No It’s Not

Equivalent_Thievery · 2026-02-22T20:33:26+00:00

Putting women above men and treating them like they're special little flowers is a bit more than "kindness".

Talk about oblivious.

bodyisT · 2026-02-22T20:32:19+00:00

Chivalry shouldn’t be a thing. Chivalry is the idea of putting women first

Former_Range_1730 · 2026-02-22T20:29:15+00:00

"Men gave it a special name so they could pretend..."

Meanwhile this woman is pretending she ever had much interest in men to begin with. her opinion is meaningless as she's not the demographic men tend to go for.

-RIVAN- · 2026-02-22T20:38:24+00:00

If it is, then why do women have problems being chivalrous, like opening doors and stuff that's basic right??

God, its like these people say things they don't even belive themselves!!

Vallen_H · 2026-02-23T11:07:04+00:00

I've yet to see a chivalrous woman myself.

Maybe they're just not kind at all. Teach your daughters.

Bright_Cranberry_227 · 2026-02-22T22:54:16+00:00

Ok when was the last time women sacrificed their lives to make a man a little happier or are they incapable of kindness... Oh right women actually sacrifice their lives daily for men's comfort and also kindness for women is a patriarchal manipulation to make them docile and meek, according to them

Atreigas · 2026-02-23T10:04:52+00:00

Richard is actually right here, a broken clock and all that. Chivalry is some complex code if honour about how to simp right and generally putting women first. This lady is either ignorant or knowingly advocating female supremacy. Or both.

AfghanistanIsTaliban · 2026-02-22T21:37:05+00:00

Chivalry is basically the unwritten medieval/Christian version of the Geneva Conventions mixed in with other responsibilities of soldiers (ex: do not desert from your position)

nowadays its meaning has been corrupted to defend perceived “traditional values” so ppl shouldn’t really care about chivalry. That word should have died out long ago just as words like “prithee” or “oyez” did

Tacosal-pastor · 2026-02-22T21:19:13+00:00

Feminist don't deserve equality or chivalry. Just saying.

enemy_of_misandry · 2026-02-24T06:29:51+00:00

"chivalry" - male slavery

AbysmalDescent · 2026-02-24T16:38:47+00:00

Chivalry is putting a woman's needs above your own. It is, in fact, the literal opposite of kindness because you're effectively treating men worse and without consideration. It's not about serving the greater good either, because chivalry at it's core is just about men taking on a greater bad for a woman's negligible good. It's also, at this point, just a matter of theatrics and presentation.

Women expect chivalry because they are taught that men should do these things for them, regardless of how it might hurt them. The only time women are actually taught to look at chivalry in a negative way, it's by trying to convince them that they're oppressive to them, instead of just recognizing that it's harmful and sexist expectations that they should have never had of men in the first place.

For example, chivalry means today that a man is always expected to open doors for women. Does this serve a greater good? No, because women are perfectly capable of opening doors themselves and there's no reason why they shouldn't. You're just creating an unhealthy expectation on men by telling them they have to open them for women, even when it isn't practical or sensible(like, if a woman gets to the door first).

Chivalry means if a woman is cold, a man should remove his jacket and give it to her. Does this serve a greater good? Maybe, if he can handle the cold better, but many women can handle cold weather easier than men(usually due to the higher body fat) and if it just means that he's the one being cold now how is that any better? Wouldn't she also want him to be warm or is "kindness" just supposed to be gendered and one-sided. There's also the question of "why couldn't she have just dressed appropriately" too, and enabling her in her poor choices only reinforces them, but that's another matter entirely.

Chivalry means that men are expected to pay for dates but, again, this has nothing to do with kindness. Kindness would be a woman saying "hey, it's not really fair that men should have to pay for everything, when I want to be here too". Someone paying for another person's ticket out of kindness is also very different from someone who feels that they need to pay because that is the expectation that is placed on them. It is not kind to take advantage of such an expectation either.

Your-Evil-Twin- · 2026-02-25T02:04:42+00:00

Chivalry is definitely not just kindness.

reichiek · 2026-02-28T05:30:32+00:00

It's wild how so many women just change the meanings of things to fit their skewed perspective. Men putting women on pedestals is just "kindness" and expected. Women treating men with basic human decency is "emotional labor" and exploitation.

Title	No It’s Not
Author	meeralakshmi
Upvotes	134
Comments	28
Date	February 22, 2026 8:22 PM UTC (5 months ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/EverydayMisandry
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