Looks like this 3-year marriage isn’t going to survive transitioning to being parents. Wife has serious temper that has gotten worse with the stresses of taking care of our toddler to the point that she yells at me and calls me a dumbass or useless in front of our toddler weekly. She’s thrown things at me or across the room a few times.

I’ve never seen her lose her temper at our child, but I’m worried about not being around to keep an eye on that. Is there a mechanism in the courts to protect my child?

Couple of questions (California):

  1. Wife takes care of toddler during the week, does that rule out 50/50 custody? How does custody work with very young children?

  2. 40% of our combined net worth is my individual property in a cash account. Am I right that as long as this stays out of joint accounts it stays individually mine?

  3. Wife works 4 hrs per week and takes care of toddler most days. She had planned to go back to full time work when toddler was in preschool. Our hourly rates are similar but the # of hours difference means I make almost all of the money. How much does that drive alimony/child support?

Thanks