I don't even recognize myself anymore

awkreddit · 2017-12-11T21:18:04+00:00

You already realise this is bad, don't waste any more time on this stuff. Unsubscribe to the subs and disconnect from that community completely and start focusing on stuff you like to do. Honestly having the will to disconnect is the hardest part. You can't tell your old self to let go, but you can tell your current self. Just realise that none of it is real, sure there are shitty people everywhere, but there are nice ones too, you just have to not try too hard and focus on yourself. Good luck!

raziphel · 2017-12-11T18:46:40+00:00

The anger and resentment from TRP builds up quickly. People see this and avoid the person carrying it- no one likes to be around that kind of person, and it creates a cycle of misery for the individual. It's good that you're breaking this cycle sooner than later.

At least you figured this out sooner than later. This is a great opportunity for you to mature and become a better, friendlier, good person- now you've got a chance to clear your head and do some intense personal development. Purge yourself of the abusive ideology and rebuild yourself into someone who not only others like, but someone you like.

Don't beat yourself up, just move on. By moving on and being a better person, this just becomes a really awkward phase. It's only been a few months instead of years.

mouseattackattack · 2017-12-12T00:11:49+00:00

8 months is nothing. You have basketball to focus on if you need something to take your mind off it. You have seven more semesters of college to become the person you want to be. Maybe be a little introspective and think of what behaviors you did to bring on these negative reactions from others.

You do deserve friends. Don't ever think overwise.

BowieBuckley · 2017-12-31T03:38:09+00:00

Stop hating yourself. You aren’t a bad person. You were affected by a cult-like group of people who appeal to men who feel men (and young men in particular I think, although that’s just my assertion). You became a part of this community during the most impressionable years of your life. You need to focus on actively thinking empathetically, which I think starts with active listening and keeping an open mind. You also need to open up to the people in your life that you trust about this. You’re human and you were influenced by some negative stuff but that’s okay because you’re still learning and growing.

First of all I would focus on trying to be vulnerable if you have any close friends. Likewise, be vulnerable with yourself. One thing TRP does is make sure to instill the idea that vulnerability is wrong. Lose your “frame”. A lot of people who are even currently a part of TRP post in the group about how they feel an inability to connect with others anymore, some of them even posting that they feel like an empty sociopath. The responses are so discouraging, just “you’re going down the right path this is normal” sort of attitude. Nope, emotional intelligence is important. Stifling emotions makes you angry and apathetic and depressed. Work on this first and foremost. Allow yourself to grieve over lost time and loss of “identity” - you’re feeling these things for a reason and the more you let yourself explore your emotions the more better understanding you’ll have of what you’re going through exactly. You have to understand your own emotions before you can overcome life’s difficulties and before you can truly be empathetic imo.

I think I should say, I’m a woman and I’ve never been a member of TRP. I can’t pretend to know how difficult it is, so feel free to disregard this post if you don’t find it helpful since this sub is geared towards former TRP. Something led you there to begin with and the way they lead men (and women) who are involved in their community to self-loathing under a mask of self-improvement is probably super difficult to overcome. Don’t lose faith in yourself. Don’t be afraid to reach out to a therapist if you feel you don’t have a good support system (or even if you do, it can be good for some people but don’t be discouraged if you find it is not for you.) Good luck. You’re a good person!

absolution98 · 2017-12-16T18:36:31+00:00

To be fair on their part ,you didn't do the bad boy routine right is what they would say.The reason why women are attracted to bad boys are because of their masculinity,confidence,courage,decisive.All of these qualities are not qualities of bad boys but just common sense knowledge that have passed down through generations.Hollywood bad boys are the poster boys for the red pill but here's one thing none of them point out.About at least 3/4 of them are in a monogamous relationship or LTR which is contrary to what many redpill spit. The reason why I changed my opinion on settling down is when I read the interview with Jack Nicholson(hollywood famous lothario) and he said he regretted ruining some of his relationship because he was cheating.And he yearns for that one final "true romance" according to his own words.You can Google it yourselves.It makes you think for a sec. Warren Beatty another lothario made the smarter decision and settle down in his 50s and in turn he have a much satisfactory life according to him.

The most masculine male in Hollywood which have access to some of the top girls as they would put it are actually nice guys.Jason Mamoa,Ryan Gosling,Hugh Jackman,Christian Bale (redpill fav) Funny how Christian Bale which is red pill favourite happens to be marriage since 2000 and he's still happy.

I would say there are some truths to the redpill such as on feminism and men rights but like every thing that has a following it sells on that half truth.Real life alphas aren't following redpill idealogy.And they're not asshole and don't ridicule other guys.

Also there's a huge percentage of people lying on reddit redpill as if you check their other post they're always so infatuated with this group like they have an agenda.And their stories are non consistent in comparison to the comment they made years ago which they forgot.

Lambdal7 · 2017-12-23T21:33:37+00:00

TRP isn't about being an ass or being a bad person. All of TRP values are passive. Be a good, friendly person, just be aware that sometimes TRP concepts are true. Not always, but sometimes they are and knowing them helps you not being overwhelmed by them.

hb8only · 2017-12-27T17:29:45+00:00

My senior prom date was actually smoking hot, but by the end of the night she was hooking up with a different guy. This is sort of what triggered me and I began reading TRP posts, soaking in the ideologies, and embracing the hate/anger in them.

but have you found an answer in TRP why that have happens to you..?

FutureMedprofession · 2018-04-29T08:14:56+00:00

I just want to note something, don’t let one girl ruin your view of all girls. There are a lot of good normal girls out there, you managed to find a shitty one. There’s a lot of shitty ones out there too, but this world will always be filled with good and bad people, be yourself and the more experience you have with girls the more you will find my statement to be true

grimreapersdtr · 2018-02-24T17:26:14+00:00

I don’t know. My brother was ditched at his HS prom. He got married to someone else at 23 and now makes six figures.
One stupid girl’s behavior shouldn’t make them all look horrible. People in HS often still behave in a child-like way. The “hot” kids in high school usually got away with worse behavior.

Title	I don't even recognize myself anymore
Author	jaytheunknown
Upvotes	16
Comments	9
Date	December 11, 2017 5:33 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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