Male Traditions and Rituals

One of the unfortunate truths about modern society is that we don't have a ceremony welcoming boys into adulthood. If you're a jew, you do have a bar mitzvah, but in reality it's just an excuse to blow a ton of money on a larger party - not a true "test" of a newly developing man.

The Maasai, on the other hand, have a test of masculinity that pushes the young man's tolerance for pain -- and how women are involved in the tradition can be a lesson at TRP.

Shortly after a boy enters puberty, he is expected to be circumcised. Whereas many of us were circumcised in infancy with sterile surgical equipment, and have no recollection of the pain, a young Maasai warrior undergoes significant suffering at the age of 12 and 13. Here's a few of the challenges he faces:

  • In week preceding the slice-and-dice ceremony, he has to prove that he can take on the responsibilities of an adult and herd cattle for seven consecutive days. In the heat of the Serengeti, and the cold, windy nights, this is arduous work for a 12 year old.
  • On the 8th day, he has to stand awake throughout the night in the cold to show that he can look out for lions who might attack his herd of cattle.
  • Before the surgery, he's bathed in cold water.
  • On his walk to the dung-thatched operating room, where they'll take a dull, unsterile knife to his penis, his tribe stands by and shouts insults at him, threatening to abandon him to the lions if he pussies out. His family will shame him if he refuses to have the operation. There's no drugs for this - simply a dull knife cutting through tender dick skin.
  • After the operation, he rests in the boma for several weeks while his dick is dripping blood and plasma... If he's very unfortunate, it may get infected.

Women's Roles in Maasai Circumcision

If the young man allows his penis to heal while flaccid, he may not be able to get a full erection. The skin will heal "shorter" than the length of the shaft of the penis, and thus whenever he gets a hard-on, the skin would become turgid. A very painful (and ugly) sight.

Anticipating this, the young man's father welcomes young women to enter the boma alone and sexually arouse the warrior. They may disrobe, or touch the warrior sexually -- all of this helping the penis heal properly and stretching the foreskin to prevent improper healing. All of this is incredibly painful, as the blood flow to the penis pulls apart healing tissue, and encourages bleeding and drainage.

Once the young men are fully healed, they often "hunt" their tormenters using a bow and arrow (with the arrow head removed) to get retribution. This kind of foreplay probably leads to a sexual relationship with the females.

What does this have to do with TRP

Although our society doesn't have such traditions - there's not much we can do about it (and for the sake of our cocks, maybe that's not a bad thing)-, there is a lesson to be learned about the male/female dynamics of circumcision:

There are benefits to being tormented. It tests our limits, helps us found our boundaries, promotes self control, and helps build respect in the community. Just as female Maasai tormenting boys is part of the painful ritual of circumcision, there's a benefit to having females tease us sexually.

Too often RP dudes advise others to "next" a girl when she's playing games, or not committing to sex. She's often called a "time ho" which, in many cases, is probably true if you're an orbiting beta. Many RPers are so concerned about getting their dick wet, that any hindrance to that mission is thrown aside for easier targets.

There's an argument to be made about the benefits of hanging out with prick-tease women. It helps us test our frame, control our emotions and frustrations, and ultimately is a proving ground for RP theories and tactics. I'm not advocating for men to be beta orbiters, but I am arguing that keeping some women around who tease us is an excellent opportunity to test our masculinity and prove to ourselves that we can maintain our frames.

While walking away is often a man's most powerful weapons,use this tool prudently.