Dear Young Man: You Don’t Have to Sleep With Her if You Don’t Want To.

desmay · 2016-05-11T14:57:16+00:00

To my surprise, they accepted my submission. Times changing over there?

thrway_1000 · 2016-05-11T17:10:36+00:00

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2016-05-11T19:56:11+00:00

What a nice, concise article.

HeForeverBleeds · 2016-05-11T16:51:47+00:00

As a demi-sexual male I've gotten this a lot in my life, any time I've turned down casual sex with women both men and women will be wondering what's "wrong" with me. Like I have to have some great explanation for why I would turn a woman down. "She must have been really ugly/crazy, right? Well do you have a girlfriend, then? Are you sure you're not gay?" Is it that complicated that sometimes I'd rather form a relationship first, and that I don't wan't to screw every random, mildly attractive woman I come across?

Taken to its logical extreme, this mentality is part of what contributes to society's marginalization of sexual violence against men: if there's an ideal that all young males are always willing with every woman anyway, can women coercing men into sex really be an issue? After all, men are always willing so she really just gave him what he wants anyway. Or if it's not what he wanted, then he's probably just a "fag" because no straight young man would turn a woman down for sex

Title	Dear Young Man: You Don’t Have to Sleep With Her if You Don’t Want To.
Author	desmay
Upvotes	12
Comments	10
Date	May 11, 2016 2:57 PM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/MensRights/comments/4ivajg/dear_young_man_you_dont_have_to_sleep_with_her_if/
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