Break up

plan_went_sour · 2025-07-27T20:26:54+00:00

My friend, definitely a lot of men experience a traumatizing divorce, you are definitely not alone.

I'm going through the same thing, separation almost a year ago and it's getting better although I still have moments or days where it's not like that.

I'm also behind the fact that you only think about her, pursue her, etc... You have to understand that for us men, divorces are often traumatic experiences. It's best to get professional help from a therapist, e.g. b.

Sorry to say it but your ex wife is gone, she won't come back no matter what you do or not. Let her go, grieve for as long as it takes and then go find a new girlfriend and be happy 😉

Lots of strength and all the best

TimelyResearch1702 · 2025-07-27T18:56:22+00:00

A book by a well regarded psychology professor said "make a list of all bad things she did to you and refer to it when love starts creeping back". Not exact words, but something like that, i kid you not.

Other than that - 1) gym/exercise, 2) time.

You also not doing yourself a favor by spying on her. It is a bad habit which you need to break. Bad habits are broken not by power of will but by making them inconvenient. How are you spying? Social media? At the moment of clarity, unfriend, delete, block, whatever the process is. I hope you aren't doing any illegal physical stalking, but if you do - create obstacles to yourself. Move further, destroy any technical means you have. If that's what it takes - get a timed lock-box and throw your car keys in there well before the time you'd drive to spy. You get the idea.

Title	Break up
Author	Awkward_Trainer9578
Upvotes	3
Comments	5
Date	July 27, 2025 4:37 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/Divorce_Men/comments/1maqvfb/break_up/
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