Petal Seven... purpose.

Litgamenerd · 2022-05-15T14:18:44+00:00

I think it’s important to remember that that video was just one person’s view point, and if you don’t like it, you don’t have to listen to it.

They are absolutely wrong in their opinion by the way, humans are empathetic, social creatures, we are built to try and understand each other emotionally. You deserve to voice your emotions with your partner and have them be sympathetic to you. If they’re not, and you voicing your emotions (assuming you’re doing so in a way that is not violent or threatening violence) gets you dumped, well, it’s better you find out sooner rather than later so you aren’t stuck with someone expecting a statue from you.

vcreativ · 2022-05-15T14:30:54+00:00

Yuk, long post this, but there's a point.

Anyway, in terms of tracking what makes you happy and what doesn't, you should stop watching TikTok. You're day was great until you watched it, so don't do it.

One of the issues around TikTok and YT, as well is that you're confronted with content you otherwise wouldn't have necessarily considered or are in the mood for. BP and RP content are designed to depress you and keep you around. Their content is very effective in achieving this even for otherwise healthy people.

They do so by starting on entry-level truths that are true enough and either through sophistry, fallacious logic, or omission of a more reasonable conclusion provide context that serves their purpose (usually, surprise, supporting their ideology). Some might not understand the faults in their thinking, some undoubtedly will.

In this perspective the sheer fact that someone says something as outrageous as "if you cry around women, all your relationship work will be lost" should immediately make you think, not about what you're doing wrong, but why what they say might be true from their perspective, but what they're suggesting is still false.

In particular, a man who forces themselves not to cry will stunt their own emotional development. Assuming they started doing so during puberty (say age 13), then that's their emotional age. It's likely they started far sooner, say 6.

They grow up, are 23, 25, 30, whatever and they keep seeing that whenever their emotional shield cracks and they cry because they cannot repress it any longer the women they are with distance themselves. Them heartless ladies.

I don't think they're lying. The lie is the suggestion of causality with omission of relevant context.

What their partner sees (man or woman), is a person who's entire lack of emotional development has been made clear in an instant. When you genuinely cry, you're overloaded with emotion, so you're immaturity (if any) will be impossible to hide.

Crying is a very honest moment. If you're immature the things you cry about and the way you're processing your emotions will appear "childish" to an adult, with the converse being true also.

From the "man's" perspective, the girl left because dude cried, so dude no cry. From the woman's perspective, guy lied to her and isn't emotionally attractive since he's in essence still a child. It would be creepy for her to stay. This and a grown man that doesn't know how to effectively process his emotions while in turmoil is really quite threatening.

I have cried while with women that I was seeing. It's never led to a distancing, I've never been concerned with them liking me less as a result, rather it's resulted in a deepening of the connection.

I've never proclaimed to be anything but me, crying is a normal emotional process and when fully integrated highlights your humanity as well as your emotional maturity.

It's only when you played pretend all your life that crying becomes something to fear.

5MinuteMentalFitness · 2022-05-17T04:09:52+00:00

Emotion does not a good action make, unless instinct and quick response is actually needed and not based on an emotional delusion.

These words were told to me in a bpd group therapy session and looking back on mine and others lives and actions during high emotional states it is very much true.

Yet not acting on your emotions IS NOT the same as feeling and moving through them. (Going from emotional to logical)

For that there is this saying.

You either manage the negative physiological signals and motivational impulses your brain is giving you (emotions) or it will manage it for you and you will not like that result unless you like depression and later suicidal ideation.

This is also very true because if you do not manage or move through your emotions your brain starts shutting down into a more primitive state to sort of balance and recharge as we are purely designed for live and positive feelings which id why high negative events emotions thoughts stick out deeply.

That said.

9 out of 10 times when a women says they want a emotionally mature man this is what they mean.

Someone who is open in sharing how their emotions work and make them think; feel and act (move through) but only acts on them when necessary.

Like every part of life it’s about balance aka wise mind. That is you harness the power of both sides (logic/emotion) to help effectively solve problems.

Title	Petal Seven... purpose.
Author	ChewDipp
Upvotes	2
Comments	7
Date	May 15, 2022 11:37 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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