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youtuberepairman · 2025-04-13T19:04:51+00:00

So, I can not do it anymore. I have to get out and the sooner the better. My question is this, we have no savings no 401k (anymore) and nothing in the bank. My...

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April 13, 2025

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Title	Advice
Author	youtuberepairman
Upvotes	2
Comments	2
Date	April 13, 2025 7:04 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/Divorce_Men/comments/1jyf9uv/advice/
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[–]Sam_N_Emmy 0 points1 point2 points 1 year ago (1 child) | Copy Link

[–]Gattsama 0 points1 point2 points 1 year ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Things vary slightly from state to state. General rules of thumb:

50/50 division of all communal assets a debts. If the asset was created or gained during marriage; or the debt was created during marriage, it's communal. If your truck was purchased prior to marriage, it's yours. If you used communal funds towards the payment, it is owed the percentage of value. But vehicles normally depreciate with time, so they are often a wash.
spousal support. Depends on the length of marriage and the imputed income of both parties. This varies a lot from state to state (eg, TX vs. CA). Need to check for your state (or give us the nunbers and other guys can give you a general idea). Some states on online calculators
child support. Sounds like no kids.

In theory, you can do an uncontested DIY divorce for about $500-1000 by downloading the forms online (there are services to help), filling it all out, and submitting. This assumes the STBX (soon to be eX) is agreeable.

Some states require 1 year separation prior to divorce. My state has a 90d waiting / cooling off period between filing and final settlement. You need to check the laws foe tour state. But in general, yes; if no assets or major communal debts, and no kids it should be simple to get the divorced finalized.