Just started the process of separation. I moved out of the house. No firm parenting plan yet, and time with children (4.5 and 1.5) has been contentious.

There are several activities I want to bring the kids to, such as a car show and a trip to a theme park. Mom wants to tag along to these activities as she feels it's important the boys see us as a team/having fun. I don't want anything to do with her and want to start living an independent life with my children. Has anyone had a good experience with family activities post-separation? How do you raise stable/well rounded adults through this?