I’ve been contemplating divorce for a few months now, because of my job I don’t spend much time at home since it’s a “the more you are away the more you earn” type of job, we have 2 kids both under 4 years old, i do my best to earn a lot so i can go back and have a vacation with my family but my partner keeps asking and asking for more and more and more, she wasn’t like this at first, we were able to survive with less than half of my current paycheck, so I seriously don’t understand what on earth she is spending all this money on.

The issue stands that not only she has been spending all this money, even when i try to set harder boundaries, she has also made us go deep into a 5 digit debt, I swear I’ve tried talking to her several times about this, I’ve tried being stricter with how much money i send per week, but she just spends it all and tells me she needs to eat, and i can’t exactly allow her to starve.

I believe because of my job any custody battle would go to her and i don’t mind that as long as im able to visit whenever im home, it’s just at this point paying child support/alimony would be way cheaper than staying in the relationship.

I care so much about her and our kids but every day that passes the whole gets deeper and i know i can get me out of it but i can’t with her digging it further every chance she gets.

Is divorce justified? I don’t want to be there guy that leaves his family but it just feels like it’s my only choice, nothing I say gets trough to her, even attempting to start the conversation shuts her down, feels as if I’m talking to an spoiled child that just got go m her first no, we are both 32 so there’s no reason why this should be an issue.

Please forgive me for all the writing but i need guidance from someone that has gone through this before, thank you.