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MESSAGE FOR MALE LURKERSFirefly10886/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 08:01 AM
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MALE DEPRAVITYFirefly10886/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 06:24 AM
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BOOK REPORTFirefly10886/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 04:50 AM
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RED FLAG 🚨Firefly10886/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 05:46 AM
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ROAST-A-SCROTEFirefly10886/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 07:37 AM
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NICE FOR WHAT?Firefly10886/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 06:59 AM
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CULTURAL MISOGYNYFirefly10886/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 06:14 AM
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MALE DEPRAVITYFirefly10886/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 05:56 AM
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RED FLAG 🚨Firefly10886/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 07:23 PM
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LESSON LEARNEDFirefly10886/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 06:54 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYFirefly10886/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 06:52 PM
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DISCUSSIONFirefly10886/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 08:14 PM
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CULTURAL MISOGYNYFirefly10886/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 11:22 PM
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FDS RESCUE MISSIONFirefly10886/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 08:06 PM
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I AM A GARBAGEFirefly10886/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 06:15 PM
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LIES MEN TELLFirefly10886/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 06:56 PM
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CULTURAL MISOGYNYFirefly10886/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 07:39 AM
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MALE DEPRAVITYFirefly10886/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 07:41 AM
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MALE DEPRAVITYFirefly10886/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 04:29 AM
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MALE DEPRAVITYFirefly10886/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 05:55 AM
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SCROTES MADFirefly10886/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 03:29 AM
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MALE DEPRAVITYFirefly10886/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 03:17 AM
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FDS RESCUE MISSIONFirefly10886/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 11:00 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYFirefly10886/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 03:00 AM
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DISCUSSIONFirefly10886/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 05:57 PM
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LIES MEN TELLFirefly10886/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 05:11 PM
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SEEKING ADVICEFirefly10886/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 08:04 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYFirefly10886/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 06:55 AM
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13

Sadly I had the same experience. When I was teaching yoga online live during the pandemic, I’d have these disgusting scrotes blowing up the comments live with this kind of inappropriate commentary.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/22 01:25 AM
16

this. Last guy I dated pulled this shit, and I blocked and deleted him same night. Thanks to FDS, next man I dated (current bf) cooks for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 04:27 AM
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In addition, she may be the victim of future-faking. He may have told her he wants kids bc he knew that she wanted to have an option with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/22 04:13 AM
119

Omg I’m so sorry you had to put up with this. Hindsight, the cost of an Uber sounds much more appealing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 11:22 PM
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I agree. I myself would have been with a lot less men if several of them hadn’t lead me on. Back before FDS in the dark times.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 02:58 PM
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Truth
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 02:54 PM
60

This scrote is basically describing his “type” of woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 06:09 AM
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“And when in doubt, simply pretend as if you have a personality so likable, it could make Jennifer Anniston jealous.” 🤮 How to be a pickme, and of course written by a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 04:53 AM
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Yasss Queen. I wouldn’t even look back. You deserve so much better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 04:49 AM
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Imagine the all scrotes though that fell for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/22 03:12 PM
75

Lol, many of us got that email. I was like, I don’t watch porn, wtf are you taking about? Obvious scam.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/22 01:04 AM
62

Divorce papers?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 01:41 AM
116

Hey there! I’m an early 30’s male. I was born and raised in Florida, but I tell everyone I’m from Wisconsin because I went to college there. Also, I’ve changed my last name to my mothers maiden name because it sounds more white than the one I was given. My drivers license says 5’8” but I’m actually 5’6”. I’m a mechanical engineer by day with my own startup / side hustle that’s just a ripoff of Uber- but with buses! I like to go hangout on weekends with my bros while simultaneously hooking up wit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 03:37 AM
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Wait. So basically just get the sister pregnant, right? It wouldn’t even be the OPs actual baby.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 03:39 AM
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Please provide these articles. Like in a post, instead of just telling us to look it up and take your word for it. This is just straight up gaslighting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 01:43 AM
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I am so sorry you went through that, omg
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 01:17 AM
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Exactly. A space open up on his roster, and she looked like a good plate to spin.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/22 04:39 AM
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Play dumb until the very end. Actually happened: Me: “What do you mean get a good workout in bed? I don’t understand.” Also me: what do you mean by Netflix and chill? That doesn’t sound very active. How about we go on a 3 hour mountain bike ride instead? Him: (exasperated sigh) I want to have sex with you. And I want you to commit to that before we meet so I know what I can expect from (muh) efforts. Me: What?? Why didn’t you just say so to begin with! BLOCK DELETE
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 05:40 AM
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Yes, totally agree. I bet if they had got together, he would have eventually left her for someone he thought might be better. After years of being fwb, I doubt he’d take the relationship seriously. Unless there is competition, of course.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 07:14 AM
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Even when I meet a HVM, I wonder how much unpaid female labor went into his own leveling up. Whether it was the ex girlfriends struggling for him, or the mother herself. Some HVM weren’t always high value….
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 06:43 AM
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Yes, do not let him do this. I had a guy that tried to contact me after a block/delete to return stuff as an excuse to ‘communicate’.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 06:23 AM
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Oh my god that is despicable. I’ve heard from men before they aren’t attracted to their SOs without breasts, so that’s why they leave. Not the stress of the diagnosis themselves. But that’s the true colors of many men out there, sadly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 01:21 AM
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It’s the hiring managers job to assess her skills/qualifications—not his. Maybe she’s improved at coding since he only knew her in the beginning of her education. No wonder there aren’t very many women in STEM, insecure men finding excuses to run them out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 08:44 PM
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Truth
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 12:38 AM
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Lmaoooo such a good idea
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 05:53 AM
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If I had to guess… Big Body or Booty Woman?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 01:21 AM
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Yes. Sounds like he wanted a woman with dignity and high standards so it would be so much more satisfying to him, his fantasy, of you dropping those standards to make an exception for him because he’s so irReSisTaBLe! Any time he wants it, you put out. What the fuck. The games they play. Hence FDS OP, I agree, next time don’t tell a guy what you’re looking for early on. To maintain your standards, you need to be nearly unobtainable at this point. You’re too busy and successful to waste time on s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 01:04 AM
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And that shit with the lights, that’s his passive aggressive way of making sure she knows her duties in the house. Literally creating situations to condition her for complete control.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 07:14 PM
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Next we will have scrotes masturbating to pictures of their moms because “it’s a harmless fantasy, it’s private, and isn’t hurting anyone.” Because it’s just one step away from step mother porn. And that shit is normal. …you can rationalize anything in your head 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 09:34 PM
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But why the 4 hour delay?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 03:51 PM
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Lol. My wall was a LVM. Leveled up, jumped the wall. Doing just fine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 06:11 AM
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Several masters degrees would be about 600k and very little time spent working, so I get that part.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 05:57 AM
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Or the ones who won’t wash their own ass in the shower with a wash cloth, because touching their own hole is gay.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 11:20 PM
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Replace it with “women are evaluated on their sexual convenience and not as people” and that’s the shit we have always had to deal with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 06:05 PM
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Lol it could
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 03:12 AM
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Also, why is it only referring to women? Men get uglier earlier on. It usually only takes a few years for a guys face to catch up with his liver.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 01:58 AM
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Hahaha 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 06:33 PM
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He invited you over, and like 7 minutes later you responded with a confirmation like he just placed an order? I recommend reading the book Not your mother’s rules, or why Men Love Bitches. If you make it too easy they lose interest. If he texts, wait 4 hours minimum to respond. Then, 20 minutes in between each text after that and only if you’re making plans after that maybe 5 minutes in between. Train them to know you’re busy and got other stuff going on. They will work harder to spend time with…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 06:01 PM
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Poor woman has to use twisted logic to explain this insanity. She needs to GTFO, 15 years and he is still worthless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 05:53 PM
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Excuse me, what?? Men are really this fucking stupid??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 05:42 PM
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Sounds like he had a difficult childhood.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 02:36 AM
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How about we put your dick in the garbage disposal for 5 seconds. Really brief. You’ll be okay. 👌🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 02:20 AM
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Total red flag(s). I would be so turned off by these comments and not interesting in seeing this guy again. There is covert pressure, followed by overt pressure to not “disappoint” him again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 07:38 AM
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Yes, and the question is always how much work? And if you are doing FWB for free rent (which I see posted often) how much sex is required? Often it’s easier just to work a minimum wage job and pay your way. I lived in a place once where I did work around the house to offset the rent. But they always ended up asking me to do more and wouldn’t compensate me. Don’t mix work with home life in this regard. Often times boundaries are ignored.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 08:35 AM
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My god that is fucking horrible 😧
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 08:31 AM
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“What about you?” Does this conversation count?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 03:12 AM
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Haha, you scared his demons 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 03:20 AM
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What do I think of him? Very generic message about being outdoorsy. Not much to glean from this, except the “not sure yet”. Which is the best card a guy on this app can play because he can “just see what’s out there,” “or I’m open to the right person.” 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 03:12 AM
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A Men’s rights sub? Like the oppression of women for thousands of years across all cultures was to their disadvantage. Hahahaha JFC, the entitlement!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 07:14 PM
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Damn woman you are the definition of a self made Queen 👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 07:09 PM
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I mean, it sounds like she’s justifying why she wants to be a LVW.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 06:56 PM
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This ^ so infantalizing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 06:03 PM
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Oh fuck no. First of all, calling you that shit is condescending to say the least. You already asked him not to. You don’t even know him, so likely he says that to all women. I also have a partially strong trigger to ‘sweetheart’, as that is the name my abusive grandfather called me — even though I had asked him to stop calling me that and he didn’t listen. He did not listen, and I totally respect you for calling him out, and cancelling immediately. Strong boundaries. 🙌🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 06:00 PM
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I know, it’s 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 05:36 PM
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That is awesome!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 05:49 AM
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He just hired his new mommy mcbangmaid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 06:50 PM
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Time to make a throwaway account for posting in the other subs. They can’t truly ban you. R/relationships is such a big sub I wouldn’t be surprised to hear if they had their own CEO and investors. Maybe even got an IPO going? Somebody on there certainly is afraid of FDS influence!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 12:47 AM
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Wow, yeah fuck that mindset
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 12:36 AM
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Lol what??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 12:29 AM
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I agree, I’m of the “let it die” mentality. I did this with a guy recently, and after 2 weeks of me initiating nothing he suddenly started asking me out again, which I’d turn down or not even respond to. The desperation has now set in for him and he’s texting me to hangout everyday, and I’m still not responding. I’ve found it interesting to watch him go through complete indifference to desperation. For LVM it’s all about control. They will freak out if they don’t think they have you eating their…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 05:00 AM
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Hahahaha ... they literally do that 😂😆🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 04:53 AM
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So fucking sad. Thanks for posting full text. Yeah, he’s definitely got another woman/women. That’s typically why they can’t be bothered. It’s hard enough for them to pay attention to more than one woman at a time, so he ignores his wife bc he knows she’s still going to be there when he returns, and puts his crumbs of effort into the woman he’s leading on where he’s at now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 04:52 AM
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LMAO! “I hope you’re doing well, because I need you to help meeeee!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 05:25 AM
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Sick testicle. Lolz.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 04:53 AM
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Haha, yep. And this morning I got an absolution text, apologizing for last night. Which of course I’m not responding to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 10:44 PM
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I personally think Ass Hat or Waffle Stomper would be a nice name for this guy 😉
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 05:45 PM
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Ok, the “negative, ghost rider” was hilarious. I might use this next time before I block/delete. 😆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 05:19 PM
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Good, yes....even responding to the first one is pointless. Context, we were chatting earlier, but yes first one didn’t deserve acknowledgement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 04:10 PM
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Re: flair. Keep posting/comments. I think it has to do with upvotes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 08:14 AM
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Based off what you said, it’s likely she is low key trolling them. This would be a good FDS book report.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 08:04 AM
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Link to original post? 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 07:57 AM
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Yes! 7:30pm on a Friday night: WYD?? Can I ask you out last minute to come over to my house? 10:42pm later that night: WYD??? Hehe I’m high 🙃🤪 I literally yelled at my phone: FUCK OFF! (But didn’t respond IRL) Wasn’t interested in this guy, had a few dates. Didn’t treat me how I like to be treated. Now he needs to go away. Far far away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 07:43 AM
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Honestly, you’re doing everything you can. Coming here to post this instead of dumping it on your current bf, etc is a great start. I also am struggling to not resent my ex, we also have a trauma bond. It’s totally reasonable to be mad, and through the right resources and approach we will heal and move on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 06:49 PM
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Exactly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 12:15 AM
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Says every Incel with no profile pic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 12:13 AM
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Hahahaha omg 🤣😆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 12:06 AM
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Who is stupid enough to make large investments in this pandemic depression? $5 says he’s going to try and invest it in the stock market Edit: take legal action? Pretty sure his wife can hire a better lawyer than he could, and a divorce lawyer too, while she’s at it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 11:51 PM
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Leo’s skincare routine: never work out, and top shelf whiskey morning, noon and night.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 08:59 PM
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This is creepy, but if you want to check out next level creepy, google Mel Gibson’s girlfriend(s).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 08:57 PM
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I honestly think it’s the physical symptoms of porn addiction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 03:45 AM
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How else would she get followers?? By putting her own bar into the ground.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 03:43 AM
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I’d love to make this guy carry a 20lb plate on his back in the hot sun for 4 hours, without water. Then he’d know what she felt like. (Vomiting from dehydration and swollen feet, pretty equivalent to what work her body is going through)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 09:55 PM
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Do we know a woman actually wrote this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 11:05 PM
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Yeah I’ve thought about that, something like ratemyprofessor but instead rate my ex. There would have to be proof/screenshots of text or email though. Otherwise biases/revenge could get in the way lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 11:01 PM
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“He’s the love of my life” Says the 19 yo with no life experience....other than previous relationship abuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 10:03 PM
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I’ve never really done “dating”, just long term relationships, so needing to be more prepared safety-wise has been a good learning experience at least.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 08:05 PM
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Probably to just not date at all at this point, wait the 3 months like FDS says and do a std test before sleeping with someone. After doing research, I discovered non latex condoms after the fact, but I still believe I need to wait much longer before sleeping with someone/wait until we are in a relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 07:11 PM
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Oedipus unknowingly killed his own father and married/slept with his own mother. Yeah this guy is as fucking clueless as Oedipus I suppose.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 05:19 PM
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I concur.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 05:06 PM
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Fucking gross. Think of it this way. 95% of the women on FDS would have blocked him as soon as he said anything sexual on the tinder app. The other 4% of the women on here would have stopped talking to him on the phone once they realized he’s only looking to get laid as everything he says has a sexual innuendo. And the last 1% (you) who are still in your pickme ways are too busy being distracted by the flattery and thought of being that one special cool girl who doesn’t get ruffled by all this o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 05:13 PM
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Hahahahahahaha... lawd. I just can’t right now. 🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 04:57 PM
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Nothing is more challenging than trying to leave a relationship with a narcissist. Good luck 👍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 04:34 AM
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His shoulders are up in a perma-shrug 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 04:25 AM
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FDS, for men who get off on getting triggered 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 04:14 AM
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“They just change tactics.” Preach
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 03:46 AM
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There is no way this can be real. Maybe between 5-6 women you could find this soul ransom list.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 03:40 AM
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I totally would have trolled with, “It’s ‘fuck you then, slut’. Insults carry more weight when grammatically correct, fyi.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 03:02 AM
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Exactly, they are willing to throw these women under the bus just to get a lesser of two evils elected? What is their end game? Becoming the very people they claim to hate. Sorry but not sorry. Fuck Alyssa. Traitor to the cause.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 02:56 AM
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“I told her she must stop playing the game because it makes me uncomfortable.” I violated your privacy and life because I am insecure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 01:55 AM
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Exactly, I am seriously triggered rn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 03:17 AM
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Great article!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 12:40 AM
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Very likely there was no anonymous text.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 12:22 AM
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Thank you for sharing, I hope FDS has helped! It’s like AA for me, lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 12:01 AM
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Anyone else worried about his 10 year old sister?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 08:14 PM
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I would literally send him some reddit dick pixs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 10:24 PM
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I thought MGTOW was Men Get Triggered Over Women. Probably works both ways.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 04:22 AM
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Anyone else sick and tired of their entitled victim mentality? I’m having flashbacks to the first season of American Horror Story, when the dad is staring out of the window crying while masturbating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 04:16 AM
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Just another scrote invalidating a woman’s feelings. Good for her for leaving that sorry sack.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 10:33 PM
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Hinge tries, but the men don’t. All they have to do is answer like 3 questions about themselves and the guys pick the worst questions with terrible answers. They still find a way to say as little as possible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 07:41 PM
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Holy FUCK. This could be a novel of movie. This is so entirely Machiavellian on “Dave’s” part, he must be a sociopath.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 05:03 PM
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He’s definitely got a short...something. 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 03:12 AM
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I’m only 5’6”, but nearly every guy under 6ft lies about his height on old. Last date I went on, guys profile says 5’8”,so I decide to wear 2 inch heels to check his integrity. Dude was at least 2in shorter, making him my height. Boy, standing over him made for an awkward date!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 03:08 AM
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I always say, if you are willing to swallow your own cum first, then I will happily a will do so next time lmao. They never take me up on my offer 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 09:24 PM
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Rofl 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 05:25 AM
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Damn girl, nice job staying solid on your decision. Serious level up 👍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 05:22 AM
2

BEFORE quarantine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 02:32 AM
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Hahahaha ... for LVM in quarantine, one minute equals one hour. Love it, all these desperate scrotes going hungry 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 02:26 AM
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Same, I have 8.5 rolls left. I will be demoting my washcloth if I don’t find TP soon 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 11:53 PM
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Lmao 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 11:26 PM
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Based off previous conversations with him I’d say he was serious. I was asking him that as a joke because he seemed to be acting like it was truly the end of the world. I unmatched him immediately.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 08:38 PM
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YoU aInT taKinG MuH sPaM! Spam to TP ratio seems legit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 08:35 PM
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Exactly. Honestly if an end of world scenario played out, who the fuck would want to live through it and struggle to survive anyways? Wipe me out in the first wave and let me die in peace.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 08:33 PM
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“I haven’t gone insane yet” Scrote went insane a long time ago by my standards. I don’t want to know what his definition of insanity is. Especially since we were not even into a week of quarantine at this point. Covid19 bringing all the red flag LVM to the front. Fucking ridiculous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 07:25 PM
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This is not your first rodeo.... 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 04:40 AM
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Very valid point. They are the idiots still out there trying to date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 06:13 PM
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A lot of desperation from LVM/pickmes will pop up now that they can’t go out and get their fix. Fuckboys will literally be shriveling up and dying because they can’t go out to clubs/bars to fuck around. Porn sickness will literally become a mental and physical disease. New normal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 05:53 PM
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Thanks, but the county I live in is HUGE, 3rd largest city in California. That would be one desperate scrote lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 09:00 PM
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Girl. There are 3 options. And one of them is to not give a fuck about this soon to be basket case of a man. He’s not your problem, but it sounds like you are attracted to instability and desperation so if you’re that much of a captain- save-a-scrote then go for it. Don’t say we didn’t warn you. EDIT: after reading more of your responses I’m thinking it is actually you who is lonely and you’re using him as an excuse. You’re acting like a true pickmesha. There are plenty of other lonely people ou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 06:31 PM
10

Yes. If he was bad before he’ll be crazy now. This whole situation is going to bring people who were already a bit unstable under the best of circumstances to the brink of insanity. OP needs to think of her safety.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 06:28 PM
19

He sounds like the typical narcissist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 06:40 AM
9

I love that we are at the point of before and after FDS I enjoyed reading the book, “The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck”. Really taught me how to detach and be more stoic. Just stop investing any energy into him. Stop caring what he thinks or feels or about anything that happened between you and the past. Even that small thought is a big waste of your energy and personal power as he still has power over you if you continue to think about him or want to have some kind of strategy with him in the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 06:46 PM
106

“Proud to be Own3d” 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 06:34 PM
11

He forgot to take it off, lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 04:59 AM
21

Black men don’t want to be at the bottom of the totem pole, so they abuse black women and make them the scapegoat...black wo men are the only people they can get away with abusing ☹️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 07:16 AM
13

Even better: let him take the lead. Do not chase him. Don’t text him first, or suggest dates. He needs to pursue you. Make yourself slightly unavailable, so he knows you are busy and possibly dating other men. True FDS, you’re the prize.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 06:55 AM
8

Please pay for my baby mama and my baby, won’t you please?? TF??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 06:47 AM
11

Not even just MIL, but the MIL boyfriend! As OP stated: He’s actually the reason why her family can’t move! What the ever loving fuck?! She’s letting herself get anchored down into poverty by two scrotes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 06:44 AM
42

Good job getting up and leaving immediately! 👏🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 05:08 AM
122

Lol, he was saving your number just in case.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 03:53 AM
23

Yes, I have put FDS as my priority now in dating and I had dropped a LVM the moment I saw a red flag. I’ve never done this before, and he seemed pretty shocked. I felt bad about it for 2 days, but stuck to my guns. Now I feel amazing and empowered. Whenever I run into this scrote now (we go to the same gym) he always acts awkward and has nothing to say/offer but tries to chat me up anyways. I’ve gotten comfortable with ignoring him. Wish I could block but can’t make him stop working out at the g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 09:06 PM
4

Never know until you try it out yourself ;)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 09:01 PM
9

All excellent advice by the Queens of the sub have been posted above. All I can say is the moment you block/delete and rid yourself of these energy/time vampires, you’ll have space in your life for something new. I suggest you fill the void with things that help you feel like a better/healthier version of you, and use FDS daily kind of like AA is for alcoholics. I’m a recovering pickmeisha myself and never have I felt better/more confident, thanks to FDS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 09:00 PM
8

This ^
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 08:55 PM
56

Sadly I’ve dated several men who choose to be a doormat. I usually tell them just because I’m wearing pants doesn’t mean I want to make all the decisions. Thanks to FDS I’m steering clear of these kinds of scrotes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 08:48 PM
19

Wait, this fool reads books on how complex women are and he says it would boggle our minds? Helllloooo, we are women after all and I’m pretty sure we understand each other better than how these LVM men with their twisted logic operate. Incels and pretty terrible at pretending to be normies...the bitterness is always on the surface with them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 07:25 AM
87

All that in 17 minutes?? Holy fuk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 07:11 AM
44

I bet this guy was expecting you to give him an explanation for your no thank you in the hopes he could leverage it or convince you otherwise...but you just shut him down with no wiggle room for fuckery. I bet he was just astonished lmao. BuT iM AmAZinG, wHo WOuLDNt wANt meee?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 02:40 AM
19

Lol yeah I was thinking she misspelled codependency.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 02:34 AM
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This sounds like something a mommy would do to spoil her teenage son for being good and saving up money ... like as a reward.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 02:32 AM
6

Can confirm, this approach has helped me immensely. Self love is the most powerful form of love.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 02:05 AM
8

Also takes me around a year to fully detach and move on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 02:03 AM
7

r/IncelTears for a good time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 04:51 AM
13

Nothing about this came close to making any sense. Like even most lvm would disagree with this sentiment. Being an incel is intentionally induced mental illness through feeding and validating ones own delusions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 04:48 AM
53

she has abandoned me Code for: she refused to be my caregiver/change my diaper, wait on me hand and foot and not have a life outside of the house.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 04:34 AM
15

Hahaha I swear to god nearly all male engineers think like this. They think they are fucking gods among men. Delusional.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 04:30 AM
25

Obviously a LVM lurker who’s pissed he can’t post here wrote it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 04:18 AM
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What I don’t understand is why they fucking come here to stalk us while claiming they get triggered over women. Sounds like the equivalent of an addict to me. Also mgtow: Ban FDS, because they talk about a certain type of man they try to avoid and have standards! I’m scared other women will find out they don’t have to put up with people like me! REEEEEEEEEEE!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 06:56 PM
33

Let another wonderful lecture on How and Why you Should Lower your Standards by professor Fuckboy McGee.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 06:50 PM
23

What does he mean by arsed?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 06:01 AM
38

Either he uses the cameras in lieu of actually watching over his kids...or yeah it could be something more nefarious. I would just keep my eyes open and pay close attention to everything he says and does. Also your kid being weirded out by it’s not a good sign, either. You don’t know much about him I assume, and I’ll bet anything he’s not telling the whole story when it comes to his divorce. Guys tend to paint themselves as the victim given the opportunity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 05:57 AM
56

Justifying their actions while simultaneously invalidating our feelings. Attractive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 05:52 AM
50

*You can't fire me, because I quit!* Lol nice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 11:35 PM
29

Is that why he just had to correct your spelling of flaky? LVM superiority complex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 11:34 PM
3

You need to get out, sooner rather than later. If you’re not ready for that, then keep reading this sub and sidebar until you find the courage to do so. This man has no respect for you and never will. Time to find your own self respect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 06:47 PM
2

In reality this scrote actually wasted (more of) your time and energy bc he wasn’t blocked. You might not think it was much, but trust me as you continue to level up you’ll begin to value your time even more. I don’t block everyone, but I would block a dude I never met who stood me up. Well done not giving him another chance, and as you continue make progress you won’t give one solitary fuck about enjoying the dumpster fires anymore. That’s when you know you are truly a badass bitch 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 08:45 AM
2

Lol thanks. Mostly just LVMs though...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 08:20 AM
26

Hahaha...so it’s over a 100k of guys checking other guys dicks. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 07:12 AM
21

Wondering if he’s advertising for a LVW
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 07:56 AM
2

Only attention he ever gets. Also, he posts shit posts about abusing women for attention. And he bitched to me about how I linked his post and that was a breech of his privacy. Lmao, this is fucking reddit. Make a throwaway if you don’t want us to see your photoshopped images of your shortcel body next to a stripper.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 07:58 AM
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yes, and put high school but it’s also across the street from an elementary school. Police stopped him pretty quickly at least.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 06:05 AM
18

That shit isn’t funny and I’m sorry that your goodwill to help others was abused by these sickos ☹️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 08:48 PM
1

Hell, he should be drawn and quartered. Wouldn’t be surprised if parents were complicit or father was involved too and easier to blame the son.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 07:51 PM
12

https://www.reddit.com/r/PinkpillFeminism/comments/f8vcg6/making_light_of_rape_is_funny_to_women_right/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 06:17 PM
17

Automatically weeded our a LVM? Saved you time and energy if you ask me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 07:37 AM
11

Yep, it is the standard fuckboi slogan. xx
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 07:35 AM
21

There’s nothing wrong with dating a HVM you are also simultaneously attracted to physically. If that’s important to you then it’s part of your high value standards. Don’t compromise!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 07:31 AM
0

Truth ^
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 04:57 AM
8

Honestly I think it’s ok he had his game night and did not cancel that, I wouldn’t have canceled my plans and go chase after a guy...but I think long term they don’t have compatible schedules or one of them doesn’t actually have time to date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 02:29 AM
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Usually they are about 35 going on 49 and posting their Thumb look. Not 25.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 02:21 AM
65

So at best he’s fucking stupid. Great.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 02:13 AM
1

I should have looked at the post history before posting, which I’ll do in the future now, thanks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 04:48 PM
7

Yeah, after seeing his post history is clear he’s desperate for attention, and created that post. It’s the only way he can talk to women at this point I’m assuming.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 05:31 AM
5

Yes, you are correct
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 05:26 AM
24

My theory is he’s an incel, and he’s just playing out a fantasy for attention.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 05:17 AM
4

And he replied to me he’s just using her for (guilt) sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 05:09 AM
6

Omfg he’s just using her for a warm hole.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 04:56 AM
73

We’ve had an influx due to a few magazine articles so that may be why.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 04:45 AM
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Because if we all fall in line with each other's lowest standards... suddenly we're not allowed to have standards and that would suck. Amen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 04:44 AM
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Just in case he deletes it (and probably will after all the YTA responses) I [M23] left my girlfriend [20F] after hinting that I would marry her, I’m wondering if I made the wrong move To preface, me and her are both attend the same community college. I broke up with my girlfriend of four years just yesterday and not going to lie, its got me feeling down. She is a lovely girl, has a great personality, bright future, and she's sorta attractive depending on who you ask. Anyways, she has always bee…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 04:38 AM
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Yep, it’s all a shit post. False alarm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 04:35 AM
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It takes a few months for the swelling to go down after surgery. I told this fucker that, yes, he is the asshole.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 04:29 AM
6

My ex was also like this, only he was more of a covert narcissist. Take some time to study this, and keep in mind NPD (narcissistic personality disorder) is the only disorder classified as incurable. It’s a catch-22: the narcissist must be able to on their own volition become aware that they are a narcissist, and begin the process of owning it, detaching from feeding off others, etc. the problem is, narcissism is permanent after a certain point in a person’s development. They will always believe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 07:48 AM
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He’s built a monument to his victimization and needs others to worship it with him so he can gain their power. FeEl SoRrY foR MeEee! I nEEd yOur sYmPAthy fOr SuRviVAL!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 07:40 AM
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He’s a fucking narcissist, and he’s lost is “supply”. Watch out, because even he won’t understand how hungry for your attention he is. Do what you need to do to stay away. Only after 2-3 months of NC will you understand what a leech he is. You need enough time away to understand how much you’ve sacrificed and how much you’ve had to repress of your own SELF just to tolerate him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 07:33 AM
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Continue to block and ignore to the best of your ability. Do not be tempted, as he is trying to win back power over you. Do not be surprised if his messages escalate or he says out of character statements out of desperation to reel you back in. If he is as truly narcissistic as he sounds, he’s probably losing his shit just about now. Enjoy that thought and entertain nothing else, because this scrote does not deserve one more iota of your energy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 07:27 AM
7

I’m sorry you’re in this situation, sounds like she has cockholm syndrome.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 12:11 AM
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Fuck! I’ll just use my imagination, I know what these terms mean. But clever, it’s only fair for them to experience ptsd after what they send us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 06:07 AM
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Hahahaha...omg that guy is such a dumbass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 06:05 AM
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Holy shit @u/bigstona, is this ring symbolic of how long your relationship is going to last? Perhaps it symbolizes the quality of your bond. This ring symbolizes the value he holds for your relationship. You are not wrong to be upset! I would have left the ring and left this asshole. He will not change in marriage, this is all you’re ever going to get from him. It won’t get better. Please see ALL these red flags.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 06:00 AM
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I’ve gotten better about weeding out the weeds before even matching thanks to FDS. Like no bio or stupid joke, sarcasm is my second language, etc, is an instant left swipe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 09:19 PM
7

The sooner you cut the cord the sooner you heal. This isn’t healthy for you and you know it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 09:12 PM
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Same: I moved out a YEAR ago and I’m just now recovering from the trauma of being forced to leave by my ex. It’s not worth it, and I love my independence. I should have never moved in with him. A client of mine once told me, do not move in with a guy until you are engaged and there’s a ring on your finger. Otherwise, he gets all the wife benefits without the commitment. She grew up in China, and that’s the approach they take there. More conservative, but now I have first hand experience as to WH…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 06:29 PM
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Apparently I make men better! They adopt my personality at my expense :( Not my fuckin job anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 06:13 PM
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Exactly. That’s the irony of the entire statement he made.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 04:38 AM
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Yes. Their fear is showing. They are clearly afraid of us, and our personal power. They are afraid that the next girl they take on a date....is an FDS girl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 04:20 AM
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Hahaha that’s exactly how and why I joined. Tell me what to do and I’ll always do the opposite.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 04:18 AM
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Stupid is as stupid does. It’s ok for men to run women’s lives, but not other women! Lol Here’s an example of a place on Reddit that wants to run women’s lives. THE RED PILL. This TRP scrote must have been triggered when he saw a glowing review of FDS in WSJ. He probably shit his pants, planned a smear piece and did everything in his power to hold back and not sound like a total troll. Also this lame article is just an opinion, no facts. No quotes, references, interviews. Just another turd on pa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 04:16 AM
2

I can only imagine him introducing you to his parents: “Mom, dad, this is ****, the girl I’m dating.” I knew something was up with my ex when he’d introduce me to friends/family as my first name. Not, this is my girlfriend, ****.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 04:13 AM
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Have faith in yourself now, you inner voice was right all along and she knows what’s best for you. These men claim to be intermediaries for god, telling you what to believe etc, all the while doing terrible things themselves. As you continue to heal, your inner voice will be stronger and you’ll know what to do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 06:00 PM
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After reading this, it’s clear your husband is a narcissist. He loved-bombed you in the beginning to win your affection, but he doesn’t actually have the capacity to love you, he’s just acting the part, pretending he has an EQ. They are master manipulators. This is why he’s not the same as when you met him. It’s hard to maintain the facade after 2-4 months. It sounds like your best friend was your true love, and that he was developing an EQ internally that he wasn’t able to express until you lef…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 05:40 PM
2

Its ok, it took me a few days of reading different topics for it all to click.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 08:29 AM
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Yeah, an exclusive relationship shouldn't last more than 2 years before engagement. I think one year would be enough time to figure out if the person you are with is the one you want to marry. If not, there is likely some fuckery going on. Either you are both too young or inexperienced, and need more time to live your lives first, or you're with someone who never intends on marrying you/incompatible/toxic/too many issues to resolve. The last one is the worst case, because you end up a forever gi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 08:24 AM
2

This ^
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 08:17 AM
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The woman she was...before he destroyed her and crushed her soul.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 05:48 AM
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This is the best translation of man-baby speak I’ve seen 👌🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 05:47 AM
28

Yep, I’ve had 2 experiences with curved dick. Not that pleasant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 05:39 AM
5

Great! It turned me from an in denial pick-me to a true believer of my own self worth in a month.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 07:18 PM
11

Agree, confusion is a huge red flag, and an indicator of manipulation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 07:16 PM
15

What a train wreak of a man. Use this sub everyday for a reminder why to never go back to this sociopath.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 07:15 PM
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At this point, I’m not going to even enter a relationship like this, it is LVM behavior. Next.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 06:45 PM
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Either you need to cut her off because she is toxic, chooses to be toxic and will pollute your life of you let her. Or if you really consider her that good of a friend you can provide just enough advice/emotional energy to help her get her head on straight — but only if she’s actually listening and taking you seriously. Otherwise you’re going to feel like you are also in a relationship with her. Be very careful, you can’t be doing the captain save-a-hoe with your friends, it’s the same waste of …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 06:39 PM
14

Stunning and Brave, season 19, episode 1 https://m.wcostream.com/south-park-season-19-episode-1-stunning-and-brave
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 08:35 AM
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Stunning and Brave, season 19, episode 1 https://m.wcostream.com/south-park-season-19-episode-1-stunning-and-brave
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 08:35 AM
12

At first the message of this fast food ad is just confusing, as it starts with a message about gender roles and a woman’s place...leading into a fast food spin off? I think the message was more about patriarchy propaganda than buying burgers. And what does “And women don’t leave the kitchen” have to do with Hardee’s?? Seriously wtf is this shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 07:41 AM
12

Same, I felt liberated and simultaneously guilty. The liberation is your soul expressing joy for the freedom; the guilt is the programmed cultural monogamy trying to draw you back into the unhealthy patterns. It can feel like an internal battle at times. After a few days of NC, I’ve felt better and much clarity. You did the right thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 06:58 AM
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FFS, how can she be expressing her true feelings and simultaneously be invalidating them by blaming insecurity. He fucking negged her. For all we know either this girls are made up or he wasn’t actually dating them. He’s the one who intentionally created the insecurity in the first place. She should have left this relationship 4 months ago.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 06:54 AM
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I only realized this was becoming a serious issue when they made a South Park episode about it. Pretty much said everything you mentioned. It’s fucking bullshit. I’m glad you are aware of it now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 06:46 AM
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That’s fucking disgusting. That woman is amazing...There are not enough enough women in China, and something like 30 million men will never marry because of it. They are obviously manipulating her because as a police state, she is the property of her country and they’d rather keep women suppressed at all costs. They can’t know their true value, otherwise they’d know how much power they actually wield.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 03:24 AM
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I think they play stupid on purpose so they can use it as excuse and hope you’ll give up and stop asking. 😑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 03:18 AM
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Ha, as the saying goes, I didn’t know they stacked shit that high 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 02:49 AM
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Thank you, fortunately that’s a few years ago now, but FDS was a huge upgrade to my life nevertheless. I realize now how important my needs are and to never compromise again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 06:15 PM
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This prick just wants what he can’t have. If she goes back the old patterns will set in and he’ll go back to his mistress. He also probably is starting to realize that dissolving the marriage is no easy task
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 06:12 PM
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I’ve noticed that abusive men are more attracted to those who have been abused. It’s like her new wound is fresh blood for him. He USED to be a fantastic boyfriend. Asshole just showed his true colors.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 05:55 PM
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I think it could be about control, they feel like they have no influence over this sub and or women only spaces; and that feeling of being powerless over women infuriates them. I imagine them frothing at the mouth, hyperventilating and yelling obscenities at the computer screen bc they cannot post at hateful message directly, and so they go vent on another sub like TRP. Which actually happened in a response to one of my posts recently. I didn’t actually go and read the response because I don’t g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 05:46 PM
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You’re welcome 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 07:45 AM
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Book on Amazon https://www.amazon.com/Not-Your-Mothers-Rules-Secrets/dp/1455512583/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?keywords=not+your+mothers+rules+the+new+secrets+for+dating&qid=1581835374&sprefix=not+your+mothers+ru&sr=8-1
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 06:43 AM
15

Ok, this a pretty bad one back from my hardcore pickme days... I was in an abusive relationship so don’t be too hard on me. I was dating a pos lvm who basically used pua tactics on me to wear me down over time. He would guilt trip me for not being able to use birth control (I had panic attacks and mood swings while on it) and could only use condoms or pull out. At one point he talked me into letting him cum inside of me without any protection because it would feel better for him. I said yes when…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 03:40 AM
5

I think my ex was bad at oral on purpose. Even after I tried giving him clear instructions, I gave up and just told him to stop.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 03:25 AM
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Ladies, this is why men love porn. They don’t have to perform or think of someone else’s needs. A lvm ex of mine told me he likes masturbating to porn better than sex. When I asked him why, he said it was easier and no pressure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 03:18 AM
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This is why you NEVER have a first date on VDay.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 02:54 AM
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Ok, I think you’re doing well. Either this guy is shy or he only uses texting to plan. The fact he’s thinking of you after is great. It doesn’t sounds like he’s a fuckboy bc he would have already tried to seduce you. But another thing to consider, is he could already be in a relationship and that’s taking up his time and emotional energy. I doubt this after everything you said, but between this sub and R/relationshipadvice I’ve seen everything. I’ll be interested to see what other FDS ladies mig…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 01:42 AM
8

That sounds good, I don’t think you need to do more than that. FDS says he needs to pursue so maybe he needs more time which could be good anyways. Have you also been sure to wait 4 hours to respond to his first initial text of the day, then 30 mins after second one, and about 5 mins in between after a convo starts? That’s in the book “Not your Mothers Rules” which FDS is based off of. It gives him the impression you’re busy and not constantly on your phone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 01:35 AM
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Hmm, maybe next date try subtle flirting. There’s a post on here somewhere about how to show a guy you’re interested by alternating between flirting and neutral conversation. It could help him feel more comfortable and want to pursue you especially when you revert back to more neutral conversation energy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 01:29 AM
5

Do you feel any chemistry with him? It’s possible he might be attracted but no sparks?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 01:19 AM
12

You can never change a man by loving him hard enough. Sorry to hear of your bff, I hope some day she's able to escape...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 11:38 PM
44

Any guy who is "trying to figure me out" on day one is likely trying to figure out how to manipulate me. I find it patronizing when a man tries to explain me to me. Fuck that guy, hope you don't give him the time of day again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 11:35 PM
19

Well, that's literally why my grandma went to college....thats how women were raised in the early 20th century. Pretty weird to see something posted like that now. Sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 11:30 PM
39

"According to the World Economic Forum’s Global Gender Gap Report, current trends indicate that it’ll take at least 208 years for the U.S. to achieve true gender equality." Fuck. 208 years? Ladies, we better get started now on influencing these younger generations....of pickmeshas. The LVM men are just....hopeless. They unlikely will change much, because they are men. However, women have proven they have the ability for self-awareness/reflection and the ability to evolve.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 11:26 PM
17

She shouldn’t have been the one planning the date. I’m glad she told him how she really felt. What an asshole.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 07:33 AM
59

And it’s not like these principles are being forced down anyone’s throat. You can come here to learn, lurk, otherwise fuck off. The level these scrotes are triggered to makes me wonder if they fear a social awakening of a new feminism.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 04:09 AM
28

Yeah his response is pretty cavalier, he’s obviously out with another girl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 03:59 AM
28

Sorry to say, firefighters. Fuckboys...every last one of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 03:56 AM
32

For a moment there I thought you guys were in your early 20s Bc otherwise there’s no way a food court day for bDay would EVER be ok.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 03:53 AM
8

Ha! My thoughts exactly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 11:55 PM
48

This article was actually really poorly written/executed. This woman, Erin, probably scrolled through a few posts but never took the time (a least a month) to really study and understand this sub. This looks like a rushed high school essay this lady did the night before. That being said, yep, totally missed the point. I have read every post on this sub since January 1, and I never found anything calling out sex workers specifically, nothing transphobic, and have only been reading about FDS Succe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 11:52 PM
6

Today is just another day. Had a few clients wish me a happy valentines... I was like “oh? ...Oh yeah, totally forgot”. Just indifferent and it feels great!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 11:33 PM
14

Ok that’s fucking disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 07:43 PM
14

What he’s really saying is he finds his future SIL hot and he doesn’t want to be distracted by her beauty on his wedding day. Then he can go back to drooling over her once he’s married. Fuck him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 07:18 PM
8

Preach!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 07:48 AM
15

That guy looks like he’s a cross between a toe and boiled egg. Nice job putting this together lol!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 07:47 AM
8

Literally taken from the Old Spice description on Amazon: “Welcome to a home filled with deer heads, huge fireplaces, unpublished manuscripts, and gold-plated hot tubs. Old Spice Classic Deodorant envelops you in a clean, manly scent that has served mankind for decades. And it fights odor all day, turning your armpit house into an armpit home.” So let’s just use that and change the last part to turning your ball sweat house into a ball sweat home Smh, a man wrote that, and men approved that mess…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 07:42 AM
31

Literally! I was browsing comments on relationship advice, and some FDS lady posted her 2 cents with the sub link. I kid you not, the amount of hate she got from scotes made me check it out, otherwise probably wouldn’t have looked twice. Thanks for the free advertising, ya dumb fucks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 06:44 AM
18

BuT I wANt yOu To ChAsE mE
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 06:35 AM
20

I’m still waiting for an example of that “perfect 10”. BuT SHe haSnT bEen BoRN yEt
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 06:31 AM
8

Ball Spray 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 06:28 AM
27

Yeah, I’d say if you spent the last 15 years partying/drinking and acting like you’re in college with exactly zero fucks given to your health/hygiene, 30 is going to be the wall.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 06:26 AM
38

Hahaha, those men don’t have a pickme at home looking after them. They feel entitled to look like shit because they work so hard. Never mind the beautiful lady in the same field who’s clean, made her own lunch and stayed up half the night on that paper. At some point several generations from now, men will have to acknowledge that they are in fact the weaker sex, as women begin to replace them in the field and everywhere else in life. We literally don’t need them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 06:22 AM
13

I agree, it’s not worth it. Broke my own rule once and regretted it, made work literally shitty when we broke up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 06:20 AM
28

The baby is getting most if not all of her attention/affection. Man-babies get jealous because they literally thrive on mommy’s attention. I read on another sub (relationship advice) about a woman who was fearing for her and her baby’s life because her husband threatened her if she didn’t ignore feeding the baby immediately and come suck his dick. I wish I had the link...but there are some fucking sociopaths out there!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 06:14 AM
15

I saw your edit; but if flowers brought you back from dumping him...something else is bothering you. He’s been lacking in other ways otherwise you wouldn’t have considered dumping him just bc he didn’t ask you out for Vday.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 05:54 AM
67

How many pickmeshas jumped at that? Challenge accepted. Not only am I beautiful, but I’m totally chill and easy going as well, he’ll feel differently about me. -PiCkME
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 05:35 AM
13

Holy fuck. It’s not how his family is.... it’s how he is. He’s making bad decisions with HER money. He can’t blame this on anyone but himself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 08:12 PM
8

I’m waiting for these positive MGTOW articles you speak of. Lmk when you find them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 08:05 PM
54

Yeah honestly these men are lvm/Incels. Low value = low effort. They get a sex bot delivered to their doorstep, that and video games? They’re never leaving that house again, problem solved.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 07:56 PM
14

Yes, first date should be short, and don’t move onto another location. You should be the one to end the date so they guy is left wanting more, that way he’s asking you out on a second date because he’s still trying to get to know you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 07:29 PM
36

Momeishas also have babies to keep the guy in her life, or assume the baby will fix things in the relationship or make her happy. This is the narcissistic version.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 04:42 AM
19

Maybe I’ll leave you waiting for my text for drinks on vday because I care this much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 04:39 AM
10

they even hold women to a higher standard than they do themselves TRUTH 👆🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 09:03 PM
26

But is she 1000% sure it is his baby? Why tf did she even add that at the end??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 08:02 AM
37

HA. That is awesome.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 07:59 AM
21

I recently had my own come to Jesus moment regarding FWB. Now I’ve never entered a relationship with the intent of a FWB until recently because I wanted to try something different and see if I could keep my feelings separate. I learned that, yes I can but I feel like an empty shell of a human around this person, and I don’t really enjoy spending time with them. Even sex seems kinda bland... even though he’s very attentive. So I’ve decided to cut this off and fully implement FDS. Now I don’t have…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 06:21 AM
3

This ^
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 03:25 AM
75

Fucking disgusting 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 02:58 AM
4

I guess this way they have a chance of weeding out a lvm fish! They won’t just let anybody dump sperm on their eggs!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 07:05 PM
12

He thinks he’s got nothing to lose...meanwhile I’m sure his wife and kids aren’t too happy either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 06:58 PM
19

This ^ One of my guy friends literally does this. He ignores my existence until he wants my time and attention. If I don’t respond or I’m unavailable when he wants to do an activity, he fucking gets butt hurt and passive aggressive. Since I don’t give a fuck, I just ignore him until he gets over it. But it’s still annoying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 06:35 PM
27

This queen needs to let this plate break. It took him this long of causal dating to figure out that she’s not automatically his gf just because he entertained it in his head? I’ve dealt with men who don’t communicate well because they assume I can read their thoughts and know their intentions 😑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 10:10 PM
9

I like this concept 👍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 06:22 AM
3

Nice, I’ve just began implementing this as well and I feel so much better, I didn’t realize how much I was chasing and initiating. Out of curiosity I’d love to hear some of the bullshit excuses you gave him?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 02:44 AM
5

This had changed my life 👌🏻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 02:39 AM
10

Ha, probably a standard issue pickmesha. Doesn’t apply, so don’t care. But how easy would it to make LVM version of this lifescript Dude thought he was clever, bless his heart 🤗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 11:11 PM
11

Don’t feed the trolls! 👹
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 08:40 AM
15

it describes the average man Hit the nail on the head.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 08:37 AM
61

Yeah it really doesn’t make sense. If they are triggered by women you’d think they’d avoid this sub like the plague. But instead, they’re like moths drawn to the flame. And FDS is 🔥🔥🔥
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 07:17 AM
4

A guy like this tried to sexually assault me claiming he was trying to balance my chakras. I’m like bitch, get your slimy hands of my chakras!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 04:24 AM
56

I’m all for it, FDS is leveling up :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 04:06 AM
3

No clue
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 04:04 AM
12

Dude, that’s the only legit reason to go.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 02:54 AM
7

Read, “Not Your Mothers Rules”, and the FDS sidebar. That should get you up to speed pretty quickly. The girl he is seeing during the day has withheld sex from him so he needs to pursue her and put effort in in order to get her in bed. You were no challenge for him, and he’s just using you for sex until he can conquer this day time girl. Make sense? I’m sorry to say, you are a placeholder. And yes, this guys is garbage on a hot summer day. Level up right now and block his ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 02:53 AM
33

“Business trip” 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 02:47 AM
34

Yep, they Peter Panned every Wendy out there, and now ready to settle down at 50 lmao 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 02:07 AM
69

He’s always going to be looking for the younger, teenage version of her. She needs to do herself and everyone else a favor and leave this prick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 02:04 AM
35

Right, they are homeless for a reason, and I don’t need to go find out why.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 02:00 AM
23

Either English isn’t his first language and/or he’s just incredibly stupid. Remember ladies, common sense isn’t very common.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 01:55 AM
9

Fuck! It’s an INCEL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 06:56 PM
11

They are getting so lazy these days. here’s my game: I’m tired of weeding out the ladies who want a real man
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 06:54 PM
27

https://www.wsj.com/articles/arming-women-for-the-dating-battlefield-11581138060
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 06:42 PM
11

What in the ever loving fuck is this shit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 06:21 PM
41

Sadly there are many spiritual lvm, and they use it as a tool for manipulation . Peace, love and granola is just not enough to level up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 08:02 AM
59

What do the numbers by their names mean?? Can you imagine the future is going to be like Idiocracy’s version on OLD. Here is a pile of men, please choose
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 07:55 AM
29

Their mentality is: if they give me a chance in person they may overlook the height difference and give me sex because of my other sterling qualities. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 08:20 PM
31

I’m like girl just stop 😖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 07:03 PM
9

They seem to think because they’re a doctor they can say whatever shit they want. Gross. And he’s 5’9”, which means he’s probably 5’7”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 06:48 PM
1

Hinge
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 06:28 PM
19

Makes sense, I’m going on a practice date tonight :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 06:01 PM
6

I’ve seen a handful of doctors from my area (Stanford) in a picture with full doctor scrubs in multiple pictures. A friend of mine works there so I always ask him if he knows the doctor. Answer is yes, egotistical party boy douchebag, or some combination.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 05:47 PM
1

Surgery resident at Stanford 😑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 05:45 PM
9

This gem happens to be a surgery resident at Stanford, likely making his ego the size of the continental US.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 05:44 PM
3

Not even making the effort to understand this sub, but goes off on a rant anyways. Typical lvm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 08:22 AM
6

Right, this parasite has still found a way to keep feeding off your energy by making you anticipate his arrival. He’s a typical LVM trying to find greener pastures. He’s going to fuck around with a girl he’s interested in while keeping you in the wings just in case. Once that doesn’t pan out or he’s had his fill of debauchery, he’ll come crawling back saying how much he misses and cares about you. It happens every. god. damn. time. Make sure you are like Fort Knox and be prepared for this insani…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 01:34 AM
3

I agree, I think you’re vulnerable from your break up and haven’t processed everything yet. It seems like this guy was pushing your boundaries to see how far he could take it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 09:23 PM
32

Same. You do it for me, I‘lol do it for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 09:13 PM
13

Poor girl is probably traumatized AF now. The guy could have just said he would leave her and pay if it was that important to him to not be involved. But to threaten and pressure her, pulling in parents, holy shit. Clearly he did it to manipulate her decision.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 09:10 PM
13

If I saw that IRL, I would either assume she got her finger pierced or it’s a boil. Wtf is that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 06:42 AM
50

I’m polite the first time. Second time they ask, I stop everything I’m doing, look them straight in the eyes, stand up taller, and with a cold stoic response, I say no, I am not interested. Ever see a man cower in fear? Master the art of being confident and self assured. Nip it in the bud and end all interactions with deadly intent. Otherwise it’s a waste of your energy, like swatting at a fly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 12:04 AM
11

That’s too many chances in my opinion, but I might try it just to see what his name looks like by the time I’m going to peace the fuck out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 12:01 AM
15

Fucking loser. NEXT
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 11:59 PM
44

Men ghost me on tinder for no reason. We can do the same, especially for a great reason like this. Wow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 11:58 PM
13

Congratulations on your level up!! 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 11:54 PM
8

How cute, they’re jelly of us 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 11:49 PM
4

Lololol bless their hearts 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 11:05 PM
33

I think the sub is starting to gain some traction so we have a influx of newbs who haven’t realized there’s a sidebar etc and just posting from their confused pick me mindsets. Some of them will stick around and level up. But I will say how much I appreciate that this sub is female only and the Mods are doing a great job of weeding out the male trolls and LVW pickmeshas who have cone here to spew hate instead of upgrading their lives. To the pickmeshas who are here to learn, welcome.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 11:05 PM
13

And walk out of there is any chance he tries to split the bill.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 11:00 PM
47

Why throw away 10 years when you can throw all the years away 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 10:58 PM
17

always give him lots of rope to hang himself Yep, my strategy in a nutshell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 07:09 PM
32

So basically he wants to act out a rape fantasy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 07:07 PM
13

This was about something else...makes me wonder where/what country this happened in. If this happened in California I’d be calling the cops because this prick just assaulted me. If this were Texas, I’d be turning him into a Kebob. 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 07:05 PM
9

Than man has got hate in his eyes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 07:01 PM
39

YES
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 06:59 PM
6

There are male lurkers here who actually follow this sub for tips on how to not be LVM. So I think that they will find it on their own if they are ready to level up themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 06:57 PM
79

My ex could regularly keep going 45 mins, sometimes an hour if needed. Why? Because he worked out! And prioritized my needs first. These guys are fucking pathetic if they can’t go on longer than 15 mins, it means they have no self control and are out of shape.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 06:52 PM
12

Likely not a woman but a male troll posing as such.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 06:44 PM
15

Yep likely a male troll or the male trolls were hungry and upvoted. Makes me wonder how many guys are reading this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 06:43 PM
33

Like I said, they are wasting their time instead of investing into something productive. Definition of LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 06:39 PM
9

Don’t worry about the downvotes, this sub is a bit ruthless in a good way. Check out the sidebar and familiarize yourself with FDS principles, and consider if and where you can apply them in your relationships.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 06:36 PM
14

Its been like that for me in the past, but this time around I went into a dating/fwb knowing it was temporary and always checking in to remind myself that my feelings were not in control this time. Its actually helped me see some red flags much quicker because my feelings weren't clouding my judgement. (Not to say this is the case for you or others.) This guy would have never met my relationship criteria, but for a nice dinner and good time, its been just fine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 08:16 AM
6

Thanks, you confirmed my experience. I’m sorry to hear yours isn’t any better 😞
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 07:53 AM
5

I’m really surprised about that regarding IG followers... but it’s like 20% of the guys doing that it seems.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 03:51 AM
39

I think it’s been like this for generations, but women just didn’t know it like we do now. Men are like literally a different species than us. We do not think, relate or empathize remotely similar. I agree, I’m starting to fully grasp their nature, which seems to be a mixture of primal needs and entitlement bound together by a fragile ego that needs the female energy to survive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 03:12 AM
7

I’ve seen “Not your Mothers Rules” recommended enough times on this sub that I need to go check it out—thanks :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 03:09 AM
7

The lack of those specifics coupled with a non existent bio from half the guys = a waste of god damn time. I have never felt such an energy drain from other apps like I do with Tinder.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 03:07 AM
9

That is what I was thinking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 12:58 AM
11

They are even lazier when we have an app that makes the women initiate. Just doesn’t make sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 12:57 AM
28

This is literally my experience. I’ve had guy friends and exes tell me how much they love a girl approaching them to ask them out/initiate a date via old. I’m like “You and every other man!” Men respectfully approaching women is a from another era at this point. 😩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 09:36 PM
68

I’m wondering what the world would look like if we woke up to no more internet porn or online dating. I’m sure men would have to start trying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 09:15 PM
20

Yes I agree, because we have to initiate it also means we have to ask them out AND plan the first date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 09:11 PM
6

I think the show on Netflix, Outlander does a good job of the couple facing adversity together.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 08:50 PM
30

Sounds like he got her to pay because his meal was simple and only 8 dollars. Fucking lame.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 08:46 PM
2

Not only have I done it, but I’ve actually made some repairs myself on my ex boyfriends house.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 07:54 PM
10

More proof that we are just an afterthought 😑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 07:48 PM
45

Ok, this is just getting twisted as fuck: I think as women are stepping into their power the roles are getting reversed. Now we have to have a full time job, be the mother, maid and housewife. Plus do men’s work like scheduling repairs on the house, budget and we have to propose. Next stage is men stop working and just stay at home playing video games while we literally do everything else. Fuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 07:38 PM
1

Yes, exactly. He never saw me as his gf, he just told me what I wanted to hear. Found out later he was trying to meet up with girls off OLD while we were “together”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 07:07 PM
12

Also just as likely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 07:06 PM
32

He’s still in love with her, and can’t let go.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 07:02 PM
5

Fuck all the way off Yep, that pretty much is my reaction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 08:26 AM
10

This ^ He blew you off because he knew he could get away with it. This man doesn’t respect you and has you low on his priority list because he doesn’t value your time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 08:25 AM
65

Right, and once they are out of their prime they seek out those 20 year old girls who aren’t experienced/completely developed and fool them into a relationship so they can have this woman take care of them as they age.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 08:22 AM
7

Most importantly I’m glad you are happy. FDS has changed my life for the better too. Getting out of toxic situations sooner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 06:05 AM
26

Yes, yes it is. It’s still hilarious to witness the man babies crawling back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 05:10 AM
79

In the moment they get off on burning the bridge, they get off on the pain they are inflicting because they think the girl deserves it. Then come crawling back, like “Hey? Where’s the bridge? My new relationship didn’t work out because she figured out I was trash. And I need an easy lay, where you at?” Fuck those man babies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 05:07 AM
13

We need to have a class in high school for girls that doesn’t just include sex education, but how to prepare to be an independent woman in today’s society, something like an FDS class. It’s ignorance that is screwing so many of us over.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 08:15 PM
27

He introduces you to friends and family by your first name only, instead of, this is my girlfriend, Firefly....and you’ve been a couple for 8 months.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 06:39 AM
54

🤣😂🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 06:33 AM
50

Holy fucking shit. I tell every guy I date that I don’t want to help them out too much, because I don’t need to be indirectly helping their future ex-girlfriends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 06:21 AM
10

Haha, I like the idea of them sending texts to nowhere. Good to know, thanks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 06:19 AM
9

When you block someone, do they know? Or do their texts just continue to be sent unanswered (and unseen)?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 06:07 AM
53

My ex like to hold his junk because “it was comforting,” and felt that he was holding his whole world in his hands. I equate it to cuddling after sex, he’s just having an intimate moment with his reason for living. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 03:29 AM
75

“You’d be prettier if you smiled more.” Which is just a veiled insult.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 03:26 AM
20

I think they got a lot more chances with the pickmeshas, and they either assume they can push your boundaries and get more chances or see how far they can go into abusing you. They are genuinely confused not getting a second chance, they assumed that was guaranteed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 03:20 AM
26

She goes on to defend him multiple times in the comments. Like JFC we aren’t going to enable you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 11:35 PM
27

Lmao, so he took away value from your life, I’ve had a couple of those 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 10:48 PM
40

It was disturbing to read how excited she was to be a tool.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 10:23 PM
31

Simultaneously it seems this “unicorn” has to be available indefinitely for this relationship... what happens when she decides to be monogamous again? Does she then “break up” with the couple?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 10:17 PM
45

How could you be high maintenance for a man when you are literally doing all the damn maintenance yourself? Just because you have a high standard for yourself doesn’t make you HM. You’re awesome girl 👧
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 06:33 PM
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At this point, most men have nothing to offer us, unless they are HVM. I work full time, I’m independent, happy, fit and healthy. Why would I waste my time settling down/marrying a man child?? All it is is more work for me, and no added benefit. If I need dick, I know where to find it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 06:30 PM
21

JFC, at this point she sounds desperate enough to accept a fake plastic ring from a vending machine at the pizza place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 06:24 PM
7

It wouldn’t have mattered....he already failed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 05:49 PM
7

Me too. It’s been 2 months but this is proof of how important vetting over at least 3 months is. He could only fake being HVM for so long 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 05:25 PM
7

And an occupational therapist at that, teaching people how to take care of themselves. Trust me, the irony was like a punch to the gut 😖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 05:22 PM
10

I wanted sex and last time he was very attentive. But this time I saw what any future investments going to lead to which is lvm effort. Now I’ve seen first hand that a guy can act HVM but switch on you once they get comfortable. So in the future I’m going to be waiting much longer before sex. Remember, I discovered FDS 3 weeks into dating this guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 05:00 PM
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Like I said, I wanted to see for myself and I don’t regret it. Now the past never has to be repeated as I won’t be wondering about this in future lvm situations. I’ll just cut them out immediately. FDS has changed my life in just 3 weeks, and that is really what this post is about, encouraging new people like me to drop these habits and truly change.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 04:57 PM
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Thanks! Yeah I only discovered FDS after I met this guy. As soon as I read through this sub and sidebar I immediately changed my behavior. I honestly had no idea how detrimental these behaviors are as we are conditioned from a young age to be nurturing and supportive at our own expense. I don’t give a god damn what others are going to say: importantly I’ve learned a lesson that will reenforce FDS for all future relationships. These mistakes won’t be repeated. It would be the equivalent if an alc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 04:53 PM
13

It already is, just disguised as something else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 09:41 PM
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Says the thirsty hoe seeking male attention and validation online.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 08:42 AM
2

This is what I would do: one word answers in person. Him: “Hey, hows it going?” Me: “good” Him: “did you happen to get my texts?” Me: “yep” Him: “would you be interes...” Me” cuts him off “Nope.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 04:22 AM
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Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 03:32 AM
3

Welcome and thanks for sharing, I think this sub will really help you see your past behavior in a new light and help you regain strength and composure in all present and future relationships. Best of luck!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 06:24 PM
28

My response is usually, “How many men have you slept with?” The pause and look on their face is so funny it throws them off balance. “Zero” And I usually reply with “oh, that’s interesting.” They typically do not press after that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 06:07 PM
14

Most importantly more and more of us are becoming aware of this misogynistic agenda.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 06:30 AM
0

Well said!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 06:23 AM
7

Yes, you literally walking the fuck away, giving no more fucks for this man, living your life and being happier without him is the best revenge.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 06:17 AM
5

You still need to detox your ex, like a poison he’s very much still in your system. He’s feeding your demons. And this is preventing you from seeing what’s in front of you or where your opportunities lie. I’m going through something similar, trying to release my ex and not compare guys I’m dating to him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 05:57 AM
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These guys are in prison. They can’t chase women, so they’ll take whatever they get and hold on to her with a death grip. It’s probably the only power they feel they have at that point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 05:55 AM
8

Yeah I’d say just ignore him, maybe he’ll figure out that was inappropriate. Maybe he won’t. Either way he’ll be blocked so it won’t matter. Just treat it like it’s a personal test.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 05:52 AM
11

Thats pretty rude of him to say after not speaking for a year.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 05:50 AM
19

Your friend is not just like an addict. She is one. I pray the 2020 lives up to its name and is the year of 20-20 vision, that we all finally see the Truth, that we have perfect clarity in any and all of our situations and difficulties.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 05:37 AM
71

That actually makes a lot of sense!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 05:29 AM
1

Have you tried the dating app Hinge? It’s meant for relationships, supposedly. Much better than tinder or bumble.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 01:54 AM
5

It won’t be long before you are raising a daughter and acting as his caretaker once he’s hit his 70s. I’ve seen this happen before. He’s not committing because in the back of his mind he think he can always do better. Keep reading FDS, you’ll see many posts addressing issues like the one you’ve mentioned. If you want marriage and the guy isn’t committed after a child you know you can do better. You deserve to have this if it’s what your heart desires. This guy is a fuckboy for life. He must care…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 01:39 AM
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Agree, I just mirror. In addition I force myself to wait longer to respond than I normally would so it doesn’t look like I’m a thirsty bitch hovering over my phone. I used to do the long wall of text, and would watch the men disappear before my very eyes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 12:57 AM
9

Yeah, the cold rock hard boner was definitely a turn off for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 12:48 AM
4

Wow I didn’t realized that 14 year old chicken scratch (50 shades) was based off twilight series.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 12:46 AM
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I’m so fucking disgusted, I can’t even. 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 12:35 AM
32

Exactly, this is the mentality I’ve witnessed first hand. “Please forgive me Jesus, this will be the last time.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 12:24 AM
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They probably have this attitude because their ego is inflated that they could date a girl like this in the first place, so of course, instead of being grateful to this lady, they wonder if they can have more. Disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 12:21 AM
3

Yes, this is the shit we know, and it always makes me wonder about the shit I don’t know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 09:55 PM
8

There is your answer right here ^ You will always come back to these initial red flags. Either today or several years from now when you realize how much time you could have saved if you just trusted your instincts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 09:53 PM
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Girl if you were a 10 I guarantee this scrote would still be on the lookout for something better. That’s just how they are, and rarely does that change. He will still be playing girls when he’s in his 40s, and settling down once he realizes he’s getting old and needs a caretaker.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 09:35 PM
10

Peace, love, and granola. New age hippie.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 06:07 PM
8

It’s been awhile since I’ve lived in SF...so sorry to hear it’s so terrible. San Jose, born and raised, it’s probably ok by comparison to SF.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 06:06 PM
23

If rage could start fires.... I lost my shit here for a moment 🤣🔥💥
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 07:39 AM
8

This ^
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 07:35 AM
3

It’s a millennial problem in my opinion. The free love of the 60s made the pendulum swing to the other side. Where is the middle ground?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 07:02 AM
7

Fascinating, yet deplorable. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 06:37 AM
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San Jose/San Francisco is going in that direction, but it’s not quite as extreme as you just described. SF is more like privileged techie douche. There’s a higher ratio of men/successful men here. But I’ve seen plenty of evidence of what you just described so I’m guessing that’s the social norm for the millennial generation 😕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 06:33 AM
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Men literally either do not give AF about vday or its completely off their radar. Not many men I’ve dated even remembered that being a day. I tend to think if a guy is really into you he doesn’t need an reason, any day will do. Also guys hate the pressure of having to do something specifically that day and they will resent you for it. I wouldn’t take this situation too personally because it’s early on and if you have a chance in the future you can explain it’s importance to you. Anything else: d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 06:25 AM
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Men on OLD never seem to ask me out, it’s just us talking until I finally do it. It’s as if they ALL expect us to do the work. Especially with bumble as you already had to make the first move! Like JFC I talked to you/showed you I’m interested and you’re just going to sit here and chit chat for days?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 06:20 AM
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It isn’t fair, that’s why we have FDS ;)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 06:11 AM
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I would also continue to date (but not sleep with) other guys while he’s gone. You still have no guarantees on his part. This way you can potentially find something better, keep learning, and that way he knows you’re not going to sit around and wait for his commitment. This places you as a HVW.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 09:55 PM
14

Not going to lie, this was painful to read. I hope you are able to escape. Start planning for a future completely independent of this man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 09:30 PM
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Post was deleted, just a reminder to copy pasta the text into the post in the comments, thanks 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 08:14 PM
6

This guy is so full of himself, he just needed to pat himself on the back with a post to reddit about it. Fucking gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 08:06 PM
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Wow, that is Savage. Well I’d say at the very least you are establishing yourself as a HVW, and not as easy to obtain as his ex. If he wanted it easy he’d just go back to her and not bother. I think you can afford to be a little less ruthless now that he has paid up, but I would treat it as if you were starting over and he needs to pursue you like you’d expect with FDS principles, withholding sex and other gf favors because at this point you want a marriage proposal, am I correct? Just make sure…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 05:56 PM
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Sounds like he doesn’t have the time (or money) to date a HVF. So I’m sure he’ll be content with pickmesha leftovers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 03:19 AM
3

Thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 08:54 PM
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How can she not see the patterns? That he only tries for a month at most or cooks dinner to try to get laid? I want to feel sorry for her, I hope she gets out....but 16 years??? At this point she’s either just afraid, stupid or both. 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 08:19 PM
16

Yes! Congrats on your Level Up!! ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 08:07 PM
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You get a Level up ❤️👍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 07:46 PM
24

Here I am at 34, not settling for less than I deserve. The wall is a lie.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 06:41 PM
9

You are doing great taking a step back. For me that’s been the hardest part, since I tend to try to initiate and plan dates too. Just do you best to hold your own. Don’t reach out, and wait for him to miss you and wonder where you’re gone. This will tell you everything you need to know. I know how hard this is, especially when you like a guy, but trust me when I say it’s still less painful than chasing a guy who is further from your reach after every date. Do not chase. Every time I broke my own…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 06:19 PM
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Some guys are growers no showers so it’s hard to tell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 06:06 PM
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I always reply with, “authenticity”. Sometimes guys are authentic assholes 😉
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 10:05 PM
28

Posting this at 42? Fuckboy for life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 10:03 PM
16

Why would he go through all that effort to contact you just to ghost you? I’d give it another day, but if he doesn’t reach out first for another date, then he’s clearly not worth your time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 10:01 PM
8

Me as well; probably a bs story he made up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 02:29 AM
11

I expect to cum. Every. fucking. time. Otherwise if the man I’m with doesn’t learn, he’s out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 06:46 PM
15

Also putting in just enough effort to keep the woman interested or emotionally invested. It’s disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 05:33 AM
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Thank you for everything you and the mods do 👍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 02:46 AM
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This ^ You do not need his validation. Do not let him have power over you any longer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 02:44 AM
4

Wow is is awful! I’m so sorry you had to go through that. I have a story I can share with you and OP. I was dating a LVM for a year, and then he got me pregnant. He talked me into having unprotected sex, and I know how stupid and irresponsible that was on my part. Right around that time he ghosted me for the next 6 weeks, so I had to get an abortion without him even knowing it because I didn’t know if we were dating anymore. Turns out he wanted to be “single” during that time because it was the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 02:42 AM
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Disgusting 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 06:40 PM
7

❤️🙏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 02:47 AM
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I think he’s either not over his ex, or spent time with his ex over the holiday. Either way he’s definitely not emotionally available, and just now beginning to process the end of his last relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 02:35 AM
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Yes I just saw this today. I’m 34, and an aging 41 year old fuckboy messaged me on OLD. His profile boasted his world adventures and travel experiences, and that he’s now looking to settle down. As in: he spent his 20s and 30s being a fuckboy and now that his looks are getting a little tired now he wants to start a family. I imagine that is the MO of every fuckboy, fuck around as long as possible. There will always be younger women to have your babies when you’re ready.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 02:10 AM
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Not me, but a friend of mine. Glad she woke up before having a child with him. But she really let herself go bc the guy is a vampire.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 01:57 AM
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The wall is when you marry a LVM when you’re young and wake up one day at 37 realizing your mistake... only after he’s used you up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 01:52 AM
9

Yeah, I’m in a similar position. I’m like an 8, fitness model body because I’m an athlete. I’ve dated down in the past for lack of options, and guys always acted insecure or said I must have bad eyesight to be dating them. They guys that are my looksmatch, tend to be fuckboys. They can get any girl (pickmesha) they want and all the hookup/nsa because they know how rare they are. Even more rare is a man who is fit, 8 or better and HVM. They must already be taken/married. I estimate there are prob…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 08:06 PM
6

Guys posing with Tigers. Like, aren’t you special you could afford to fly to another country where they imprison those poor tigers so you could pay money to have your picture taken while you pet it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 07:54 PM
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I myself am outdoorsy, and a semi professional athlete (cyclist) so I spend a lot of time outside training, enjoying the outdoors etc. At first I thought if a guy had pictures of himself camping, on a boat fishing, hiking at Yosemite, etc. maybe we had common interests...but I learned very quickly how wrong I was. These guys have pictures from that one time they went hiking from 2 years ago, or on a boat means they like to hang out with their friends day drinking /fishing. These guys literally w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 07:43 PM
3

Wow, well said.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 06:57 PM
13

Well I guess we can assume he wouldn’t be into anal, either. That’s like, super gay.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 06:48 PM
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JHC, the first part described my ex perfectly, and I’m in California. The guys here aren’t as bad or bad looking as you described, but I think there’s a cultural shift happening possibly with the millennials. A lot of guys expect you to pay 50% of everything, full time job, house duty, raise kids, and pleasure the husband, and all they have to do is work. I don’t think it’s as bad here as Europe, but it’s definitely developing into a standard instead of just a theory.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 06:24 PM
5

More like dumpster fire working it’s way towards catastrophic meltdown. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 02:45 AM
9

Exactly. And the reason why is, a lot of women get trapped in abusive relationships because they are financially dependent on the man and have no career of their own. So they put up with the abuse because “it’s easier”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 02:40 AM
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This guy is spinning the plates. If he can have you both simultaneously— he will. And, if he’s done this before what makes you think you can reform him? You totally made the right move avoiding his kiss, obviously you’re not going to be easy for him to catch. But likely that will motivate him to chase you a bit as guys are hardwired to want what they can’t have. Nothing about this guy is of VALUE. If you think he’s worth your time, you are only diminishing your value— and for what? What else wil…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 01:27 AM
9

I like your user name 👍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 01:22 AM
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Yeah and imagine if the roles were reversed here and it was a woman asking to be taken care of etc. How would men react to that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 06:15 AM
28

This was a continuation of the same conversation from another post.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 06:03 AM
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So basically he wants someone to play mommy and daddy and help him meet his basic human needs, because he certainly can’t on his own.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 05:57 AM
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Ok. What the ever loving fuck is this nonsense??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 03:44 AM
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Yep, TMI Red Flag bitter LVM looking for a rebound and coffee without other people’s dicks in it. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 03:41 AM
9

You do you, however, what has always felt the best in hindsight is to just drop it immediately and move on. He still has power over you. Enough power over you that you are still thinking so much about this and cannot move forward until you take these actions you’ve described. Waste of energy, and he doesn’t even deserve it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 03:36 AM
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Right— like if you have to blow up to 1k a week on something frivolous, why not do a weekend getaway, buy some expensive toys to play with, a gym membership, etc? But covering the tabs of “friends”? This guy is just stupid and ignoring something else in his life that is bothering him. So making the excuse it’s his friends is likely him gaslighting himself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 10:31 PM
6

It’s pretty much Incel attitude, except they’re actually getting sex from the women they look down on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 09:40 PM
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Hahaha I love it when the angry scrotes DM me, I get to practice my ignore, block and delete techniques.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 09:16 PM
23

The woman truly runs every aspect of the household like she’s running a business. And she is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 09:14 PM
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This person fucking LIED to you about their life and didn’t feel safe enough to be open and find someone who would love them for who they are. LVTM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 09:09 PM
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And tries to guilt her into taking care of her?? Omg I can’t even.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 09:07 PM
9

Can you tell me what ‘dread’ stands for? I saw it briefly on TRP, but I don’t want to go navigate that toxic slum just to find out what it means. And, congratulations on your level up!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 09:04 PM
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Level up! At least it wasn’t 2.5 years! You figured it out quickly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 06:02 PM
2

My biggest question... who the fuck would swipe right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 08:47 AM
2

The best insult..., bless their hearts 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 08:45 AM
10

Just when you think men haven’t repressed women enough, they decide they’re not only one of us, but can do it better than we can. Nothing against trans, but some of them make me feel as if I’m not worthy of my own gender and men will still find away fo take everything. A friend of mine, her daughter was sexually abused by a trans woman in the girls bathroom at her school. When confronted, trans woman claims, “muh civil rights”, and this is “transphobic behavior” on behalf of the school. Never mi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 08:31 AM
3

I’m outdoorsy too, don’t compromise! There are plenty of men out there who love to backpack, fish, etc. You’re definitely one of a kind girl!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 08:16 AM
1

Codependent at best 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 08:12 AM
6

Garbage personality.... and in addition I’m super turned off by balding men if they don’t shave their heads. I just think of a mid 50s software programmer named Bob for some reason.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 08:10 AM
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Wow, I’m sorry to hear of the abuse/neglect. But I’m glad to see he got his comeuppance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 08:05 AM
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snort. 🤣 That’s a good one, karmas a bitch lol. I often wonder what will happen to the fuckboys who never commit, the ones who are spinning plates and drinking like it’s freshman year of college. Where will they be at age 47? Sulking. Recalling the glory days over a Hennessy and a lonely night out with the usual suspects.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 08:03 AM
7

Ive seen the same pattern as of late. The last time I was doing OLD was 2017, and I don’t recall it being this one-sided. I have considered many theories for this, but I think it’s either a sense of entitlement, burnout or both. Most “cute” guys don’t even have a profile bio— just a couple good pics and they assume the ladies be chasing them. In addition, guys seems to enjoy saying “women’s rights/equality” so start chipping in for dates, and taking the initiative as a form of rubbing it in our …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 07:50 AM
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This LVM has no power over you. He is not worth your tears, your feelings, or your effort. Ditch him and create the space for a man who is worthy of your time/effort.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 07:40 AM
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First date should always be paid by the guy out of good faith. Even if they split thereafter, it’s just a sign of respect so nothing needs to be awkward or out of touch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 07:18 AM
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If you guys already had a date planned... wtf risk ruining it so he could indulge in his curiosity. WTF?? Just keep that thought to yourself, idiot 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 07:13 AM
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Basically a how-to on “spinning plates.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 04:54 AM
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For all we know, he might look good because all he has to do is work and wipe his own ass, while she literally takes care of everything and everyone else at her own expense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 05:21 AM
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I’ve also noticed the more attractive a guy is the less initiative they take. They act as if bc of their appearance they are entitled and women will just chase them down and he can go from there. I’m definitely not into guys with this attitude or approach, which is making it harder to find a looksmatch as most of them are just douchbags.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 05:13 AM
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I’d hate to be the kid getting picked up from school with this shit advertised on my dads ride. Let alone the divorced mom who’s wondering what idiot female would be in to that, and the insult of being a placeholder.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 08:29 PM
12

Same but I wouldn’t list it in my profile.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 07:00 PM
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Yes, agree! Just observe, and take note. When I see a pattern with the yellow flags I take a huge step back and don’t reach out or interact for awhile to see if they are aware that behavior was unattractive to me. If they just continue with it, I’m out. But HVM will notice if you pull back a bit. You don’t need to say anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 06:55 PM
6

I. Just. Can’t. Process this level of stupidity right now. 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 08:44 AM
29

Anyone else notice there are as many flabby ab pics as there as ripped ones? Like, lol Steve, no one is interested in seeing your fanny pack of fat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 08:41 AM
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That really is some twisted logic. Some men wait a bit longer to sandbag. Usually sometimes as long as 20 years into a marriage 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 06:24 AM
7

Well he’s potentially beyond borderline and straight up a narcissist. There’s no cure for NPD, btw. Because the person would have to develop the self awareness to see they are a raging narcissist. Catch 22.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 08:05 PM
8

Great, so overly dramatic about everything, and world revolves around him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 08:01 PM
6

Sounds like a typical Scorpio male.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 07:58 PM
31

A male coworker of mine was on the bachelorette, and he said about 90% of it is scripted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 07:54 PM
10

Well there’s a lot more to astrology than just our sun sign. If we were to go off of this guys logic there would be literally only 12 different types of people on this planet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 07:45 PM
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Capricorn is toxic because we are more pragmatic, ruthless and enterprising and our career is more important than taking care of your lazy ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 07:27 PM
9

Haha, predators trying to adapt. Just means we will be evolving and leveling up as well to counter. This shit is turning into a 5d chess game 😑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 05:30 AM
11

Exactly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 07:53 PM
51

The difference though is if they are coming from the mentality as “weaponizing FDS” and calling it Male Dating Strategy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 07:17 PM
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Yeah, I mean this is the shit we are trying to avoid. And FDS is about how to weed out these weeds, and they are like “let’s put all this time and energy into playing a FDS at her own game.” Dude, fuck you scrote, there’s still plenty of LVF Pickmeishas our there who won’t require you to think this hard about how you can manipulate them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 07:03 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/MaleDatingStrategy/comments/enitwf/apparently_enough_is_the_same_as_all/fe09zr8/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf Original Post
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 06:53 PM
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Now he knows what the bare minimum effort is required to get what he wanted from you. That is all you are to him...have more self respect and cut the cord. You deserve so much more than this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 06:37 PM
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Yes, they are just doing the bare minimum to keep you around. If you have to negotiate for things that should be natural for a HVM, then its pretty clear what you're dealing with is someone who has no problem wasting your time and doing just enough to keep you around until they find someone who they don't have to try as hard for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 06:30 PM
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Completely agree with this ^
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 06:34 AM
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Thanks.... but we haven’t been intimate and I’m not looking for a relationship with him, so not sure how this specific advice applies. Appreciate the help, and another person was able to successfully share a perspective that was helpful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 11:32 PM
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Thank you, this has been the most helpful advice and put it in a better perspective for me. I understand the logic of fds, but since it’s still new to me I’m needing to see how I can implement it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 11:19 PM
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Thanks, I found this post to be helpful, however I’m just looking to date for now, and when I’m ready and have had enough practice implementing fds, I’ll be looking for a LTR.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 11:11 PM
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Yes, I can see that now. I’m definitely taking the FDS approach for dating now, and I’m actively looking for other guys to date as I typically end up focusing on one guy I like.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 08:43 PM
2

Other than a few small gifts, I’d say nothing. But I’m assuming it’s my fault because I haven’t given him the space or opportunity to act on his own accord.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 08:33 PM
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Thank you for your input! Fortunately I haven’t given him too much unsolicited advice, he comes to my yoga classes which he has paid for, so that is what he received thus far that he has actively appreciated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 08:24 PM
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Someone else took this picture. Wonder who that could be? 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 08:10 PM
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Same, I get a lot of stares now, and only guys approach me to try to be friendly or be “friends” with me. I actually prefer this because my confidence is high and I don’t need guys hitting on me as a form of reinforcement that I’m attractive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 07:35 PM
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Yes, I’ve noticed this too. I’ll match with maybe 10 guys, and maybe 2-3 of them will initiate conversation. And this is Tinder. If they want me to initiate so badly use Bumble! Even if I do initiate they might not respond, and it ends up with me having to ask questions because they put no effort into asking anything about me. Now I just avoid males who require this kind of effort.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 07:31 PM
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I’ve said something to the affect of... “I’m telling you this so that hopefully you won’t do this kind of behavior to your future ex-girlfriend.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 07:42 AM
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Fucking bad-ass 👍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 10:56 PM
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