling us and everyone around us that men are privileged in every way and have very few if any problems. Debating it with feminists directly is, IMO, not a good idea. It'll just make it worse in my experience.

CountVonVague · 2016-06-04T01:23:49+00:00

The only way you could prevent it is not read them and the only way you can dispel it is to stop them from propagating these bigoted messages. These things exist outside of yourself so don't shoulder the burden of thinking these are YOUR problems, but are instead problems whose bearers are Elsewhere. If you can, offer reasoned explanation why such things are bigoted and how the speakers could change.

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Title	Anger about Anti-male bigotry and Misandry
Author	Needsomeh
Upvotes	6
Comments	10
Date	June 4, 2016 12:30 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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