If you saw my first post (for my followers) you know the first step is to make peace with the metaphorical death of your family (All past; present, and future versions)
As you cannot fully decide you want something and act on that want without removing hope; need, and other states of being that cloud ones presence.
Thus by doing the metaphorical funeral exercise (envisioning your family dead) to kill all hope; need, etc, you probably noticed you felt some things. A lot of hard things.
Those things you felt are actually the clues to how you grieve and how to truly make peace with loss.
Contrary to popular belief and some pseudoscience regarding theories of grief, everyone grieves differently.
The stages of grief theory is a guideline not a rule.
But all grief comes from emotions relating to loss.
But the important part is to move through the grieving process in a healthy way you must first feel the emotions and then reverse the polarity of the negative emotions.
This is actually the final step of true negative emotional mastery and to rid yourself of most long lasting pain and suffering that the most wise calm and truly transformative spiritual teachers teach.
And it is great here because once you make peace with loss, you can then decide if striving to get what you lost is truly what you want or you want something else.
Often times we allow emotions to cloud our judgement and our thinking.
We act on emotion thinking it’s the right thing to do yet wonder why many times it turns out disastrous.
That is because for an action to be present and effective the emotion and urge to action must comedown.
And that is the first step in emotion transformation.
Bring the emotional intensity down and logic up.
In post three I will show you the greatest method for doing this called the S.T.O.P method.
