Recently i've been thinking like this and tell me if i'm too paranoid but it does make sense to me, so:

If you fail socially (to make friends first of all with guys in certain hobbies,Hs,college,job,etc..) and you leave a bad impression in a sense it's over for you to make connections at that place right? especially if you see the guys that you tried to talk to, their group of 3-4 talk to others groups -> they will tell how awkward you are and ruin your chances with a lot more people in said hobby/job/etc.. because they enjoy making people like you suffer.

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And this segways into what i wanted to say:

If you make a bad impression and people ignore you( that is also stealth bullying), spread rumours about you especially at your job it's over but it's much worse i would say if you can believe this if your coworkers are the clubbing type social assholes who go to popular places most weekend so like let's say you are in a team of 15 people. If 7 people are neutral and they don't care but you made a bad impression on 8 people and the awkwardness reached high levels+ improptu jokes out of nowhere than i would say you ,,failed'' with 8 people but each of these 8 people could have groups and acquaintances usually 10-20 people are in their lives so now you have potentially made ,,enemies'' because they will talk about you in a negative light and that goes to 160 people treating you with indiference and stealth bullying: I'm speaking from experiences this has happened to me and i had to quit some hobbies because i would see them always stealth laughing and sniggling whenever i passed them and they ruined my image because they enjoy doing that

So it's like you are supposed to avoid places these assholes go to because you are not welcomed there in a very brutal way that maybe you never thought of until today and reading this post. you kind of have to make a good impression and create some connections or just leave and never attend places that does people do all the more reason if their interest is a niche one

Does it make any sense to you what i just said here? If so then say what experiences you have had with this

Doesn't it make sense that if you fail with a group of people you fail with their friends and acquaitances of their friends as well? because people talk and that talk reaches other people too -> ,,be weary of this guy,etc, he's a loser..''

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