Does anyone know or had experience of a marriage mate constructively creating a divorce situation after giving all money to her father to finish and remodel his house, thus leaving the married couple basically with out any real assets?

My wife of 15 years suddenly turned quiet and non responsive in the relationship 2 months prior to having the two children she was so desparate to have. No emotion, no sex, no touching, no kissing, no hand holding absolutely no intrest of anykind I'm anything that would make me happy. She finds no intrest in anything that concerns me. Not even a "how was your dad" honey comments

Like someone flipped a switch... night and day.

Then she wanted all of us to move in with her father who is older and needed help. So sure of course he is your father. You take care of family, right? Ok.... so... I've always felt unwanted and a 3rd wheel. Again....no intrest in me as an individual. That's fine. But then they ask me to agree to sell our house and use that money to fix up and add on a bedroom to her fathers house but they won't add my wife and I to the deed in California because he was grandfathered in to a tax statue that gets voided if you mess with the deed at all... even the mortgage rate changes. Something like that. Idk. They can't prove what they are saying or are unwilling and offended that iv would even ask.

But I've been questioning and expressing my concerns and laid out my suspicions to them both. They get offended by they don't completely deny... it's always....how could you say that ....as a response. Or it's no response or they don't even try to change my opinion or change the way they interact with me.

So... once the sale of the house goes through....most valuable martial assets are gone.

I suspect divorce papers will follow.

Has anyone experienced this before or have been divorced here in California like this?

I swear I am not a bad guy. If anything I bend way over to make life good for them both and give to them. But I get a lot of criticism and no positive inner action. So.. just not sure what to think of it all.

Thank you in advance for your experiences and honest thoughts.