My wife just started to not sleep in the same bed anymore. She seems to be tired of dealing with my chronic pain which leaves her to all the work (mother of 2 and full time job). At this point I’m just waiting for the inevitable, and I don’t know what to do. She really is a great person and I love her but we are financially screwed because of her. She ran up a 30k credit card debt without telling me and I have to take a loan out on my 401k. I left her in charge of the finances and our mortgage leave us with 3K total in the bank each month. Not accumulating, but that much flat. If she were to pull the trigger what does that mean? Does the house need to get sold if we can barely afford one on my full salary? My parents got divorced and that wasn’t really an issue because we were poor and lived in a habitat for humanity house so the mortgage was not much at all. I’m lost all around