Hi guys, I have a couple of questions about divorce and my 2 kids if you might be able to give some advice? After years of making the effort with my narcissistic traits my wife has finally had enough. We are both therapists her 15 years and me 2. I thought learning the tools would help me change but the change isn’t coming fast enough. I understand her. I love her. I just don’t act like it a lot of the time. I believe the point of fighting for the marriage has past. I can’t make any more promises in regards to my behaviour and break them through my habitual discontent, blaming and selfishness. Now in regard to our stuff (a home, a rental property and a small piece of land, plus all the general things such as cars and appliances) I don’t know what to do. I’m happy for her to stay in the house as she will be majority with the kids and I want them to be as undisturbed as possible considering what’s happening, she is saying 50/50 split which is fine (although my mum helped us buy most of our investments so I’m terrified to tell her) but the real concern/confusion/struggle comes with the kids. We’ve got an almost 5 and almost 7 year old. We homeschool. (She homeschools) I think it’s great but I don’t feel capable of doing it. This limits my time with them. We are yet to discuss fine details but my wife suggested 3 weeks off one week on for me. I want to be a present father but am also aware of how my narcissistic tendencies affect the children. I am starting to feel that less time with me would be better for them until they are of an age where they can be less affected by my shortcomings. I love them more than anything and I want the best for them. I’m just so lost right now. I’m trying to process everything and I’m not doing a good job. There is understandably a bit of hostility at the moment between my wife and I but ultimately we both want a good relationship as we will always be a team in raising the kids. My dad was a weekend dad until I was 12 then he was just on the other side of the phone. This is the last thing I want. But there’s another problem. I’m from England, she’s Colombian and we have lived here together for the last 8 years in Colombia. I don’t really want to be here but I guess now I’ll be where my kids are and this is something to make peace with. Sorry for the novel. I just needed to get this out and ask for advice or hear experiences from other men. Thank you.