This is going to be a fairly complex question but it's been bothering me a lot and I hope I can get some answers from the people of this subreddit that can stop me worrying so much about this.

A common answer for a lot of the questions on this reddit is "stop thinking of people as a hive mind and start seeing men and women as individuals" which makes sense when you hear it but then I am constantly seeing scientific studies from tons of different sources that state the complete opposite. That women and men are inherently different and men have biologically similar and women are biologically similar. Men are from mars, women are from Venus sort of thinking.

Women view love and sex from a resourceful context such as can he provide for me and men view love in terms of a visual sexual context such as is she attractive and do I find her sexually appealing The following article illustrates this... https://www.webmd.com/sex/features/sex-drive-how-do-men-women-compare#1

If this sort of thing is true and we are different and are biologically programmed to be and act certain ways then something like the red pill is a lot more valid. Please help me out with this what am I getting wrong here?