45M married 17 years with 2 boys 14 and 12. STBX has always been a bit tough and selfish. There's been some infidelity on both sides (hers was worse IMO, but mine was first). We are now openly discussing ending the marriage and if it weren't for the boys, I'd be gone in a moment. I know I shouldn't stay for the kids, but I cannot see how these boys (who are my pride and joy) will make it out the other side of this thing. I'm terrified of the potential spiral this will create.

Not to mention the house, which needs some work to get decent money at sale.

I've known this day was coming and if it weren't for my amazing boys, would regret not getting marriage annulled. This is very hard.