I’ve been married for 12 years what seemed to be happy. I was military for 9 years and then my wife joined. We had two kids and she started having postpartum depression but never told me about it. She ended up deploying last year and there was an attack on base and some people died, she ended up trauma bonding with another married man and fell in love. He is back with his wife but when she returned and she no longer has any interest in our marriage or making it work. I’m having a hard time being alone with my kids because I feel sad and angry it’s not their fault but I feel like I’m the reason it went wrong. I’m alone in my current state due to moving here with her for military and I have no one to even get my mind off things. I have no idea where to go from here. I told her let’s get divorced but she doesn’t want to because she “doesn’t know what she wants”. I’m willing to forgive here due to the affair being formed on trauma but nothing I do or say helps at all.