For context I’m 65 (M) she’s 60 (F) together 30 years. One kid who is grown. I just found out she’s been having an ongoing affair behind my back. We live in CA. I realize this is a no fault state and she is entitled to half of everything. The real kicker will be the alimony. She is fully capable of working and has over the years but not much. She has a teaching degree and a masters but chose to raise the kid and enjoy the lifestyle. I make 250k+. What will she likely be granted- is there any way to lessen it- does her ability to work benefit me? Any tips on this would be helpful. Does retiring altogether benefit me as my only option to avoid paying a cheater? Thanks for any advice