I met this guy after my divorce from my common-law husband, I was in no mood for a relationship because my ex screwed me so hard I couldn’t feel anything but food. Anyways he met me on a site meant for BDSM I know I know not good. But I wasn’t in the right frame of mind for a relationship and this was an unhealthy way to go about it. We met had a good time, and kept meeting up.

“How are things?” He would purr into the phone and it would leave me into a puddle but he wasn’t a creep I was lonely, I was so depressed from my divorce I would sleep straight after sex actually anything really, driving home from work and I would be out cold and in bed and I won’t be up until the next morning he would catch me in the in between. But that line “how are things?” I went through hell and back. I found love shortly after my ex and when this guy found out he didn’t like it but made peace with it, he would still call me everyday. Thinking this was normal I let it go. Letting me tolerate it.

My fling and I broke up, because this asshole got in the middle too many times and would say things like “I know what you want” and “he won’t know.” Still feeling hurt I gave in.

Then an idea came into my head, I wanted to lose weight so I did the only thing I could do, I lied, I lied so much that this guy stalked the guy I was suppose to be dating and called me out on my shit but at this point I needed to get rid of him but how? My trainer caught on and told me to stop. So I did. I still saw the trainer but now my web of lies had become his laughing stock, I was done.

He would rub my neck I hopes for a blowjob, he would touch me to touch him back, it worked and soon as he would cum he would leave, he told me about the girls he had, about the ideas he had, the way he would truck and manipulate the girls he wanted so much so, he would prove them all to be disloyal to many partners and even in open relationships he still would work it so he could get what he wanted. I was one of them.

My last ex Jim I knew I wanted more with him but with this guy in the way he was going to make it hard, while Jim and I were dating I said to the asshole, we are done. This is our last time together, I’m serious with this guy. “No you’re not,” he mocked me, “we like bdsm OP you will never break the habit of being loyal.” He knew me or thought he did, he wasn’t wrong, I asked Jim while driving to his house one day “how do you feel about being an open relationship?” My biggest knock out of air was when he said he was all for it. I didn’t want it to happen. But it did. The asshole won, and I lost, every time. He would come over to my house, I would go to his, I thought of him as a friend, how naive I was. He wasn’t a friend.

A few days ago I was talking to my mom as Jim and I had broken up almost two years ago and I can’t get over him and I was talking about the asshole. Everything came out, his behaviour, how he wanted me for sex, never taking out on dates, nothing. My mom said “why you letting a man treat you like a second class citizen? If anything you need to get rid of him, ghost him if you need to” she has met the asshole and she didn’t like him. I blocked his number, his email, everything. Until this email came in:

OP, you seem to forget who you're talking to. I'm surprised you're even able to spell the word loyal and keep a straight face. How many times have you told me that you were stepping out on Tim....or Matt...or Dave? Seriously, do you think I'm stupid or something? ... I recall your fake pregnancy (wasn’t fake) scare...putting me on that list..You wouldn't know the word loyal if it came up and bit you on the ass! There is no way I would trust you to be loyal, and if I did, then I would need to give my head a shake. And you didn't answer my question, so let me put it in the simplest of terms that even you could understand. Why would I date someone that has proven to be disloyal, and thinks she's better than everyone? Why don't you come off of your high horse and realize that the reason you are not with anyone right now is that nobody wants to put up with your nonsense...........You can cook and clean....anybody can, nothing special there You assume I want sex....with you....how about a hard pass on that currently...as in NOOOOOOOOO. So block me on facebook...you assumptions will get the worst of you as per usual......wonder if it's about time certain things you wanted kept quiet were brought to light to those people that don't know??? See how I feel on that. Smarten the fuck up sometime, maybe stop thinking of yourself as a "hot bitch"(not) that gives more than they take...and maybe for now....maybe a bitch that is self centered and just takes Asshole

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btw.....what makes you think guys should come pandering to you.....there are currently several ...well 3 other ladies with an interest in spending time with me....so good luck with...whatever or whomever off of POF or tinder or whatever dating site your using, probably be the same result as always later

I feel hurt but really he’s sad to see his favourite fuck buddy leave him. I feel better knowing I won and I’m free. I haven’t written back but I feel better knowing I do t have to.

I felt the need to get this off my chest a bit but I felt he was a 10 when he was a 2. Anyways have a good night ladies.