I just want to preface this and say that I am not an incel, but I have a lot of things to say about them.

The main problem I have with incels view of the world is that they see women as mindless drones who have no personality and no agency in their decisions, that they think that women only love men with super machistic characterstics, and who can only love them.

This view of women with no "brains", with no personal characteristics of preferences, this view that women are just biological machines that were pre-programmed to always act a certain way and exclusively like certain things is in my opinion very anti-human and dehumanizing, depersonalizing. And when women come and say that they are not like that, that they are different, they tell them that they're lying because "All women are like that". They think that they finally cracked the biological code of how women work, found the "red-pill" and now every action of a women is clear to them: they only want to date super machistic muscular douchey guys and exploit the rest. All of this leaves no room for personality, individuality for women and absolutely defies the concept of love, that someone might like someone for other things that are not superficial, that different kinds of women exist who might be different from each other and might value different things.

Take for instance the case of incels reacting to r/rolereversal (great subreddit btw, I reccomend you check it out if you haven't). They called all the people delusional there and outright denied that women who might be more into the softer, gentle kind of boys exist (and all of that in the time of previously unseen popularity of k-pop and e-boys and soft-boys). Women who would actually prefer boys who are not conforming to traditional gender roles and stereotypes not only exist, but are actually more prevalent than society likes to admit. And it all seems like a perfect antidote to this toxic masculinity and despair, but they seem to be deliberately blind to it. It's hilarous: even when faced out-right with a fact of existence of women who are not selfish, who are not shallow, who don't consider not being traditionaly masculine a bad trait they just deny all of it and accuse everyone of being a liar.

Another thing with incels is that they view women (or in their case The Women©™) only as partners/sex objects. Not as humans with their own complex individualities, not as friends or other human beings, but only as their (or someone's) potential mates. Women do no exist for them in any other context. That (and toxic masculinity that is already present there) only helps to create and perpetuate misogynist stereotypes and ways of thinking within them.

And quite honestly, a lot of their beliefs looks like simple projection: they accuse women of being disloyal, while they don't value faithfulness when it comes to them and would betray their partner if given enough of an incentive (which in their case is not much), they claim that all women are shallow and only care about looks and money while they are themselves are not very eager to talk about metaphysical and look into someones soul rather than the outer layer.

If those women are the only ones that they acquaintant themselves with then I can only congratulate them on finding people with near identical outlook on life and a worldview, but unfortunately that is most likely not the case as everybody just looks at the world through the prism of their own soul.

It really is sad how can one people dehumanize other group of people so much. In what myths can we believe about each other and how willfully blind we can be to the evidence to the contrary.