Edit: This is a post from a different thread. I tried to italicize it a few times over but Reddit won't let me format it. 🤷

_Recently I spoke up about being frustrated that once my husband cums - all sex related activity ends. In his defense I never spoke up about it before. I was frustrated because I felt like I shouldn’t have to say this, but accept it’s not fair to have expectations and not communicate them. So I did. He asked in the future to let him know so that he can help me finish.

The other day we had sex. He came inside me. I hadn’t cum yet and was super horny still. I did as he asked and told him I hadn’t cum and wanted to finish. I’m rubbing it out and ask him to join in. He was clearly grossed out by it. We talked about it after and he said it was just a lot of his cum getting all over and it was too much in the moment.

I’m like WTF.. How the hell does he think I feel sometimes? I love it when he cums inside of me, but get overwhelmed when I give him blowjobs and he blows a load. Yet I take it like a champ most times. To get to the point. It hurt. I’m not planning on asking him to help again. I’ll just do it privately after or not at all.

I just had to get that out there. I’m mad and hurt all at the same time.

I’m really putting myself out there sexually lately. Things like this just make me want to retreat._

Then...

_Thanks for most of the responses. I don’t expect to cum every time. It takes me quite awhile sometimes. I was just hurt & frustrated that I put myself out there and felt rejected.

I talked to him about it last night. I explained how it made me feel. I think we’ve got a better understanding of things, but for now I’m still not asking him for his help. Not yet anyways. I’m putting myself out there too much right now to be rejected again.

I’m certainly going to look into that book, even if it’s just for me.

Thanks again._