So I'm looking around, exploring communities to see where the friendly people are. I don't endorse TheRedPill, as far as I can tell it's loaded with toxicity and hostility, with a cult-y mentality and stupid club jargon. So I came across this sub, which looks very candid and promising. And then I see the sidebar claiming that hypergamy doesn't exist in human beings (and making a big deal regarding it, no less). I hadn't heard ever being in doubt. Now, I'm a feminist, or so I'm told, but I'm troubled and confused now seeing both sides of this controversy standing on false foundations.

Where are people supposed to go if both sides are in denial?

I don't even know where to post this, nor am I sure I can post this somewhere without irritating someone.

Am I missing something?

Edit: looks like there's a sub called the purple pill