Officially divorced after 2.5 years of fighting just about everything. I gave up my job, moved across the country so she could be near her family and kept my head down until it was over. I went through several rounds of the silver bullet tactic and survived.

In the end, I walked away without paying alimony, pension, and reasonable child support with 50/50 custody. It’s behind me now and I feel liberated.

Don’t let them make you feel like the monster. Judges see real monsters every day. They will see through the picture being painted for them and you’ll be fine. Keep your cool. It’s better to say nothing than something that can be used against you, years later. Trust me, in 10 years I had less than ten sentences I wish I had back, and they were picked apart by ex and her team. Let the lawyer do their thing and it’s over when it’s over.