So I posted my harrowing tale of woe a bit ago. TLDR: she’s secretly plotting divorce, but I know/found out and am figuring out what to do.

As I continue looking for a lawyer, I’m slowly gathering info. Today, I gathered the details on 2 of her personal credit cards.

Turns out, on just those 2, there’s almost a 30k balance and she’s running about 3-400 dollars a month in interest. 😳 I see a 3rd and am scared to see what I’ll find. I see charges for $150 worth of liquor a month, clothes, shoes, food. I fear there’s about 40k in debt here.

My plan is still to lawyer up. But I’m livid. She makes 40-70k annually with no house, utilities or other payments to make. Yet she can’t confine the spending to that. And she sucks as a wife! I feel so incredibly stupid for marrying into this situation with someone who has no fiscal responsibility and that I’m grossly incompatible with.

Before I wanted to stay and stick it out for the kids. But now I’m just disgusted. But if I give someone like this thousands of dollars a month unsupervised, where the hell will that go? God I wish I'd listened to my divorced friends. I love my kids, but if I could snap my fingers and be magically single it would be a hard call.