Hello, I'm not sure how would I be able to tell everything but here it is, I got into a mix of arrange and love marriage back in February 2024 then separated in August and in November divorced. During the time I was married we had mixed days. Untill my ex wife's mother used to call and ask for her to come home more often. What started with a day or two into a full week of her visiting her mother. I was doing a job in the other city and used to go back home to my ex wife and family on weekends. I wanted her to come with me but for some reason she wasn't agreeing that she would be alone at home while I would be at work. Tensions grew between my family and my ex and then I had to leave my job and head home to actually see what was going on. I thought maybe I would help with the situation but I found out that my ex wife she lies to me and is controlled by her mother and aunt. Before this I used to take my ex wife's side infront of family because I thought she is new to the family and it will take time for her to adjust. But then tensions grew between me and my ex because I didn't want her to go visit her mother more often out of no reason and the reason for me to take such step was that her mother she wasn't realizing that her interference is causing distance between me and my ex wife. But then there came a day when my ex wife said I am going to my mother's house after breakfast and I said no. On which she got angry and we had an argument then I said that we would visit them together after lunch but then she called her mother and aunt infront of me and lied that I am not letting her come. I asked why are you lying? She finished the called and then I took her phone away I didn't her to lie more since she wasn't able to realize what is she doing. She got abusive and cursed me. It was disrespectful and hurting I only was able to say that "these are your true colors". Then after some more argument I dropped her at her mother's home and came back.

Some days later her mother and aunt came and said why I don't let her come? And why have I beaten her? I told them i didn't do such thing as of beating her. I told them she got abusive and used bad language. And as for why I don't let her go more often is because she is barely at my house. Well they went away.

After this my ex started calling me and texting and apologizing. At this point She lost my trust because if I didn't beat her why she would lie and paint me as a bad husband. I didn't reply or called. My family saw me sad and asked what to do? It was clear that my ex wife might not change her ways I asked for time to think. I moved back to the city I was working and started my job back. But then I felt lonely and missed the days that were good. And out moments together I thought maybe I might give her a chance and then I replied to her and we called. Our separation lasted for 3 months in which her family didn't acknowledge her mistakes or tried to help her with the situation. Infact her family supported her behavior. Then one day my ex wife called and we got into an argument over call it was I who got angry when she said why am I here? And why we aren't together? I said do you realize what have you done by lying or anyone asked you that why would you do such thing? She said no. After this argument she told her mother and aunt and then they involved her uncles who were her guardian since her father died. They sent a message that we want divorce papers. I was shocked and sad that why would they say such thing without even talking to me. At this point it was clear that I could not call my ex wife to confirm if she wants a divorce or not. Since now families are involved. So I signed the divorce papers and then obviously they had to come and pick my ex wife's belongings. I returned all the gifts and everything I got from them and everything was ready for them to pick up but then her uncle and other family members they came and said they wanted to talk and my family said what is talk about now? You wanted papers and here they are.. Her uncle said when I asked for divorce papers I didn't mean it.

My family and I we were left confused and their tone was of fight we were firm on our decision these people went back and some more family members and my ex wife came to my house and started arguing and blaming and everything I didn't want her back at this point. And off they went. Next day her big uncle came with some dudes and they were outside of my house like a cartel. May e they wanted to put some pressure so that I take my decision back. But I was even more angry that are marriages a prank? Like who ever can ask for divorce? Well anyways those people really showed how angry they were. Me and my family we didn't want cops to involve or anything so we were silent. Anyways we involved some people and they picked her belongings and divorce was finalized. My ex wife after this divorce she told her family that I used to best her, choke her to death and was unstable and abusive. I am not these things but why would she say all of this?

Now all of this has left me confused, angry and betrayed. I don't know what to do it's been a year now. I am afraid of marriages now. I came to know that my ex wife is married to someone else now. Help reddit. Thanks.