I’m M35 and STBX is F30 married for 4 years and no kids. I suffer from auto immune condition mostly attribute it to the stress of the marriage.

My STBX left home in Dec 2019 complaining several things. She was verbally and physically abusive, attention seeking, dead bedroom for 2 years.

I’ve no feelings for her and in these 7 months, I’ve been happier, healthier and wealthier.

Thanks to to lockdown and coronavirus she went back to her home country and cannot come back due to border/visa restriction.

In the last 3/4 months, I think I found the dream woman of my life who is extremely nice and supportive, and I’m having a great life.

I want to divorce my STBX but she doesn’t want to. Even though she’s still abusive and complaining over phone. The affair made me realise what I’m missing in life. I was never happy in my marriage and I’m happy now with this new person.

I feel even if I’m single for the rest of my life I’ll be happy.

How to deal with in-laws or wife who are threatening or abusive and convince them of divorce ?