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| 4 | Most men my age are permanently undateable because of porn. Yes, permanently.Give her all the awards for this post! Magnificent! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/20 03:39 PM |
| 10 | There is no honeymoon period just healthy vs unhealthy(he would go on for hours about biological facts whenever I bring up some emotional/ intimacy issues we had) It's like instead of agreeing with it and saying "yes, absolutely no excuse to blame the mythical 'honeymoon period' " they are instead saying "well actually random tidbits but also what you said is true, did you learn something new from me?" I also think the point of OP is not about the concept but how its being used by scrotes to justify bad treatment toward us. That was my point. The a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/20 10:33 PM |
| 17 | There is no honeymoon period just healthy vs unhealthyIts bullshit!!! Who invented the phrase anyway? There is no way someone can ever know everything about another. People change and discover new things. Hopefully no one is the same person they were a year prior, therefore new me, new getting to onow new me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/20 07:12 PM |
| 4 | Stop letting men panic you into action.I am so grateful every day that I dumped him and left him with the rugged pulled from beneath him. He brainwashed me into thinking I needed him and was incapable of being a full flegded adult without him. Turns out I was just better than him and way out of his league. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/20 04:40 PM |
| 3 | Stop letting men panic you into action.One time the ex NVM demon asked me to take photos of him (for the zillionth time) on a trail. There was tables there and benches. I stood up and took photos and he had on new trainers and he wanted me to get them in the shot. I told him "can you pose like this so I can get the trainers" and he looked at me angrily and mouthed for me to be quiet because there was a guy nearby and he didn't want to come across as superficial. The other guy looked put together and was reading something, doubt he wa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/20 02:57 PM |
| 8 | One of my friends just proposed to her 10 year boyfriend -Also, this is not the first time I've heard this about nurses doing something like this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/20 02:31 PM |
| 7 | One of my friends just proposed to her 10 year boyfriend -This is so sad. It seems she might be at the point of no return in her desperation. Have you tried talking to her? This may be a hard lesson that she has to see for herself or she'll convince herself she's happy and be miserable forever harboring resentment and lower self esteem. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/20 02:29 PM |
| 24 | One of my friends just proposed to her 10 year boyfriend -Don't beat yourself up. You now know better and can do better for yourself. Don't talk down on yourself for having put up with that, be proud of yourself for moving on from it. It's so easy to laugh at these women but its fucking sad really. And really such a shame that women go through this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/20 02:16 PM |
| 21 | Low brow humor... haha woman fart, so funny 🙄 A hvm wouldn’t do shit like this.Right! This is basically his way of saying "She finally did something that doesn't make her better than me/perfect" He was probaby waiting near her ass with a microphone just hoping he could finally embarrass her by highlighting her "imperfection". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/20 02:10 PM |
| 17 | Low brow humor... haha woman fart, so funny 🙄 A hvm wouldn’t do shit like this.Exactly. He is purposely embarrassing her and wants to remind her of it!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/20 02:06 PM |
| 2 | There is no such thing as closure. Don’t waste any more time, Queens, and kick him to the curb!He thinks he's so smart! Just move on. Get yourself some new art supplies if possible and just draw to your hearts desire witj no pressure from a stinky piece of shit man! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/20 12:10 AM |
| 2 | Men with an impossibly long list of "preferences" don't actually require a potential girlfriend to meet every single one, they just want the opportunity to devalue any woman who might date them, and an excuse to always keep one foot out the door looking for someone betterThis!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/20 07:24 PM |
| 4 | There is no such thing as closure. Don’t waste any more time, Queens, and kick him to the curb!He is manipulating you by getting your artwork tattooed on him. He wants to feel bound to you by ink and blood which is what tattoos are. He wants you to feel like he is getting your artwork tattooed so it must mean that he cares right? WRONG! Stop arguing with him and stop asking him questions, STOP CALLING HIM OUT. Block him and delete him and dont look back. DONT INTERACT WITH HIM AT ALL. In the future, please charge money for your artwork if any other person ever wants to get it tattooed or … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/20 06:53 PM |
| 6 | There is no such thing as closure. Don’t waste any more time, Queens, and kick him to the curb!He is using you to the fullest extent. He is arguing with you because it makes him feel powerful. He has used your artwork to prop himself up ("hey check me out with my cool tattoo"). He wants you to believe that you are special to him by doing something extreme and permanent such as a tattoo but you are NOT. You're just a pit stop on his infinity road to nowhere and the more you put up with it the easier it will be for him to keep getting gas from you when he needs it. He is dangerous and you n… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/20 05:09 PM |
| 5 | There is no such thing as closure. Don’t waste any more time, Queens, and kick him to the curb!This is horrible!!! It reiterates that dating shouldn't last very long before marriage is in the works. She is another victim and doesn't even know it, she probably thinks she's won him and she is the chosen one. But you know the REAL TRUTH! I hope you can seek therapy for your experience. He has no soul and is a miserable demon. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/20 04:59 PM |
| 8 | Beware: After years of a committed relationship, a SCROTE will decide that you were just FWB the entire time. He will play dumb and try to gaslight you. Do not believe his lies girl.What an evil man! The demon narc ex refused for me to have my own feelings too. My feelings had to be contorted to always comfort him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 06:12 PM |
| 2 | On men and braveryWoahhhh what the fuck!!!!! Something real bad could have happened if the guy was dangerous! And he just let it happen. Did you say anything when you went into work? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/20 02:48 AM |
| 3 | On men and braveryPreachhhhhhh!!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/20 02:46 AM |
| 7 | On men and braveryYes. I've stood up to other men only to be looked at funny. One time I stood up to a man in a superior position and I heard through the grapevine that respected me more for it and said that I "had spunk". It was odd and I always side eyed him. I could tell he fwlt uncomfortable around me afterwards. Fucking coward! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/20 02:06 AM |
| 5 | On men and braveryI'm so sorry you went through that. That sounds terrifying! I hope your mom was able to fight her off and you two moved the fuck away from that! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/20 02:04 AM |
| 5 | On men and braveryYour dad sounds like a real gem!!! You're absolutely correct, bravery isn't all about life threatening acts, it includes many things. I just pointed out the stereotypical things. Men don't count on other men's concern, they have none. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/20 08:11 PM |
| 1 | r/GayBrosGoneMild is a reminder that straight men could be doing better physically but they choose not to. I mean look at all these guys who look like they drink water and moisturize.Right! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/20 07:53 PM |
| 10 | On men and braveryExactly. Men don't have character and want women who do. That's not how it works. No woman wants to constantly have to step up because her man is incompetent. At that point, why be with him? It's no fun pulling your weight and then half of his. Amazinggggg!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/20 06:33 PM |
| 4 | r/GayBrosGoneMild is a reminder that straight men could be doing better physically but they choose not to. I mean look at all these guys who look like they drink water and moisturize.I totally agree with this. On average, gay men I see or have known look 1000000x better than straight man. But I've been groped at all men gay clubs as well. I saw some men who are gamers, 6-pack of beer types and just generally "woke" and idiotic. Plenty of abusive and narc gay men out there too! So there is definitely an idealization that occurs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/20 06:27 PM |
| 8 | On men and braveryRight on!! You hit the nail on the head. Literally agree with all that you've written. It's a cryin shame too. No dignity or nothing. Just empty vessels floating to te next victim that will fill them up or rather who they'll suck dry. The longterm results are shoddy. You have got that right. You were already on a countdown timer HA! I like your style! I had a good laugh and like I've said real agreement on all! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/20 06:01 PM |
| 26 | When your ex messages you on Google docsNot surprised by this at all. It's called hoovering. I'm sorry you've experienced this. He wants attention because he's a lil demon baby wahhhh. Let me guess narc? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/20 05:27 PM |
| 23 | On men and braveryTransactional indeed. I have literally witnessed many conversations that go something like. Woman1: "Oh, you know Mike here helped a woman with her groceries/paid for a womans food/stood up to another man, insert whatever brave thing." Me: "Oh really. Wow that's great." Man: looking at me and longing for more praise. Me: silent because I've finished speaking and made my commentary. Man: "yeah...the guy was really big and gave me a good shiner as you can see/yeah she looked like she really needed… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/20 05:22 PM |
| 9 | On men and braveryI'm deeply sorry for what occured between you and that ex demon husband of yours. Your father really sounds like a great guy! He couldn't even fathom someone being so low down because "anyone would have done it..bravery" I’m grateful to know several genuinely brave men (and women) and to have direct knowledge of specific acts of bravery they’ve carried out, in part because knowing them makes it even easier to recognize the opposite. Edit: this was put before the quote was meant to put after: Tha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/20 05:06 PM |
| 23 | When they complain about being expected to provideAnd you're still with him because? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/20 03:47 PM |
| 29 | On men and braveryThat is horrific!!! I actually recently watched a violent tv series where a man received an award from the local pd for fatally shooting a dangerous murderer/psycho. I'm happy the ex of yours stepped in and saved that woman's life! I'm also happy the fucker is in prison!! You got one up on me. I got no stories. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/20 03:38 PM |
| 3 | Are you tired of being alone? Are you feeling lonely or incomplete? You don't need a boyfriend. You need friends for human connection and you need to be happy on your own without a man.Brilliant! Just brilliant!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/20 07:21 PM |
| 1 | PDA in publicLiteral LIMP dick! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 10:50 PM |
| 10 | I’ve released the scarcity mindset & I can’t turn backHey now!!! That's what I love to hear! You go girl! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 04:52 AM |
| 7 | PDA in publicThanks for your condolence. He was horrible. He was a pornsick loser too, just twisted. That contributed to the public makeout sessions greatly. I'm pretty sure he was into voyeurism and hell only knows what else was in that demons mind. If a man ever wanted to make out in public now, I'd just walk away from him. It's disgusting and I'd assume he's pornsick. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 08:37 AM |
| 9 | Ladies, don't treat your boyfriend like he's your husbandOh totally. Not even at all any more. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 01:00 AM |
| 3 | Everything was going well…then it turns out he’s into beastiality.That's disgusting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/20 09:00 PM |
| 37 | Ladies, don't treat your boyfriend like he's your husbandI do the same. These people aren't "my" anything. I replace it with person but mostly these people either never existed/are dead to me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/20 08:58 PM |
| 8 | Make him work for sex, not just before you have sex the first time after commitment, but all through the relationship!Absolutely this! Don't be fooled by "great" foreplay and then he humps you like an animal with no regard for your pleasure because its "his turn" now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 12:32 PM |
| 7 | Make him work for sex, not just before you have sex the first time after commitment, but all through the relationship!It sounds like he watched so much porn that he is simulating his own porniverse with you and him and the leads. This behavior is abusive and it seems you've tricked yourself into accepting it and liking it by using the term "good in bed". Anybody can be good in bed if there is appropriate connection, care and intimacy. You really should leave this situation. It's not good for you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 12:29 PM |
| 1 | Make him work for sex, not just before you have sex the first time after commitment, but all through the relationship!YESSSS | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 12:18 PM |
| 2 | Positive reinforcement and not over-praisingAhhh thanks so much! I felt it was a bit much but your suggestions are really good. Yes this is for men that I'm dating for future reference. Husband stage would be something different. But I still wouldn't overtly gush then either but a little more verbal reinforcement or a nice kiss. I will never over praise any man again no matter what he is to me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 04:45 AM |
| 15 | Positive reinforcement and not over-praisingBeing true to my emotions has gotten me in trouble in the past. I of course will be honest but I'm not going to gush. I personally feel that I have to be strategic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/20 09:24 PM |
| 8 | Positive reinforcement and not over-praisingOk, awesome. I just wanted to get an idea of a simple verbal appreciation. Now, I have a baseline. I too, used to say the same things to the ex -demon and it was horrific up to when I ended it. So, I will never do that again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/20 09:23 PM |
| 3 | I love that I see more and more people finally exposing LVM’s. AND I LOVE IT when it’s other men. Yes tell THEMPlease don't praise men for this performative bare minimum shite! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/20 02:39 PM |
| 1 | Don't ever allow a man to "we" youI'm glad you are putting the pieces together ! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/20 01:19 PM |
| 3 | Don't ever allow a man to "we" youThat is very odd! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/20 02:46 AM |
| 4 | Don't ever allow a man to "we" youI have to read that book! I know its required reading. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/20 02:44 AM |
| 5 | Don't ever allow a man to "we" youExactly!!! Precisely, spot on! If they do use it to feign love. It's "we just love each other so/too much" to play with your mind and emotions. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/20 01:16 AM |
| 54 | Don't ever allow a man to "we" youThe ex demon did the same to me. He lovebombed me and later said to me "maybe we moved too fast and rushed in" yeah YOU did. I told him I didn't appreciate how he was treating me and pressed him to explain himself. He yelled at me from the top of his lungs to "SHUT THE FUCK UP" later when I so foolishly decided to speak to him about it all. He goes "yes, I know WE said thing's we didn't mean" come on now satan we're two different forces of energy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/20 08:36 PM |
| 13 | If the sex is bad the first time, move on.Lmfao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/20 08:13 PM |
| 8 | If the sex is bad the first time, move on.Preach | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/20 08:11 PM |
| 3 | If the sex is bad the first time, move on.Insightful! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/20 08:11 PM |
| 22 | Posted on Entitled Bitch .... I just see a HVM trying to do something special for his lady.I was also confused by this. I thought this was for dinner guests so they could non stop compliment her. Which is ingenuine. I would be pissed if I found out that my husband told everyone to essentially lie to me. Not saying that the Dr. isn't doing an amazing job but those remarks should come from people who have really interacted with her clinically. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/20 03:53 PM |
| 8 | Tomorrow is My BirthdayHappy birthday virgo queen | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/20 06:05 AM |
| 3 | Tomorrow is My BirthdayHappy birthday!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/20 06:04 AM |
| 46 | FDS is anti polyamoryI don't know why they think they deserve more than one to disappoint. I cackled! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/20 01:48 AM |
| 7 | Why I've turned down marriage proposals, and you probably will too, when time comes.Even the song referenced is disgusting. Can't be a woman! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 09:16 PM |
| 5 | Why I've turned down marriage proposals, and you probably will too, when time comes.Why are you bringing dates to your home? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 09:15 PM |
| 8 | Feeling the need to dump your trauma is a form of codependency. Don’t tell romantic interests your traumas until you’ve vetted them with time and patience. Best case scenario is to never tell them at all.THIS!!! I had a "friend" unload on me so frequently that I hated seeing her name pop up on my screen. She even said "I don't need a therapist, I've got you!" Lol sike bitch! I told her off in a brief text and she never responded or aplologized so I blocked and deleted her! She was terribly miserable. I've had other "friends" get upset with me for not sharing my trauma with them. They thought I didn't consider them close friends because I didn't "tell them things" or because I withdrew when I was… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 09:04 PM |
| 57 | Ask WHY a guy likes you - and pay attention to the answer.Yup the ex demon said "you understand me like no one else ever had, you're nice and you're my good luck and angel, you love me and I feel how much you love and care about me, you are so sweet and kind" yadda yadda blah blah me, my, mine. He didn't care about me at all. He just loved that I was a cool girl that spoiled him as if he were a woman , let everything slide , bought him things and gave him money and food regularly. And put up with being manipulated and abused sexually and emotionally by… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 02:33 PM |
| 62 | Ask WHY a guy likes you - and pay attention to the answer.Smh that's terrible. I'm sure he had fun making a book about all the ways he benefited off of you. Pure evil. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 02:28 PM |
| 28 | Remember these men WANT to be hated! Don't give them the satisfaction.Lol yes!!! Your best friend is awesome! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/20 03:48 AM |
| 38 | I meant this as a joke but his response just gave me a great insight into him as a person. Gonna start telling lads I’m “crazy” more often to weed out the weak ones.Lmaooo What would an appropriate response have been? Obviously he's pornsick, deluded and abusive to think that being crazy makes things interesting in a relationship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/20 02:09 AM |
| 1 | I wish my friends and family would stop pressuring me to settle.because they find validity in sacrificing themself and nurturing their partners potential instead. Very well put | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/20 02:05 AM |
| 6 | Dream Girl Training: Boys hug, men shake.I like this! Except I hate touching other people's hands and the stupid firmess "rule". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/20 09:39 PM |
| 6 | Thoughts?I can't unread this wtf!!!!! My eyes got wider and wider. This is disgusting! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/20 05:18 PM |
| 2 | Any ladies that dont drink, smoke or do drugs?I also dont drink soda and get looked at sideways for it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/20 10:27 PM |
| 2 | Any ladies that dont drink, smoke or do drugs?Men partners will absolutely ignore and enable these problems, then turn it on you when it becomes too much. Craft beer and cigarettes is not a personality. So true!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/20 03:13 PM |
| 3 | Any ladies that dont drink, smoke or do drugs?Good on you! Radical lifestyle type of men literally freak me out. They are so deluded and sexist and just wrong in so many ways. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/20 03:04 PM |
| 1 | Any ladies that dont drink, smoke or do drugs?Yes yes yes! Thank you. Even that, I'm still unlearning that I'm not being interviewed! That's exactly it, I'm pressuring myself for answers and it really makes me look weak which I hate. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/20 03:02 PM |
| 4 | Any ladies that dont drink, smoke or do drugs?Thank you so much!! I'm working on not reacting emotionally either. It's actually so fun to better myself and I'd rather better myself than belittle myself again ever!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/20 03:00 PM |
| 9 | Any ladies that dont drink, smoke or do drugs?You worded that so perfectly! I even told one of the extended family members who said "some people will think you think you're better than them" that I don't care because that has nothing to do with me. Plus, I know by "some people" he meant himself. Sugar is of my vices too. I'm trying hard to moderate it. A little bit before I dumped the ex NVM , I began eating sweets and pastries like nobody's business as a coping mechanism and it continued even after I dumped the trash demon because I alread… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/20 02:57 PM |
| 7 | Any ladies that dont drink, smoke or do drugs?People don't believe I've never tried it either. It smells so bad! And tobacco is gross. The way lots of people consume alcohol is poisonous. But these people can continue to think that I think I'm better than them but its only because they believe I am. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/20 02:47 PM |
| 6 | Any ladies that dont drink, smoke or do drugs?I also made the decision not to partake in these things at a young age and I'm really proud of myself for sticking to it for so many years. Continue to stay true to yourself! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/20 02:43 PM |
| 4 | Any ladies that dont drink, smoke or do drugs?100% !!! I feel great putting FDS to use with these guys. These guys KNOW I'm better than them and it shows. They have no personality a part from drink/smoke , it's really annoying. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/20 02:35 PM |
| 5 | Any ladies that dont drink, smoke or do drugs?Have you ever interacted with many SxE men? I remember reading some things about these men being predatory and very abusive. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/20 02:28 PM |
| 10 | Any ladies that dont drink, smoke or do drugs?That's really smart of you not to disclose that to a guy right away! I definitely will move on if a guy thinks I'm boring for it. I use to try to mold myself into being this person that was cool and relatable and try to convincd men that I was still fun despite not partaking in those things but now thankfully I don't care and have learned from my mistakes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/20 02:26 PM |
| 4 | Any ladies that dont drink, smoke or do drugs?Thank you! I'm really working on it. I have anxiety so a lot of times my mind in racing with thoughts and I get flustered. I keep a pretty good poker face but it could be better! I'll just remind myself of two hobbies that I enjoy and keep it at that. I haven't been able to partake in lots of my hobbies lately so I forget to mention them because of that as well. Luckily, I don't interact with those extended family much but when I do see them I'm better equpped to deal with them. I know there are… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/20 02:22 PM |
| 15 | Any ladies that dont drink, smoke or do drugs?When I tell most people , they think I'll judge them if they do. I don't judge every person that I see partaking in these things but I do judge some because lots of people have problems and they're clearly using these things to cope like you said or are succumbing to peer pressure/societal pressure/FOMO...etc BUT I keep any judgement or non judgement to myself. I don't even make any assuming facial expressions or anything. I'm just very neutral but that doesn't matter because people will assume … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/20 02:17 PM |
| 7 | Any ladies that dont drink, smoke or do drugs?Right? Bars and clubs never did it for me either and they also made me really paranoid and on edge. I couldn't have fun in those settings at all!!! You're right about men associating party lifestyle with promiscuity. They'll just assume. I knew a woman who drank, smoked cigarretes and marijuana but she presented her self as other wordly and refined in public. But if someone just only knew those things about her they'd assume she was some wild party girl. You're totally right, a man who doesn't f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/20 02:08 PM |
| 12 | Any ladies that dont drink, smoke or do drugs?A former friend of mine use to invite me out to drinks and ignore the fact that I don't drink or would make me feel like I wasn't fun enough for her. I eventually dumped her for that reason and more. I TOTALLY feel you on the not wanting to get raped part. Men can't understand the validity of this reasoning so I don't mention this aspect to them at all either. They'd just gaslight and make it seem like rape isn't that common. I'm still trying to figure out a good firm answer. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/20 01:57 PM |
| 10 | Any ladies that dont drink, smoke or do drugs?The men are usually a friend of a friend or distant family members and their extended family and friends. This is why I'm not friends with men and luckily my interactions with these men are not very often. But one good thing about it is that I get practice for interacting with men. I agree these guys are clearly dumb and easily influenced by peer pressure and have addictive personalities. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/20 01:30 PM |
| 17 | I’m Declaring Our Right As Women to Have Specific Penis PreferencesLMAOOOOOO | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/20 06:36 AM |
| 23 | WHY I THINK MORE WOMEN NEED TO BE BUYING MORE HOUSES... ALONE + INVESTINGI’ve actually dated men that have come into my beautiful home and looked around and I can see it in their eyes as they make mental plans to move in. Lol NOPE I lol'd because I can picture this so accurately! I am on a level up journey and purchasing a home and then another and having multiple properties/land is one of my dreams! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 02:42 PM |
| 4 | Don't date guys who refuse to wear a mask in public. Don't even talk to them. Treat them like the walking biohazard that they are.I have deciphered that the men not wearing masks really think that they are so attractive that they want people to see how "cute" they are. They are ugly and biohazards. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/09/20 01:21 PM |
| 4 | LVM speak in future tense "maybe in the future I'll be ready to commit" "someday I'll take you out somewhere fancy" etc... A HVM doesn't need to talk, he shows you. He doesn't promise, he manifests. If he doesn't fulfill you now, he won't later on either.The ex demon futured faked HARD. He started with when's and changed them to if's down the line. I didn't fight about it either but I noticed. The amount of mental fuckery that went on is astounding. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 01:58 PM |
| 20 | All the money I sent to my NVM ex in 2 months. Green is him. Don’t be a 🤡🤡🤡Don't feel bad. My finance statemets/receipts looked the same except it was more money. I thought he'd appreciate me being financially helpful lmaoooo sike I thought giving him money would be looked at as one of the ultimate acts of care and "love". I was a clown pick me too back then. I was doing all of the man things plus taking his evil abuse on top. It's over now! and Im levelling up now. We know better now!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 01:37 PM |
| 8 | There is no "one that got away"Yessss! Preach! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/20 06:01 PM |
| 30 | There is no "one that got away"Exactly!! They want to show off our prestige and accomplishments that has nothing to do with them and take credit for it. They also use it to justify stalking and harrassment. And to declare "I'll win you back" by further harrassment. Like no, I've already won because you're out of my life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/20 05:30 PM |
| 9 | Do you girls find it funny how days, weeks, months can easily go by before you ever see a guy that’s even slightly attractive enough to take double take?I'm straight but I double take and accidentally stare at beautiful women whenever I see one which pre-pandemic was very often. Women put effort into how we look and there is just that inner confidence that can't be matched with women. I think its absolutely mesmerizing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/20 03:32 PM |
| 4 | "Where can you lead me? Not up."I agree, she literally spelled everything out. He doesn't care. He knows. He'll use it to con some other lady. Give these men NOTHING! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/20 12:20 AM |
| 2 | And to think, I used to consider merely having a bookshelf a green flag 🤦♀️great point. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/20 03:38 PM |
| 31 | If this isn’t how my boyfriend reacts, I don’t want itI find this too clingy. Yes, be sad that I'm leaving but don't say "that sucks", say "that's great, have fun" and then give me some $$$ for spending on the trip.❤ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/20 03:34 PM |
| 3 | Never tell a man you want to lose weightSome men do this. They literally get you to gain weight on purpose. Or they stress you out enough that you just lose track and gain weight that way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/20 03:33 PM |
| 2 | To the men that always say things like this to try and separate/differentiate themselves, shut the hell up. Infantilizing yourselves makes it easier for you manboys to not hold each other accountable when a woman experiences real harm/danger.This is gold! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/20 05:03 AM |
| 4 | Anyone ever date a man you suspected was gay or curious?That is EXACTLY what I thought. But then that experience happened and changed my mind. I was a pick me then and asked him what sort of porn he watched and he said "you don't want to know" and laughed. I legit believe he fantasized about being with men probably why he liked degrading sex with women and loved women's asses and entering from behind. Thankfully I never let him do that. He was a disgusting peice of shit narc. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/20 06:41 PM |
| 3 | Anyone ever date a man you suspected was gay or curious?This is EXACTLY what I think he had "porn gayness/bi-ness" or just naturally bi (or curious) but in denial. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/20 06:20 PM |
| 3 | Men performing noises/grunts during s£xYup either and/or both! Or sometimes a different gender but that's a convo for another day. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/20 11:48 PM |
| 2 | Men performing noises/grunts during s£xWhat a pig! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/20 03:22 PM |
| 11 | Watch out Queens! There’s a sociopath targeting/conning women in the Chicago area through OLD and social media. I’ve seen his profile and I’m 2 states over!He looks 43 not 33 and like a fucking psychopath! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/20 03:10 PM |
| 3 | Men performing noises/grunts during s£xIt amplifies the feeling of them using your body to masturbate Yup. That's it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/20 02:46 PM |
| 7 | Men performing noises/grunts during s£xheart eyes to this entire paragraph. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/20 02:44 PM |
| 7 | Men performing noises/grunts during s£xTheir mind is too busy copying and pasting somebody's else's head on your body. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/20 02:42 PM |
| 5 | Men performing noises/grunts during s£xThe demon was overtly misogynistic but tried to wrap it in wokeness. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/20 02:37 PM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered August 20 2020WOWWW! Did he admit that? It was even worse than his disgusting fetish. The escorts were Asian women too? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/20 09:45 PM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered August 20 2020I like him for who he is but I'm wary he views me first as an Asian and 2nd for who I am. Fixed it for you: I like him for who he is but I'm wary I KNOW he views me first as an Asian and 2nd for who I am. Come on, you found the proof. Dump the fetishizing loser! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/20 05:41 PM |
| 2 | Get a man who will show you off! If he's not proud to be with you and treats you accordingly, he ain't the one, hun!I totally understand. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/20 04:31 PM |
| 3 | Get a man who will show you off! If he's not proud to be with you and treats you accordingly, he ain't the one, hun!Yeah , it's dehumanizing af! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/20 04:29 PM |
| 5 | Get a man who will show you off! If he's not proud to be with you and treats you accordingly, he ain't the one, hun!I love this post!!!!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/20 04:27 PM |
| 6 | Get a man who will show you off! If he's not proud to be with you and treats you accordingly, he ain't the one, hun!Totally THIS! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/20 04:26 PM |
| 5 | Get a man who will show you off! If he's not proud to be with you and treats you accordingly, he ain't the one, hun!The ex would actually dangle posting me on social media like a carrot to a bunny. I honestly didn't care whether or not he posted me but he started to brainwash me into thinking that it was a big deal if he did. Like I was supposed to feel special if he did. He was very active and liked all his woman "friends" posts as well as followed lots of women who looked nothing like me which revealed what his type truly was. I don't care about social media and its totally a red flag to praise your s.o on … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/20 03:56 PM |
| 1 | FDS theme tune? @ninanesbitt , she makes amazing music!It just doesn't make sense. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/20 11:07 AM |
| 7 | Don’t lie to me about your heightI totally want to measure my next man's dick idk why. I'm just curious. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/20 04:04 AM |
| 2 | "She cheated on him, omg what a b*tch!" vs "He cheated on her, yeah well ALL/MOST men cheat"I totally agree. There is a series called doctor foster that touches on this worth watching. It will piss you off | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/20 09:32 PM |
| 3 | FDS theme tune? @ninanesbitt , she makes amazing music!That would be him. There's something dark about him. I cant put my finger on it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/20 09:21 PM |
| 1 | Can we please not normalize make up sex/hate sexIt's vile! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/20 04:46 AM |
| 1 | Can we please not normalize make up sex/hate sexNeither have I, thankfully. But I definitely used to think it was a thing/inevitable/a normal part of EVERY relationship. I'm so glad I'm wiser and have not had to learn that the hard way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/20 03:48 AM |
| 16 | My ex let me think I was having auditory hallucinationsI fucking love this sub. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/20 12:43 AM |
| 68 | FDS theme tune? @ninanesbitt , she makes amazing music!The man she's been dating for 4 years looks like he doesnt shower she should cut her losses. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/20 12:40 AM |
| 6 | Can we please not normalize make up sex/hate sexNever in my life heard a woman ask another woman if she punished her husband during sex. "Did you give it to him hard and rough and ask him if he liked it rough?" Said no women ever. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/20 10:37 PM |
| 9 | Can we please not normalize make up sex/hate sexIt's their excuse to abuse or in many cases FURTHER abuse their wives. The wives think its normal and accept the punishment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/20 09:46 PM |
| 2 | Can we please not normalize make up sex/hate sexRIGHT!!!!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/20 09:41 PM |
| 8 | Can we please not normalize make up sex/hate sexRight? It sounds very demonic and unhealthy. Like are you sucking each others souls out with each breath of rage? So terrible that this narrative is sold to the masses. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/20 09:41 PM |
| 13 | Can we please not normalize make up sex/hate sexDon't feel silly. It's really not your fault. The make up sex/ hate sex narrative is something that is so subtly engrained in society that it is now normalized. But its very sick and abusive and wrong. now I just see he’s a genuine guy who doesn’t need to fuck to get his “frustrations” out on me and all we need to do is talk. Right! The fact that you and your bf just have sex again IS NORMAL!!! Don't forget that. It's healthy that you two just wind up having sex again naturally. There should nev… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/20 09:38 PM |
| 23 | Can we please not normalize make up sex/hate sexCreepy and abusive is exactly what it is. And the fact that so many women say "oh well we have great make up sex" or something of that nature just proves the brainwashing. Its sick. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/20 08:32 PM |
| 3 | "She cheated on him, omg what a b*tch!" vs "He cheated on her, yeah well ALL/MOST men cheat"EXACTLY! I love your username! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/20 04:37 AM |
| 5 | "She cheated on him, omg what a b*tch!" vs "He cheated on her, yeah well ALL/MOST men cheat"I completely agree! These are lies fed to women so that we can settle for less! This narrative irks me! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/20 03:06 AM |
| 4 | "She cheated on him, omg what a b*tch!" vs "He cheated on her, yeah well ALL/MOST men cheat"One woman I know cheated on a seemingly good man (I didn't know him that well but from what I met he seemed alright). She had lots of problems and was sexually assaulted in her youth, struggled with her self perception and confidence and also her sexuality. It became too much for me to be her friend any longer but ultimately she cheated because she didn't love her self. I contemplated cheating on the ex demon because I knew I wasnt getting anything from the relationshit. I thought about doing it… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/20 12:26 AM |
| 2 | I got the job!!Yayyyy!!!! This made me smile! You're doing great and you will be okay! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/20 07:24 PM |
| 10 | Unconventional red flagsVery creepy. The amount of times I've read things written by other people that I easily could have written myself about my experiences is far from coincidental at this point. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/20 06:51 PM |
| 7 | Unconventional red flagsI totally agree. It took me a long while to grow out of my teenaged mentality. Now I find it utterly cringe when adults talk about their time in high school or hobbies that are meant for teenagers. These people haven't faced something very important and until they do they'll always think that being cool or weird is a personality trait. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/20 06:47 PM |
| 10 | Unconventional red flagsNot only was the demon friends with his exes but he was friends with women he'd only been on a few dates with who were never his gf's. I guess once he figured he wasnt attracted to them he pulled the lets be friends line on them and they fell for it. He tried to triangulate me with all of them on so many occasions. Once he admitted that he had kissed one of them during a date they had years ago when he just made it seem like they were friends with no physical past. Another "friend" of his he had… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/20 06:37 PM |
| 2 | Unconventional red flagsSO TRUE! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/20 06:27 PM |
| 28 | Unconventional red flagsThe ex demon did this. So many "I can tell you're the type of person who _____" "Let me guess, you also don't like ______" "I can just tell things about people, I'm good a reading people" Watch out ladies, hardcore narc alert. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/20 06:24 PM |
| 10 | We honor our female ancestors by living a life they could have only ever dreamed of.It really does. She is beautiful and talented and her marriage to him just doesnt fit. She's had to mold herself to be Mrs. Carter and prove to us she's "not his little wife". But...you are. It's sucks. I know that she would have been able to maneuver and balance all of her ventures better and had more opportunities if she wasnt tied to that man. I'm sad to say but her kids wouldn't be as scrutinized either on top of the racism that is behind the scrutiny there is the fact that the father is an … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/20 06:05 PM |
| 24 | We honor our female ancestors by living a life they could have only ever dreamed of.I just wish she had married a HVM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/20 08:22 PM |
| 15 | My ex-LVM’s mother keeps contacting meCut the relationship off! CUT IT OFF! Its unhealthy. It's selfish of the mom to even just nonchalantly continue a relationship with you. You both or just soley her are/is probably lonely in some aspect of your life, likely a friendship aspect. This simply is not helpful to you at all. Don't be so accommodating and polite just because "well she didn't do anything wrong to me" because that doesn't matter. Look out for yourself. She's obviously getting something out of still speaking to you but its… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 03:21 PM |
| 6 | What originally attracted you to your LVM/NVM ex?He seemed straightfirward, "sensitive" and world smart. From day one he was negging me but would also either simultaneously or consecutively love bomb me and the punishment reward cycle from then on was strong. Not too soon after he asked me to be official he admitted to me that he was a bum with no aspirations but he somehow thought he was a god or genius. And I believed in his lame ass potential. He thought sexist and toxic hobbies would somehow lead him into a lucrative spotlight. He was a de… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/20 01:36 AM |
| 2 | Ladies, "FYI typically if you’re having relationship problems that you’re embarrassed or ashamed to discuss with your family/friends that’s a huge red flag."So true, the garbage that I used to allow was so disappointing. I will teach my future daughter well with my amazing husband. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 05:33 PM |
| 3 | Found a HVM but after 10 months of dating I'm starting to be more and more suspicious.I made the cringe face after reading this all the way through. In my experience , everything that you've listed are emotional manipulation + emotional immaturity. From one of your previous posts you mention that he is inexperienced, that you two were long distance, he wasn't showering before meeting you and that you were going to move to a new city together ( why would you be happy that a guy yiu barely knowcwants to move to a new city with you?) and that he asked friends for advice to flirt wit… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 04:43 PM |
| 21 | When men pull up other men for their irresponsibility. Mod message to r/AskMen.Its not the time for dating! AT ALL!!!! Most people are bored and/or scared they'll never date again for some reason. Just work on yourself and come out of 2020 better than you came in. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 07:48 PM |
| 11 | Where's The Lie Though?Yesss! same same same! He really thought he had options when it was I and is me who has the options. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 07:47 PM |
| 14 | What was one of the most infuriating neg comments an ex LVM/NVM said to you?I did not know then what I know now. Yes that's absolutely what I'd do if it happened recently. Actually, there would be no more than one date to even get that far if it were present day | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 07:43 PM |
| 37 | Where's The Lie Though?The ex demon would literally say omg you look so beautiful and you're not even wearing makeup- and saying he likes natural but I saw him stare at made up girls. Whenever I would wear a full face he would say I was wearing too much makeup! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 05:51 PM |
| 2 | Pet triangulation, anyone else experience this?Totally an abusive control tactic! It was so exhausting. That guy really wanted you to kiss the plants ass or in this case leaves? And pet it and apologize to it. He probably got off on dismissing you for his plants and the fact that he studied your face for discomfort so that he could use it as a weapon against you is sick! The ex demon for that whole relationshit made sure I was insecure and feeling less than so that I could prove myself to him. Be always made it seem like he could do better t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 05:16 PM |
| 1 | Pet triangulation, anyone else experience this?Yup he abused both and he would boast about it loving him. Ummm...its your family's pet. He was twisted! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 05:04 PM |
| 7 | Pet triangulation, anyone else experience this?I can't with the whole plant crazed men. Everyone's a plant "parent" now! I dont trust the plant crazed men. I love plants and of course I want them and others to treat them with care but baby talking and crying is mental! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 07:08 AM |
| 1 | "Mostly all of the other girls I dated did xyz" what is this manipulation called?Golden!!! Thank you for your detailed insight!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 07:06 AM |
| 20 | Since when did men think it’s cute to propose to a woman who just delivered a BABY?!. I’m sure it was his way of saying that she finally earned her place as his wife since she birthed his child. Worded perfectly! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 04:52 AM |
| 7 | Pet triangulation, anyone else experience this?Thats fucking crazy!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 03:21 AM |
| 7 | “I don’t have a child”One time an uber driver hit on me and a few weeks later I saw him on transit with two little girls (his kids) and get this..A WIFE! They were on their way to church! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 12:19 AM |
| 8 | We love to see it 👏I just personally would enjoy this treatment in private, posting things like this comes across as performative to me, even if it is genuine. Ps: why one option in the 365 jar is "we're doing this" like what does that mean and why does it sound so demanding? If she were to say no what would he do or say? She should choose that not him on some pre-written note. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 12:14 AM |
| 2 | "Mostly all of the other girls I dated did xyz" what is this manipulation called?They're just threatened by our beauty and know we can turn heads while they just stand there looking like discarded plastic bags. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 10:26 PM |
| 6 | "Mostly all of the other girls I dated did xyz" what is this manipulation called?Thank you! Once I started really deep diving into reading up on clister b and npd it was easy to see how accurate everything I went through was. I was questioning a lot and even towards the end of that demonic chapter in my life I found the strength to leave and be by my damn self and I'm loving it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 09:27 PM |
| 3 | "Mostly all of the other girls I dated did xyz" what is this manipulation called?This was a few years ago. I'm just reflecting. It wasn't a mall but an outdoor downtown shopping area, with shoppes for blocks of roads. So like an outdoor mall of sorts. It was one of our many walking around "dates". Not like his broke ass was going to buy me anything. But yes we walked around that area MEANT for shopping and he decided to triangulate me with exes and he also made fun of my entire outfit because everyone around there was dressed in designer labels head to toe. And I was just we… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 06:17 PM |
| 3 | "Mostly all of the other girls I dated did xyz" what is this manipulation called?Im going to make a post about animal triangulation because it happened to me. He also did the whole "Im glad you don't wear makeup" tactic. When I just did the no-makeup makeup look. When I did go all out and wear a full face because I felt like it, he'd say I had on too much make-up or comment on not liking certain lipstick colors on me. Like? It was a whole ordeal! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 06:14 PM |
| 4 | "Mostly all of the other girls I dated did xyz" what is this manipulation called?THIS! I was a total doormat and pick me. I already had those tendencies even with friendships. The only difference is that since he chased me at first , I couldn't believe how I became the chaser and man of the relationship. I was quite shy and passive too. All of this was taken advantage of and I was left mentally, sexually and spiritually abused by that demon. Everything you said here is spot on. Level up! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 06:05 PM |
| 5 | "Mostly all of the other girls I dated did xyz" what is this manipulation called?TRUTH! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 06:00 PM |
| 4 | "Mostly all of the other girls I dated did xyz" what is this manipulation called?Im just reflecting but you're right, the demon pulled the same game on me with the "😵wowww you're the one", "you just get ne so much!" "I've never felt this way before" , "we're soulmates", I jumped through hoops for damn near 2 years , towards the end of it I was questioning and fighting with myself for trying to please it! The monster. The evil of it all. That's in the past. Here we are now! We're doing great! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 05:59 PM |
| 9 | "Mostly all of the other girls I dated did xyz" what is this manipulation called?I'm just reflecting. It really didn't get better and I did eventually and finally left the demon in the dust. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 05:51 PM |
| 10 | "Mostly all of the other girls I dated did xyz" what is this manipulation called?I thought it might be triangulation but wasn't quite sure if I should place it under that category or if it was something else! Thank you. I'm just reflecting on some things that were said to me by the demon back then. I know the goal of it was for me to say something like "oh of course not, I don't really care for shopping too much". If I recall correctly, I shrugged it off in a 'cool girl' way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 04:33 PM |
| 9 | "Mostly all of the other girls I dated did xyz" what is this manipulation called?Lol where is the lie? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 04:29 PM |
| 2 | He actually gets it. He really REALLY gets it.Eh. I watched 5 minutes of a "fun" video he did with his wife and he seemed annoyed by her for that whole duration. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/20 05:06 PM |
| 3 | I tried the dating more than one guy at a time thingOk great! 4 guys you know aren't for you now move on to the next four! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/20 05:04 PM |
| 7 | I can't help but feel like I'm being fetishized when I get messages like thisHe brought up you being Asian and he really shouldn't have. That's disgusting. Of course if you're interacially dating it will come up but he just told on himself there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/20 04:52 PM |
| 1 | I, Too, Date MenToo true! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/20 04:49 PM |
| 14 | Did you guys have a 'moment' when the true meaning of being a queen finally hit you like a brick wall?Don't give up on love!!! I'm a romantic and I encountered a demon narc. While I'm currently leveling up and healing I'm still pretty damn jaded at the moment but so what? I still want it all! My career, my cash$$$, my home and ALL the luxury, I have my wonderful self!!! And also, I want to be married to a respectful, genuine , high value man one day and have a child/children. Being aware of all the BS makes it that much easier to decline wasteful men and leave room for the amazing ones. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/20 05:57 AM |
| 29 | 100 Years from now men are going to rewrite history & say Mark Zuckerberg created Facebook solely to impress women & make us happy instead of being a creepy ass incel who hacked into Harvard's school ID system to get pictures to bully all the women who wouldn't fuck him.I didn't know this either! And same! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 07:22 PM |
| 3 | Name something that you used to "nag" your ex LVM/NVM about or wished he'd done that he all of a sudden miraculously knew how to do once you dumped him?Ohhh I see! I'm glad you're free now!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 06:58 PM |
| 3 | Name something that you used to "nag" your ex LVM/NVM about or wished he'd done that he all of a sudden miraculously knew how to do once you dumped him?Yasss divorce the soul sucking demon!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 06:57 PM |
| 3 | Name something that you used to "nag" your ex LVM/NVM about or wished he'd done that he all of a sudden miraculously knew how to do once you dumped him?We hadn't been separated maybe 2 months and he had already finished 2 rooms floor to ceiling. The house was completely finished after a year then he moved his new girlfriend in. WOWWW what a flaming POS!!! All good since the house increased because of it in value and he had to buy out my half X karma | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 06:55 PM |
| 4 | Name something that you used to "nag" your ex LVM/NVM about or wished he'd done that he all of a sudden miraculously knew how to do once you dumped him?Where is the lie!!!? The demon ex used to constantly remind me that his ex's would have been so mad to see him treating me the way he did. He abused me and tried to damage me beyond repair. He admitted to being physically violent with an ex and I know that if I stayed that would have been my reality although he did attempt it in very discreet ways and sexually. I know that everything I "taught" him, he'll just use on the next victim and so on and so forth. How do I know this? With social media, … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 06:53 PM |
| 6 | Name something that you used to "nag" your ex LVM/NVM about or wished he'd done that he all of a sudden miraculously knew how to do once you dumped him?Scarcity mindset is sooooo unkind! I used to be the same way! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 06:46 PM |
| 3 | Part 2: For sh*ts and giggles, what's your HVM zodiac sign?Although I think all signs can be evolved/unevolved I agree. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 06:44 PM |
| 3 | Name something that you used to "nag" your ex LVM/NVM about or wished he'd done that he all of a sudden miraculously knew how to do once you dumped him?I block and delete too! I meant this more as in like say you always wanted your nvm ex to get you something you mentioned you like and he never did but after you dump him he tries to throw money, jewelry...etc your way when he never did those things before. It just further proves they used you and played you for a fool. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 06:43 PM |
| 7 | Name something that you used to "nag" your ex LVM/NVM about or wished he'd done that he all of a sudden miraculously knew how to do once you dumped him?I TOTALLY agree. I meant miraculously knew how to do as in all of a sudden put forth effort to do it though we all know the effort is feigned but its the fact that they are capable but choose NOT to be. That was basically my point. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 06:40 PM |
| 60 | A gorgeous glow-up!!!I love how her after pic is just her. She lost body weight and dead weight if that's her ex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 01:54 AM |
| 14 | Forever relevantwhy "it's" and not "their" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 01:50 AM |
| 9 | Part 2: For sh*ts and giggles, what's your HVM zodiac sign?I've got 4 planets in capricorn! I just looked it up out if curiosity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 12:48 AM |
| 5 | Part 2: For sh*ts and giggles, what's your HVM zodiac sign?😂 oh damn!! That's great! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 12:06 AM |
| 7 | Part 2: For sh*ts and giggles, what's your HVM zodiac sign?I knew an aries man once, he wasnt straight but was nice and funny and fun to hang out with while I was friends with him. He always treated me and made sure I was safe. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 10:51 PM |
| 3 | Part 2: For sh*ts and giggles, what's your HVM zodiac sign?That's really great! There were a few cancer warnings in the other thread but nothing in the majority. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 10:50 PM |
| 1 | For sh*ts and giggles, what's your HVM zodiac sign?Lollll proved us wrong for Scorpio too 😂. Please see Part 2: For sh*ts and giggles, what's your HVM zodiac sign? thread instead. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 08:49 PM |
| 2 | For sh*ts and giggles, what's your HVM zodiac sign?That's great!! I've never been involved with or knew a Taurus man. Yes queen! EDIT: Please see Part 2: For sh*ts and giggles, what's your HVM zodiac sign? thread instead! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 08:41 PM |
| 6 | For sh*ts and giggles, what was his zodiac sign?I'm totally going to make one tomorrow!!! Thanks for the suggestion. Im soooo curious now! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 01:02 AM |
| 2 | For sh*ts and giggles, what was his zodiac sign?Ughhh thats another strike for virgo men 😖 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 11:48 PM |
| 2 | For sh*ts and giggles, what was his zodiac sign?Aries women get on my nerves, never dealt with an Aries man though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 11:47 PM |
| 6 | For sh*ts and giggles, what was his zodiac sign?LMFAOOOOOO I'LL BE SO MAD IF IT'S ALL GEMINIS LOLLLL | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 11:40 PM |
| 7 | For sh*ts and giggles, what was his zodiac sign?Sounds like multiple narcs who are virgos! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 09:06 PM |
| 9 | For sh*ts and giggles, what was his zodiac sign?Hahahaa y'all are cracking me up. That sounds like something a woke environmental guru would say. Here, come in for a hug in my cashmere blanket. We can light candles and plant succulents together ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 09:05 PM |
| 18 | For sh*ts and giggles, what was his zodiac sign?Totally something a gemini would say. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 08:20 PM |
| 3 | For sh*ts and giggles, what was his zodiac sign?Honestly I dont know what to believe about supposed compatibility but I know I'm staying away from certsin signs! Too many patterns. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 08:19 PM |
| 4 | For sh*ts and giggles, what was his zodiac sign?LOLLLL | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 08:13 PM |
| 7 | For sh*ts and giggles, what was his zodiac sign?It's cuz they have no guts in real life! They are too insecure to approach a women in person. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 08:12 PM |
| 8 | For sh*ts and giggles, what was his zodiac sign?I lol'd at The men and women just eat, but clothes and eat some more🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 08:03 PM |
| 3 | For sh*ts and giggles, what was his zodiac sign?Turn them away!!! Save yourself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 08:01 PM |
| 10 | For sh*ts and giggles, what was his zodiac sign?BASH THESE GEMINIS!!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 07:52 PM |
| 10 | For sh*ts and giggles, what was his zodiac sign?Biggest narc! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 07:51 PM |
| 1 | For sh*ts and giggles, what was his zodiac sign?Sounds like a nightmare!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 07:45 PM |
| 22 | What is your action plan for getting out of a date early? / Why you definitely need one.Great point! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 07:41 PM |
| 6 | For sh*ts and giggles, what was his zodiac sign?He must be the outlier. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 07:38 PM |
| 12 | For sh*ts and giggles, what was his zodiac sign?But in my experience its different for men and women. I've met some cool virgo women but I hear virgo MEN are shitty! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 07:36 PM |
| 8 | Another reason why the rules are so important!Thats a good one | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 06:58 PM |
| 6 | For sh*ts and giggles, what was his zodiac sign?Lol same. Many of my friends growing up were Virgos but I've heard that Virgo men are shitty though I've never personally had any experience with one. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 06:52 PM |
| 8 | For sh*ts and giggles, what was his zodiac sign?What's funny is I always seem to get along with Virgo women for the most part, except one I knew that was a narc and very mean and she blamed it on her being a virgo and a perfectionist lol. She was VERY insecure but projected so much that no one would have been the wisest. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 06:47 PM |
| 2 | For sh*ts and giggles, what was his zodiac sign?I on and off pay attention to astrology but after my experiences I'm steering clear of certain men. Not worth it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 06:45 PM |
| 1 | A man who openly admits to you that you deserve/deserved better than him is admitting to you that he treated you less than your worth.Oh absolutely, its all a game to them. The concept of love doesnt exist for most of them they just want to win then they get bored so they twist you ,abuse you and get a rise out of you to shake things up. Its sick! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 06:43 PM |
| 8 | You ladies inspired me and I whipped this piece up in less than 24 hours. If I want to, I will ✌️Exactly! Pure projection!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 06:40 PM |
| 1 | A man who openly admits to you that you deserve/deserved better than him is admitting to you that he treated you less than your worth.That is 100% true. Looking back I can think of so many times I'm sure he must've thought to himself "wow she's so dumb to allow me to do this" as he continued doing it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 06:28 PM |
| 6 | You ladies inspired me and I whipped this piece up in less than 24 hours. If I want to, I will ✌️Make sure you vet and dm the ladies your shop link. Don't post it publicly!! Also, yesss embroidery queen! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 06:21 PM |
| 16 | A man who openly admits to you that you deserve/deserved better than him is admitting to you that he treated you less than your worth.The ex did the SAME thing! I know he was cheating also. Fucking demons. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/20 09:19 PM |
| 7 | A man who openly admits to you that you deserve/deserved better than him is admitting to you that he treated you less than your worth.It is 100% that! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/20 08:43 PM |
| 58 | A man who openly admits to you that you deserve/deserved better than him is admitting to you that he treated you less than your worth.They are literally warning you when they say things like that. The ex demon said this plenty of times , particularly when he was feeling guilty for gaslighting me or other forms of abuse. Then I would be the one reassuring HIM why HE was so great and "ENOUGH" for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/20 07:40 PM |
| 3 | Can someone explain the idealise devalue discard cycle?That is bad thinking. Don't second guess yourself! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/20 12:14 AM |
| 30 | The bulk of this post is focused on telling the world how unattractive he used to think women like his future wife are. Colorism affects these LVM's brains to the core. They will not accept what a white society tells them not to.This is sad. I went on her page but it looks like she maybe made a new account because I'm sure many people clowned her. Even the guys page is no where to be found. But her description is still visible and she is PROUD to be engaged to this pos! She's hiding her face in her little profile photo. She shouldn't have to live like that. His face is visible and he looks like a crumpled napkin with eyes. Like, oh please fuck off! He honestly thinks he should be praised because he "gave her a chance" o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/20 12:03 AM |
| 2 | Don't ever go for someone with such inflated ego, no matter how good he looksHe sounds like a Montreal loser! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 11:53 PM |
| 7 | Can someone explain the idealise devalue discard cycle?You can find tons of info on this in r/narcissiticabuse What happened to you is text book narc. The ex demon did the EXACT same to me. He even used the same phrase of "I think we rushed into this" during many discard phases. Yeah, how the fuck did WE rush in when YOU chased me, declared I was your soul mate after only a few weeks and said I was your future wife within a month of knowing me? All I did was naively take the bait and bought into the lies. I ignored red flags that I knew were wrong y… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 11:50 PM |
| 43 | How a man treats you when you're sick or going through a hard time is a good indicator of the future.The ex demon was angry at me for having anxiety really bad one day. I began to quiver and he held my side and arms so hard that it hurt me and I know now that he purposefully inflicted physical pain on me during that time because he was so annoyed. He sulked and then the next day made me feel stupid for it and joked about calling an ambulance. It was horrific. I even felt bad that I "ruined his day". It was just so unsupportive and selfish. This is the same person who said "you know if you were … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 09:57 PM |
| 15 | The "Ho Test": Why and How Men Test the Women They DateIt's so stupid that they are calling the naive women a ho for clearly having no self esteem or positive role models. The ho in this case is an inexperienced or desperate woman. The empathy is non existent but I guess its written in the manner of what a man would call it. All the stuff in the first column is so true though, men do that! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 09:47 PM |
| 3 | I ain’t even mad this was in all caps and on Facebook.. TALK THAT TALK BABY🗣🗣🤣That's so ughh! But yeah ,the vibe feels insecere to me and comes off as a performance. Do that shit in silence because its your character dont shout it on social media for clout or kitty. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 06:42 PM |
| -8 | Lol nope.I don't recall you writing that he didn't want to risk travelling with an actual ring. You edited it and you left out details in your initial comment. So that's why I wrote what I wrote. You just added that part. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 06:39 PM |
| 2 | It’s a lie designated for men’s convenience. We just value a clean and visually appealing living space, but so do mentally stable men. Quit doing all housework for a week and watch them noticing and complaining.I'm sorry to hear that 😕 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 06:38 PM |
| 7 | Lol nope.But what hvm would not have diligently planned his proposal. I dont trust "spontaneous" proposals. Especially on vacation. Vacations are relaxing and you're seeing your so in a very carefree state so what, he saw her in her bikini , sipping on mimosas and thought to marry her? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 03:58 PM |
| 9 | I ain’t even mad this was in all caps and on Facebook.. TALK THAT TALK BABY🗣🗣🤣It's VERY telling that by the end of his little self righteous rant he puts everything back on the woman by saying " I promise you its nothing that woman wouldn't do for you" So what he's really saying is "keep her happy, provide and protect" IN EXCHANGE for her doing ANYTHING for you. I bet he expects on cue sex and emotional labour from her. I bet he feels he deserves it because he keeps her happy, provides and protects. Why don't you just do those things because it's the right thing to do. No… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 03:53 PM |
| 24 | Exactly! It's not about being more "selective"; I'm literally sorting through trash!It's so infuriating. Most men would never stand up to their male friends or bosses or male strangers. But they'll abuse their gf/wife with no problems, instead of speaking up they dump all their rage of the woman and make everything in his life her fault. Men know how dangerous other men are. So they dont bother. Yet they somehow can't fathom our being on guard at all times with them. If he doesn't defend you for small things, its a lost cause. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 03:38 PM |
| 17 | It’s a lie designated for men’s convenience. We just value a clean and visually appealing living space, but so do mentally stable men. Quit doing all housework for a week and watch them noticing and complaining.that's terrible, would he just live in filth if you weren't around? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 01:08 AM |
| 11 | It’s a lie designated for men’s convenience. We just value a clean and visually appealing living space, but so do mentally stable men. Quit doing all housework for a week and watch them noticing and complaining.I mean why did he build a house with the assumptions that you'd be it's housekeeper/maid? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 12:30 AM |
| 2 | Find yourself before you look for someone elseYes girl! Leave them in the dust! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 11:27 PM |
| 2 | Relationship Goals for real:Unfortunately, a lot of women think that what people present to them is the entire capacity of someones relationship. We don't know at all what goes on behind closed doors. There were many instances where I would be out walking with the ex demon and strangers would go "awww" or "what a nice couple" but if they only knew all of the abuse I went through. People need to mind their business and create their own personal standards and not look to other's relationships to live vicariously through or t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 11:03 PM |
| 29 | It’s a lie designated for men’s convenience. We just value a clean and visually appealing living space, but so do mentally stable men. Quit doing all housework for a week and watch them noticing and complaining.Ugh, this is my one sore spot with my husband. We recently moved into a large home* and it's too big for me to clean by myself. I hired a housekeeper for a biweekly deep clean. He said something in passing that this was "for me" and I jumped down his throat immediately. "I would be happy to clean half this house if you did the other half, but you don't. This housekeeper is for you." He hasn't mentioned it since. '* He built with his own hands to my exact specifications, so he's not lazy.He built… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 10:48 PM |
| 9 | Why do I need to give you my name?And those other two men are just aa bad for demonizing you for it. They can't fathom that you want to eat in peace. He even ignored their offer. Doesn't that just scream "leave me alone I can sit anywhere I want but I particularly WANT to harrass THIS woman and sit here with her NOT sit with you MEN" It's disgusting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 10:41 PM |
| 25 | Why do I need to give you my name?Guys planning to assault you may test your boundaries and see of the social contract of being "nice" will make you give in to them. That's so scary! I permanently ignore men or if they try to size me up I give them a glare or make eye contact so they know I see them and I keep it moving. If I ever have to be loud I will to draw attention. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 07:39 PM |
| 8 | Fuckboys think bare minimum acknowledgment that they’re FOS makes them a good person somehowYes. Block delete. He hoped you'd fall for it. So selfish! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 07:22 PM |
| 2 | Fuckboys think bare minimum acknowledgment that they’re FOS makes them a good person somehowPreach! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 07:19 PM |
| 23 | Fuckboys think bare minimum acknowledgment that they’re FOS makes them a good person somehowI'm glad your bright spirit haunted his dreams and infiltrated his dark mind. He couldn't face up to himself and how shit he was or admit it to you so he disposed you. Guilt is real and they'll try to run from it forever but its stronger than them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 07:19 PM |
| 22 | Fuckboys think bare minimum acknowledgment that they’re FOS makes them a good person somehowThe ex demon used to pull the same shit whenever I called him out on his fucking lies and manipulation. He'd say that I was making HIM feel bad. Or that HE didn't plan to have his day go south because of me. Him, him, him. Fuck how I felt and what I was trying to express. Pure evil. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 07:16 PM |
| 3 | Fuckboys think bare minimum acknowledgment that they’re FOS makes them a good person somehowPrecisely! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 07:13 PM |
| 3 | Make sure he smiles with his eyesTotally agree. The demon in question seemed chill and laid back but then his insecurities and lies started and never stopped. His anger frightened me and his annoyance made me feel like nothing. True evil. He always shitted on himself and second guessed himself so it wasnt long before he felt comfortable speaking disrespectful things to me about other women (his mother /other supplies/side chicks...etc) and then to me. He even told me an ex accused him of assault and admitted to kicking and shov… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 03:53 AM |
| 3 | Make sure he smiles with his eyeslol yes smizing from Tyra Banks. I was also involved with a master manipulator demon. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 12:35 AM |
| 7 | Make sure he smiles with his eyesit was such a chore trying to be myself around him. This x100. At first he was like you're so qUirKy then he resented me for it and I shrunk myself or felt self conscious expressing my true self. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 12:33 AM |
| 16 | Make sure he smiles with his eyesAint it just spooky!!!? I also had an uncomfortable feeling at first when looking into his eyes. I noticed from day one that he wouldn't make eye contact with me and then soon after, doing so made me feel uncomfortable with myself. Whenever I tried to look into his eyes he got really uncomfortable and looked away or he'd give me a glaring stare with annoyance in his eyes which made me THAT much more uncomfortable. Oftentimes I looked into his eyes while he avoided mine with the hopes that he'd l… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/20 09:01 PM |
| 21 | Make sure he smiles with his eyesDing ding ding! The demon I was involved with only smiled with his eyes when I or anyone was praising him. It was smug and with only in favor of himself. Other than that he NEVER smiled with his eyes. Just a smile on his face with empty/distant/bored/annoyed eyes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/20 08:51 PM |
| 9 | Make sure he smiles with his eyesYes, just pay attention to the eyes themselves. Are they empty or endearing are they smug or bored or affectionate. Even if he's smiling with his eyes they can look demonic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/20 08:44 PM |
| 4 | Are PAs destined to cheat?What's a PA? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/20 08:09 PM |
| 15 | I asked the universe to rid me of everything that doesn't serve me. All I did was enforce boundaries, and it was obvious to me who really respected me, and who did not.Exactly. I just stay silent, cut the convo short and/walk away. No arguing, no dwelling, just peace out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/20 06:36 PM |
| 48 | I asked the universe to rid me of everything that doesn't serve me. All I did was enforce boundaries, and it was obvious to me who really respected me, and who did not.And the easier it is to walk away from the bullshit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/20 03:19 PM |
| 14 | Vetting/re-evaluating friendships makes sure that you have HV people in all aspect of your life.Ewww why are they so nosey? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/20 03:00 PM |
| 2 | how do you find self-love? you dig. you isolate and you ache - ache from being lonely and ache from not feeling enough. you heal. you accept, you look in the mirror and see the woman you always knew you could be if you'd just tried a little harder.Same! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/20 05:25 AM |
| 5 | Always block them so they don’t even get the chance to pop back up.they literally have no shame and are so conniving. Block! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/20 05:19 AM |
| 19 | OMG look who bought me flowers! It's me because I'm my favorite person and I love me so much.Those posts are so exhausting. Not only are they one on top of the other but these women are bragging about men who aren't their husbands sending flowers to their homes. Like, why does that stranger have your home address!? Not cute! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/20 04:56 AM |
| 4 | OMG look who bought me flowers! It's me because I'm my favorite person and I love me so much.Say it louder for those in the back!!!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/20 04:54 AM |
| 14 | Had a first date that a friend arranged for me and this guy not only was very nice and put together but he changed a stranger’s tire who got a flat on their way into the parking lot!That's good that he didn't care about his shoes getting messed up. He can get some new ones for your next date. Keep an eye out that he continues this behavior and don't let this instance of him stepping up especially on a first date derail your mind frame. Hope he keeps it up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 12:06 AM |
| 20 | Had a first date that a friend arranged for me and this guy not only was very nice and put together but he changed a stranger’s tire who got a flat on their way into the parking lot!Yesss! Step up and be useful/helpful! That's really good. I hope it works out! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/20 11:06 PM |
| 24 | Possible red flag: men referring to accomplishments as "sexy"Its totally a neg. Instead of saying something like "wow I really admire your ambition/achievements" he'll say "it's sexy that you know so much/accomplished so much" Because saying it's sexy removes responsibility on his end to admit to himself and to you that you are more advanced than him in the field/subject/interest while simultaneously silencing you to speak further about it. Instead of showing interest in your accomplishments which would make you go on naturally to continue in conversation… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/20 08:13 PM |
| 7 | The Queen Energy of this!! Manifesting this all 2020!Yesss | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/20 04:29 AM |
| 3 | "It wasn't my intention"Preach!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/20 02:30 AM |
| 1 | "It wasn't my intention"Perfectly worded. I experienced the same. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/20 02:29 AM |
| 2 | "It wasn't my intention"Sounds like the narc ex demon. Run. He isn't taking responsibility. He'll continue to purposefully "not intend" to do so much more to you and it'll harm you psychologically. It already is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/20 02:27 AM |
| 2 | Never let a LVM know that you are angry with him. Men simply don't fear female anger in the same way that women fear male anger. In fact, men seem to actively enjoy it.Exactly. It didn't matter that our day was ruined! They just couldn't be bothered to care. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/20 06:07 PM |
| 3 | Never let a LVM know that you are angry with him. Men simply don't fear female anger in the same way that women fear male anger. In fact, men seem to actively enjoy it.Yes! It's psychologically taxing too! Like how can someone purposefully put fear in your heart to silence you before you can even say anything? Evil! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/20 06:06 PM |
| 24 | Never let a LVM know that you are angry with him. Men simply don't fear female anger in the same way that women fear male anger. In fact, men seem to actively enjoy it.Same. Every single time we argued it was because I pointed out something that he did or said that I didn't like. He shamed me into thinking I was overly sensitive and always put on such a cold front that made me fearful to even bring any fault up. He'd always say I ruined his day. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/20 05:55 AM |
| 6 | Should I be concerned? It was a family photo and this is his little brother. (Ignore the red face I did that)This is not a good thing! I don't care that its his sibling. My siblings have done terrible things to me but in photos I just have a neutral face or pose and smile. This is the difference between a sane rational person and a possibly disordered irrational person. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 10:11 AM |
| 10 | Don't learn the hard way, ladies. 🤦🏻♀️Same! I was constantly googling and disvovered everything about him was grade F NARC! pure evil! At first I rationalized it by saying to myself well he doesn't do this or that. Or I tried to convince myself that he was hurt from his past and just needed time. I'm so grateful that I finally accepted the truth and left him. I'm healing and KNOW so much better now! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 09:47 AM |
| 19 | A quick reminder...Period! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/20 09:53 PM |
| 16 | notice the double standardPrecisely!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/20 09:52 PM |
| 3 | I want to have good sex at least once in my life.The ex was def a narc to a T. He was always dogging on women but prasing up men. I could tell he was pornsick too. He had a thing for asses/butts on women. Everything he wanted from women was from behind. Never wanted to look into eyes. Very secretive. Very concerned with what others thought. He'd be covert in public but super OVERT and a whiny baby in private about what people may think or say about him. If the transgender didn't disclose that, its rape. Guys know a womans body from a man's but… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/20 06:48 PM |
| 2 | Man cheats on woman, publishes it in a pathetic attempt to get her back & scrotes in the comments going “You REAL for that bro! Get her back!” If it was the other way around, theyd call her a hoe & the man a simp. double standards on display right here, folks.Precisely! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/20 03:53 PM |
| 21 | This is emotionally manipulative and LVM are passing it off as advice. You do NOT have to be available 24/7! You do NOT have to text back right away! If a man uses manipulative tactics on you, no matter how silly or trivial it may seem, DUMP HIM!This is so disgusting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 11:52 PM |
| 3 | If this isn't HV I don't know what is (brag post)This sounds like a bit MUCH!!! I'd be very careful with this man! Please refrain from having men round your home/knowing where you live. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 11:33 PM |
| 3 | Not like other black girlsLmfaooo! That's hilarious. But op def block and delete period. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 11:09 PM |
| 11 | Not like other black girlsTHIS! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 10:52 PM |
| 8 | Not like other black girls(Women) ghosting is not about it being one's "style". Having boundaries is your right. It is your self-respect. Don't be coy or polite when it comes to your comfort. Don't fall into that trap queen. He's racist trash. What do you owe him? Nothing! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 10:51 PM |
| 11 | I want to have good sex at least once in my life.I suspected the same of the ex demon. He even joked about how he wouldn't mind being a man's bottom on at least two occasions. He hated women and I'm pretty sure he wanted to have sex with a man so he could choke, berate and give it to him hard and rough and have it be this beastly manly romp and have that done to him. He was always weird around gay men. Either he tried to act woke or he'd heavily make it clear he was straight. On our first meeting he messaged me to tell me he was wearing woman'… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 09:55 PM |
| 287 | This is sickeningWowwwwww!!!!!!!!!!! Smhhhh so low! Glad she knows that he thinks her carrying a child and giving birth is just "some bullshit" now sje can dump him! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 12:26 PM |
| 2 | In your experience do most men drink beer/alcohol like its water?That is my exact thought! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 12:07 PM |
| 15 | When you block him while he's still typing.Lmfao yessss!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 04:13 AM |
| 119 | Tik Tok trend goes wrong when wife exposes LVM husbandAll he could say to that was a sarcastic "damn". He seems to be amused because she's letting him get away with it. He wont do better because she's shown him its ok by staying with him. It doesn't help that based on the photo and username it seems they have some sort of joint or couple account. Which means a large part of their identity and daily life is posted on social media and posed as perfect. That's honestly just sad. She seems so unhappy and frustrated. He has a bangmaid and a legacy child… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 03:39 AM |
| 2 | In your experience do most men drink beer/alcohol like its water?Very interesting! Thank you for your in depth prose. I've wondered about race relations as Scandinavia seems very white. I knew a Brazilian-brit woman in the past who was obsesed with Scandanavia and Spain. She was well travelled and spoke highly of those places but she was also very holier than thou. I've always wanted to visit there. I wondered about the language too. Thanks for your insights. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 12:57 AM |
| 2 | In your experience do most men drink beer/alcohol like its water?How did you enjoy Scandinavia generally? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/20 11:26 PM |
| 3 | In your experience do most men drink beer/alcohol like its water?I'm curious? Was this either Denmark or Sweden? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/20 11:08 PM |
| 47 | If you can’t tell people what he didThis is SO true! I never told anyone all of the shit that went down with the ex demon. All of it is so ridiculous and demeaning that if I told someone that truly cares about me even just one thing in depth they'd be angry and say "you dumped him after that right?" to which I'd have hundreds more shockers to follow. I am forever thankful and grateful that I did finally find and harbor the strength to dump him for good and see my worth/wake up! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/20 02:40 AM |
| 32 | A man who asks you out exhibits courage, the ability to take risks, and sacrificing his ego with possible rejection. Do not ask any man out.Good luck! Awww I love that the dog was like yeah Im gonna chill with her! Keep us posted. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/20 02:35 AM |
| 46 | “Why dont you try online dating?” The guys on dating appsLMFAOOOOO! To think that I used to think this type of man was HAWT STUFF! He needs a shower and a personality. Bet he likes craft beer and fixed gear bicycles. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/20 11:10 PM |
| 22 | MY fiance “jokingly” said he wants to marry MY bestfriendHaaaa brilliant mate! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/20 04:20 AM |
| 2 | Men who ride motorcyclesI hope your sister is okay now, I literally gasped! Lol at least you realized your sexuality! Do you find FDS useful for dating women? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/20 04:15 AM |
| 3 | Men who ride motorcyclesGuys who are into cars and know a lot about them, but don't race (and have other hobbies!!) I wouldn't mind that either. I think its cool and "traditionally manly" for a guy to know things like that too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/20 04:13 AM |
| 2 | Men who ride motorcyclesHe said no, then asked me if I thought it was hot he had one. What a loser!! a few weeks later, I lost my keys in his couch, and found them next to another girls underwear. Oh myyy ! I'm so sorry that happened, that must've been devastating! I'm so glad you're safe and away from that creep! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/20 04:11 AM |
| 3 | Men who ride motorcyclesYES totally! Its not girls or womens fault that being subservient is slow fed to uscfrom birth and that mixed with toxic parenting/environments can create very low self esteem in women thus the pick me's. We've all been there or witnessed it first hand and we are all doing better! We all want to be better. Im glad that you got introduced to some cool things but still remained true to yourself! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/20 12:39 AM |
| 3 | Men who ride motorcyclesLmaoooo SAMEEEEE. MY SENTIMENTS EXACTLY!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/20 12:35 AM |
| 2 | Men who ride motorcyclesHa!!!! That sounds horrible. I could see that being true! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/20 12:34 AM |
| 3 | Men who ride motorcyclesYikes!!! I'm glad you're out of that crowd now. Did you and your sister ride too? Or were you just "edgy" and "hanging with the bros"? I figured its all an ego boost for them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/20 12:03 AM |
| 9 | Men who ride motorcyclesUghhh I hear you! That's so annoying eh? I was quite the boyish girl growing up and liked skateboarding and guitar too but I always felt I had to prove myself to the girls interested in it and even more the guys too. I never played but admired it. I can be biased and slightly jaded by the experiences I've had with girls and then women as an adult who would compete with other women and be pick mes or just bullies instead of helping. But I know there are women who care about hobbies like those gen… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/20 11:58 PM |
| 11 | Men who ride motorcyclesI knew someone who was interested in bikes but she had low self esteem and was trying really hard to impress men. I wish there were more women oriented spaces for hobbies that are typically seen as male-dominated. I've seen people do things they like well it start off that way and then it ends up being them trying to impress a guy with it or the guy ruining it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/20 09:29 PM |
| 8 | Men who ride motorcyclesYou're assuming that I don't think women have their own interests outside of men based on a question that I asked someone else. I specifically asked a woman who is a part of motorbike culture a question pertaining to it. She answered, period. Thats why I asked her. You trying to gatekeep my question is absurd, you don't have to agree with me yet you don't even know what you're disagreeing with me about? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/20 09:19 PM |
| 4 | Men who ride motorcyclesI know people who say similiar sentiments about it. I think some classic cars are beautiful and I'm looking forward to owning a few really cool modern cars. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/20 09:13 PM |
| 3 | Men who ride motorcyclesI know that, notice how the question was not directed at you? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/20 09:09 PM |
| 2 | Men who ride motorcyclesLol yikes! I totally understand it coming with the territory of your environment! I know that there are women who just grew up with it and naturally like it obviously. At least you have a strong sense of self and know that you like it for yourself and aren't pandering to men for their approval. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/20 09:08 PM |
| 7 | Men who ride motorcyclesYes all of the above just screams "look at me!!! please give me attention!!!!" And if a woman even accidentally look they harrass/cat call you because they think you're interested in them and want a three way with you and their car. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/20 09:01 PM |
| 5 | Men who ride motorcyclesI always thought that these guys must secretly have relations with these motored vehicles because they would never wash their wives/gf's hair or wash her feet and paint her toe nails/ buy her beautiful jewelry or other lavish or thoughtful gifts to adorn her with or show actual admiration for. BUT they hand wax/wash/buff their cars/bikes, give them paint jobs/ put security measures up so no one steals it/harms it. Are you protecting and adoring your lady though?????? It's sick! I'm so happy to h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/20 08:59 PM |
| 8 | Some clownery I found in the wild on Insta. If you were in this situation, would you stay or not?But he's wearing a wedding band. Ughhh I hope she didnt buy it for him! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/20 08:53 PM |
| 12 | Men who ride motorcyclesI'm sorry for your loss! Every time I see a man on a motorcycle my mind goes straight to mortality. Seems like such a foolish thing to do. Its a deal breaker for me too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/20 08:52 PM |
| 5 | Men who ride motorcyclesI totally agree! I think its pretty indicative of mental instability of some sort too. Living life in the edge everyday is not normal. I feel its also for their egos. They want to be stared at when they speed past. Its pathetic. Get a life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/20 08:51 PM |
| 2 | Men who ride motorcyclesThe noise infuriates me! I wish they were illegal! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/20 08:49 PM |
| 3 | Men who ride motorcyclesThose still legitimately exist (motorcycle gangs)? That's so insane! Am I wrong to assume that the majority of dirt bike women are pick mes who want to appear edgy to men? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/20 08:48 PM |
| 11 | Men who ride motorcyclesHe got that debt just so he could "be cool" and ride a motorcycle? What a mess! It's literally a never fail when I see a guy walk into a store or some place with a helmet it his hand the looks on these men's faces is always "yeah, Im the cool and/or hot motorcycle guy, ask me anything about my bike and me riding it" like oh please. And when they leave they speed off loudly so fucking annoying. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/20 08:46 PM |
| 15 | Some clownery I found in the wild on Insta. If you were in this situation, would you stay or not?Wow never heard of that term! That's sad! No woman should accept that. They are letting men get away with so much horribleness! I wonder if the moms get along... I mean what could they even talk about? Just yikes! I hope the two half sisters can have a bond and grow up to be true queens! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/20 07:12 PM |
| 49 | Some clownery I found in the wild on Insta. If you were in this situation, would you stay or not?What a mess!!! And what will the mothers say to their daughters about their sisterhood? This should not be normalized or accepted. Only thing good to come from this are the two beautiful baby girls! Hopefully the moms wake up and teach their daughters differently! Break the cycle. Note: it's strange that he's keeping a neutral/furrowed brow face (does his cheating make him feel like a tough man? Probably) while his wife is big smiling in BOTH photos! The wife also doesn't seem to be wearing her … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/20 06:04 PM |
| 7 | My LV Ex sent my mother a letterHe is hoovering you through your mother. He will use anyone or anything to gain access back into your life. He didn't have some sort of aha moment, he just wants to rule you because he thinks he owns you. According to him , anyone he's dated is partial property, that's why he wouldn't shut up about his ex. He's trying to wear you down and let down your guard to give in to him. He is trying to convince you that your NO can and should be changed! It's abusive and you must ignore it! Tell your moth… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/20 05:23 PM |
| 8 | Dude shames her gf for “embarassing” him while giving birth to their child, then ghastlights her and denies everything 🤢I'm in disbelief!!! Wtffff! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/20 05:16 PM |
| 4 | For people who’s in a relationship or married, is sleepover at opposite gender friends house okay?Not normal! He is either cheating, feeling out the other women to eventually cheat or replace you with or is manipulating and using them. Likely all of the above. The NVM ex used to do this. He slept over multiple women's "friends" houses for the weekend or more and had several more that he hung out with and wouldn't make the effort to see me! One of them even cooked for him , another bought him underwear. Like, how in denial was I? He's playing you! And trying to convince you to accept it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/20 03:01 PM |
| 6 | Women can’t even be left alone when taking remote exams .....Smh! That is sick! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/20 02:51 PM |
| 35 | Joking about killing your wifeThat's frightening!!! If he does that in public who knows what he says to her in private. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/20 03:16 AM |
| 37 | Anna Kendrick befriends a sentient feminist sex doll in Quibi's bonkers 'Dummy' trailerWtf is this shit? Is she supposed to be not like other girls by doing this shit? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/20 12:38 AM |
| 104 | Florence Pugh (pic 1), 24, is dating Zach Braff (pic 2), 45. Pic 3 is of her dad and I have questions.That's very scary and concerning! He is her dad's fucking twin!! There's no way no one pointed this out to her or that she doesn't see the blatant similarity in their looks! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/20 12:37 AM |
| 3 | He's already threatening to lose interest?!Always a dude called Mark | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/20 12:33 AM |
| 23 | He's already threatening to lose interest?!Southern gentleman dont refer to themselves as southern gentleman! They just are. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/20 12:32 AM |
| 15 | What do we think about burping and farting?Not unless it was because of eating something that didn't agree with him or accidentally. If he's farting so grotesquely in front of you on purpose he'll take it further in other ways because you let him disrespect you. Yes, I'm counting purposefully farting as disrespect. It's disturbing to do such a thing and literally hope to get a reaction from your spouse that will in most cases be an upsetting one. Guys that do that in a dudebro way as if its funny are also garbage. The NVM narc demon ex w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/20 04:54 AM |
| 2 | "What do you find annoying about me?"Yes, the time I took to heal from other things before I met the demon was 1 year and I knew I needed at least 1 year again to heal from what went down with him as well. Ironically covid happened and well I'm forced inside anyway so it didn't disrupt too much from what I had already planned for myself. I'm excited for all of the new opportunities now that I got rid of all that baggage! You'll be better at dating with your newfound standards! Don't settle for less! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/20 02:01 AM |
| 9 | FREEEEEEEEEFucking YAYYYY! LEVEL UPPPP!!! Congratulations! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/20 01:22 AM |
| 1 | "What do you find annoying about me?"Now my standards are so high and I am so firmly rooted in them! I'm taking a year off from dating and I'm looking forward to comfortably getting back out there next year! I'm really solidifying my lifestyle and hobbies right now and it feels so good! I could never talk about my interests with the NVM narc ex. And now I've gained two more than I had when I was with him. Level up and shoot for the stars! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/20 12:22 AM |
| 2 | "What do you find annoying about me?"Oh my God yes my ex did this 100%. When I tried to break up with him he would say he didn't get it and disagree with my reasoning, like it didn't even matter he just dismissed my concerns as "just little things that don't matter". Well they matter to me dickhead. He couldn't wrap his tiny little brain around the fact that I had a different opinion than him about our relationship. Did we date the same demon!? Same! And all the time would basically call me stupid, not listen to my advice but when … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/20 09:15 PM |
| 3 | Men know immediately with who they gonna marryWtf! Must be bad Photoshop because those are two man hands! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/20 07:13 PM |
| 10 | Men know immediately with who they gonna marrySo true lol what a dumbass! This can't be the first time he's shown his ass but their still getting married. 😖 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/20 07:04 PM |
| 6 | Men know immediately with who they gonna marryI'm SO glad you're healing now! The ex narc demon did the same to me. He'd flaunt a few of his woman "friends" in my face and was obviously pining after this one in particular. He'd meet up with women all the time and tell me how great they were. He breadcrumbed me for months after I tried breaking up with him and he wouldn't accept it. I bet he was in the process of getting closer to that girl, maybe she was newly single who knows! I cut my losses and his dead weight and never looked back. I kn… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/20 07:03 PM |
| 2 | "What do you find annoying about me?"Thank you 💙 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/20 06:33 PM |
| 15 | For all you former trauma bonders! 🙋♀️🤦♀️It looks performative too! I bet he's a feminist and oh look he's wearing a pink shirt because rEAl mEn WeAr PinK and he's not feeding into toxic masculinity! Fucking cargo skinny jeans and beard. He's probably a gentrifier in some obscure town but "shops local so its okay". He makes these woke balloon messages and hopes people will fawn over him and tell him how commendable it is of him. Kindly, fuck off dude! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/20 06:31 PM |
| 29 | For all you former trauma bonders! 🙋♀️🤦♀️This looks like some faux woke hipster bs.not surprised! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/20 06:21 PM |
| 3 | "What do you find annoying about me?"Yes , they are so predictable! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/20 05:40 PM |
| 4 | "What do you find annoying about me?"Yes, I am totally aware of how much a tiny insignificant speck that demon was and how the shell of a person that he presented was totally made up. He was just comprised of anger and evil. He made sure to show me how much better than him I was by trying to tear apart my entire essence. If he could have accomplished that he would have felt so grand. I questioned everything from the beginning but it was my first relationship and I had nothing to compare it to. Luckily, I dumped the demon and I am h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/20 05:39 PM |
| 2 | Flowers sent to my house even though he was seeing me later that day.No idea but it's just some caution. It's dangerous to give out such info to men you barely know. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/20 07:29 PM |
| 12 | Toxic ex sent me a “friendly” email to try to get in touch with me again. Don’t fall for it!The demon ex pulled this same crap. It was towards the end of our relationship before I dumped him for good. He refused to let me break up with him but wouldn't break up with me. It was clear he was stringing me along and probably thought he could do better or soon get with one his many (woman) friends after devaluing me for so long. I told him we should go on a break and that I didn't want to speak to him during that time and he tried his hardest to convince me that I should still talk to him a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/20 06:19 PM |
| 4 | Flowers sent to my house even though he was seeing me later that day.Is this man your bf? Or are you dating? I caution you to not be giving out your home or work address to a guy. Let a person earn your trust before sharing such sensitive information. Be careful. Let him give you flowers in person. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/20 10:50 AM |
| 3 | I think we have all dated one of theseThank you! I'm healing too! One day at a time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/20 10:31 AM |
| 11 | I think we have all dated one of thesewhy are you with me if you see me in such a negative light?”. The demon said this to me multiple times after I called him out on his shit. "Why even be with me if you think so badly of me?" That's their way of having you question yourself and give them praise so you can start to list the "good things" about them! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/20 10:30 AM |
| 39 | The Power of “So What?”I love it and I've done this sort of phrasing to myself to really force myself to put myself first. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/20 11:06 PM |
| 22 | i’m so glad this gave men another reason to generalize women and let them think they can do no wrong90% of men go running on dating apps or start hanging out at night life spots when they're seperated from their wives. Or if they were extra trash they make their side piece public as their new gf under the guise that they "just recently met." So, the fact that she was with another/other men during their seperatiom should not be shamed. I didn't realize their was a age difference that large between her and the guy though. I assumed he was in his 30's based on a video still I caught a glimpse of.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/20 07:55 AM |
| 4 | You will lose people along the wayLoved reading this comment! 💙 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/20 09:01 PM |
| 1 | Cut off “friend with benefits” of three years five months ago and he contacted me again - what’s his motive?It really is!!! I don't believe in friendship between men + women and the thought of fwb sounds so gross to me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/20 08:50 PM |
| 7 | Cut off “friend with benefits” of three years five months ago and he contacted me again - what’s his motive?caught feelings like how can you npt if you're willingly having sex with someone you trust and have a degree of care for. That whole line is meant to shame woman and make women robotic sex dolls. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/20 04:57 PM |
| 13 | We matched and he messaged me within 10 seconds. He really thought he ✨did something✨ herecrusty phallus!! HA!!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/20 04:01 AM |
| 2 | Just a weekly reminder to drop your toxic friends. They're draining your sanity and your time.your life , circumstances and experiences are yours and mine are mine. I was not being shitty and I will not be shamed by you into thinking that I was. Your stance isn't going to shame or sway me. Were you there for the 12 year friendship I had with her? Were you walking in my shoes? The answer is no. So, do not place your life experiences and attitudes on to me. It just won't work, it's a losing game. Nice try though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/20 06:58 PM |
| 5 | Just a weekly reminder to drop your toxic friends. They're draining your sanity and your time.okay? good for you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/20 06:54 PM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered July 7 2020There is no but. The other stuff doesn't even matter anymore. He's shown you who he is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/20 05:58 PM |
| 2 | Just a weekly reminder to drop your toxic friends. They're draining your sanity and your time.True words spoken! 💙 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/20 05:32 PM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered July 7 2020He told you that!??? RUN! He thinks he's a sure win for life with the ladies. Why commit or if committed why stay faithful if he knows he'll be a looker "forever." Men who know they are attractive to this level are dangerous! They are extremely pompous in a humble brag sort of way if not overly conceited. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/20 05:22 PM |
| 8 | Just a weekly reminder to drop your toxic friends. They're draining your sanity and your time.Exactly!!!! I was in unhappy friendships for years until I realized it was simple to just dump these women or ghost them. No use in wasting my energy when it can be put to much more satisfying things and when my time can be open to letting more deserving people into my life! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/20 04:56 PM |
| 28 | Pre-FDS me would have been chasing this loser LOL “ur really weird”What a dumbass! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/20 04:39 PM |
| 15 | Just a weekly reminder to drop your toxic friends. They're draining your sanity and your time.The day I realized that I did not HAVE to keep being her friend just because we knew each other a long time was a great day for me. Its the best feeling isn't it? I realized that many times over the past few years and its been great! I don't HAVE to hear about all the drama and negativity! I can't believe I at one point felt obligated to do so when it was never reciprocated! Good for you for realizing your worth! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/20 04:31 PM |
| 6 | Just a weekly reminder to drop your toxic friends. They're draining your sanity and your time.Right! I really went all out for those ladies. I did so much and got not even half of it back from them. The "friend" in question that embarassed me I had know for about 12 years at that point. I realized that I'm a giver, a person who likes to help but also know now that not everyone deserves it. That includes girlfriends. I would never embarrass a friend in need and if I had an issue I would bring it up politely in private. Thankfully, I dumped that friend several years ago and realized I didn… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/20 04:21 PM |
| 2 | Just a weekly reminder to drop your toxic friends. They're draining your sanity and your time.Its a shame you tried to shame me for relying on a friend. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/20 04:11 PM |
| 13 | Just a weekly reminder to drop your toxic friends. They're draining your sanity and your time.Because its something that we did for each other? There were times when she or any of my other friends didn't have enough and I said "don't worry I got it". It was always something that was reciprocated between us and it wasn't a habitual thing on either part. If one of my friends was short I'd cover them and they me. Simple as that. In my experience my girlfriends have always done that for me, and I for them if anyone expressed being tight on money it was a no brainer to spot them or them me. I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/20 03:26 PM |
| 7 | He thought I would take the last line as a complimentGood for you for recognizing this!!!! What a pos! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/20 02:07 PM |
| 15 | Just a weekly reminder to drop your toxic friends. They're draining your sanity and your time.It took me a very long time to realize this too! I idealized damn near all of my former close girlfriends. But the majority of them just either unloaded their problems on me or couldn't understand that I didn't have the means to hang out whenever they asked. One former friend who knew I was in between jobs invited me out to lunch one afternoon, I only had enough to get the the restaurant and when it came time to pay I told her I didn't have enough and that I assumed she was going to cover me bec… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/20 01:56 PM |
| 7 | 'He chooses to be home'Spot on!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/20 01:38 AM |
| 4 | 'He chooses to be home'Exactlyyy | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/20 01:38 AM |
| 21 | Glad to be this man’s second choice. We went on a date back in October. This virus is bringing out the desperation in menWtf what a creep! Glad you yelled at him and scared him off! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/20 01:30 AM |
| 31 | Glad to be this man’s second choice. We went on a date back in October. This virus is bringing out the desperation in menLmaoooo what a joke! You're a leftover to him , he hopes you're desperate so he can get his dick wet. Funny he explained in detail. He's single now, like you were just waiting for that moment huh!? Next! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/20 01:29 AM |
| 7 | Never refer to yourself as 'wifey' or 'wife' even in a joking manner especially if you want marriage.So glad you're going to be away from that dirtbag soon! You'll enjoy your freedom! You learned and now know what not to do! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/20 02:16 PM |
| 3 | Pet Peeve: Men who need to be competitive and condescending if you have the same hobby/interest/passion for a cause, etc. as them are annoying as hellWhat a fucking nightmare of a man! I'm so glad you're out of that relationshit. One should never feel uneasy around a SO or feel like you must prove yourself. Fuck that! I hope you can still enjoy those activities! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/20 12:54 AM |
| 18 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered July 7 2020Closing in on a year since I dumped the LVM narc ex for good! To think that around this time last year I was holding on to breadcrumbs from a demoan who wouldn't accept my wanting to breakup so I proposed a break. He called me very frequently during this break to "see how I was doing" yet at the end of the conversation we were talking about his issues with his family and his shitty hobbies and job and I was playing therapist even during a break. I reflect on that and so many other shitty things … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/20 06:56 PM |
| 5 | You can get more money and respect as a prostitute 🙄Rightttt?! I know and I look forward to the day thay happens for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/20 04:21 AM |
| 14 | You can get more money and respect as a prostitute 🙄I got a tote bag that his job gave him for free. Like, literally a cheap tote that had the name/logo of the company on it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/20 12:50 AM |
| 3 | They want us to fee sorry for them and take them back 😒Is santeria the same as karma? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/20 12:46 AM |
| 9 | They want us to fee sorry for them and take them back 😒The nex did the same except none of his family was involved. I foolishly took him back, things got so much worse after that and I dumped him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/20 12:46 AM |
| 15 | Trying to put FDS into practice. Critique me, ladies!We should "meet up" NEXT! he should be using the word date. Meetup is for activities with friends or colleagues. "How about tonight" even worse. He wants you to drop everything for him or to see how desperate you are. NEXXXXTT! "Thursday might be possible" he'll text early Thursday morning saying he can't make it. Block and delete. Please. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/20 04:54 PM |
| 5 | Look out girls.. I found a rare one! 🤔This!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/07/20 06:24 AM |
| 5 | A degree is never going to get up and leave you one day, queens.Good for you!!!! 💅👑 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/07/20 11:23 PM |
| 2 | That’s gonna be a no from meThis is the damn truth!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/07/20 11:19 PM |
| 2 | Men aggressively "flirting" read harrasing in public during these timesI totally agree! They're climbimg up the walls now, such desperate beings! I was dressed really nice that day and he took his chance lol. But yes, being dressed up as opposed to just hanging out lounge clothing is better all around even for just meeting a potential employer or something.you never know where you'll meet someone employer, new friend or potential date...etc. The more effort the better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/06/20 11:22 PM |
| 3 | Men aggressively "flirting" read harrasing in public during these timesExactly!!! I'm the same way! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/20 08:59 PM |
| 6 | Men aggressively "flirting" read harrasing in public during these timesLol thanks! Yes, please keep in mind not to react. Go into ignore mode and focus on everything but them! When he said the bait line. It registered as a psychopathic thing to say but it wasnt until I played the whole thing over in my head when I got home after eating and showering did I respond lol. I said out loud "what the actual fuck, psychopath" and laughed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/20 07:51 PM |
| 4 | Men aggressively "flirting" read harrasing in public during these timesAwww that's sweet! I'm sorry for your loss. I consider myself to be witty too and sharing that with someone deserving would be so much fun, I look forward to that day. I'm glad you had the opportunity to experience that! 💜 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/20 06:26 PM |
| 6 | Men aggressively "flirting" read harrasing in public during these timesYes, their true character comes out very quickly!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/20 05:59 PM |
| 10 | Men aggressively "flirting" read harrasing in public during these timesRight! So that I could scoff and ask why or so that I could ask him what does he mean and let him feel he's won. These evil men thrive on negativity too, you're right. Plus, had I answered he most likely would have ignored me to "gain the upperhand" of the interaction. It's not much different of stories I've read where a woman dumps a loser man, takes him back and then he revenge dumps her. Its a game to many men. Even their "flirting". It's atrocious. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/20 05:48 PM |
| 6 | Men aggressively "flirting" read harrasing in public during these timesYes, literally barked smh! Lmao that's a good one!!! At that point I already erased them from existence in my brain though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/20 05:35 PM |
| 7 | Men aggressively "flirting" read harrasing in public during these timesHe was trying really HARD too! Lmao isnt it though? Like Im gorgeous but he doesn't know that! The desperation reeked! Plus its 2nd nature to have a mask on your person by now whether on your face or in your purse/pocket. That man was bas news. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/20 05:31 PM |
| 15 | Men aggressively "flirting" read harrasing in public during these timesHe made a damn fool of himself! He couldn't stand it either! I totally agree, rejection is a part of life. I stand my ground and literally have my ignore game on lock. So much to the point that several years ago, i walked past a group of men. They began cat calling me and I ignored them. Then as soon as I walked by one of them barked really loudly like a dog (how fitting) and I didn't even flinch. All his friends laughed at him and they left me alone. Little phases me now, if anything. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/20 04:42 PM |
| 3 | Update: Boyfriend Checking Out Other Women/ MEN AIN’T SH*TDump him. Be free! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/06/20 04:13 PM |
| 3 | One of my old friends shared this on facebook and tagged her husband... can't imagine 1. knowing anyone this irresponsible 2. thinking that this is cute/funny or 3. that she'd actually air her problems with him publicly like this......I'm so sorry you're going through this! I've witness the same behavior first hand and I know just how infuriating it is! Im so glad you'll be done with him soon! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/20 12:24 AM |
| 76 | One of my old friends shared this on facebook and tagged her husband... can't imagine 1. knowing anyone this irresponsible 2. thinking that this is cute/funny or 3. that she'd actually air her problems with him publicly like this......And leaving pubes on the toilet seat and sprinkles of piss on the floor. Oh and facial hair in and around the sink from grooming. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/20 02:48 AM |
| 31 | Stay single, sisSame!!! That's a good way to put it. I'm going to keep this in mind when Im doing my homework from now on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/20 05:20 AM |
| 57 | Stay single, sisSeriously!!!! I was reflecting on the damn near two years I spent bending over backwards for the ex demon. I realize damn near everything I did for him was because I wanted it done for me, that mixed with me being a romantic. I am leveling up so much right now! I know exactly what I want now and am working towards it! In just a years time I will be so much more excelled than I was when I was with him. I had no plans for myself when I was with him. I was just coasting and catering to him. Now, I … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/20 05:18 AM |
| 15 | I let my cheating ex text me because it’s entertaining and doesn’t make me feel emotional or angry anymore. He doesn’t care about me enough to have basic respect lol, he just misses what I did for him when he was sick.Do you boo. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/20 08:27 PM |
| 8 | I let my cheating ex text me because it’s entertaining and doesn’t make me feel emotional or angry anymore. He doesn’t care about me enough to have basic respect lol, he just misses what I did for him when he was sick.I would definitely advise you to BLOCK him though and don't put so much of your energy into astrology. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/20 08:25 PM |
| 175 | I let my cheating ex text me because it’s entertaining and doesn’t make me feel emotional or angry anymore. He doesn’t care about me enough to have basic respect lol, he just misses what I did for him when he was sick.He wants you to be his mommy again. Notice how none of what he says considers your feelings or happiness? Just I, ME, MY. At least he accurately referred to himself as useless. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/20 08:19 PM |
| 7 | Someone I briefly dated two years ago called me in the middle of the night to tell me he was about to take his own life.Change your telephone number asap. He will keep harassing you like this. Keep a record of it too! Feel what you feel as much as you can and continue taking charge of your life! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/20 07:09 AM |
| 4 | I wonder if I would have grown out of my pickmeisha phase without having been severely hurtThis is worded so perfectly! I've been trying to put this exact sentiment into words when reflecting on the relationship I had with ex demon and how confident I was before meeting him but how I obviously didn't love myself because once the switch happened in my mind and I thought to myself " wait, what the FUCK am I doing?! I have so much to accomplish and I deserve better, SO MUCH BETTER, the best actually" it was a no brainer to just peace out! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/20 08:34 PM |
| 14 | The reality of OLD for most men lmaoLmaooo the rejects bunch is accurate! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/20 05:08 PM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered June 8 2020Happy birthday | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/20 05:00 PM |
| 5 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered June 8 2020Congratulations! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/20 08:02 PM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered June 8 2020Love that Shameika song from the album. Its a really good album. You can tell she put a lot of work into it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/20 08:01 PM |
| 7 | Forgot my makeup bag at my boyfriend’s place and I get this response. We’ve been dating for 4 months. Definitely ended things with him. *shrug*Right I wouldn't want to see his ugly face after speaking to me that way either. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/20 04:41 AM |
| 19 | Forgot my makeup bag at my boyfriend’s place and I get this response. We’ve been dating for 4 months. Definitely ended things with him. *shrug*"I have to walk on eggshells around you!" This was the ex-demon's go to!!!! Whenever I stood up for myself or called out his shit! He was an insidious demonic pos.no soul no happiness. He will shrivel. I will flourish! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/20 08:56 PM |
| 5 | Forgot my makeup bag at my boyfriend’s place and I get this response. We’ve been dating for 4 months. Definitely ended things with him. *shrug*Agreeeed! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/20 07:27 PM |
| 37 | Forgot my makeup bag at my boyfriend’s place and I get this response. We’ve been dating for 4 months. Definitely ended things with him. *shrug*This! So cold! He prob was trying to create a push/pull dynamic to manipulate her and make her weary. He wanted her to say "but I'm your gf, why talk to me that way?" and cry to him. Well he wanted push/pull and he got it! She pushed your ass out the door and pulled the trigger on the whole relationship! Fucking loser! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/20 07:26 PM |
| 271 | Got tired of waiting for him to plan a vacation for us, so I booked an all-inclusive vacation by myselfhe said it was “weird” and “we could go to Colorado together”. Aka it's weird that you're not settling for my no effort in meeting your interests. You have agency and can just go alone? Weird!! You're not falling all over yourself or begging me to come with you??? So fucking weird!!! We could just go to Colorodo. Hopefully this will shut you up about your solo trip or even convince you not to go because I know you'd much rather be with me than by yourself. Settle for Colorado with me babe!! Dump… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/20 07:13 PM |
| 43 | Forgot my makeup bag at my boyfriend’s place and I get this response. We’ve been dating for 4 months. Definitely ended things with him. *shrug*Yes! "Too sensitive" is just a way for people to let go of responsibility of their actions. If anyone ever says that to me, I will no longer speak to them. Like you said, just walk away. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/20 05:34 PM |
| 30 | Forgot my makeup bag at my boyfriend’s place and I get this response. We’ve been dating for 4 months. Definitely ended things with him. *shrug*So immature and pathetic! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/20 05:32 PM |
| 38 | Forgot my makeup bag at my boyfriend’s place and I get this response. We’ve been dating for 4 months. Definitely ended things with him. *shrug*Lmaooo!!!! This is hilarious! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/20 04:12 PM |
| 103 | Forgot my makeup bag at my boyfriend’s place and I get this response. We’ve been dating for 4 months. Definitely ended things with him. *shrug*I usually try to twist anything that feels off as me being sensitive, but I know in this instance I’m not overreacting. Please, op your feelings are valid. Please don't undermine yourself! The ex-demon gaslit me to oblivion about being too sensitive and at some points I started to believe it. You are not too sensitive! Im glad you got out without wasting too much of your time and most importantly you're SAFE! You're on to bigger and better things. Much better men will come along! You didn't sett… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/20 04:08 PM |
| 47 | Forgot my makeup bag at my boyfriend’s place and I get this response. We’ve been dating for 4 months. Definitely ended things with him. *shrug*Im curious about this as well! Is this his mask droping? He's so shitty! Whatever the case if he was just a fraud or if op ignored red flags, Im proud she saw the light!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/20 04:04 PM |
| 351 | Forgot my makeup bag at my boyfriend’s place and I get this response. We’ve been dating for 4 months. Definitely ended things with him. *shrug*He really didn't want any trace of you at his for any of his other girls to see huh!? He probably got tired of hiding your stuff under his bed or wherever when he had his "female friends" over. He wants to "swing by" yours to drop it off though. That's all he ever wanted. For y'all to continuously swing by each others places forever with no attempt at pushing things further eventually. "Not saying you do it purposefully" what a neg. He wanted to neg and argue to let you know that he has no inten… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/20 03:40 PM |
| 1 | Putting on a voice when speaking to menSomething slightly similiar except I was never rude or mean to another woman for no reason beforehand. I just went into auto sexy voice and was my regular self with everyone else. This is a prime example though of the switching! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/20 03:23 PM |
| 2 | Putting on a voice when speaking to menI do the same with children but also try to keep my voice adult like too but this is because children are still learning. I don't want to constantly speak in a baby voice but dont want to constantly come across as big scary adult. I like to find a balance. Now with teens and up, it's my adult voice through and through. I'm sure you're doing great as a mom to your son! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/20 02:44 PM |
| 7 | Putting on a voice when speaking to menwho has been told her whole life her value is based on her ability to catch and keep a man. This! I wish there was just a wake up button that could just prevent women the self degradation and lowness that too often occurs for the sake of "having a man". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/20 02:38 PM |
| 3 | Putting on a voice when speaking to menWow really? I've never seen that series but it's interesting to know that someone else notices women doing this. Yikes that its on a show that seems like several people watch. I wonder if anyone else noticed. Is she doing a baby voice? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/20 02:36 PM |
| 3 | Putting on a voice when speaking to menYes, I totally can see how it can sometimes just happen naturally out of flirtation and attraction. It's just that I literally chose to do that, and wasnt subconsciously doing it. I've seen people flirt with their s.o and how those voices sound just flowing out of them without thought but to make a conscious decision to put on a certain voice with the hopes of being seen as something (sexy, cute, hot, sophisticated...etc) is draining and no one should do it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/20 02:04 PM |
| 2 | Early signs of narcissism.I wasn’t aware, at the time, what a narcissist was. I wasn’t educated on their behavior and manipulations. Now I know. Same! I definitely knew something was wrong and there were TONS of red flags but I either ignored them or just "all relationships have problems"-ed them away. It was also especially jarring because he was so charming and into me (love bombing) and I was very reserved and in tune with myself in the very beginning. So, after the push/pull began I was a pick me for him. I had many … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/20 02:00 AM |
| 3 | Early signs of narcissism.Good on you!!! The ex demon tried several times to triangulate me with women from his harem. He was so mean to many of them and talked shit about them constantly but gladly would accept their food, shelter and money! It's so unnerving sometimes to think back on it. Towards the end he breadcrumbed me for months after I suggested we take a break. On the day of what would have been the anniversary of being "official" I sent him a message saying something along the lines of "I know we're on a break … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/20 08:53 PM |
| 1 | The day before our first date, they reveal themselves!!Trash took itself out. What a dumbass! Now you get to block! Nobody is lining up to date this loser. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/20 08:44 PM |
| 2 | Early signs of narcissism.Evil is the precise word to describe these "men". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/20 08:25 PM |
| 3 | Early signs of narcissism.I too, was foolish and naïve. Thinking all these women who he has either dated, slept with or wanted to sleep with were just his friends and not back up supply. I remember him being so secretive about one particular friend. When I pressed him on it he said that they just chilled and that they spoke about her goals and he kept emphasizing that she was "really cool" as if he had a huge hard on crush on her. I kept my compusure and let him know that I wasnt the jealous type. Clown clown clown I was… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/20 08:23 PM |
| 2 | Early signs of narcissism.The accuracy!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/20 08:19 PM |
| 2 | Early signs of narcissism.Amazingly accurate!! We must've dated the same demon! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/20 08:19 PM |
| 5 | Early signs of narcissism.So glad you're out and on to better men! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/20 08:02 PM |
| 1 | Is a guy being highly concerned with his looks a red flag?Oh dear, haven't we all! I really wish that wasn't the case for us but unfortunately its a common reality! Thank you so much! My freedom is so gorgeous, I'm very happy to be out from under those talons!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/20 12:37 PM |
| 5 | Blocked him a few months ago after I broke it off with him but apparently I still receive msgs on my laptopIt truly is totally evil. They can't say "I'm hurting you on purpose , why won't you just accept it and let me have my way and make my life easier by just being there, supporting me and providing sex on demand? Is that too much to ask for?" So they, "I don't know/understand/get it" till they're blue in the face. Hoping they'll get more tears and walls of text extracted from you so that they know they're still #1 in your mind. Then they'll "you're right, I feel horrible wahhh console me" and you … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/20 12:34 PM |
| 30 | Is a guy being highly concerned with his looks a red flag?In my opinion, a man should always care about the way he looks and take pride in himself. This includes being physically fit, eating healthy, wearing clean and well fitted clothing and grooming himself well. This should be his default, so it shouldn't be something that is overtly mentioned or showed off at all. It should just be a part of who he is. Not in some dudebro, workout/shirtless selfie sort of way. I dated a demon in the past who was fat and always complaining about his gut and man boob… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/20 03:01 AM |
| 23 | Blocked him a few months ago after I broke it off with him but apparently I still receive msgs on my laptopExactly. The demon I was involved with in the past pulled the same line over and over after I wrote him walls of text and literally told him out loud EXACTLY what he did but of course he in one ear out the other'd it so he wouldnt have to take responsibility. Such losers. Next! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/20 07:34 PM |
| 21 | Blocked him a few months ago after I broke it off with him but apparently I still receive msgs on my laptopPure narc manipulation! He's trying to guilt trip you and minimize , or rather erase your whole experience with him because his feelings are hurt. He's been REJECTED by you and so that means you're a mean and cold hearted person in his mind. Block him. He's playing mind games, trying to hoover you back. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/20 07:32 PM |
| 6 | Shut the F*** UpHe's abusive! Emotionally and psychologically. The demon I was previously involved with told me to STFU from the top of his lungs because I called him out on his usual bullshit. Up until that point he always gaslit me into submission. Even after that happened I was mortified but tried to calmly talk to him about it and told him that he can't speak to me that way, but he knew he could because I let him yell at me at one point before , I dumped him over it and got hoovered back in but this time. H… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/20 11:54 PM |
| 1 | FDA Approved the first non-hormonal birth control method for women in 30 years!!Lol exactly!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/20 01:12 AM |
| 8 | FDA Approved the first non-hormonal birth control method for women in 30 years!!Is this a joke? Why is it practically the word "fuck"??? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/20 09:03 PM |
| 38 | The dangers of befriending a pickme: A cautionary taleThat story is so chilling!!! I was scared just reading it, and also so angry. I have been in dangerous sitiations because of past pick me-isms and I have seen former friends get into very dangerous and shitty situations because of it too. I have since wisened up and am still slowly realizing the sheer terribly horrendous past women friendships I've had. Even former women aquaintances were bad. I have seen how mean other women can be to one another just to get ahead or be liked and praised or for… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/20 07:48 PM |
| 7 | What is under the surface of a significant other ONLY referring to their bf/gf/husband/wife as a pet name?He also never smiled at me. Such a small detail with huge indication. The ex never smiled at me either. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/20 11:47 AM |
| 3 | What is under the surface of a significant other ONLY referring to their bf/gf/husband/wife as a pet name?Smh. Glad that's over and done with! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/20 06:38 AM |
| 7 | What is under the surface of a significant other ONLY referring to their bf/gf/husband/wife as a pet name?they have truly just reduced you to "babe". Precisely, true! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/20 05:10 AM |
| 8 | What is under the surface of a significant other ONLY referring to their bf/gf/husband/wife as a pet name?True. The nvm I was involved with literally would confuse things I said with what his other supplies told him. Though he didn't confuse names. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/20 05:09 AM |
| 8 | What is under the surface of a significant other ONLY referring to their bf/gf/husband/wife as a pet name?That is awful!! I'm sorry that you had to go through that! Super hyped that you're out pf that shit show. The demon I used to be involved with would do the same with gaslighting me with nicknames too. When I would get angry for logical reasons and lash out at him out of sheer frustration he'd turn it back on me and call me a combination of a monster + my name. Ex: name: Ariana , he'd call me Monsteriana. No more Monsteriana either. Cheers queen! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/20 02:44 AM |
| 6 | What is under the surface of a significant other ONLY referring to their bf/gf/husband/wife as a pet name?Same. after that experience I had, its a first name basis for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/20 02:07 AM |
| 11 | What is under the surface of a significant other ONLY referring to their bf/gf/husband/wife as a pet name?Right, I've seen this happen! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/20 01:18 AM |
| 2 | What are the benefits of going no contact?It's really not your fault! You get to make happier decisions now! As you put it short term pain for long term gain indeed. You haven't failed at all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/20 01:42 PM |
| 8 | BF forgets my birthday, tries to make me believe expecting a gift is childishYou're not alone, many of us were delusional and fell for lvm shit in the past. Their sob stories and patholigical selves pluscmuch more. We recognized the danger in those people and they are no longer in our lives! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/20 01:38 PM |
| 20 | BF forgets my birthday, tries to make me believe expecting a gift is childishOf course! This behavior is from selfish pathological men who want to punish women and slowdrip them into obedience or mental delusion while requesting read demanding all their needs get met. These same men would be sulky, mean and or passive aggressive if you did nothing for THEIR birthdays. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/20 05:25 AM |
| 25 | BF forgets my birthday, tries to make me believe expecting a gift is childishOMG SAME!!!!! They all do the same things! Lol the demon I was involved with didnt attend a very important event that he knew about for an entire year and a half in advance! He said he wanted pick up an extra shift of overtime instead and that he didn't think I cared that much. Then when I dumped him over it, he hoovered me and I gave in and took him back. A few days later on the day of the event, he sent me this long message about how he was going to surprise me and show up and how he had plann… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/20 03:25 AM |
| 138 | BF forgets my birthday, tries to make me believe expecting a gift is childishHis wording is exactly what the lvm narc demon I was involved with in the past would say to absolve responsibility. "I didn't think you cared because my family and I dont care about those things." It's such bullshit and a manipulative tactic to make you feel that you're out of line because of dIfFeRenT upbringings between the two of you. I'm so happy you dumped him and blocked him! Level up queen! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/20 10:09 PM |
| 13 | What are the benefits of going no contact?You chose yourself over some slimeball sucking the life out of you with a slow drip of torture. You reclaim yourself and your freedom. You control your life again. Does he know you are pregnant? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/20 09:44 PM |
| 50 | I cannot get over how disrespectful Justin Bieber is to his wife “Listen to me woman.”He's dead in the eyes with zero emotion read empathy. It looks like they are on a webcam and can see themselves on the screen. She actually breaks from viewing herself and him from the computer and turns her head to physically face and look at him/look him the eyes. He stares at himself on the computer screen the entire time never turning to face her. He's an abusive narc bully who can't get enough of himself while simultaneously hating himself. This looks dangerous. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/20 08:56 PM |
| 5 | If he says he doesn’t want a relationship, the “with you” is silentPrecisely. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/20 06:32 PM |
| 2 | No, I do NOT have a minute, you already HAD 2+ years!Block! Don't respond! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/20 03:14 AM |
| 4 | No, I do NOT have a minute, you already HAD 2+ years!The demon I was involved with in the past used to do this all the time to pacify me when I expressed my needs. "I'm telling you this as a friend not as your boyfriend" like as if that magically erases all the shittyness of the relationship due to him. It's manipulative and gross. It was a narc demon. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/20 02:51 AM |
| 4 | Red flag: Men on their phones while in the bathroomYup. Super pathetic! He had the app downloaded for "creative purposes" it was there for months likely up to a year. I cool girl'd it like I didn't care and wasn't jealous and that only made his abuse towards me worse because I showed him I was fine putting up with it. He did more and more horrible things just to see what he could get away with. I slowly stopped caring and stared reality in the face and dumped him. Narcs have the same pattern its like a broken record yet I still find myself yelli… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/20 03:46 PM |
| 24 | Red flag: Men on their phones while in the bathroomDefinitely a red flag. The demon lvm narc I was involved with in the past, took his phone in the bathroom every single time. He also kept it face down, always on the night stand next to him or in his pockets or hands. He gladly snatched my phone from my hands to quickly google things or lookup directions. He once even questioned me about a calendar app I downloaded that had an icon of a heart or something. His mind went straight into panic thinking it was a dating app, meanwhile he had an actual… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/20 12:51 PM |
| 6 | A history of ”succesful” longterm relationstips is not a metric of anythingThe thing is that I never allowed anyone to be in a relationship with me, I discarded boy, after guy after man until I started to internalize this damaging mentality. And in the end after being a high value young woman all my life. I as well, saw myself at the hands of male depravity. The SAME thing happened to me. I always just prioritized myself but soon began internalizing my lack of relationships as negative and thought it meant something was wrong with me. I was involved with a demon for 2 … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/20 12:49 AM |
| 208 | Unbelievable, next-level Pickmeisha whose husband only chose her after he became paraplegicYou know, I was browsing a forum the other day where there was a discussion on women in relationships with disabled men who became disabled due to an accident. These men would NOT have entered a relationship with those women if they were able bodied and definitely would not stay with a woman who became disabled. It was sad to see young women become girfriends /mommy's/ caregivers in one swoop by devoting their lives to these men who would not do the same. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/20 12:17 AM |
| 5 | I came across this “birthday card” my ex had written for me while I was deep cleaning my bedroom this morning. It was written with my lip liner. I still stayed with him for a year after this. You literally can’t make this shit up.Wooooowwww!!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/20 10:54 PM |
| 2 | I came across this “birthday card” my ex had written for me while I was deep cleaning my bedroom this morning. It was written with my lip liner. I still stayed with him for a year after this. You literally can’t make this shit up.Lmao!! Seriously though! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/20 10:54 PM |
| 4 | I came across this “birthday card” my ex had written for me while I was deep cleaning my bedroom this morning. It was written with my lip liner. I still stayed with him for a year after this. You literally can’t make this shit up.Was he a narc? The demon I was invloved with did the same thing on my birthday except it was on a ripped up peice of paper and just as low effort and with a pen he took from my stuff. I was elated at the time lol. So I laughed so loud when I saw this! I | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/20 10:52 PM |
| 4 | Build-A-Man? Pause and think about what you really want. How does that compare to who you've dated in the past, and men you've met in real life?I've experienced real "healthy" chemistry only once. After 20 minutes we were completely in sync. It was an interesting experience, but nothing could come of it. It takes more than 20 minutes to conclude that you are in sync and have a healthy connection with someone. Don't be too trusting of others. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/20 10:08 PM |
| 80 | A man saying 'we' are pregnant when it's the mother-to-be that goes through the hell alone.I can't stand the "we are pregnant" rhetoric. It's so annoying! She took the pregnancy not he! Men want to take credit for everything including hijacking pregnancy! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/20 10:05 PM |
| 28 | HVM and talking with exes. Is this a no-no and automatic LVM behavior?He's triangulating you. You'll begin to question yourself , which you already are doing. He's doing it purposefully. I'd cut him loose if I were you. He's seeing what he can get away with. Seeing how you respond to certain things. Nope! Just nope! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/20 06:56 PM |
| 2 | "I like your mask": harassment during the pandemicI completely agree! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/20 05:04 PM |
| 8 | "I like your mask": harassment during the pandemicI remember being in middle school 12/13 when a high school boy 17 or 18 year old who lived near me would make comments to me asking me when we were going to hang out. One time when I was on my way to school , it seemed as if he was waiting for me. He grabbed me and held my hand and swung me into his body with my back/butt on his front/crotch area and he began grinding on me and saying we should hang out and that I should come to his house. Even at that young age I felt violated and stunned. I go… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/20 04:35 PM |
| 5 | "I like your mask": harassment during the pandemicIm so sorry about all of your experiences!!! I've experienced some of the same! And it was also all in broad daylight! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/20 04:29 PM |
| 20 | If your man seeks space like this most of the time and gives the same attitude about it, give up and move on sis. It’s boring being with a moody, non-conversing, inconsiderate, stone-walling man child. He doesn’t want to spend time with you so leave itWhat a piece of shit! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/20 03:47 PM |
| 29 | Am i the only one weirded out by grimes and Elon musks dating thing?I also feel like the celebrity worship is dying down! The pandemic has definitely opened people's eyes to celebrities trying to relate to everyone else when they simply dont. Can you elaborate on your thoughts about it? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/20 03:42 PM |
| 6 | "I like your mask": harassment during the pandemicRIGHT? Plain white mask. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/20 02:56 PM |
| 16 | "I like your mask": harassment during the pandemicMen are not our friends. Women should never aspire to have "friends" who are men. NEVER! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/20 02:55 PM |
| 8 | "I like your mask": harassment during the pandemicI've met a handful of men who seemed genuinely friendly in a non creepy way. Even then my guard is up. In almost all of the cases of these alleged friendly men they were old grandfather types who briefly talked about their wives and grand kids in a positive light and/or how much the youth and times have changed from "back in their day." And that was it. Sometimes, it did strike me that it could have been from loneliness but at the end of the conversation they all went on about their business and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/20 02:52 PM |
| 14 | "I like your mask": harassment during the pandemicI remember one time when I was in my late teens, some man started flirting with me in front of my mom while we were on like at the cash registers and she ENCOURAGED it. I was uncomfortable and winded up ignoring him or walking away. I noticed she began chatting with him instead. When we got in the car she told me I needed to be nicer to men and learn to flirt back. Being visually stalked and preyed on when your potential protection gets distracted is such a wake up call. They are strategic and t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/20 02:44 PM |
| 12 | "I like your mask": harassment during the pandemicExactly, all they see is the female form and they go into predatory mode! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/20 02:41 PM |
| 14 | Men who kill women first disrespected women.Solid point!!! Earlier in the relationship I had with the ex demon, he mentioned that he "gently nudged" a "crazy ex" if his and once kicked her leg because she had slapped him. Of course painting it as if they both were physically rough with one another during heated moments. I brushed it off , I fell for all of his lies. Slowly, I began to realize it was a warning. I recall a few key moments when he yelled at me from the top of his lungs over the phone and I was so scared of the rage in his vo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/20 07:47 PM |
| 9 | Woman wants to know if she's the asshole for putting puppy pads around the toilet because the 30 YR OLD GROWN ASS MAN she calls a boyfriend keeps pissing all over the floor. I FUCKING CANNOT, Y'ALL.It is soooooooo draining! I'm working on leveling up EXTENSIVELY so I can move the hell out!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/20 03:37 AM |
| 14 | Woman wants to know if she's the asshole for putting puppy pads around the toilet because the 30 YR OLD GROWN ASS MAN she calls a boyfriend keeps pissing all over the floor. I FUCKING CANNOT, Y'ALL.My moms husband does this, doesn't put the seat down AND pees on the floor and leaves pubes. I cannot wait to move tf out into my own space. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/20 12:12 AM |
| 1 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 4/29/2020I literally am so done with jumping through hoops of fire for organizations that give zero fucks about me. I know I'm ctalented and passionate and me resume proves it. No ass kissing involved. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/20 11:57 PM |
| 4 | Fuckboys who treat their new girlfriends to all the things you wanted but never got do so because they're desperately trying to prove you were the problem all along. Recognize it for the manipulative tactic that it is, and don't take it personally.That's fucking crazy! He confused you with a previous gf? Did he still have contact with her ? because thats super suspicious! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/20 11:48 PM |
| 7 | Is jealousy a pickme trait?Precisely. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/20 12:32 AM |
| 9 | Is jealousy a pickme trait?Nailed it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/20 12:32 AM |
| 2 | What is the best thing that happened to you after your left your bad relationship?Right on!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/20 11:29 PM |
| 15 | What’s the men’s intentions behind telling you everything ?IME the man is trying to purposefully push your boundaries by either grossing you out or appalling you with his comments. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/20 02:54 PM |
| 41 | The only appropriate response to this kind of manipulative ass message is *BLOCKED*How awesome of your step dad!! Im glad you're out of that situation!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/20 08:54 PM |
| 4 | What are some of your red flags, that will make you leave someone immediately?my ex | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/20 10:54 PM |
| 3 | My boyfriend thinks he’s not good enough?IME my ex was a narc and abusive. He'd pull the " feel Im not good enough" card not soon after arguments (that he started). He would literally say the most fucked up things to make me feel insecure. Like casually mention he might want to see other people or that we might be better apart. When I got upset , he'd say I was too emotional or reading to much into it or blowing up on him. He'd twist his words so well that in the end I would be apoologizing to him. Saying he's not good enough because h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/20 06:26 PM |
| 8 | My boyfriend thinks he’s not good enough?Totally agree, my ex said this to me so that I could tell him he was great. He was a narc demon. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/20 06:18 PM |
| 2 | Rihanna says she'll have kids with OR without a partner!!!!Very interesting!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/20 02:58 PM |
| 3 | "If you don't cook for your husband you might as well NOT get married"Having kids whether biological or adoptive is up to you. When you're ready you'll begin to figure out the best route for you! I agree, the little comment avatars are very cute! Lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/20 02:58 PM |
| 5 | Rihanna says she'll have kids with OR without a partner!!!!I agree. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/20 04:42 AM |
| 9 | Rihanna says she'll have kids with OR without a partner!!!!I wasn't at all saying the child would be low value. The child will have a loving mother who cares for it. I'm concerned about who the sperm is coming from as far as whether the man is a psycho or not. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/20 03:53 AM |
| 5 | Rihanna says she'll have kids with OR without a partner!!!!I'm glad that there is criteria, I wasn't sure if there was a nice screening process! So, thats good!!! Right, that's what I'm curious about, character traits that can be passed down such as that! A lot of stuff is generational! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/20 03:50 AM |
| 1 | Getting rid of my old bdsm stuffSame! You should dump the toy too!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/20 01:08 AM |
| 13 | Rihanna says she'll have kids with OR without a partner!!!!My only qualm is are LVM donating to sperm banks therefore HVW are have LVM sperm to create children with? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/20 01:06 AM |
| 10 | Be careful Queens (this is exactly why I'm going on hiatus)Ahh wow! Thats wild!!! I had planned to date later in the year but its looking more and more like next year instead! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/20 09:47 PM |
| 6 | Be careful Queens (this is exactly why I'm going on hiatus)Can someone copy paste the article in here? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/20 09:08 PM |
| 2 | Getting rid of my old bdsm stuff💯💯💯 absolutely! You are worthy of true love and affection. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/20 04:54 PM |
| 5 | If you expect less, don't be surprised to receive less - EVIDENCEMy experience as well! I lowered my expectations and got much worse than before. I went through so much abuse with my demon ex. Of all the abusive things he never yelled at me until he did and it was scary. He yelled at me once after Ibexpressed hurt over something he said. I told him that he can't do that and he agreed. But this only gave him permission to do it again. The last time he yelled at me he told me from the top of his lungs to "SHUT THE FUCK UP!" with such rage. I told him we need ti… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/20 04:47 PM |
| 30 | Make a list of what you want in a manI'll have to check out that book. I have done something similar VERY recently which was inspired by another post someone made on this sub. I was actually thinking about my list yesterday, thinking of adding another factor to it. My list is about deal breakers. Im going to make a deal maker one too. I will say that, several years ago. I was doing really well in a particular field of study that I always wanted to excel at. I was doing this all by way of trusting in and believing in myself and lite… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/20 03:30 PM |
| 5 | "If you don't cook for your husband you might as well NOT get married"You should trust yourself to break the cycle! If you truly want children. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/20 03:09 PM |
| 9 | Getting rid of my old bdsm stuffYayyyy!!!! Congratulations! I got rid of a sex toy too recently. I only got it for my demon ex and I only used to for his entertainment. It always felt weird using it and every sexy show I gave him was for him. I tried to convince myself that I could still use it for my own sexuality but NAH. I couldn't deny it was only bought to please him. I threw it right in the trash bin! I felt sooo so empowerer after! So , that is to say, I can relate! I'm so proud of you for choosing your own happiness ov… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/20 01:53 PM |
| 2 | What do you think of ¨Living together apart¨ relationships?Good luck! Keep us posted! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/20 04:59 AM |
| 11 | "If you don't cook for your husband you might as well NOT get married"Sometimes the people we love really love us back but their belief-system doesn't serve them or us. THIS!!! I honestly make very random meals that I throw together because I love eating from home. I want to become a better cook for myself though. I definitely won't be devoting my time to feeding a grown man! Sidenote: who tf doesn't know how to change a lightbulb!!!???? I'm at a loss for words! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/20 04:52 AM |
| 38 | I have a question for former pick me or cool girls. How do you come to terms with the things you used to do?I'm not letting the abuse continue in my own head... I needed to see this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/20 04:22 AM |
| 8 | A Facebook friend who I went to high school shared this post...she’s married with 2 kids.....if this isn’t the biggest pickme post... I would know because I am trying not to be oneThis is sad | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/20 12:19 AM |
| 73 | LVM commonly try to condition girls from childhood to ignore their own sense of agency.A pre-school run by a Wiccan lady! Im so curious. Right on for biting that boy! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/20 07:08 PM |
| 11 | The Fact They Even Have To Ask...This was once me. Except he bought marijuana and alcohol for himself to indulge in alone. I paid for a nice resort/bed and breakfast and purchasef everything. He wrote me happy birthday on a post it note and I held it close to my heart lmao he paid for my lunch and complained about it the whole time that was the only time we didnt go dutch. That demon tried to ruin my birthday again after that one but I was that close to dumping him for the 2nd time and then finally did a few weeks later! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/20 06:54 PM |
| 6 | How HVMs think and behave during a pandemic.Good catch! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/20 04:37 PM |
| 1 | This subreddit ♥️I love this comment | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/20 04:34 PM |
| 7 | This subreddit ♥️I love this!!! Boss ladies! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/20 04:33 PM |
| 10 | wish this wasn't a thing😡 wtf!!!!!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/20 04:29 PM |
| 22 | I saw this and thought of you lovely ladies!!Yessss! I would do the same! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/20 11:25 PM |
| 7 | It has been one month since I broke up with my LVM ex bf!!! Couldn't be happier.Her Magesty 👑 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/20 11:08 PM |
| 70 | I saw this and thought of you lovely ladies!!I would dump any guy that did this if dating! And divorce them if married. Fuck that! A man who expects you to literally clean up his shit is insidious! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/20 09:52 PM |
| 3 | Corona virus meets FDSsounds like something the lvm abusive ex would say. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/20 02:34 AM |
| 2 | How many of us had to change phone numbers because of harrassment from an ex?Right? The ex only put effort into what would benefit him. Once he realized his ego stroke was gone , he went full force so he wouldnt lose his free therapy, sex toy and punching bag. He didn't care a thing about me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/20 06:19 PM |
| 19 | Men who ask for commitment too early are as dangerous as those who refuse commitment💯! Yup the ex love bombed me and I was so ensared and trauma bonded that I let sexual, mental and emotional abuse become a norm! If it wasnt for that nagging feeling that something was terribly wrong and that I wasn't crazy and as a result reading up about pathological people by questioning my relationship and trying to find a solution for myself then who knows what may have happened. I'd also like to emphasize the importance of high quality girlfriends. If I had close women in my life they woul… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/20 01:59 PM |
| 11 | If you think men are shallow, try being a female wheelchair user like me. Let me tell you!Lmaoooo what a pathetic bloke! I hope they did not have children!!! Honestly, my ex upgraded so much when we met. He had his mommy gf (former me) to take care of him, ask if he ate and slept, paid for his meals and grooming and remembered the small stuff. He blew all his money on shitty foods, marijuana and clothing that would make him appear to be "wealthy". Losers who don't know how to tame care of themselves and that only care about themselves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/20 10:55 PM |
| 12 | Are you second place to his Xbox or phone? 🤡DUMP HIMI can relate so much. Only difference is the ex was phone obsessed. I told him something traumatizing and he basically said I didn't sound dramatic enough. I once had difficulty breathing and he was ANNOYED with me the whole time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/20 09:43 PM |
| 13 | If you think men are shallow, try being a female wheelchair user like me. Let me tell you!Oh my gosh! Unfortunately the ex already had moobs when we met! But he also didn't wear spf or moisturizer. I actually towards the end began teaching him about taking better care to his skin. Once I was crying in public because he was stonewalling me. My spf started running because it mixed with my tears and he told me I looked crazy with my makeup and sunscreen running and needed to wipe my face. I bought him toiletries and face masks. Meanwhile, he'd preach to me about the products all his "fe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/20 08:02 PM |
| 29 | If you think men are shallow, try being a female wheelchair user like me. Let me tell you!Same! Except towards the end, very close to when I dumped him. He video called me and I answered and my god I have never seen someone so haggard looking. Its like as if since all of my supply that kept his ego boosted for so long was now gone, it literally aged him. I also, was aware of the bullshit by then so he was uglier than I initially judged as well. But my goodness, without my money, bottomless compliments, submission to his gaslighting, mean and manipulative ways and blocking all his emt… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/20 06:23 PM |
| 4 | Grading my boyfriend: Trying to figure out if my boyfriend is HVMPerfectly analyzed! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/20 03:59 AM |
| 30 | How to confront a man on his mistakesNo, it's not worth trying. Dump him! My ex trained me to shut up by gaslighting me and being confrontational. Whenever I did speak up he'd say I waited too long or that I was being emotional. Don't let him put you through the ringer. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/20 03:35 AM |
| 70 | Wait, so all those girls in relationships have mostly been with LVM? Mind is blownI needed to read this!!! I dated very rarely before meeting my abusive narc ex. Up until him, every man I went out with or met gave me the heebie jeebies. He pursued me and locked me down fast within a month and a half he asked me to be his gf. He was great for a while, then his mask slipped and he bagan gaslighting and toying with me. He used my inexperience to sexually (he was my first), mentally, and emotionally coerce and abuse me. I did things that I never would do with him, he convinced me… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/20 01:40 AM |
| 5 | What is Grey Rock and how to use it to shut down creeps, abusers and narcs. *Text in the notes.Thank you! It was very difficult, but I woke up and broke free! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/20 01:26 AM |
| 1 | He owes me money. Take the hit or keep in contact?Heck yes!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/20 12:22 AM |
| 15 | What is Grey Rock and how to use it to shut down creeps, abusers and narcs. *Text in the notes.I greyrocked my abusive ex but at the time, I had no idea that it had a term. I was just doing what I logically felt would help me in the situation and keep me safe. He was a narc, manipulative, hateful and mean. I caught glimpses of his rage so when I decided I was leaving him for good I knew I had to erase my emotions. I was conditioned for so long but I still subconsciously knew I had to detach so, it was a weird mixture of pick me caring words and also blunt and/or minimal words at first. Th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/20 12:19 AM |
| 10 | He owes me money. Take the hit or keep in contact?The same thing is happening to me and I feel so powerful because of it! Slowly and surely I see all my capabilities and endless abundance. Opportunities are brewing and I am no longer modest. I am talented and I want it all! I deserve it all! And I'm working hard to achieve it all and am thankful and grateful every day. Without the burden of toxic men in my life and nearly as soon as I dumped the lvm narc ex bf, everything started appearing to me and I see it all now! I am getting comfortable ig… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/20 11:42 PM |
| 22 | Y’all heard him!!Totally! I was conditioned to be nice and polite and with manners to the point that speaking up and standing up for myself felt rude somehow. I spent the early - mid part of my 20's being a pick me and went through an abusive relationship before finally waking up and smelling the bullshit! I feel so amazing now! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/20 03:05 AM |
| 23 | Is this something to be concerned about? I have no idea how to repondThe fact that he says behaves well in public as if its taking everything in him not to behave well in public. This man is a future or probably current flasher, exposing himself to others in alleys and in the back of the bus or tube/train. Home nudist is his way of dipping into that territory. There's a difference between walking around your home naked because its your home and you feel comfortable that way. As opposed to walking around your house naked with hopes and goals of being "caught" nake… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/20 02:43 PM |
| 6 | DO NOT GIVE SECOND CHANCESGirl same! Those fake ass tears! The first time I dumped him , he "cried" , sent me pictures and videos of him crying. Threatened suicide and called me literally over 100+ times. The second and FINAL time I dumped him after naively taking him back. He was very lazy in his hoovers, thankfully. But he really pulled tricks to try to contact me and regain access to me again. What a loser! We've moved on and are MUCH better without them! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/20 10:25 PM |
| 17 | How to respond to being compared to a celebrity?In my opinion comparing to celebrities is a neg. My ex compared me to a celebrity who is an older woman who is beautiful but by society's standards isn't a bombshell, he did it to twist my self esteem. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/20 05:17 PM |
| 6 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 3/7/2020a break up isn't a negotiation, its a decision. If he really wanted it to be over, he wouldn't talk to her anymore. He's still getting something out it (sex) so he'll go along with her "not allowing it" until he meets someone he's willing to dump her for good for. He isn't innocent in this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/20 06:11 AM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 3/7/2020can't be that great of a guy if he has a placeholder gf. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/20 05:50 AM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 3/7/2020I loveee it!!! 💅😎 👑 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/20 05:47 AM |
| 7 | "Looksmatch" is just something angry men invented to manipulate attractive women to date men below their league. Never settle for a man in terms of looks either.Im curious too! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/20 05:45 AM |
| 37 | DO NOT GIVE SECOND CHANCESThis is too true! I gave my narc ex a second chance after he sexually, emotionally, financially and psychologically abused me and it only got WORSE from then on out. He saw my compassion, vulnerability, generous, kind and confident nature and sucked me dry. He was a demon and I learned! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/20 01:52 AM |
| 12 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 3/7/2020Lmfaooooo Im cracking up! What did you say? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/20 01:41 AM |
| 10 | The small things count.Yes, it really is! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/20 05:31 AM |
| 2 | Pop culture Pickmes in Television: ELLIE NASH-Degrassi: The Next GenerationThey're entire adolescent-young adult lives were fucking mad and bonkers!!! It was a good series for a while. I loved the theme intro song! 🎵🎶Whatever it takes, I know I can make it through!🎵🎶 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/20 04:28 AM |
| 2 | Pop culture Pickmes in Television: ELLIE NASH-Degrassi: The Next GenerationLol oh gosh Paige!!! Why in the hell was she with Spinner. He was such a loser!!! She was so much better than him. But she was a bully to other girls. Remember Terry and Rick ughhh. Liberty was such a pick me for JT it was tooooo much! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/20 04:12 AM |
| 3 | Pop culture Pickmes in Television: ELLIE NASH-Degrassi: The Next GenerationI cant be mad at them though lol. Ellie had internalized misogyny because she had no mother figure or friends. When she befriended Ashley it was only because they were both goth and Ashley broke up with Jimmy after doing placebo e and kissing sean lmao cringe. Manny ditched Emma when she decided to be hot and sleep around/score guys. Emma was pretty smart with men except with that Jay situation. Oh and when she met that perv online in the FIRST episide ahhh! Lol this series was such a mess SO MU… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/20 03:38 AM |
| 4 | Pop culture Pickmes in Television: ELLIE NASH-Degrassi: The Next GenerationManny was worse! Ellie had an alcoholic mom and self harmed and didn't have the same support that Manny had like being friends with Emma and Jt and Toby since they were little kids. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/20 03:19 AM |
| 4 | Why I refused to be "set up" and rejoined this subYou did great! I have never been set up but something about the idea always rubbed me the wrong way. I now realize that its because the woman is still pursuing in the situation. Your friend sounds like she is deeply conditioned into thinking men are a grand prize and that somehow a woman is less than or not progressive enough if she isn't focused on somehow securing a man. Keep focus on you. Don't think about this Sam fella anymore. Having crushes is a scam and takes up SO much of your precious … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/20 01:46 PM |
| 2 | This is a one way ticket to being a forever girlfriend! No ring, no investment. Even then, investing in yourself is top priority.The hard way but we did | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/20 06:45 PM |
| 1 | This is a one way ticket to being a forever girlfriend! No ring, no investment. Even then, investing in yourself is top priority.I dated a wannabe artist with a vision who thought he was the next best thing. I gave him pocket money and food money and money so he could get his hair cut and loads of financial just cuz gifts. What did I get? A post it note that read "i love u". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/20 05:34 PM |
| 11 | 😂😂😂😂That too! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/20 02:25 AM |
| 2 | I am getting desperateCongratulations on your degree! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/20 12:19 AM |
| 36 | This is a one way ticket to being a forever girlfriend! No ring, no investment. Even then, investing in yourself is top priority.I was very financially giving in my pick me days so this really makes me cringe because former me would have absolutely done this thinking I was being helpful and supportive and a great girlfriend. 🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/20 12:18 AM |
| 33 | 😂😂😂😂Men can be falling apart internally and dont give 2 shits but let it affect their physical appearance in any way (ie looking sickly and emaciated) or god forbid their penises then they will build bunkers to protect their holy rods. Also, men want to control everything including their own demise. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/20 12:13 AM |
| 10 | Nobody hates LVM more them HVM... NOBODYRight! By the time I dumped him, I put barely any effort into my looks for many reasons and from the outside it would seem that he put more efforts into his looks than I did at that point. It was a twisted scenario. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/20 10:05 PM |
| 7 | Nobody hates LVM more them HVM... NOBODY😁👑💅 Thank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/20 10:02 PM |
| 66 | Nobody hates LVM more them HVM... NOBODYMy ex used to try to tone me down with my make up by telling me he liked me more natural but what he was really afraid of was me enhancing my beauty and getting looked at by other men AND women! He didn't want to deal with me putting any effort into how I look because he made NONE in his looks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/20 05:58 PM |
| -3 | My stepdad is truly thoughtful,I love that my mom married him. I had a small cosmetic surgery today,to prevent disfiguration. My stepdad is out of town for business,he called up his admin to have her go buy me my “creature comforts” to drop them off at the hospital.I think it's considerate too, just not executed well. Precisely, this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/20 12:42 AM |
| 6 | "Unblock me Yukli!!!" Found this today, I had to share it with you, Queens. LVM really hate being blocked.Agree!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/20 10:15 PM |
| 12 | My stepdad is truly thoughtful,I love that my mom married him. I had a small cosmetic surgery today,to prevent disfiguration. My stepdad is out of town for business,he called up his admin to have her go buy me my “creature comforts” to drop them off at the hospital.he called up his admin to have her go buy me my “creature comforts” to drop them off at the hospital. It rubbed me wrong too. I get that the sentiment is there in his thought. But its still wrapped in male entitlement. I don't have a problem with op liking these toiletries its just the way the step dad had her receive them is side eye worthy. He could have ordered flowers from wherever he is and had them delivered via the flower shoppe but he let another woman go out of her way to hand deliver i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/20 10:11 PM |
| 6 | A Rant About StaresI hear you!!! I often smile when Im feeling an extra burst of great energy while walking around. Im not smiling at anything or anyone in particular but of course if a man catches a glimpse he'll assume its because of his pencil dick or feel entitled to comment on it in order to attempt to make the smile bigger (which in turn makes their egos bigger and of course their moldy hard ons bigger as well). With practice, it becomes second nature to ignore the scummy men who are beneath us. Their commen… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/20 06:37 PM |
| 12 | A Rant About StaresYou are not crazy and this DOES happen! It isn't innocent, it's a "me are man and are mighty strong" tactic. Men stare to intimidate women. They are physically stronger so its almost if not a dare to do something about it. . Either you A. Ignore/Refuse interactions with shady men (especially those selling jewelry lol they think they're slick) B. Engage (Stare back, curse and scold them, appear outright uncomfortable) Best is to ignore, pretend they don't exist. Deprive them of any attention beca… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/20 05:35 PM |
| 5 | Men who compliment couplesIts fucking creepy! My ex loved the attention. He tried to take my confidence completely but that didn't work. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/20 04:04 PM |
| 6 | Men who compliment couplesgreat observation, thank you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/20 07:23 AM |
| 7 | 3 Ex-Boyfriends Describe Their Relationship With the Same Woman - Jelenny | GlamourNo lies detected!!!!!! Lmfaoooooo | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/20 07:22 AM |
| 10 | Men who compliment couplesThis is what I was looking for!!!! Thank you! I figured it was some sicko thing at play with their knowing looks. I knew it was a cross between congratulating him on scoring me but also something more insidious. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/20 03:08 AM |
| 36 | 3 Ex-Boyfriends Describe Their Relationship With the Same Woman - Jelenny | Glamourrock looking, amoeba shaped men 😐 LMFAOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/20 02:05 AM |
| 13 | Than you FDS! This felt really good to do. Before FDS I would have either agreed to, or felt guilty about saying “no.”not even "thats" ughhhh what a loser!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/20 01:09 AM |
| 31 | Than you FDS! This felt really good to do. Before FDS I would have either agreed to, or felt guilty about saying “no.”He knows exactly what he is doing! He isn't "sorry". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/20 01:08 AM |
| 16 | Than you FDS! This felt really good to do. Before FDS I would have either agreed to, or felt guilty about saying “no.”Exactly this. They love the attention, good OR bad. Disengage and go very cold and short if a response is necessary. And then of course block and delete. One word answers are awesome. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/20 01:07 AM |
| 25 | Than you FDS! This felt really good to do. Before FDS I would have either agreed to, or felt guilty about saying “no.”What a pos! Your best friend needs to seriously reconsider who she is "close" friends with. There is no friendship between men and women! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/20 01:05 AM |
| 6 | Men who compliment couplesFuck yes, I am! Plus, my presence when Im at my most confident and comfortable is very alluring and gives off magnet energy. I know better that coming from men, the attention they were giving was shady and in their own interests and completely superficial but I just couldn't place what it was just that it was odd. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/20 12:59 AM |
| 32 | Men who compliment couplesYou know what, you're absolutely right! That's what it was it was like "oogling" they were practically patting him on the back. But you know what? this happened lots when we first met and I was at my most confident. My presence is fucking magical when Im basking in my own self confidence and assurance to the highest degree. He slowly ate at my confidence though since he was an insidious demon. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/20 12:13 AM |
| 3 | Men who compliment couplesIt always felt dodgy , it was in person though! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/20 12:10 AM |
| 5 | What is the proper response for being asked out on a low effort 'date'?Precisely! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/02/20 08:10 AM |
| 77 | Signs he’s a control freak misogynist : breadcrumbingAbusive narc ex DID ALL OF THIS & more! I was a confident woman when I met him and he eroded my confidence and had me on my knees for him. He didn't take my light but he dimmed it TONS while we were together! I dumped him and I swear my wattage went UP immediately! Within minutes! Im getting back to full brightness + MORE by leveling up TONS and its all going great so far, lots of patience, the most in my entire life and lots of hard work. We got this ladies! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/02/20 06:27 AM |
| 28 | What is the proper response for being asked out on a low effort 'date'?If a man sends you "good morning beautiful" and you feel elated and special and chosen its because that's what its supposed to do. There is no real sentiment behind the phrase, that really is all what it reduces to, a phrase. He's got 2 or 3 other good morning beautifuls in his phone. He's gauging to see which ladies are actually responding to this bs. Whoever takes the bait will be expecting and waiting on this man's good morning beautiful, its a tactic. Its not endearing. Its to keep you reele… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/02/20 04:45 AM |
| 47 | What is the proper response for being asked out on a low effort 'date'?Good morning messages are a red flag. Its so you'll get false bonding. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/20 11:19 PM |
| 3 | If he asks if you've got a friend for his mates... That's a red flag sis.Exactly!!! And you know what? all of my former friendships, I ended, because I deserved much better women in my life to surround myself with and call friends. I stood up to then and ended things and Im proud of myself! He was a narcisistic demonic pos who didn't have any friends just a list of people to extract energy from and discard. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/20 10:41 PM |
| 3 | If he asks if you've got a friend for his mates... That's a red flag sis.He made me feel like I was too weird to have friends and he pitied me. He also knew that meant I had no one to confide in so, that's why that shit show went on for 2 years! If I had some girlfriends to shake some sense into me it would have been over just as quickly as it started. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/20 10:30 PM |
| 11 | Many pickmeisha traits are nothing more than repackaged narcissism. Reject this in yourself before it is too late, and keep it gone.THANK YOU! I actually dismissed my initial feelings when reading op's post but my gut told me it was victim blaming! I ignored it, and thought perhaps I was also wrong in some ways sigh! This is why women stay down. By being blamed even when healing!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/20 08:26 PM |
| 25 | Many pickmeisha traits are nothing more than repackaged narcissism. Reject this in yourself before it is too late, and keep it gone.Thats what I thought!!! Thank you for confirming my concerns with your sentiments. I was a confident woman before meeting my abusive narc ex. He wore me down over time and left me almost a shell of my former self. Oftentimes survivors of narcisistic abuse wonder if they were the abusive ones all along. Which isn't true at all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/20 05:41 PM |
| 25 | If he asks if you've got a friend for his mates... That's a red flag sis.My ex asked me this and uses it against me many times because I didn't. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/20 02:09 PM |
| 20 | Many pickmeisha traits are nothing more than repackaged narcissism. Reject this in yourself before it is too late, and keep it gone.💯 agree!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/20 02:06 PM |
| 55 | Many pickmeisha traits are nothing more than repackaged narcissism. Reject this in yourself before it is too late, and keep it gone.I never looked at it like this and at first I got upset because I thought "this is blaming the victim" but that's just my denial of displaying almost if not all of the traits listed. I thought I was special and above the rest of the girls but I was just another option to him and his ego. Still healing and definitely overcoming any urge to prove myself! I practice this every day! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/20 02:05 PM |
| 2 | We often talk about FDS w/ the goal of marriage. But marriage doesn’t always (or even usually, anymore) mean forever. So, yes, hold out for an incredible HVM. And ALSO: learn about investing. Hire a financial planner. Start your 401k. Buy a house. If a man joins your path, yay. But OWN YOUR FUTURE.Thank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/20 01:18 PM |
| 8 | It’s still abusive.I avoid all of those too now. Especial drug users because I thought "a little weed" was harmless but he was spending all his extra money on it plus he liked to drink a lot too not just in social settings. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/20 01:18 PM |
| 30 | It’s still abusive.Same on never being physically hit but I feared him when he was angry and it made me cry and recoil and feel alone. He hit himself out of frustration in front of me, his frustrations were all personal to him some stupid hobby related things and him being mad that he was broke. I never viewed it as him "showing you how much they want to hit you," until literally reading that sentence just now. He even told me of times that he hit walls and tugged on ex's clothing or "lightly" kicked /pushed them.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/20 06:39 AM |
| 16 | It’s all about expectationsSame!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/20 03:21 AM |
| 29 | It’s all about expectationsMy rule Ive made too. Must shower before!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/20 03:21 AM |
| 34 | We often talk about FDS w/ the goal of marriage. But marriage doesn’t always (or even usually, anymore) mean forever. So, yes, hold out for an incredible HVM. And ALSO: learn about investing. Hire a financial planner. Start your 401k. Buy a house. If a man joins your path, yay. But OWN YOUR FUTURE.These are exactly the kind if things I've been thinking about recently! I want land! I want my own house and another property in addition for fun either a condo or loft. I want to pay off my noms house and invest in another for her. I want a vehicle as well and investments. Yasss! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/20 03:01 AM |
| 19 | Can plastic surgery/injections be apart of leveling up??Rihanna definitely has grown into herself beautifully. She has such a wise grace and deneanor about her now that she didn't have when she first hit the scene. She seems way more in tune with herself and sure of herself! Plus she's a business woman about her money! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/20 02:57 AM |
| 16 | Making this thread to prove male shallowness: What physical features you have no control over has a man criticized on you before?My vellus hair on my face and the lack of muscle tone on my body. Mind you, he had a receding hairline, man boobs, a gut and didn't change his socks for weeks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/20 09:54 PM |
| 2 | Talking on the phone with a man for hoursThank you so much! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/20 09:44 PM |
| 6 | Talking on the phone with a man for hoursMy ex's favorite words were "just checking in" when in reality he was just controlling me and conditioning me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/20 06:42 PM |
| 5 | Talking on the phone with a man for hoursLuckily, as many things as I tolerated and risked while being with that demon. I put my workouts first. The interruptions were few because I made it very clear but then he tried another maneuver. Instead of interrupting my workouts he'd say "call me/text me when you're finished working out" that way I would still be thinking about him for the duration of the workout , it was still mentally twisted. So, I would shower do my whole after workout routine then call him/text him after. Somehow I knew … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/20 06:27 PM |
| 3 | Talking on the phone with a man for hoursAbsolutely, yes. I agree 100%. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/20 06:00 PM |
| 3 | Talking on the phone with a man for hours💯 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/20 05:42 PM |
| 12 | Talking on the phone with a man for hoursAnd then, especially if they have been complaining / looking for therapy grade conversation, when you hang up you definitely will be thinking about them. This is too TRUE! My ex would interrupt me doing self care stuff with a phone call and make me feel bad for putting my needs above his. So, working out which I find challenging and fun became about him afterwards because I'd be doing crunches wondering if he felt sad. Its such bullshit! Loveydovey phone conversations are not for me; I'm too bus… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/20 05:40 PM |
| 7 | Talking on the phone with a man for hoursI totally agree! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/20 05:24 PM |
| 13 | Talking on the phone with a man for hoursI feel that men who have to talk on the phone all of the time have ulterior motives of creating a false bond and are controlling. Also, they are most like extremely pathological and can't stand to be alone with their sad sorry existences so they hope a woman will be naive enough to think "awww he wants to spend his time talking to me when in fact it is the woman who is wasting her time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/20 05:22 PM |
| 24 | Pornsick 42 year-old fuckboy from the past. Posts shit like this on his public IG all the time. Imagine being his girlfriend.This is disgusting! May he shrivel up! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/20 04:36 PM |
| 8 | Talking on the phone with a man for hoursExactly! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/20 04:35 PM |
| 15 | Talking on the phone with a man for hoursMy last relationship I spent a ridiculous amount of time on the phone with this guy and he lives TWO MILES from me. What a lazy loser!!! If they have hours to spend on the phone with you, they can easily meet you in person. My ex was so fucking broke he wouldn't even bother meeting me in person unless I was footing the expenses or putting up half. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/20 04:34 PM |
| 17 | How many of you are late bloomers?💯💯💯 whenever I see a really beautiful woman I stare and have to snap myself out of it! But its more so about their presence and confidence, the way they walk and carry their beauty. It's admiration for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/20 02:09 PM |
| 26 | Is it ever OK to expose a dangerous, abusive ex on social media?As tempting as it is, dont do it. It will feed his supply and desire for attention whether its good or bad and could be REALLY dangerous for you! He could seek revenge, stalk you or worse for outing him and damaging his reputation. When I met my abusive ex, he told me he was abusive but I ignored it. Pathological people cant hold up the mask for too long and a woman will know something is WRONG after a bit of time and hope willing she listens to her gut. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/20 01:59 PM |
| 70 | Today I was supposed to be getting married and I would have been miserable foreverYayyyy! So happy you dogded that miserable life that you would have had married to him. I love that you mention not marrying the first person that asks too! Especially if you have a bad feeling/gut reaction!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/20 06:07 AM |
| 5 | Stop Smiling So MuchOh yes, I smile at the lovely little children too! Women and children first!!! Men get zero! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/20 08:00 PM |
| 7 | Has anyone ever dated a covert narcissist? What were the signs? How did you escape it?My ex used the same phrase about the honeymoon period being over so he could be more overtly abusive and I would just settle for it because well.."the honeymoon period was over" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/20 02:39 PM |
| 3 | Interview With a SociopathHe's a demon! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/20 02:28 PM |
| 8 | Interview With a SociopathThe whole time he is deflecting and not holding himself accountable for any of his actions. He feels deserving of other people when he is a piece of shit. He goes on about how his relationship with his "friends" was pre-existing and boasts about the length of time he has known them. He is tooting his own horn the entire time and is trying to convince us that pathological people are normal but just different. No, you are not normal. I see right through his demonic ways. He was being manipulative … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/20 02:27 PM |
| 257 | Why Breadcrumbing is Pure EVILReason #4635 why my ex was a demon. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/20 01:58 PM |
| 9 | Stop Smiling So MuchStill healing for sure. He was a demon! I get random flashbacks of the abuse sometimes that I forgot or that was amnesia'd away for so long. Im training myself not to smile at (men) strangers who seem nice or even old men who seem harmless but I smile at most older woman though because they smile at me or because I just adore women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/20 01:53 PM |
| 5 | Has anyone ever dated a covert narcissist? What were the signs? How did you escape it?You outlined this SOOOO perfectly! It describes my ex 100% accurately!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/20 05:03 AM |
| 8 | Promise I’ll swear off LVM no matter how much I want the validation. It’s not worth it!Love this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/20 04:43 AM |
| 13 | Stop Smiling So MuchBut he was asking it in a paranoid and manipulative way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/20 04:41 AM |
| 72 | Stop Smiling So MuchIm usually stone cold with men especially as of late. I have been a smiling fool in the past though. It is totally pick me behavior because they don't have to do anything special, because you'll just be smiling anyway. I smiled a lottttt with my abusive narc ex to the point where he'd neg me if I wasn't smiling. He'd say things like: "whats wrong?" "why do you look so sad?" "what are you thinking about, you look spaced out?" This was all said when my face was neutral and in very calm instances w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/20 02:21 AM |
| 14 | Avoiding male content has done wonders for my life.I enjoyed the first season and I gathered that it was about experiencing loss but I was more repulsed by the relationships between Kevin Garvey and Norah Durst and John Murphy and Erika Murphy. John and Kevin were such fuckboys!! Kevin cheated on Laurie and used Nora as his therapist and sex release. Nora knew better but was lonely. And in the end she forgives him after he stalks her for several years in Australia WHAT THEE FUCK? John was a weak man with undealt with trauma. Erika was a fucking … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/20 08:42 PM |
| 8 | Most efficient way to eliminate narcissists? Refuse to follow their Love Script and watch how he reacts. If his response to the word "no" is persuasion, devaluation, or control: LEAVE and go No Contact. You have just successfully identified a narcissist, and there's NOTHING you can do to change him.My ex tried to do the same to me ALWAYS! He was so greedy and selfish and fucking lazy! Thanks for the tip. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/20 08:21 PM |
| 5 | Tracee Ellis Ross on CHOOSING to be single... AMAZING!Yesss! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/20 07:24 PM |
| 13 | Generic Nude Man Begging for Pussy, made me think of y’all! 🙌Great artwork! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/20 07:22 PM |
| 6 | Most efficient way to eliminate narcissists? Refuse to follow their Love Script and watch how he reacts. If his response to the word "no" is persuasion, devaluation, or control: LEAVE and go No Contact. You have just successfully identified a narcissist, and there's NOTHING you can do to change him.What is an example of something you can say no to on a first date though? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/20 07:21 PM |
| 6 | Most efficient way to eliminate narcissists? Refuse to follow their Love Script and watch how he reacts. If his response to the word "no" is persuasion, devaluation, or control: LEAVE and go No Contact. You have just successfully identified a narcissist, and there's NOTHING you can do to change him.Described my ex down to the bone! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/20 07:18 PM |
| 58 | Avoiding male content has done wonders for my life.Tell me about it!!!! I've been trying to do the same my self! I recently watched the series The Leftovers, it was torture!!!!!! I wanted to know what would happen and Im not surprised that I hated the ending! I recently started another series on Netflix called The Rain. I had to stop watching after episode 3 or 4 when one of the main characters who is a man tried to murder another main character by pushing her into poisonous rain. Her love interest banished him from the group and she was all "Om… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/20 06:59 PM |
| 7 | Avoiding male content has done wonders for my life.LOVE this concept! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/20 06:55 PM |
| 14 | My ex was visibly frustrated that I disregarded his existence after I ran into him at the gymI know that leaving that particular gym would be inconvenient for you as you say your personal trainer is there but is there any way your PT takes on clients out side of gyms or at other gyms? Your ex sounds quite pathological and it's not safe for him to be stalking you in a gym (walking around watching you exercise). He's stalked you before at TWO different club venues. This "inconvenience" may keep you safe from more psychological or even bodily harm from that guy. He could easily follow your… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/20 06:51 PM |
| 3 | Men who "lose" their wedding ringsOmg! Did he find it? How in the world? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/20 01:58 PM |
| 38 | PSA: Never be uncomfortable for a manWhen I first met my abusive ex. I went out of my way to wear thick heeled shoes and boots and wore plenty of tight fitting outfits that made me uncomfortable. I was just finishing up my last round of a 4 month project and was sleep deprived, breaking out, stressed/stress eating in addition to being in the abusive relationship. I started showing up to "dates" with him wearing running shoes and converse and keds and loose comfortable clothing and he made fun of me. Ever since I dumped him I still … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/20 01:48 AM |
| 3 | Men who "lose" their wedding ringsThat was my thought. If it was genuinely lost they'd get a new one immediately! Or make an effort to find it and retrace their steps! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/20 08:27 PM |
| 31 | So my mom is plannin on divorcing my dad after years of abuse. He doesn’t know yet. He lost his wedding ring (for the second time) and mom found it. She sold it and bought herself this cute ring. I’m so proud of her. (Pablo, our cat is too)So happy for your mom!!!! And you! Inknkw you must be so proud! I'm actually making a discussion about the lost wedding ring men. Side eye! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/20 04:13 PM |
| 16 | A Kiss Can't Lie: If he doesn’t kiss you, he‘s not in love with you.Yes precisely! He couldn't look me in the eye to explain either. He just got mad that I was upset. But yes he still wanted sexual intimacy but he was abusive in that as well! He was an evil narcististic demon. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/20 03:56 PM |
| 26 | A Kiss Can't Lie: If he doesn’t kiss you, he‘s not in love with you.My ex was ALL OVER ME kissing and making out in public within reason during the love bombing phase. Slowly over time about 6 months later he began denying me affection in public and all of a sudden had an aversion to pda. This just got worse and worse over time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/20 03:36 PM |
| 4 | Mentally break up before the real break upYes!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/20 03:23 PM |
| 6 | Mentally break up before the real break upThis is sound advice and is exactly what I did! I gave myself almost 3 weeks before dumping my lvm abusive ex for the last and final time. During that time I was watching informative videos and listening to music that gave me joy and was enjoying being happy again. The fog of abuse and the abuse amnesia was wearing off too during that time, so all of the trauma hit me full force and made me so SAD for myself and ANGRY. After that it was so easy to be DONE WITH THAT DEMON! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/20 03:22 PM |
| 12 | How Did YOU discover FDS, and what convinced you to follow its principles?I was on my level up journey after I dumped my abusive narcisistic ex for good. I was one of those naive woman in a relationship that was completely unhealthy but didn't know any better and believed in "stand by your man, struggle love and d!sney love™. I was a pick me for all those reasons and more and endured mental, emotional and sexual abuse...etc. All those women that post in relationship advice and AITA about blatant manipulation, gaslighting and abuse? That was me for over a year. Had no … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/20 03:04 PM |
| 3 | Do not take him to your favorite restuarant/dessert place/park..etcIm sorry about your shitty ex!! My advice would be to create new favorite places and never share them with another man going forward. Create even more favorite places than before! Perhaps you can go to a few of your old favorite spots slowly over time alone to re-establish a relationship with them or order the food for delivery to your place so you still get to indulge in your favorite dining out foods but without the "what if I bump into him" jitters! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/20 04:32 AM |
| 3 | But you were sleeping and eating just fine when you cheated though...Totally agree! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/20 02:55 AM |
| 3 | Do not take him to your favorite restuarant/dessert place/park..etcYup! Exactly!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/20 02:54 AM |
| 10 | But you were sleeping and eating just fine when you cheated though...I honestly feel that with the situation she's in being his wife. Staying with him after he cheated and then having a child with him. AND ON TOP OF THAT trying to push for this trans rights activist stuff will harm her acting career. Her marriage is a sham, she has been publicly humilated by being cheated on and staying and now to distract from all that she decides to align with lgbt people to get praise from a group of people she prob had nothing to do with. Now that little boy is a scapegoat fo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/20 01:00 AM |
| 2 | But you were sleeping and eating just fine when you cheated though...Yup! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/20 12:33 AM |
| 18 | Both of those desserts taste eager, stupid and devoid of self respect...Admittedly, a year ago this was my mindset! Cringe!!!! I get my bc out next week!!!!!!!!!! So excited!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/20 10:40 PM |
| 7 | What I do [27F] with my boyfriend [23M] that start to talk about his ex?2nd all of this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/20 10:35 PM |
| 17 | What I do [27F] with my boyfriend [23M] that start to talk about his ex?I didn't finish reading this but no good will come of this. My narc ex constantly talked about his exes and how he did this and that with them or how they were pretty or whatever and it was all for me to meet his ever changing bar of expectations. Its covert manipulation. It's a tactic. He wants to control you and the relationship. Don't stay in this relationship!!! Run dont walk away. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/20 10:35 PM |
| 46 | But you were sleeping and eating just fine when you cheated though...Its sad to see. She seems to have put all her worth in securing this former basket ball player and being mommy to his children. And now they're this "woke" family with a child who they are saying is trans who is a 12 year old boy. Its all just a lot. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/20 10:19 PM |
| 6 | Do not take him to your favorite restuarant/dessert place/park..etcThats so shitty! Im sorry! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/20 10:13 PM |
| 15 | Do not take him to your favorite restuarant/dessert place/park..etcMy ex flat out told me all the places he took his ex's. Im sure many of the places we went were self serving him something because narcs dont have personalities. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/20 07:55 PM |
| 14 | Do not take him to your favorite restuarant/dessert place/park..etcExactly! I went to a few niche spots with my ex but we stumbled upon them together. Now if I were to find a nice spot, Im keeping it to myself! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/20 06:41 PM |
| 21 | Do not take him to your favorite restuarant/dessert place/park..etcThis!!!! My ex introduced me to a song I really liked but now I just associate it with him trying to be different and deep. Luckily, we had pretty different music tastes! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/20 06:39 PM |
| 22 | Do not take him to your favorite restuarant/dessert place/park..etcThey are demonic black holes with skin, bones and organs. Nothing more or less! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/20 06:26 PM |
| 49 | Do not take him to your favorite restuarant/dessert place/park..etcSoulless freaks! pre-fucking-cisely!!! My ex had a harem of woman "friends" that he used for multiple types of supply (ie:place to crash, money, food, drugs, company, validation...etc). Many of them were interested in some niche and mainstream stuff, so he knew A LOT about just random woman centric things! I'd mention something like a menstrual cup and he'd tell me two different brands that one of his "friends" told him about that I should try like wtf? Or I'd mention something like collagen sup… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/20 06:11 PM |
| 88 | Do not take him to your favorite restuarant/dessert place/park..etcWhere is the lie???? My narc ex would get mad at me all the time because Im a pescetarian and he couldn't take me to his favorite bbq rib restaurant that he ALWAYS went to with his ex. And by "take me to" I mean have me slide him my card to pay for all meals or go half but 90% the former! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/20 05:57 PM |
| 1 | Is this weird for a guy to do?Thank you for ALL the advice ladies! I'm going to keep monitoring it closely. I'll try to think of ways to bring it up. Im glad to be looking out for her! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/20 05:50 PM |
| 2 | Is this weird for a guy to do?Thank you!!! These are the exacr words I was looking to read! Its passive af!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/20 05:45 PM |
| 13 | I don't need a reason to walk out.Yes, but sometimes we have to 'play by the rules' of being as gentle as possible to protect ourselves. It's not about soothing their egos, its about protecting yourself from the rage of a bruised ego man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/20 03:40 PM |
| 11 | Be aware of men with a "magnetic pull"FUCK THAT SHIT , indeed! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/20 03:35 PM |
| 25 | Be aware of men with a "magnetic pull"This is a brilliant breakdown of it and it perfectly describes my ex. I literally told him multiple times even when we first met verbatim that "it felt like there was a magnet keeping me there" He turned out to be a complete nightmare. Narcisist, verbally, mentally and sexually abusive, predatory, manipulative and just plain demonic! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/20 03:33 PM |
| 8 | Is this weird for a guy to do?I edited the post to clarify that my cousin came inside and went to her room alone. She's never bring guys over she wouldn't disrespect her mum like that but she's disrespecting herself thoughhh ughh!!! He said that to her as she exited his car and was making her way to our front door. He drove away after. But it all seems very shady! I agree!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/20 03:09 PM |
| 35 | The bar is SO LOW. Literally it’s national news that a guy was honest with a woman he was dating by telling her he wasn’t ready to be exclusive. Do you want a f@cking medal?Didn't he slam a car door in her face and rage yell at her for winning an arcade game? The bar is still being fabricated in the metal shop! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/20 04:17 AM |
| 7 | If a man is evil against women, he is EVIL as a whole. I've once met a psychopath and today I found the proof he is a horrible person AND a racist.Internal instincts are our life alerts! Stay true to yourself and always trust them! Im glad you dodged that scum of a man! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/20 12:35 AM |
| 147 | This book I’m reading has an interesting part on classic pick me behaviour. Written by a clinical psychologist.I always loved the advice from woman to woman of would you accept if this was happening to your daughter or sister. Its not the same as when men only care about womens issues by saying "I have daughters and sisters" because they are men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/20 12:28 AM |
| 8 | Igniting our feminine powerI have been on the hunt for something like this! I'm gonna check it out! Thanks for posting! Her hair is beautiful! 😍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/20 11:45 PM |
| 25 | Be honest, your HVM isn't perfect. No one is. Let's list things they do that aren't deal breakers, but would be nice if it were different.His perfectionism isn't a big issue now but sometimes I wonder if it could become stress down the line and this worries me a bit. Good on you for thinking realistically! Sometimes confidence and cockiness is masking something else. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/20 11:34 PM |
| 3 | STOP unintentionally giving LVM your mental and emotional energy in your daily lifeIt sucked a lot at first but as the years went on and I started valuing myself more. It became easier to do so. The most recent friend I dumped I literally feel nothing about it. I can appreciate how I met her and how our friendship started but it became one sided before I knew it. Compared to the first friend I dumped about 3 - 4 years ago. It took me a year and some change to get over it. Now it's easy to nix what doesn't make me happy. Whether its a friendship, relationship, job...anything. I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/20 08:33 PM |
| 17 | STOP unintentionally giving LVM your mental and emotional energy in your daily lifeThis always happens with a relative of mine and I have actually broken up with all of my friends due to them not being there for me or supporting me with my life experiences amongst many things but dating was the number 1. Its seems thats what my friendships with other women in the past boiled down to once we became adults at the end of the day. I stopped talking about dating as much and tried to have a healthy balance of topics but they ALWAYS had a story of some guy and I'd offer up my advice … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/20 05:03 PM |
| 3 | For the Pickmeishas flaunting their LVM Like I CareThe only thing that bothers me is that this queen is married to birdman rapper? Wtf!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/20 03:52 AM |
| 13 | For the Pickmeishas flaunting their LVM Like I CareDo you know I dumped your husband, girlfriend!!!! But you married him!!!! I love this song, was listening to it a few weeks back. Going to play it again tonight now! Also love how they partnered in the end. Even in the pick me song The Boy Is Mine at least in the end the women patterned as well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/20 03:43 AM |
| 5 | Don't compromise food (cooking or ordering) for a man!Your current partner sounds great. My ex was so selfish with his food but had no problem taking bites of mine. He always commented on how I was a light eater and this subconsciously made me not finish my portions. I would give him my leftovers and when I became hungry later on he'd get annoyed with me about it. He was too broke to offer me any nice meals and too apathetic to care about my needs! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/20 02:35 AM |
| 3 | Don't compromise food (cooking or ordering) for a man!I hear you. I used to think the same way! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/20 02:31 AM |
| 14 | How do you feel about sending additional photos?My ex asked ne to do thst when we firsr met and I did it. I sent him more photos and videos to prove myself. It was a downhill battle from there! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/20 02:13 AM |
| 10 | What are your dating dealbreakers?I don't do potheads! I gave my demonic ex a chance and thought "its just a little weed". I paid for all of our meals and lodging and everything in between. I'll never forget one time I told him I was low on cash, I had been saying it all week long. He had just gotten some extra work later in that same week, so, I asked him if he could lend me a little cash. He said he spent his last bit of money on weed and said "can't you ask your mom or cousin for money?" The next time I saw him was on MY dime… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/20 12:51 AM |
| 26 | When HVM senses you won’t give out and suddenly morphs into a “fuck yea” “dope” and insulting LVMSounds like my ex, he was a polite for a while then his fuckboy started showing and his texts started looking like that. If you can't communicate in full sentences with real words ✌ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/20 11:17 PM |
| 11 | Don't compromise food (cooking or ordering) for a man!Yesss! Good for her!!!! I was fit when I met my ex. Then I started compromising my food choices for cheap shitty food I didn't normally eat because he was too broke to take me out to nice meals. I also got on bc (which is being removed soon yay!) I dont know how much I've gained now but within a little over a year of meating him I went from 116 go 131 pounds. I know I've gained more but I'll find out when my bc is removed. Im on my fitness journey amongst other level up things! :-) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/20 11:13 PM |
| 6 | Don't compromise food (cooking or ordering) for a man!Yessss!!!!! Lol that actually makes me so happy. I'm getting my bc removed in a week and have already been consistent of my fitness for the past 2 months so continuing with it and incorporating IF is going to be great. I was in a rollercoaster of shit for a couple of years with a narc LVM and my self esteem plummeted and my weight increased by the end of it so this is major for me! Thanks for your insight! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/20 06:12 PM |
| 11 | Don't compromise food (cooking or ordering) for a man!Thank you! It's all coming along and unfolding! I was thinking of doing the 8 hour window! I have gained weight because of stress/bc/ sedentary activity! I am slightly ok with the weight gain, I would like to lose 10 pounds and build muscle/strength and just maintain my weight! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/20 05:57 PM |
| 72 | I can’t tell if these messages are sincere or manipulative and I’ve been ruminating all weekend.The whole message is manipulative from start to finish! He's lying and does not love you. In particular, "I have some nice things I was going to give you when things got good and I felt you were ready to demonstrate that commitment" Gaslighting/Crazy Making/Adoration fishing!!! He has no concern about how you feel. He basically told you he was going to reward you with some mystery "gifts" that I'm sure only serve to benefit him under the guise of a gift to you. He wants you to give in and say "b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/20 05:34 PM |
| 15 | Don't compromise food (cooking or ordering) for a man!I actually am so interested in IF! I plan to practice it in the upcoming month and onwards when my cashflow will be steady and consistent. I'm not sure what time frame/window I'll give myself for food consumption but it's something I'm looking forward to. I have been working very hard on figuring out my goals and am leveling up career, finance and looks wise. Additionally in health and fitness as well. They are in goals stage right now but I consider these all to be a lifestyle! But, yes even if… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/20 05:15 PM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: VALENTINE'S DAY 2020 EDITION 💜I miss my cycle and I am excited to have it again!! This is the first , only and last time I'll use hormonal bc. Its been less than a year but it'll be out is 8 days now!!! I can't wait to get back to me! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/20 06:35 AM |
| 18 | "I never asked you to do that!"Thankfully, a lightbulb went off LOUDLY after a couple of years and I dumped him! My self esteem was picked at slowly for that whole duration and I didn't even recognize myself the day after I dumped him. I looked in the mirror and I was happy! Im slowly getting back to my self and it feels damn good!! He's a demon and is dead to me! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/20 03:09 AM |
| 13 | "I never asked you to do that!"Precisely! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/20 02:42 AM |
| 35 | "I never asked you to do that!"Yes. It proves they never cared! It was all fake. He even tried to point the finger at me by asking me why I was with him and asked ME if I was just being fake the whole time. He was obviously projecting his own narc pathological shit onto me. It sounded so ridiculous. And it was. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/20 02:42 AM |
| 51 | Men who walk in front of their partnersGood post! My ex did this to me during his devaluation and crazy making periods. When we first got together, he was all over me in public then months later he "didn't feel comfortable with pda" and he bould barely hold my hand. At this point walking ahead of me was a given. He complained I walked too slow. Its all just abusive and insidious. If a man can't walk side by side with you , it's very telling! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/20 01:23 AM |
| 1 | Any HVW daughters of Pick me mothers?Thank you! I will try this in the most polite way possible next time! I hopevit does spark something in her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/20 12:00 AM |
| 5 | Let's play a game! ☆ Describe your exes in 10 words or fewer ☆Narcissistic, broke, loser, follower, no sense of self, weak, empty. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/20 11:07 PM |
| 4 | Just watched a full grown adult man fake fumble for his wallet at an ice cream shop. His poor date just sighed as she pulled out her wallet.Thank you! Its over for him now! He no longer has my supply and I sure do hope all his "female friends" woke up too! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/20 11:05 PM |
| 6 | Just watched a full grown adult man fake fumble for his wallet at an ice cream shop. His poor date just sighed as she pulled out her wallet.Yes! NEVER AGAIN! #FUCKBOYFREE2020 and FOREVER!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/20 05:46 PM |
| 9 | Just watched a full grown adult man fake fumble for his wallet at an ice cream shop. His poor date just sighed as she pulled out her wallet.Yes, its ridiculous! I fed into his fragile male ego plus he was a narc , so I also literally fed him clothed him and provided him shelter with my money by manipulation and conditioning! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/20 05:29 PM |
| 5 | Just watched a full grown adult man fake fumble for his wallet at an ice cream shop. His poor date just sighed as she pulled out her wallet.Thanks! It actually does feel better not to be the only one. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/20 05:10 PM |
| 3 | After 6 months of no contact The wild narcissist appears. 5 years of nothing but sacrifice for a man. It feels good to know he’s upset his power is gone. “You deserve, but I probably can’t” lmao I know. Always that making a negative seem positive. (You ladies have done wonders showing me the light)Like he sat there with a blank expression writing it, inserting Lie Coins into the Girlfriend Machine 👏 📣💯!!!!!!!!!!!! This is gold and so accurate! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/20 04:16 AM |
| 14 | Just a LVM demonstrating LVM energy 😉👏 👏 clap yessss!!! Choosing to be alone instead of unhappy is the best thing!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/20 01:58 AM |
| 2 | Any HVW daughters of Pick me mothers?I'm so sorry you are dealing with this! It is rhe worst thing to witness our mother's of all people be miserable with a fake smile plastered all over their face! I'm not even shocked about the whole acceptimg breadcrumbs from a gay/bi man because I've witnessed similar. Its heartbreaking. I know it must be hard for you to have to distsnce yourself from your mother and it sounds like you care a great deal about her and want to see her genuinely happy! Unfortunately, a lot of "older" women (40's-5… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/20 01:56 AM |
| 31 | Just watched a full grown adult man fake fumble for his wallet at an ice cream shop. His poor date just sighed as she pulled out her wallet.Lmfaooooo 🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡 Clown shit for real!!! I did the same! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/20 01:47 AM |
| 35 | Just watched a full grown adult man fake fumble for his wallet at an ice cream shop. His poor date just sighed as she pulled out her wallet.Yes, I'm not proud of it but I did so much pick me shit with this loser its very eye opening to look back and admit and see all the ways I was abused by him and all the ways in which I let him control me. I know never to do that again! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/20 01:45 AM |
| 1 | He didn't eat on first dateI think it's weird. If he was fasting or had stomach issues or something, he should have just politely said that to you. If he cant tell you something as simple as that then why bother? Maybe it is a fetish like someone else said and he gets off on watching you/other women eat. I'd be weirded out and not see him again. Trust your instincts ALWAYS! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/20 12:51 AM |
| 118 | Just watched a full grown adult man fake fumble for his wallet at an ice cream shop. His poor date just sighed as she pulled out her wallet.My ex instructed me to give him my fucking cash or card to pay for us so it didnt look like I was paying. And I fucking DID! HOW TRAGIC! He even had the nerve to get mad at me several times for not passing it to him discreetly enough. So glad to be out of that shitshow! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/20 12:41 AM |
| 30 | Sis, your low standards should be given a death certificateReason number #3838388 why I will never date a man without a university degree or higher! I gave a hs graduate diploma man a "chance" and he didn't even attend my commencement celebration service . | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/20 12:38 AM |
| 9 | Having Crushes on Men is Just Another Way for them to Manipulate youIf he gets a chance if he's desperate enough for some kitty cat he'll make a move on you eventually. There can be no friendship between a man and a woman. Him making a move will not be because you are of low quality it will just be because he can and wants to. He'll play up on your friendship and may even use things you've told him in secret to give him a chance. Cut your friendship or limit it extensively! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/20 12:36 AM |
| 4 | After 6 months of no contact The wild narcissist appears. 5 years of nothing but sacrifice for a man. It feels good to know he’s upset his power is gone. “You deserve, but I probably can’t” lmao I know. Always that making a negative seem positive. (You ladies have done wonders showing me the light)Majority of men are pathological!!! With didn't date the exception, we dated the majority! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/20 09:51 PM |
| 8 | Sex good. Baby bad.True! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/20 09:41 PM |
| 10 | Guy I've been speaking to starting to send "good morning" textsNahhh. He's pulling some PUA shit. My ex did the whole good morning shit for a while then got completely lazy and slowly used me, degraded, devalued, discared and emotionally abused me. It was me in the end sending good morning and good night texts and begging for him to do the same (like he use to do). Little did I know at the time it was just to reel me into his fucked up life and be his supply. I think good morning texts if in a committed and healthy relationship (read marriage) are ok. Ex: "… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/20 06:34 PM |
| 12 | 2.14 challengeYup!!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/20 06:23 PM |
| 48 | Sex good. Baby bad.Looks like he got a beer gut while she got pregnant. He was chugging down beers while her feet were hurting and do you think he gave her a massage? He prob hounded her for not keeping the refrigerator stocked with his cold brewed artisinal läger for the entire 9 months. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/20 06:22 PM |
| 2 | Any HVW daughters of Pick me mothers?I have very similar experiences with my mom being the sole resource even when my shit father was around. Its so sticky of a situation because I also feel like I resent her a little but I also just feel sad for her because she deserves the world!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/20 04:27 PM |
| 8 | After 6 months of no contact The wild narcissist appears. 5 years of nothing but sacrifice for a man. It feels good to know he’s upset his power is gone. “You deserve, but I probably can’t” lmao I know. Always that making a negative seem positive. (You ladies have done wonders showing me the light)Precisely! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/20 12:56 PM |
| 8 | Does anyone else secretly look up old ex from years ago on social media just to feel this enormous relief of how well you dodged a bullet.This! I love that karma has wiped the floor with yiir ex but you found out by chance and not actively seeking that information. I blocked my abusive pos narc ex on all fronts and he's dead to me, luckily we didn't share any mutual friends. I imagine he's imploded somewhere all shriveled up with no supply surounded by piss bottles and fast food. :-) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/20 12:52 PM |
| 10 | Does anyone else secretly look up old ex from years ago on social media just to feel this enormous relief of how well you dodged a bullet.While I'm glad to hear karma is doing her thing! This is unhealthy. Don't look up people from your past or obsess over having access to them. Knowing you're no longer with them is winning. You don't want access or any parts of them and shouldn't actively seek out their profiles or otherwise. Keep them in the dust. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/20 12:47 PM |
| 21 | (F36) (M36) My ex-fiancé (8yrs) is on a Valentine’s Day overnight date and used my Hotels.com account to book it. We’ve been broken up for 9 months.Totally agree, his using of the account is using her and taking advantage of her STILL! Even after almost a year later! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/20 12:35 PM |
| 17 | (F36) (M36) My ex-fiancé (8yrs) is on a Valentine’s Day overnight date and used my Hotels.com account to book it. We’ve been broken up for 9 months.Sounds like some shit my ex would do so I deleted everything I gave him access too, changed all the passwords and gave him zero access to me from outside sources. Your broke ass can't afford Netflix? Too bad, not on my account and password! I would have cancelled the reservation. The fact that he used your account is insidious! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/20 12:33 PM |
| 7 | Any HVW daughters of Pick me mothers?Yup picked it up from men! Other factors come into play but men are the sole culprits! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/20 12:21 PM |
| 20 | After 6 months of no contact The wild narcissist appears. 5 years of nothing but sacrifice for a man. It feels good to know he’s upset his power is gone. “You deserve, but I probably can’t” lmao I know. Always that making a negative seem positive. (You ladies have done wonders showing me the light)Yes! Not too far from a suicide threat tactic! My ex used the same wording, "I'll lose my mind, I adore you, you're literally the best..." and when that didn't work he threatened suicide and it sucked me right back into the abuse. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/20 12:20 PM |
| 125 | After 6 months of no contact The wild narcissist appears. 5 years of nothing but sacrifice for a man. It feels good to know he’s upset his power is gone. “You deserve, but I probably can’t” lmao I know. Always that making a negative seem positive. (You ladies have done wonders showing me the light)"Idk what it is about you" aka put up with more of my abuse like you used too! "every time I'm with you, you make me want to be a better man..." aka you stroked my ego so well, you gave me great supply "I'd honestly lose my mind and go crazy" aka now I'm forced to deal with my hollow insides and I can't handle it. Give me suppppplyyyy wahhhh! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/20 06:06 AM |
| 82 | After 6 months of no contact The wild narcissist appears. 5 years of nothing but sacrifice for a man. It feels good to know he’s upset his power is gone. “You deserve, but I probably can’t” lmao I know. Always that making a negative seem positive. (You ladies have done wonders showing me the light)Did my ex write this? This looks like exactlllllly like how he wrote and its eerily similar to things he's sent me before when we were together and I was being devalued and discarded. All narcs are cut from the same dingy grimy demonic cloth. They follow the same script! I laugh out loud in shock almost when I read narc stuff and feel deja vu! I'm so proud of you for your 6 months of NC! No more power to the demon. Let him shrivel up from lack of supply. Let him deal with his empty hollow inside… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/20 05:58 AM |
| 8 | I saw my ex for the first time in several months today. So glad I dumped his ass!Life shines brighter when you value yourself. It also is so much easier to see through the bullshit. I am so glad that you have healed from your relationship with him! You are off to bigger and better things! 👑 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/20 04:47 AM |
| 7 | 1920s LVM Vintage Valentines: Incest is best! Put your sister to the test!These keep getting creepier! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/20 04:42 AM |
| 11 | Any HVW daughters of Pick me mothers?I'm sorry you have had to deal with that. I feel like my mom has some narc tendencies but I think its solely from survival and residual of being in a relationship with my narc father and other narc men before him too! She has many HVW traits but the pick me in her is just a total clash! It's saddening to see. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/20 04:41 AM |
| 9 | Any HVW daughters of Pick me mothers?It's so disappointing because I just can't share anything about relationships with my mom or even dating or friendships sometimes. She just always makes excuses for men or just accepts bare minimum. She actually sometimes talks shit about women with standards, I believe she does this because she has quieted her own standards over the years and now they are practically silenced completely. My mom unfortunately also has low self esteem, although she's gorgeous and a total catch. I have now learned… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/20 04:39 AM |
| 47 | What I’ve been saying!Yes , the extract, the good real one and not the imitation stuff is really delicious and very necessary for treats! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/20 01:35 AM |
| 53 | What I’ve been saying!French vanilla is so yummy. And so is vanilla bean!!! Soooo good! There's a reason why desserts pair well with vanilla ice cream and not the double fudge caramel tofee peanut butter crunch flavor or orange and strawberry sorbet! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/20 01:33 AM |
| 3 | 1920s LVM Vintage Valentines: Nothing says “I love you” like holding a woman hostageVery creepy! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/20 11:27 PM |
| 165 | What I’ve been saying!The fact that they call regular healthy sex "vanilla" like its plain and boring should be enough to run for the hills. It is not normal for people to enjoy being choked and whipped and gagged during sex. Thats abuse, degradation violence not kink. Think about what gags, whips and choking stem from? Kidnappings, abuse, racism, hatred, control, power, murder. Now remind me again how that turns you on? Like wtf!? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/20 11:26 PM |
| 11 | Red pillers/plate spinners and walking among us and we don’t even know itMy ex only pretended to enjoy reading. He was a pos. If he had actually enjoyed reading, I don't even want to imagine what would be on his shelf! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/20 10:41 PM |
| 1 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: VALENTINE'S DAY 2020 EDITION 💜They understand words if you are able to stay in your feminine essence even when you’re mad (which requires self restraint and practice) Can you elaborate on the feminine part. I tend to stay calm and reserved. My ex liked to push my buttons which would result in me blowing up at him. Do you mean just letting it roll off your shoulders? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/20 08:16 PM |
| 15 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: VALENTINE'S DAY 2020 EDITION 💜I get my birth control removed in 11 days!!! I am SO excited! I've been working out consistently for a couple of months and have been pampering myself with stretching and practicing reflection in the shower every day. I already feel so much more like myself again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/20 04:21 PM |
| 20 | Twin flames, soulmates, Plutonic relationships and other Pickme bs pushed by the astrological communityAstrology, crystals and d!sney love™ have been extremely detrimental to my mental health. I got into all of this stuff years and years ago because a close friend was very in to tarot. I never did the card stuff myself but would watch readings for my zodiac sign on youtube from many people. I had many astrology and horoscope apps downloaded onto my phone and frequented any local zen shoppes for stones and trinkets. I based almost my entire existence on space and stones. I justified abuse and shit… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/20 07:41 AM |
| 2 | I really hope we as a women collective soon retire the phrases “I’ll take your man” ,” but your man wants me” altogether because it’s dusty. They’re not the prize at all.Totally agree. It's so lv to even conduct oneself in such a manner. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/20 10:14 PM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: VALENTINE'S DAY 2020 EDITION 💜Congratulations on the job! I use to love sonic too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/20 10:05 PM |
| 17 | "Does she expect you to read her mind?" Yep, next questionOne of the first things I told my ex was that Im a pescetarian. He was all like "woah cool omg I always have been interested in that!" Was with that pos for 2 years and when dining out or odering he would always ask if I wanted a burger or chicken then say "oh wait, oops" he'd sometimes do it and really act like he truly forgot. He was really just trying to make me cave and say "you know what , fuck it! What's a little chicken just for today" aka "let me make this easy for you" I unfortunately d… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/20 09:58 PM |
| 59 | Another ‘Protect Your Finances’ PostGaslighting at its finest. "How dare you have valid feelings as a consequence of my shitty behavior? I knew you'd overreact." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/20 03:24 PM |
| 7 | Later, loser.Yassss! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/20 09:47 PM |
| 15 | We need to ban the use of the term "FWB" here on FDS.Totally agree and I will reiterate from another recent coment I made to a similar thread: Notice how nearly all the women who advocate for fwb by saying "sometimes women want just sex too" talk about their long term fwb. Saying my fwb I've had for 2 years, 3 years, 5 years. You're putting all of your eggs in to one non committal basket. Meanwhile your fwb man is not being exclusive to you in his sexcapades. He's got like 2 or 3 DIFFERENT woman he sleeps with as his fwb EACH year while you've jus… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/20 06:53 PM |
| 40 | Stop engaging in FWB relationships! It does nothing but make you an unpaid escort who will eventually get her heart broken. Women aren’t built for casual relationships. You deserve a man who loves you, treats you like his queen, and commits to you. You deserve the full package!Notice how nearly all the women who advocate for fwb by saying "sometimes women want just sex too" talk about their long term fwb. Saying my fwb I've had for 2 years, 3 years, 5 years. You're putting all of your eggs in to one non committal basket. Meanwhile your fwb man is not being exclusive to you in his sexcapades. He's got like 2 or 3 DIFFERENT woman he sleeps with as his fwb EACH year while you've just had him for 2-5 years, he's had you PLUS 8-10 other women over the years of your "friend… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/20 02:13 PM |
| 2 | Stop engaging in FWB relationships! It does nothing but make you an unpaid escort who will eventually get her heart broken. Women aren’t built for casual relationships. You deserve a man who loves you, treats you like his queen, and commits to you. You deserve the full package!Agreed! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/20 02:03 PM |
| 2 | Comedy hour: what is the most ridiculous thing a LVM has ever told you about the dating pool?For the whole time I was with him I knew something was wrong but since I had no one to compare him to. I put my mental, sexual and physical health at risk because I believed in both Disney™ and Struggle Love™. I thought that standing by him and "working through" things which was always me standing up to his put downs/devaluation was normal. He chased me and pursued me and asked for exclusivity quickly. The lovebombing made it seem worthwhile at first. But he was just grooming me. He made it a po… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/20 07:38 PM |
| 9 | Comedy hour: what is the most ridiculous thing a LVM has ever told you about the dating pool?"No other guy will understand your weirdness, how ackward you are and will love you like I do." I didn't recognize it as negging at the time and legitimately and very confusingly thought "awwww I think?" Those type of insidious put downs were everyday occurances with him and as was his gaslighting, manipulation, control and many other things. He was very covert and sometimes overt. He wanted me to hate myself because Im "ackward" and have an "odd" sense of taste/dress. He never loved me, he just… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/20 05:47 PM |
| 66 | 90s TV Shows were all about “empowered” women giving up their hopes, goals, potential, and dreams to slum it with their low achieving boyfriends. No wonder Millennial dating is messed up. Topanga I am so disappoint, sis.Sean would have not done this shit to Angela, he would have proposed like a real man. Angela broke up with him and he knew he fucked up and was still fawning over her. But he was proud of her for choosing herself. He never punished her for it or cursed her name, he punished himself and came to understand her valid reasoning. Though Sean was a fuckboy before he met Angela, he was a player had a new girl every week! Meanwhile, Cory's fuckboy annoying ass had such an inflated ego because Topanga wa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/20 01:23 PM |
| 30 | "Good Vibes Only"I haven't used old in a couple of years but I steer clear of ANYONE who is spouting that bs! I knew plenty of women who have also said this and were mean, cold, dismissive, selfish, were just out to get ahead for themselves and dump you if you weren't of any resource to them and they gave off horrible vibes themselves but "it's all love" and "good vibes only" on their social media profiles. I honestly think its such a bs front for self centered people. The men who say this crap, well thats a who… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/20 06:18 AM |
| 20 | Especially #2. Stop giving people the benefit of the doubt. If they don’t reach out, put forth effort, or make you a priority, don’t keep hurting yourself by making excuses for their behavior.Yes this goes for friendships too! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/20 06:11 AM |
| 2 | Ladies, don't be modest.Same! I'm implementing so much carefree behavior and confidence nowadays just in my everyday self chilling at home. I'll read things now and scoff. I'll watch interactions in film and television with an intricate lens. For instance, I was watching a show the other day with a family member. In the show, a man was upset that one of his employees who was a woman got hurt on the job. He ridiculed and belittled her while she was at the hospital and when the doctors came in looking serious and he real… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/20 12:50 AM |
| 3 | Porn sickness tells: Early male pattern baldingThanks for this! Interestingly enough I have my father's hairline as a woman. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/20 06:45 PM |
| 2 | Does anyone else feel like most men have a predatory stare?Thank you!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/20 02:04 PM |
| 1 | Ladies, don't be modest.Don't feel stupid. We learn! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/20 02:04 PM |
| 6 | Does anyone else feel like most men have a predatory stare?Thank you! I had my "dont fuck with me" face on. Hopefully he knows that to try that shit again. He was so obviously waiting for me to notice so he could gauge my reaction so I just pretended he wasn't there. Standing in my way? Laundry bag to the leg because you're invisible you fuckboy. Hovering by the dryer , dryer door to the face. Why the fuck are you orbiting me you creep! And yes, unfortunately his behavior might very well work on someone naive and/or with low self esteem. They'll be swoo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/20 02:03 PM |
| 58 | Does anyone else feel like most men have a predatory stare?Yes, this is true. The other day I was in the laundromat and I walked passed a guy and I felt him looking at me. He was staring so hard because he wanted me to look at him. I walked right by him and put my clothes in the dryer. When I came back he was conveniently standing very near my dryer machine so I walked by him again purposefully letting my laundry bag hit him so he had to practically jump out of my way and then I swung the machine door open so hard that it almost hit him too and he backe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/20 01:52 AM |
| 3 | Ladies, don't be modest.This spells it out very clearly, thank you! I have definitely been an agreeable and passive liar in the past for fear of being disliked by friends, family and men. Now idgaf!!! Im unlearning A LOT! But it's rewarding to FINALLY be honest and true to myself! It feels so good. I have expressed modesty too with some of my achievements but I feel it stemmed from my passivity. Thanks!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/20 08:57 PM |
| 57 | Unapologetically female-only spaces are so necessaryYes to this! I was interested in a position at a seemingly community oriented and pretty accesible organization. One of the employees mentioned that starting mid year they were going to launch a women's group/circle. I thought to myself "yessss so necessary" then she said "yes, its open to ALL including those who identify as women and non binary people. I was like "oh, ok" wtf is the point???? Like if I talk about my period, my uterus and ovaries some man who identifies as a woman is gonna get t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/20 08:05 PM |
| 3 | Share songs that normalize sexual violence [below]Im pretty sure if I listened to some of my favorite songs from 10 years ago, I'd find plenty. But ps don't run with headphones on! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/20 07:58 PM |
| 3 | Ladies, don't be modest.I am actively working on this every day. I've been very very passive in the past and unlearning several years of passivity is quite the journey but Im so much better being more assertive! Its the best thing! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/20 07:54 PM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered (Feb. 5th 2020)It's a number of things, low self esteem, conditiining, grooming by the narc. But like you said, he's not your problem any more! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/20 06:44 PM |
| 1 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered (Feb. 5th 2020)Super didordered! They can't choose healthy relationships because they lack empathy. They'll always be miserable and insecure on the inside no matter how much they try to pretend to be happy go lucky or stable. I'm just glad we're out! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/20 04:40 PM |
| 22 | Ladies, don't be modest.Yes exactly! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/20 03:36 PM |
| 22 | Ladies, don't be modest.Good point, I always have trouble diffrenciate the two. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/20 03:35 PM |
| 1 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered (Feb. 5th 2020)I also dumped my ex once. Got hoovered back because he threatened suicide and guilted me. Then I dumped him again several months later for breadcrumbing me! I actually read up on narcististic abuse while with him but was in denial and justifying it with "well he's not always like that. Because he conditioned me. Then one day, after months of being gaslit, breadcrumbed and slowly discared. I started replaying everything in my mind and felt disgusted and angry and pictured myself wasting more time… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/20 06:28 AM |
| 1 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered (Feb. 5th 2020)Its wild right? Did you dump yours or did he discard? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/20 02:12 AM |
| 21 | Yikes.He couldn't even be bothered to check his shitty grammar. That forehead pimple is giving him a run for his non money. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/20 04:38 PM |
| 16 | It's not the Gift of Fear, it's a Shark Cage.Very good points! I've made it a duty of mine to read psychological books about trauma and such authored by women only/predominantly as a default. If a man wrote it, I read with caution and only will read it its highly recommended. I have the book Gift of Fear on my To-read list and I will read it with careful attention to wording. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/20 04:36 PM |
| 4 | Would you accept any low value traits, if the high value traits outweigh them?No | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/20 11:42 AM |
| 3 | Eartha Kitt on MenExactly, he knows by compromise he means lower her standards! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/20 12:35 PM |
| 8 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered (Feb. 5th 2020)Agree, that quote is perfectly worded! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/20 05:25 AM |
| 30 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered (Feb. 5th 2020)Y'all, I got hoovered my by narc ex a couple of hours ago through an app I thought I deleted my account from. It felt so good to laugh LAUGHHHH out loud at my screen at the audacity of him still trying to gain access to me as supply to feed his sick, indidious, montrous, selfish, low life ego after months of NC. I of course proceeded to terminate the account and deleted the app immediately so the shit will say 'user not found' or whatever if he tried it again. What a fucking loser! FuckboyFree20… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/20 05:21 AM |
| 14 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered (Feb. 5th 2020)Don't. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/20 05:12 AM |
| 6 | I just cut things off permanently with a man who kept me on the line for over 2 years.Yay!!!! Congratulations! I too was in a 2 year shit show! We are much stronger now that we put our value at the forefront! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/20 01:33 AM |
| 2 | If he freaks out every time you pick up his phone, you need to think some things oberHe claimed he was using it to scout for people for an artistic project like actors and models and that it was so easy to meet people from there for that goal. And I said "oh okay" and let it ride and let him do it. I can't prove that he physically cheated on me but he probably did or if not physically, emotionally with chatting girls up on there trying to impress them or just looking for more ego boosts in the form of other women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/20 08:10 PM |
| 3 | Don't date a man who lives with his lesbian ex-wifeYou saw this happen!? Is this common! Wtf!!? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/20 10:04 PM |
| 32 | Eartha Kitt on MenI love how the interviewer is trying to get her to answer his questions the way he wants them to be answered by drilling her with more questions! And she laughs!!!! True queen Eartha! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/20 08:45 PM |
| 6 | I stumbled upon this on FB. Honestly makes me never want to hook up or be a pickmeisha againExactly!! I was one of those gullible women! Had it not been for ignoring red flags because of familial and societal conditioning I would have ended things early on with my pathological ex instead of letting my low self esteem get twisted up by him for 2 years! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/20 08:37 PM |
| 7 | Don't date a man who lives with his lesbian ex-wifeYup. The ex-wife's girlfriend seems fine with it. Its just really bizarre! But hundreds of comments were so supportive! My mind was blown. Funny thing is, I have an ex friend who was similiar to the wife in this scenario, she was very fluid with her sexuality BUT she also had major trauma with men growing up. I believe this influenced a lot of her behaviors. I tried to be supportive in her situations for YEARS and didn't want to come across as insensitive or be accused of being homophobic becaus… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/20 07:42 PM |
| 28 | Don't date a man who lives with his lesbian ex-wifeOr his ego is bruised and he won't let go until he finds his new dream woman and then he'll move out or kick her out and cease contact and drop the whole "we're best buds now" act. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/20 07:05 PM |
| 3 | Don't date a man who lives with his lesbian ex-wifeIt's wild. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/20 07:04 PM |
| 13 | Don't date a man who lives with his lesbian ex-wifeThat too! For both sides its fucked! And she has a girlfriend too like an entirely new full fledged relationship with a woman. I'm sure its lovely when they all watch gay netflix shows together. This sort of dysfunction is being normalized as "radical love" and all this frilly new age terminology is a bandaid for the fact that lots of people have REAL unresolved traumas, issues and fetishes but nah its all love™ though! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/20 06:55 PM |
| 9 | Don't date a man who lives with his lesbian ex-wifeyup they'll all be in some open relationship with zero boundaries but don't worry they love™ each other plenty. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/20 06:52 PM |
| 17 | Don't date a man who lives with his lesbian ex-wifeOh he'll find some "one love, call me mustard sofa, love is the key" pick me person to be cool with it and they'll all have dinner together and go on double dates while all cohabitating. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/20 06:49 PM |
| 32 | Don't date a man who lives with his lesbian ex-wifeThe ex-wife posted a selfie of them both together and that was the caption. Everyone in the comments were posting rainbow emojis and saying things like "in the end it's all about love" , "there are so many ways to make love work" and "this is so inspiring". Wtf!!!? Don't date guys who clearly have no boundaries! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/20 06:37 PM |
| 14 | I stumbled upon this on FB. Honestly makes me never want to hook up or be a pickmeisha again"run through these gullible ladies" makes me so angry. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/20 01:30 PM |
| 38 | He cancelled our date because he was drinking with the boys. I lay down the law, then says he will call but hasn't. Having boundaries push them to show themselves.You dont put men in the "doghouse" you block and delete. Don't give dudes second chances (especially after he blew you off for his boys?) ! Don't entertain this fuckboy. He called you "the lady" like this is some ironic medieval hipster festival. Fuck all the way off. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/20 07:22 AM |
| 30 | This screenshot isn’t mine but I thought of this place when I saw itI screenshotted things as a reminder to myself that he was crazy but I also deleted things he sent that I was in denial of and risked my physical, emotional and sexual health. I was so conditioned that I dare not bring up any evidence to him because it would be logic-ed away by him in a long speech justifying his behavior. Im so happy ro be healing now! Im so happy you're free too! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/20 07:00 AM |
| 16 | If he freaks out every time you pick up his phone, you need to think some things oberEx never was without his phone. Took it in the bathroom with him and kept it in his pocket or super nearby him when in bed. Yet he was always using my phone. He once questioned a calendar app I was using because the icon was pink and I guess looked like a dating app. Yet he had tinder downloaded on his phone for "artistic' purposes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/20 05:23 AM |
| 134 | This screenshot isn’t mine but I thought of this place when I saw itSo trueeee!! My ex would delete messages all the time, "forget" he said certain things or gaslight me and claim he NEVER said them. True fucking pathological pos! He believed he was such a good man who had just been wronged by so many. He wanted to keep up his woke and vulnerable persona so that he wouldn't have to deal with his predatory and insidious mind. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/20 12:58 AM |
| 59 | Anyone else experience this??? 🙋🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️"You still mad at me?" Well, I know you hate me/don't like me right now but..." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/20 12:56 AM |
| 10 | Stop Calling Men "HVM" after two or three datesGreat post!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/20 09:38 PM |
| 11 | Does anyone else have a pickme mom?Yes, I live at home, that is literally the only reason why I put up with it. I realized that subconsciously it still effects and I oppose it every day while I'm still under her roof until I move out and gain financial independence from her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/20 09:23 PM |
| 19 | Working as a Postpartum Nurse has raised my standards tenfold. Here’s why.Fucking atrocious pos! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/20 05:31 PM |
| 38 | Does anyone else have a pickme mom?I've learned very very recently to just nod and listen when my mom displays her pick me and or low self esteem projections on to me. Im sometimes get frustrated and react in an annoyed manner or try to firmly disagree but it always leads nowhere with her. She says a lot about "men being men" aka cheaters, liars, lazy, arrogant, disrespectful and talks like it's default and should be expected of women to work through these things with men. It's exhausting and had caused me to internalize a lot of… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/20 05:23 PM |
| 8 | Men who casually have their hand in their pants when chilling at home?Ughhhh always the audacity!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/20 06:41 AM |
| 22 | The "blockening" 🤯🐦lol block quack chirp be gone! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/20 04:51 AM |
| 20 | Men who casually have their hand in their pants when chilling at home?My moms husband doesn't EVER wash his hands after using the bathroom. I never heard the water run after the toilet flushed. Just the bathroom door opening almost immediately after. Fucking gross! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/20 04:35 AM |
| 21 | Men who casually have their hand in their pants when chilling at home?Comforting is sipping some warm tea! Not touching yourself. It's gross! Men can slap whatever label on it. Women aren't randomly touching their pubic areas or fondling their breasts for comfort. Ughh | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/20 04:08 AM |
| 17 | Men who casually have their hand in their pants when chilling at home?Self soothing what though? You're watching t.v.! Your children are present! Da fuq!!! They are just so attached to their fucking dicks! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/20 04:07 AM |
| 12 | A demisexual is defined as “a person who does not experience sexual attraction unless they form a strong emotional connection with someone.” Thanks to Porn, the description of a normal healthy sexual bond is now a fringe sexual orientation instead of a given.Yes, exactly and a lot of the fetishism in those communities is rampant but if you misgender someone you're the worst person alive. Notice how these things didnt exist in the light 20 years ago. But whats in the dark always comes to light and now everyone else has to follow suit. Its crazy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/20 11:50 PM |
| 51 | A demisexual is defined as “a person who does not experience sexual attraction unless they form a strong emotional connection with someone.” Thanks to Porn, the description of a normal healthy sexual bond is now a fringe sexual orientation instead of a given.This and people identifying as a plural pronouns or just literal objects has me like wtf. The younger generation is so easily influenced by labels that they flock to it. Suddenly everything is a crime and not politically correct. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/20 08:15 PM |
| 22 | In response to r/BlackPeopleTwitter praising men getting sex without taking women out on dates/belittling women who want more than coffee & soda dates. The male view on women who are male Twitter's ideal woman (one who doesn't expect anything or have standards), straight from the horse's mouth.Who is going to marry this fuckboi though? He uses a pick mecfor their mind and body and then move mountains for someone else (his ideal woman)? Where is tha. dialogue of raggedy bitch when his dream women comes along? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/20 01:26 AM |
| 3 | I said no to the zoo then he calls me a gold digger. 48 year old.Ladies. Please stop giving away easy identifiablles of your geographical location here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/20 10:15 PM |
| 2 | My boyfriend has been stingy with cash lately and I just found out whyI think its a red flag. If he just so easily didn't tell you about something like that and then months later "showed you"by taking you to visit his grandma with him and then telling you with words, who knows what else he's cleverly hiding and planning to reveal months down the line. I agree with others that everyone, even people in relationships have a right to their own privacy but I feel like since this particular thing was blatantly affecting the quality of your outings to the point that you … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/20 02:29 PM |
| 60 | Hell is wrong with these mfersWow! Is that a public restaurant!? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/20 06:53 AM |
| 30 | Just because you think you're dating a HVM, it doesn't mean he's "the One"; Don't get desperate if you suspect he's losing interest.A mood! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/20 02:05 AM |
| 48 | Ex boyfriend keeps making his own life worse, my life keeps getting better.Go no contact. Block him on all platforms. Change your number. NO CONTACT. GIVE HIM NO ACCESS TO YOU! You shouldn't know anything about what he's up to. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/20 02:02 AM |
| 52 | So his flirting is a little 🙄 but I used the “I’m overqualified” for the “Y U Single, girrrrrl?” Q 😂🤷🏻♀️💃Eww he called you honey and beautiful without barely knowing you. Sounds like fuckboy speak! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/20 11:29 PM |
| 6 | Post your list of physical no-go's in men (Straight up honest thread)That makes sense! Processed foods wreak so much havok! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/20 11:27 PM |
| 4 | Post your list of physical no-go's in men (Straight up honest thread)Interesting! I think you're on to something! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/20 11:27 PM |
| 32 | Post your list of physical no-go's in men (Straight up honest thread)I can't believe more than 2 people said men with childbearing hips!! Lmfaooo I don't think I've ever seen a man with such curves! Anyone have photo examples!? Because I'm just picturing Kim Kardashian as a man right now lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/20 07:51 PM |
| 10 | Trust Your Bodily Instinct When Matching & MeetingYesss to this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/20 06:50 PM |
| 27 | The cockacity!!!!Fuck yes!!!!!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/20 06:09 PM |
| 2 | It took him exactly five weeks and five days from the first date to making me his girlfriend100% agree! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/20 06:08 PM |
| 2 | Boyfriend changed tune and respects me more now!I re-read the post noticed it clearly like loud and clear manipulation!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/20 05:57 PM |
| 85 | The cockacity!!!!Please tell me you dumped this manchild!? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/20 04:46 PM |
| 14 | It took him exactly five weeks and five days from the first date to making me his girlfriendYup. My ex love bombed me and asked me to be his gf about 3 weeks after we first met! My gut told me it was too soon but I ignored it. That whole relationshit was a nightmare of abuse and manipulation! It seemed romantic at first that he was so into me that he was moving so fast but it was never about me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/20 02:31 PM |
| 14 | Very important for those that don't feel "good enough"This is what Im unlearning! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/20 01:33 AM |
| 16 | Most unusual piece of dating advice you've heard?This was my ex , he was also a patholohical emotionally abusive pos but my Lord was he insecure af! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/20 09:48 PM |
| 21 | Leveling up changed my lifeI love everything about this, my only concern is that he is a military man, be cautious!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/20 09:20 PM |
| 14 | Pornhub gave American-Pakastani actor Kumail Nanjiani a 10 year subscription for being physically fitYes, he is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/20 07:24 PM |
| 21 | Pornhub gave American-Pakastani actor Kumail Nanjiani a 10 year subscription for being physically fitOh snap!!! That just makes it even more ridiculous. I actually questioned his physique. It looked "too" ripped for him in the time span and Im no expert but something just looks off. All those veins like he inflated them with air. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/20 05:27 PM |
| 1 | What to do when he questions your commitment?Reassure him of what? If you're still going on dates with him obviously you're still interested. RED FLAG #1 If he's used to women kissing the ground he walks on then maybe he better go find one of those. Men with that mindset don't change. They just hide it or suppress it to "conquer" you. If he's already implied that is what he's used to then why bother with him? He showed you what he's about. There is no magical exception. Also, I work in an industry and company that is about 95% male, I do f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/20 09:02 PM |
| 3 | This idiotGaslighting pos! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/20 03:55 AM |
| 21 | I was isolated and abused by a TIM. Do not make my mistake.I feel personally attacked lol. This was me plus a lot of social conditioning, undealt with trauma from childhood and familial dysfunction..etc. But it feels good to be truly awake and hip to the bullshit now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/20 03:49 AM |
| 70 | I just said no.It's really terrifying that woman can't truly ever be friends with men. This friend of yours knows you're out of his league and tried low effort then upped his game by mulling over it a bit. Yes, that's a quick change of pace but all his good conversation skills and you entertaining it as friendship for so long has given him hopes that he could make his move if the chance arose which it did. You did good!! I'd cut back on the frienship with him if I were you. To you it may be platonic but its ne… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/20 03:46 AM |
| 8 | I was isolated and abused by a TIM. Do not make my mistake.Fucking wild! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/20 02:23 AM |
| 30 | Instead of Updating My Dating Profiles I Updated My Resume...Any tips? Im working on leveling up career wise too and am on the job HUNT!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/20 11:24 PM |
| 37 | First rule of FDS: Don't talk about FDSYeah , I always facepalm when I see those posts! Its counter productive. I really wish this sub was private or something. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/20 11:09 PM |
| 52 | Just Forever Girlfriend Things ❤️That is truly sad! I was reading a post someone made about their husband being mean to them when angry and doing typical pathological cluster b behaviors and many were shouting "marriage counseling" at them while Im just thinking leave him , kick him out! I think many women are waking up to atrocious men. But sadly, many are enduring horrible relationships for years they can never get back because of "love" and "relationships take work" tropes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/20 08:18 PM |
| 10 | LVM celebrity edition (threw a women(Gabrielle union )under the bus who supported him when he told the world about his sexual assault )He's also previously pornsick and had a full fledged porn addiction. He advocated for being porn free after but who knows if he actually really went porn free. I didn't know a lot about some of the othervstuff he did. Not all that shocking now! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/20 03:30 PM |
| 3 | Black menPrecisely | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/20 03:07 PM |
| 18 | Just Called Out a Group of LVMSame! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/20 05:26 AM |
| 17 | Black menYou know what sucks is that with dating. I have always dated black and brown men generally and have always had such an attraction and almost default bond to them because of the whole sharing similar experiences with being a poc that others might not understand. I am JUST now opening up to the possibility of dating others that fall outside of black and brown. The realization that black men are not checking for black women is sad! You are absolutely right that black women are expected to guard and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/20 05:12 AM |
| 7 | Sharing history of abuse with potential HVM?This is also true. Most HVM will know that and have no problem concluding the obvious without prying or holding it against you. They'll just read body language and listen and follow through on the boundaries verbally expressed as well! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/20 03:17 AM |
| 42 | Black menYes,but of course he throws black women under the bus although he is a black man himself. The misogynoir is real. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/20 03:14 AM |
| 72 | Black menIts so obvious that by happiness he means getting blow jobs on demand + other demeaning porn inspired sex acts ,being cooked for, getting his ego stroked, being in control, doing the bare minimum and getting praised, not being nagged...etc. And he wants pick mes and other LV men to flock to his comments and validate him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/20 01:17 AM |
| 25 | Younger me earned the "Maybe he's just not that into you" BadgeApril tried way too hard. I recall some episodes where she would be candid with Leslie about certain things and you could see that she actually had aspirations but was too devoted to you lazy bf and keeping up her quirky act. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/20 12:48 AM |
| 7 | Sharing history of abuse with potential HVM?That's great!! I still remain firm in that, I wouldn't tell him personslly. Don't feel obligated to tell him out of "love" either. Ultimately, you are protecting yourself. Just tell him that you're uncomfortable with certain things and lead the pacing in what YOU feel comfortable doing. As mentioned earlier, either he will respect it or he won't and that'll tell you all you need to know. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/20 12:46 AM |
| 27 | Sharing history of abuse with potential HVM?Personally, that information is for me and my therapist and maybe a close girlfriend. You can express that you don't like being touched off guard and leave it there. Either he respects it or he doesn't. If you want him to touch you , you can tell him that too or if you're intimate place his hand where you want it to be. Also, perhaps you may need to seek treatment as well to help cope with what happened. But I personally would keep it to myself. Not everything is for sharing for your own protect… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/20 12:20 AM |
| 43 | LVM and man-child Justin Bieber slams car door on his own wife.I misread as "slams car door on his whole life" lol! Anyway, you can totally see that he intentionally did that to her. They prob were arguing in the car and he is punishing her. Totally a sign of physical abuse too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/20 12:13 AM |
| 57 | Younger me earned the "Maybe he's just not that into you" BadgeHe was so annoying. When Anne dumped him and April set her sights they were meant to be. April was the ultimate pick me "not like other girls". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/20 09:14 PM |
| 2 | Mocking/picking on "Pickmeishas" is like making fun of the victim for her internalised misogyny. Let's not do that.I think you're right. I'm going to remain constructive and tactful. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/20 03:36 PM |
| 12 | I graduated from university today! :)Yay!!! Congratulations! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/20 02:36 PM |
| 13 | He might not be LVM but I’m not waiting around to find outI agree, I think asking about exclusivity so early is too much too soon. And that OP should be dating other men anyway and not having tunnel vision about being committed. He proved he is likely to string OP along though by his weird deadline which is red flag. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/20 10:03 AM |
| 9 | Mocking/picking on "Pickmeishas" is like making fun of the victim for her internalised misogyny. Let's not do that.I find that being as blunt as possible while always reminding the person they can do better or are complete royalty helps keep my intentions clear although sometimes I know its coming across as harsh and I let it remain that way because I only WISH someone would have to me the honest truth about my situation and behavior! And other times since I'm recovering and learning so fast I do feel ABOVE it all like "wow how could she make that rookie mistake!" as if I wasn't making those same mistakes no… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/20 08:48 AM |
| 1 | In long distance, how do I set expectations ?Don't fo ldrs | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/20 12:21 AM |
| 5 | Just have to share my happiness with youI love to see it queen!! Yesss! This is wonderful! Congratulations on your little one and get well soon!! 👑 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/20 04:58 PM |
| 26 | Marry Him! The case for settlingUnfortunately, my mom! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/20 04:55 PM |
| 6 | Comedy hour: How has karma treated your LVM ex?Disgustinggggg! Its wild how yours had the same pipe dream too! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/20 04:52 PM |
| 9 | Comedy hour: How has karma treated your LVM ex?I can't believe I just turned a blind eye to the atrocities that he did including that. He eould also give my play by plays of when he was taking a poop! My goddess! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/20 04:51 PM |
| 24 | Mother Majesty - Key and Peele (Video Clip) | Comedy Central: a brilliant take down of the lie that catering to male sexual desires is eMpOwErInG.So accurate!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/20 04:50 PM |
| 18 | Comedy hour: How has karma treated your LVM ex?Yes!!! Omg!!!!!!! Wtf are the odds!? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/20 02:58 PM |
| 195 | No more ride or dieThere is no girl of his dreams though. Porn stars and instagram models don't want you! And every other lady don't either! POS!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/20 06:22 AM |
| 3 | LVW on this sub are usually described as being doormats, but does she have any traits that actually hurt the people around her?Great breakdown! I'm a recovering people pleaser! So this is really enlightening, my journey thus far is great though! I've done sk much in the past 3 months that I'm excited for my new take no shit attitude to continue to develop and flourish! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/20 06:18 AM |
| 39 | After defeating all the other pickmeishas, this is the boss you battle at the end 🤢🤢🤢This is disgusting and infuriating! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/20 05:18 AM |
| 24 | Save your nurturing tendenciesThis is brilliant!!! And you know what? It's made me realize that my current career change revolves around putting my nurturing personality into my career instead! I plan to start a business surrounding it in a year or two and I want to help my clients do better with their businesses and longterm goals towards better humanity. You've really touched upon a very important topic. I've had such a hard time distinguishing healthy boundaries regarding my nurturing tendencies because I wanted to do it … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/20 05:12 AM |
| 11 | Level up, stop focusing on them, and watch them come back...Exactly queen! Boy bye #kickhimout2020 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/20 04:20 AM |
| 13 | Jesse Metcalfe and Cara Santana split after 13 years (3 years engaged)Love this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/20 04:17 AM |
| 24 | Comedy hour: How has karma treated your LVM ex?Yes, you can tell I go for absolute trash. Don't worry, I'm starting to work on my self esteem/boundaries. Because both those people are some of the evilest people I've ever met. Don't blame yourself. Between societal and familial conditioning and most men being pathological, it's not your fault! You know better now! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/20 04:09 AM |
| 46 | Level up, stop focusing on them, and watch them come back...Cringe at the wording. It reminds me of my ex who would be so polite in texting after gas lighting me or breadcrumbing me. This looks to be no different. His supply most likely ran out now he's rotating back to people he's kept on the backburner and I hope they've all wisened up and his crusty ass is alone clenching his inactive ass phone for all his sins! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/20 04:03 AM |
| 69 | Keep past sexual assaults between yourself, the police and the women close to you.She's trashy now that he knows about her sexual history! It wasn't so trashy when you were having unprotected sex because "condoms feel weird" was it? What a mess! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/20 03:59 AM |
| 62 | Comedy hour: How has karma treated your LVM ex?He's blocked for life and dead to me! But he's probably imploded somewhere trying to "make it" surrounded by take away food and piss bottles! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/20 03:08 AM |
| 35 | Comedy hour: How has karma treated your LVM ex?Be careful! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/20 03:06 AM |
| 39 | Comedy hour: How has karma treated your LVM ex?He transitioned!? Probably thinks he can get that position by presenting himself as a woman instead, it's about personal gain. He'll still be the same shit person wearing wigs and secretly hating women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/20 02:23 AM |
| 28 | Jesse Metcalfe and Cara Santana split after 13 years (3 years engaged)I begrudgingly held on to my toxic abusive very very LVM ex for 2 years! 13 years!!?? Sigh! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/20 02:20 AM |
| 22 | Men who keep talking about how hot powerful women areIn my experience its a huge RED FLAG! My LVM abusive ex went on about him loving strong women who can hold their own and stand up for their rights and put men in their place and it turns out he only liked it andwhen I did it to any other man and not him. He wanted someone to control and speak for which he did, he treated me like a child! Ex 1: I told him that I was having problems with one of my new supervisors who sent me anarrogant email. I told him I was angry about it and wanted to comfront … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/20 02:11 AM |
| 3 | Saw a post on MGTOW mocking that we never talk about kids. Well sis what's your opinion on having kids?I definitely want kids! I want a whole family! I want my husband and me to bathe the kids every night and go on walks and stuff. Just trying to find the right man. Same. My mom is on me like "when are you going to get a husband/have kids?" My response is "when I find a worthy man". I definitely want kids and a family. Right now though, I'm focused on healing and leveling up education, career, fitness and money wise! I'll get back into dating once I feel more secure in the latter which is going w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/20 01:45 AM |
| 8 | Have any of you gotten over your BDSM kink?Thank you for sharing this!! I have a lot of similarities to your experience. What is helping me is I stopped watching pornography completely. I am devoting this year to healing sexually and getting to know my feminine energy and pleasure on my own. I use a vibrator and similar to another poster I just stop when intruding thoughts begin to arise and then start again and finish when I think of just focusing on my pleasure or receiving pleasure from someone I trust and am enjoying myself with, thi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/20 01:13 AM |
| 8 | First date tonight since a bad breakup and finding FDS. Met via OLD. He asked. He planned it. He confirmed days in advance. He offered to pick me up but also understands if I prefer to drive separately. So far...good signs. Any tips? Things to look for?Tell us how it goes and remember you are the prize. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/20 12:20 AM |
| 22 | A small sign of a HVMThat's really great! Very thoughtful. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/20 10:27 PM |
| 4 | FeeeeeeeemalesYes, but the context matters. This man is expressing misogynoir and is a black man, that is completely a whole other type of problematic than if another race was perpetuating it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/20 06:18 PM |
| 1 | FeeeeeeeemalesThat man is definitely brown/black. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/20 05:49 PM |
| 24 | How Birth Control Influences Who You’re attracted toI get off my hormonal BC in 32 days! I'm elated! I've only been on it less than a year and its the first and last time I'm ever using hormonal BC again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/20 04:46 AM |
| 100 | Just when I was starting to change my mind..You did the right thing!!! If it was so seprate he should've ate that dinner by his separate singular self! The audacity! Another chance FOR WHAT? He showed you already! You walked out like the queen you are! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/20 02:43 AM |
| 34 | FeeeeeeeemalesLmao!! Its mortifying! No woman black, white or otherwise is interested in this clown who hates his own ethnicity! Like saying you're moving to Ohio is somehow revenge? Go! Nobody's checking for you! Sigh!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/20 01:45 AM |
| 10 | Don't let flattery/their compliments get to youIts crazy how he wore me down! And watched me suffer and didn't care. The mask slip is scary! Never again! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/20 01:31 AM |
| 9 | Communicating boundaries/standards with him vs simply dropping him?100% agree! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/20 01:29 AM |
| 25 | Communicating boundaries/standards with him vs simply dropping him?is there a way to effectively communicate these standards/boundaries to men and let them know that their behaviors are not ok and to keep them in check early? Or is it pointless to try to get a man to see these boundaries and is it better if to just drop them? You drop him, you said it yourself he knows what he's doing! He's not too busy , he just doesnt value your time, especially him cancelling last minute. Sounds like some PUA tactic! Do yourself a favor and DATE OTHER MEN! Drop this guy, he'… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/20 01:29 AM |
| 30 | Don't let flattery/their compliments get to youMy ex! Lovebomb and flaterry turned into stonewalling, gaslighting and discarding plis so much more. I'm much more discerning now and when I date again will be able to clock these low life imsidisous parasitic clowns! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/20 01:21 AM |
| 94 | FeeeeeeeemalesA black man who hates black women and doesn't want to be fetishized by the white and non black women..ahem excuse me, females who aren't even interested in him and won't be for their whole life, let alone one night. Nobody cares you're going to Ohio Rick! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/20 01:17 AM |
| 29 | How can I get what I want without coming on too strong?Date other men! Don't put all your dating focus on him! You'll gain better perslevtive and won't play yourself by being monogamous with a man who isn't yiur boyfriend or husband! Don't focus on him. Let him figure it out and STEP UP. Match his effort! And as another person mentioned definitely read the side bar for other strategies too! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/20 12:55 AM |
| 18 | Damn it feels GOOD to be RID OF HIMDon't it feel good?! I cut ties before the new year and I'm feeling more like me but ruthless thsn ever before. It feels great! My relationshit was for 2 years with 1.5 being a shit show with one attempt at a breakup before I was met with a suivide threat. The last .5 was me beimg breadcrumbed and potentially discarded but I dumped his ass! Know your worth and honor your standards! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/20 12:00 AM |
| 29 | Happy #leavehimfriday!Shaming women out of their standards to possibly fall for them Round of applause | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/20 11:34 PM |
| 21 | What about me gives him permission to talk to me like this??? Just started texting this dudeThis! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/20 11:32 PM |
| 9 | Y’all....I found a shortcel bop and I can’t 😂Are you sure they're not talking about their dicks? "Tiny Meat Gang" Or more than likely both! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/20 07:37 PM |
| 1 | The Benefits of Sex Toys Compared to Men: How Vibrators Can Replace Men.I went all out and got a vixskin one and the head is large and has a weird groove on it! I hate it lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/20 07:00 PM |
| 16 | Dumped my HVM that turned into a LVM via email today. And blocked him. His response....predictably LVM. hahaha.Ha!!!!!!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/20 06:59 PM |
| 19 | (vent) they wanna use you for more than sexThis sounds EXACTLY like my experience with my narcissistic abusive ex! Go to narcististic abuse subreddit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/20 06:58 PM |
| 4 | The Benefits of Sex Toys Compared to Men: How Vibrators Can Replace Men.In my experience dildos are just a NO. So much waste of lube and frustration. Now , I have a little mini vibrator and I love it! I'm going to get a new one soon. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/20 06:52 PM |
| 74 | Dumped my HVM that turned into a LVM via email today. And blocked him. His response....predictably LVM. hahaha.Typical pathological man, only cares about his reputation. Oh don't want big boss to know you're a shitty man!? But doesn't care about anything else you said! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/20 06:42 PM |
| 2 | Have you ever dated a controlling narcissistic guy? What were the signs?Read How to Spot a Dangerous Man Before Getting Involved by Sandra L. Brown. Also, check out r/narcissisticabuse My first and only bf thus far was a narc. It's not you attracting them per say, its just that most men are pathological. You do have to do a lot of self work to not fall victim to their insidious predatory behavior. Set boundaries, have friends and hobbies and standards amongst other things. It could also be that you are subconsciously conditioned to deal with narc behavior as normal … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/20 06:39 PM |
| 10 | Squirtmeisha: Used on/off in FWB for four years, dumps LVM, lets him back in a year later.Thats what I thought too but I haven't dared verify the terminology. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/20 06:29 PM |
| 53 | Squirtmeisha: Used on/off in FWB for four years, dumps LVM, lets him back in a year later.Is she pornsick? Why is she so obsessed with squirting?! Did he feed this into her mind? Does she believe her kitty is broken because its not squirting like in porn? She says she orgasms just fine without all the excess water but insists on having them, even to the point of abusing pills and liquor to achieve the porn goddess squirt goals. There are a lot of problems here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/20 05:19 PM |
| 5 | Can we talk about STDs for a second?I am so sorry you're experiencing this!! I had a scare with my lvm ex who pretty much made a joke of the possibility and I stayed with him another year and some change afterwards! We as women make huge mistakes trusting men sexually and even in your case some women who dont have the proper mindset will have unhealthy influence on you as well. Its important to use condoms and get tested with sexual partners. I will only be intimate with an exclusive partner, there are many guidelines in the sideb… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/20 05:12 PM |
| 45 | Raincheck that Dick, Ladies!In his defense I never spoke up about it before Please dont fall for that "you never said anything" bullshit! He knows exactly what his selfish ass is doing! He doesn't want you to speak up about it! Don't make excuses for him. Don't defend a man who isn't offering you anything. You shouldn't have to speak up about it because he should be offering it to you eagerly and willingly. He only cares about his nut. You shouldn't be getting rejected by the man you're married to. Do you have the ability … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/20 05:06 PM |
| 5 | Good morning to everyone except Our LVM lurkersOmg this hit me right in my feels! I love this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/20 05:00 PM |
| 32 | How HVM raise daughters.Your dad sounds like a great man! Keep queening. You are absolute right that men will twist the 'daddy issues' into 'daddies little girl' insults. Those men just clearly hate women and will go to any length to discredit her! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/20 04:59 PM |
| 22 | “Fickle and shallow”Right!? I love how eagle eyed we all are about the blatant patholohical and manipulative bullshit! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/20 03:50 PM |
| 25 | “Fickle and shallow”Yes! 100 % grade a pathological man! He will keep raising the bar until you're drained and near lifeless while he is displeased with how much "you've changed". Always listen to your gut! Confused? Leave, its manipulation! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/20 02:44 PM |
| 21 | “Fickle and shallow”THIS! It absolutely is, he's already given her his guidelines. Now she's jumping through hoops already about how to move forward. There is no moving forward with him only away from him! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/20 02:42 PM |
| 68 | “Fickle and shallow”Your mistake was telling him "don't break my heart". It seems like he took it as some type of insult/generalization as if you were bullying him (men) or something so he replied with the same (a (misogynistic) generalization about women) and told you not to be fickle and shallow. In telling him not to break your heart you imply that its what you expect and reveal that its most likely happened to you. Him telling you don't be fickle and shallow implies that those are the conditions you must follow… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/20 02:38 PM |
| 5 | Reminder #46368 keep your sexual history to yourself- American Olympian Lolo Jones talks about her virginity with Kevin HartBecause patriarchy benefits men. He's expected to cheat, impregnate, divorce, shame, embarrass and so much more to his spouse cuz men will men! And women are to accept it cuz men will men oh and cuz I loVe hIm SO mUCh~ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/20 06:25 AM |
| 6 | Reminder #46368 keep your sexual history to yourself- American Olympian Lolo Jones talks about her virginity with Kevin HartRight. I made the mistake of doing a lot of sexual objective things with my ex whom I told I was a virgin to, because I was. He went from "being honored" to sexually shaming me in the span of a year and a half. He was pornsick and miserable as well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/20 06:20 AM |
| 60 | If men don’t like bitches then why do they only go for women who aren’t super into them? Why do they lose interest when a woman expresses love?Or do you go places to meet men and look unenthused That really made me laugh! Like the wording of it. I get what you mean. It just made me think about how I've always been approached my men when I'm doing something and look focused on what I'm doing. Men love to interrupt! If I ignore or engage very little they try for more breadcrumbs of my attention. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/20 03:20 AM |
| 14 | Take NO SHIT from men. (Explanation in comments)I'm cringing and smirking at the same time. Men are so fucking predictable. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/20 11:32 PM |
| 11 | Never let a man cry in front of youMy abusive ex cried in front of me once. He stonewalled me the whole day and when I let him walk ahead of me and didn't bother to kiss his ass he said that he was really stressed out and didnt mean to take it out on me. He started "crying" in public and I comforted him. The next few times he "cried" was over the phone and were him being an insecure little boy and angry about some very dumb shit and his pipe dreams. The last time he "cried" was after my first attempt at dumping he and he threaten… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/20 10:55 PM |
| 22 | LVM really be wanting you to humiliate yourself proving you're "special" enough to treat with basic respectWait! This is a series? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/20 10:47 PM |
| 14 | Beware of men who misread complimentsThat's a very practical observation and sound advice! Thanks queen! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/20 10:25 PM |
| 18 | LVM really be wanting you to humiliate yourself proving you're "special" enough to treat with basic respectOh gawdess so true! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/20 10:22 PM |
| 8 | I admit I was in a bad mood already and my tolerance was in the NEGATIVE for even the most minimal of perceived manipulationsYeah somethinh about this reads as creepy, controlling and manipulative. Like you said, you exchanged two sentences. Its up to you to decide if you want to speak to him and you follow your gut from there. This guy, like others mentioned is jumping to a phone call so soon! He had other motives for sure! Most likely he was gonna pull some creepy, invasive and/or manipulative shit like " wow you sound so hot/sexy" or "I hear xyz in the background are you outside/watching tv..etc" or "I love your vo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/20 10:14 PM |
| 4 | Reminder #46368 keep your sexual history to yourself- American Olympian Lolo Jones talks about her virginity with Kevin HartExactly this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/20 09:50 PM |
| 10 | While I’m happy in a accepting relationship now, this is what I used to get when I was dating. Never try to soothe a man’s ego, he is never the centre of your world and never the only man in your life. Ps. This guy never even took me out for dinner.You know my clown ass did. Then he would let me know if he was going yo other cities before hand even if it was the same fucking dag. It was just a super shitttty relationship and I know relationships dont take work or have secrets , lies , abuse , manipulation and so much more that went on there. But best believe I'm so eagle eyed now and if I spotted any discrepancies nowadays in anyone, I'll next them so fucking fast! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/20 09:49 PM |
| 23 | Reminder #46368 keep your sexual history to yourself- American Olympian Lolo Jones talks about her virginity with Kevin HartYou're right, the low value men are weeding themselves out but it also puts her in the position of literally being her sexuality, ie:yes she is an Olympian but the virgin Olympian, it is attached to her identity now. She speaks also about how she struggles with it and makes jokes about her needing to blow off more steam than her colleagues who are sexually active because she is at a disadvantage due to her not having sex, those are her words. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/20 08:43 PM |
| 33 | While I’m happy in a accepting relationship now, this is what I used to get when I was dating. Never try to soothe a man’s ego, he is never the centre of your world and never the only man in your life. Ps. This guy never even took me out for dinner.Heck, even from the damn vegetation. Stay woke sis. This is so true. Once my ex sent me a photo of himself in a different city , he didn't tell me he was going but based on the street signs and sidewalk appearance I knew he wasn't in the same city. Little things indicated it. When I pointed it out , he backtracked and said he didn't think I'd care he was in that city. And questioned how I could tell. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/20 06:21 PM |
| 18 | Jessica Simpson describes her past relationship and anxiety with known dickwad, John MayerNot surprised that a man who referred to his dick as being a white supremacist is a shitty manipulative and vile person. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/20 04:31 PM |
| 1 | One month after IUD insertion, I'm still having horrible pain. Fuck the lack of male birth control purely for their convenience. You should NEVER have to be the only one who suffers and sacrifices. Fuck that.I can still feel it if I tap down on it. It's right where she inserted it and I feel the whole length of it still as a straight rod. I always felt paranoid about it migrating or being laying on it wrong! I told the scheduler that I want it removed and not replaced so they know that at least. If they try to get me on the pill or anything I'll just decline and say I'll use condoms. Thank you for sharing!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/20 04:28 PM |
| 38 | Don't send nudes. EVER.I made the mistake of doing this with my lvm abusive pathological narc ex. I completely showed my face and body in the nudes and I let him record me performing on him. I felt like I was being objectified, it felt "empowering" and scary and "sexy". It wad a ldr so I thought I was doing standard ldr things and that it was healthy, it was also my first relationship so I was very naive znd very much a pick me. After almost 2 years of abuse, I dumped him and I immediately felt better! About a week or… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/20 02:12 PM |
| 12 | You’re not asking for too much. You’re just asking the wrong person. 👸🏻👸🏿👸🏽👸🏼👸🏾Yesssss!!!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/20 04:02 AM |
| 51 | What are fuck buddy terms?You don't. That's a losing game. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/20 03:12 AM |
| 12 | This stuff worksHe said "nah let's shoot for Thursday"!!? NEXT!!! It's your fucking birthday mate! Take it from someone who never got a gift from my ex on the first birthday I had with him. I made the plans AND paid for them! The 2nd bday I had with him I was 3 months deep into being breadcrumbed and potentially discarded had I not dumped him the following month! If he isn't going out of his way to make your birthday special. He doesn't care about you. I bet he'd want LOTS of acknowledgement for his bday! Birth… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/20 01:12 AM |
| 14 | One month after IUD insertion, I'm still having horrible pain. Fuck the lack of male birth control purely for their convenience. You should NEVER have to be the only one who suffers and sacrifices. Fuck that.I literally am counting down the days until I get mine removed! 33!!!!! I'll have had it 11 months by the time I have it removed. It has caused me so much anxiety and paranoia! I can't even lay on my arm freely. I've gained weight, my depression and mood swings hit really low lows and the breakouts wtf, I also get random throbbing in that arm and bleed at random! I miss my period and I am never using hormonal BC again. No glove no love! My insertion process was quick and easy. I'm having it remo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/20 09:44 PM |
| 87 | guys are learning astrology to try to get laidLike the fucking transition to sexual invasion just appeared! Like no ⚠ just pornsickness and trash! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/20 05:05 PM |
| 239 | guys are learning astrology to try to get laidWtf the fuck did I just read!? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/20 04:31 PM |
| 47 | Had a hilarious dream last night, my brain is so done with lying menThe message on the screen says: "Battery: 7%. I'm so sorry, I know I should have been honest with you about this." Lmaoooooo, thank you for the laugh!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/20 02:53 PM |
| 3 | With men, you must be prepared to walk away the *first* time they fuck upNarcissists use the same tried and true methods! he used to always question me, he would tell Me I was so beautiful and I can have anyone I wanted and why did I chose him, i thought he asked that because he was insecure, but now I know he asked that because he was lower than a gutter rat and I should have never given him a try mine did the same!! Tell me Im so educated,beautiful, sweet and nice and ask me why I wasn't with someone more educated , why I chose to be with him and how I was the swee… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/20 10:06 AM |
| 9 | Comparison in the thief of joyThis is too true! Thankfully, I finished one of my degrees while with my LVM ex! I'm currently changing careers and taking steps to get more education in my new field. I'm doing some soft networking in the field too atm. I have bigger goals than I've ever had for myself and I see how clearly attainable they are and Im doing everything in my power to do it all. I'll have half or over half of my longterm career goals complete by the time I'm 30 and envisioning it is easy as fuck now without a para… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/20 09:15 AM |
| 6 | When they try to convince you that you don’t know what you want...You did great! He tried to manipulate you as if him "loving" you is the end all be all of your dating priorities. He's not slick. Whatever feeling of uneasiness or confusion you felt was your intuition telling you NOPE! and you nexted him! Always listen to yourself, don't listen to men's lies. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/20 05:35 PM |
| 16 | How long should / do you wait before texting them back?Who ever said anything about your looks or how he treats you? I called out this man who is boasting about how he's turned down women who wanted to marry him supposedly. Women who become too attached and want his undivided attention, that sounds very entitled and abusive. Think about it. He's boasting about this to you and you are enabling it, what will he boast about next? How other woman used to beg him for anal? And you're steady thinking oh gosh what a HVM!? A man who mentions anything about … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/20 02:18 PM |
| 2 | Don't put up with men who become monsters (or even more monstrous) when watching sports!Thank you! I'm forever grateful to my intuition for keeping a lantern lit in the back of my mind the whole time and going into floodlight mode towards the end! Cheers to never taking that shit again, and to an abundant and healthy 2020 for both of us love!! CHEERS TO THAT!!!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/20 01:43 PM |
| 6 | With men, you must be prepared to walk away the *first* time they fuck uphe was my first too so I had nothing to compare him too and thing is , he ALWAYS pointed that out. If a guy starts questioning why you're with him, run! He is warnig you. He warned me so many times and I didn't heed. For all of the relationship I was googling if I should be feeling what Im feeling! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/20 01:38 PM |
| 1 | Don't date guys who play devil's advocateThis is so true! My ex did the same thing to me. Before I knew it all of my values wete watered down and I just lived to please him. He wouldn't believe it if I knew more about something than him that he was a self proclaimed expert at. Once he even tried to convince me that couples who speak to each other violently are normal and instead of putting my foot down , I said "to each their own". I got tired of always being wrong and I subconsciously just agreed or remained "neutral" to keep the peac… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/20 01:33 PM |
| 33 | How long should / do you wait before texting them back?He did tell me that in the past he would usually be the one breaking things off when girls become too attached and demand things like marriage or his undivided attention. On the other hand though he is definitely starting to look for someone to settle down with and start a family. Why are you still dating this entitled little boy who wants to settle for you if you let him? That is no HVM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/20 06:13 AM |
| 12 | Advice for exclusivityIts been roughly 1 month snd you've been on 2 dates. Date other men! You don't have to agree to be exclusive with him if you don't want to and I personally feel that it's too soon for exclusivity. Don't talk everyday, he's not your bf or husband. I'm glad you told him you're not deleting your account, you shouldn't if you can get more dates. I wouldn't take him saying he deleted his account at face value. Let him keep proving himself while you date other men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/20 06:09 AM |
| 40 | Strategies for Those Who Have Not Had SexDo not disclose your sexual history to men. Including if you have no sexual history. Keep it to yourself, be confident. The right man will come along, even then if he is a HVM, he will cater to your needs when sex is in the picture. Dont dwell or define yourself or desirability around whether or not you've had sex. Just live and let queen. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/20 05:48 AM |
| 18 | They change the subject👑 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/20 04:42 AM |
| 3 | Women's only minecraft server!I never understood minecraft, I alway just clicked random boxes lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/20 04:34 AM |
| 50 | They change the subjectKickhimoutttt!!! What a fucking emotionally immature loser! He can't just speak up! So he gaslights you by witholding his true feelings and ignoring your concerns! Remember there is no such thing as wishy washy and mixed signals. Its a fucking NEXT! Block and delete!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/20 04:25 AM |
| 12 | With men, you must be prepared to walk away the *first* time they fuck upWhat a fucking low life! These men will dig their hooks in you and suck all of the life out of you if they can! He sexually shamed me, put my sexual health at risk and made light of it and used it as a test, one of his many tests and threatened suicide amongt many horrible things and I kept going back! It was my first relationship and his love bombing and future faking had me reeled in! That along with my disney love fantasy , pickmeisha ways and "all relationships have rough patches" mindset ma… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/20 04:23 AM |
| 83 | I’m sorry...what?!I literally said " what the fuck" outloud. It never ceases to make me utterly appalled. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/20 02:52 AM |
| 76 | They hate being called outDon't waste your breath or explain to them what they did wrong. After your message dumping him you should have just blocked and deleted. Block and delete, period. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/20 02:50 AM |
| 16 | Had to end things with another man today. So, I'm still single and that's OK!Proud of you!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/20 02:48 AM |
| 2 | I am pathetic and I need some help..of course! trust yourself queen! 👑 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/20 02:01 AM |
| 2 | I am pathetic and I need some help..I've made this mistake too! Never ever for me either! You got this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/20 01:59 AM |
| 7 | I am pathetic and I need some help..no such thing as soulmates, get rid of the fairytale conditioning society has invoked upon women. Vet men, once you've estsblished that a man is HV for you after dating many men and you get to know him and you both bond and move further into your relationship after he's asked you to be exclusive then thats grand. But don't go into dating with heart eyes and love on the brain. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/20 01:41 AM |
| 30 | Anyone else attract emotionally distant/unavailable men?Thats most men unfortunately, it's not you it's men! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/20 01:26 AM |
| 15 | I am pathetic and I need some help..Block him on his work number. He dug up your number and messaged you knowing you would respond. Don't give him that power. He views you as an ego stroke. You deserve better! He doesn't deserve access to you in any way! Block and delete! You're better off! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/20 01:17 AM |
| 4 | Don't put up with men who become monsters (or even more monstrous) when watching sports!Ughh!! So glad you're out of that! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 10:48 PM |
| 4 | Don't put up with men who become monsters (or even more monstrous) when watching sports!What the actual fuck! I would have been on edge the whole rest of the night. I'm sorry you had to go through that! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 10:31 PM |
| 29 | Why a lot of white men REALLY hate it when white women date ethnicInteresting, I didn't know it was cross posted! I also felt that vibe and called it out below but she owned up to it partially below as well. I agree with the comments too and pointed out the "white women prize" phenomenon as well. Dating is not made equal for women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 10:28 PM |
| 6 | Where's the lie? Tyler Perry moviesNo lies detected. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 10:20 PM |
| 7 | To the women who have come out of relationships with abusive and manipulative menAll you can do is learn to recognize it early and get out. I'm excellent at that now. What is frightening is just how many men are like this. I would say it's the majority of men. It's like a nightmare you can't wake up from. Every time you think you've met someone normal and decent, within weeks (2 to 3 months seems to be the average) their true nature starts to show. This is accurate! I'm forever changed too and very very very cautious now and I haven't even started dating again. But I am arme… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 10:18 PM |
| 23 | Why a lot of white men REALLY hate it when white women date ethnicThat's really great to know! I know we all as women have to weed through LVM of all ethnic backgrounds and there are just some harsh realities out there! Glad you found your HVM and don't have to settle for NRA club presidents and confederate flag waving sociopaths! Like why would anyone settle for that? Like what the heck are they saying? "oh well we're both white so I'm just gonna stick to my preferences" or "some white men are like that, its just country pride" like nah. I can't believe peopl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 07:57 PM |
| 3 | In this thrilling post, a VERY grown ass man wonders if asking his "very best friend in the world" to fuck in his car was a bad move.That's why I don't ever trust women and men "bff's" it doesn't EVER work in the woman's favor. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 07:41 PM |
| 1 | what? is this supposed to be cute?It's probably some pornsick thing. Wonder what they call it? barbeque pussy play? It just disgusting! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 07:40 PM |
| 80 | LVM brings up the topic of sex constantly. This was my last straw. He no longer gets a reply from me.Why word it so grotesquely? "you never fucked before" that shows what he thinks of sex. Reason #57447885 to never tell them of your sexual history even if you dont have one! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 07:38 PM |
| 62 | Why a lot of white men REALLY hate it when white women date ethnicI'm a less attractive working class white woman It doesn't matter whether you consider yourself attractive or not, the fact that you are white makes you desirable to most men of all races. White is the standard and any woman of other racial background are deemed most beautiful in society if they are the most light in complexion, closest to white features. In many cultures including Chinese white woman are the epitome of having scored the prize! Its the first time I have ever heard of white woman… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 07:29 PM |
| 6 | How to approach a guy I like?You don't approach a man, ever. If he likes you, he'll tell you. Don't hold out for this guy. If he lacks confidence to ask you out, do you really want to be dating him? Dont guess and assign shyness to him. Live your life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 07:20 PM |
| 25 | To the women who have come out of relationships with abusive and manipulative menMy abusive ex made fun of my voice and teeth on the first few dates. It was so covert that it had me feeling self conscious but confused at the same time. He voiced it so perfectly harmless that I wrote it off as such. Slowly but surely he became more overt with the insults, commentson my appearance, intelligence and so much more as his mask slipped further and further. I swear the day after I left him for good I felt a huge weight off my shoulders , I felt FREE and at the same time ALL of the t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 07:14 PM |
| 26 | Straight to degradationMy ex was one, he had this same mentality and literally sought broken ,naive or really nice/kind/generous women to twist their minds. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 07:05 PM |
| 27 | Straight to degradationIt's always a limp dick named Dan! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 07:03 PM |
| 27 | With men, you must be prepared to walk away the *first* time they fuck upI left twice too. The 2nd time was for good! 1st time he threatened suicide and I let it eat me up and took him back. Right now, Im still angry since this was recent. I'm working through it and feel more powerful every single day. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 07:02 PM |
| 40 | With men, you must be prepared to walk away the *first* time they fuck upYup! That's why I said I'd leave a man if he gives me any whif that he's a sports fanatic or if he doesn't have bathroom etiquette, the small fuck ups matter most. Its next at first sight! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 06:05 PM |
| 6 | More salty male tears over lopsided result of “open relationship”.You mean when dating? What about women who want to be married one day? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 05:49 PM |
| 91 | With men, you must be prepared to walk away the *first* time they fuck upPREACH!!! I wasted 2 years on a narcististic abusive loser hoping he'd change. He manipulated and future faked me and had me trauma bonded to him like you wouldn't believe! Now had I left at the first sign of red blaring flag behavior, I would have been out after 1 fucking date when he made fun of my voice had I realized he was conditioning me to tolerate "joking" and "observations" as simple remarks and not mental abuse and wearing me down and gas lighting me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 05:35 PM |
| 1 | Never give a man the chance to leave you twiceLol mine was an epiphany over the course of a couple of months like um HELLO of course you should be doing this!! Right now I'm just trying to get a foot in the door. So, networking is what Im doing. Im being very choosy too and taking my time with it. Partially, because I have really never networked and also because Im making sure to reach out to local and seemingly quality places and people. Im thankful for the people I have found thus far, its a whole new world networking! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 05:29 PM |
| 2 | Don't put up with men who become monsters (or even more monstrous) when watching sports!I can imagine the pain you must've endured! When I left my abusive ex something just clicked for me that I was no longer going to put up with his lies and manipulation and verbal attacks anymore. He had me so trauma bonded to him that I actually let him string me along so many times in our relationship. When I finally left for good, I felt nothing for him. I never loved him, I just convinced myself I had. Every bad thing he did to me that I shoved down came up though and I thought of who'd be hi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 05:25 PM |
| 18 | First line in his description was trying to find my soulmate 🙄Also, "freak bye" was sent after he asked his gaslight neg question! He projected so hard in closing. Its fucking gross! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 04:29 PM |
| 19 | First line in his description was trying to find my soulmate 🙄Precisely! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 04:27 PM |
| 3 | Don't put up with men who become monsters (or even more monstrous) when watching sports!Oh myyyy!!! That is must've been so telling and heaetbreaking! I'm so glad you left and I hope she followed through on her letter! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 03:05 PM |
| 32 | First line in his description was trying to find my soulmate 🙄Exactly! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 03:03 PM |
| 4 | Stop listing off what he did. You are not his dating coach, therapist or ettiquette teacher.This is the truth!!!! Ive done this in the past and learned my lessons! Never again! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 02:57 PM |
| 71 | First line in his description was trying to find my soulmate 🙄Fucking despise it!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 02:35 PM |
| 52 | First line in his description was trying to find my soulmate 🙄What a fucking loser pos! Take that beard off you fucking fish! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 02:34 PM |
| 10 | Please alert your fellow woman!Wowww | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 02:32 PM |
| 19 | Please alert your fellow woman!Oh snap! Yasss! Do you have experience with this? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 02:29 PM |
| 6 | Don't put up with men who become monsters (or even more monstrous) when watching sports!What a sorry fucking bunch!!!! How could a boss bitch turn into a mousy servant when the tele turns on for sports! Im baffled! I've seen the walking in front of the television screaming too! And the put downs that women aren't smart enough to catch on to play by plays and game rules. One time I was “lucky” enough to be invited to tailgate and go to a game with the men of the family. All the women of the family were jealous bc a woman had never been invited before and I’d been deemed “cool” enoug… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 02:27 PM |
| 4 | Don't put up with men who become monsters (or even more monstrous) when watching sports!Me neither. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 02:18 PM |
| 2 | Date men who have bathroom etiquetteThat's great! He has manners like any adult should! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 02:17 PM |
| 2 | Date men who have bathroom etiquetteYou don't want a dude who wants to stew in his shit fumes for an hour because he doesn't know how else to make time for self care OR because he has bad digestion. Wow!!! This! I'm fucking repulsed He left streaks in the toilet bowl too. I will leave a man for this. Its fucking gross , Im not cleaning up your shit! You are not my child! Now, these men are on their phones for an hour or two. Like that current idea going around reddit, when they do that, disconnect the wifi. Yasss use your data you… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 02:17 PM |
| 3 | Message from sketch almost employersThe thing is, the organization is well known and partnered with many educational organizations in the city its located in! And has local funding and goverment funding. On paper it seems reputable but the dude behind it comes across as aggressive, manipulative and condescending to me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 02:13 PM |
| 4 | Don't put up with men who become monsters (or even more monstrous) when watching sports!Right!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 02:08 PM |
| 5 | Don't put up with men who become monsters (or even more monstrous) when watching sports!Exactly! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 02:07 PM |
| 11 | Date men who have bathroom etiquetteThey are pornsick and don't know anything about sex or pleasure other than their own. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 06:29 AM |
| 6 | Just deleted all my social mediaThat's great! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 06:03 AM |
| 25 | Don't put up with men who become monsters (or even more monstrous) when watching sports!That makes me so angry!! Wtf! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 05:54 AM |
| 9 | Got this intro today. I blocked but this is a weird way to say he just wants to smashBecause guys will use that as a way to future fake with you. "Yeah I'm looking for a long term relationship too.." Lies lies lies. You're giving them the info they need to tell you exactly what you want to hear by putting things like that in your profile. Don't tell them what you do or don't want. Thats only for you to know, thats your personal standard/boundaries. Keep it close to you! Only you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 05:53 AM |
| 16 | Just deleted all my social mediaI deleted facebook forever ago as well as twitter. I recently deleted instagram at the top of the year! Never had a snapchat or tiktok or whatever else. Like you said, it was so easy to lurk on instagram! I had people who I had reached out to to hang out and catch up sometime never text me when I gave them my phone number or I would always initiate but would like and comment on my instagram posts. I found myself feeling like I was missing out on genuine friendships and when I expressed wanting t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 05:44 AM |
| 51 | An accurate representation of LVM on OLDI cackled!! Little wee wee and hurt fee fees! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 05:37 AM |
| 44 | Don't put up with men who become monsters (or even more monstrous) when watching sports!I did not know this! Wtf!!!!! Why dont they just beat each other up! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 05:36 AM |
| 37 | So over these ‘nice guys’...🙄Fucking pos! Trash took itself out! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 04:48 AM |
| 9 | Date men who have bathroom etiquetteWhen Im at a guys place in that stage of our relationship, when I use the bathroom I'm going to lift the toilet lid and inspect for dried piss because if the lid is down you cant really see of their cleaning up after themselves! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 04:30 AM |
| 7 | Date men who have bathroom etiquetteSo fucking gross! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 04:28 AM |
| 8 | Date men who have bathroom etiquetteHe probably cupped her face in his hands amd kissed her afterwards. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 04:26 AM |
| 7 | Date men who have bathroom etiquetteThis is so true!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 04:25 AM |
| 15 | Date men who have bathroom etiquetteLol wtf does feminism have to do with putting the seat down! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 04:23 AM |
| 13 | Date men who have bathroom etiquetteI know right!!? By pretty sure I meant definitely, he was a pornsick dirtbag too! And he ate like complete shit. His semen reflected that! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 02:55 AM |
| 20 | Date men who have bathroom etiquetteI'm pretty sure it was a negging compliment. Like he was hoping I was odorless and tasted of nothing. Every woman tastes like something! He was a pathological narcissistic abusive pos so he wasn't well versed on sexual health or bodily functions. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 02:49 AM |
| 11 | Date men who have bathroom etiquetteMy ex and I had eaten a pizza with garlic oil on it. Immediately after finishing, I brushed my teeth. Tell me why this man proceeded to initiate making out with me with garlic breath and tongue and he literally reintriduced the garlic odor back into my mouth! I said nothing. He then sexually shamed me that same evening. I will not put up with any poor hygeine habits, in my experience its indicative of much more sinister things in the man! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 02:47 AM |
| 19 | Date men who have bathroom etiquetteTHAT IS DISGUSTING! and she defended his dirty ass! He probably never showers before sex and expects her to be waxed like a fucking gymnasium floor ,odorless and smell like flowers! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 02:42 AM |
| 15 | Date men who have bathroom etiquetteYup, their nasty shit and pee particles on their hands and those same dirty hands trying go finger you. Gross! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 02:22 AM |
| 2 | Never give a man the chance to leave you twiceThat's amazing! Congratulations!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 02:21 AM |
| 12 | Date men who have bathroom etiquetteI fucking hate hair in the sink. My moms husband does that and it drives me mad! And he has gross bathroom etiquette! My mom is in the men gonna men mindset its annoying! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 02:18 AM |
| 23 | Hit the wall? Not at all!A few years ago, I met a woman who at the time was in her early to mid 70's but you couldn't tell me this woman was a day over 55! She told me her secret was walking, eating healthy and not letting men stress her out! She was a business owner and fashionista! She just came back from a vacation with her daughter I believe. She was fabulous! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 02:10 AM |
| 16 | Date men who have bathroom etiquetteI put bleach in a spray bottle and spray it in the toilet after I've flushed poop lol. Its just a personal cleaning habit for me in addition to air fresheners and air deodorizer afterwards. But yes, a fan , air fresher, open window! Just being clean! Table manners too. Use fucking napkins! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 01:18 AM |
| 9 | Wasn't able to contact him for 9 days.. noticed he updated his dating profile?Yes, I agree. Right when you're gone, he fine tunes his profile, for who? Not you sis, so move on and go on other dates! Also, I hope you enjoyed your vacation. And next time do NOT make it a priority to text him or any guy when you're on vacation. Even coming back from vacay, dont let some guy put you in a position that you're frantically trying to contact him on a layover, go enjoy a nice lunch or read or something by yourself instead. Focus on you always! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 01:15 AM |
| 55 | Date men who have bathroom etiquetteExactly!!! Men tried to make womens biggest fear is if our vaginas smell, when they had the most rancid funky sweaty odor coming from their unwashed dicks! My ex once said to me "I bet you taste like water" lmfao meanwhile his dick smelled like spoiled milk and must. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 01:10 AM |
| 5 | Wasn't able to contact him for 9 days.. noticed he updated his dating profile?and that information wasn't on there for 3 months up until now? That's weird and I would personally take it as a red flag , I would take it as him making himself more marketable to other women. Trying to appeal to people who may know of the company and its location so that he can easily bring it up or have any pick me mention it to him since he put it out there. Date other men! Don't bank on your connection with him if he's your only connection at the moment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 12:56 AM |
| 20 | Wasn't able to contact him for 9 days.. noticed he updated his dating profile?What did he change on the app? Either way I wouldn't pine over him if I were you, just focus on yourself and any other guy that messages you that seem to fit your standards and date others. I get that you were just messaging him to let him know but take it as a sign too if you believe in that sort of thing. Something kinda similar happened to me once. My phone service went m.i.a and a guy I was texting and suppose to meet that same evening called me. It cut off and he was waiting for me nearby. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 12:42 AM |
| 3 | Never give a man the chance to leave you twiceBy doing what? Im in the middle of a career change and Im networking with some seemingly HVW through online but I want to do more. How did you navogate your career change? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 12:19 AM |
| 6 | Lowering standards for friends? How long to reply is acceptable?Exactly! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 12:13 AM |
| 12 | Lowering standards for friends? How long to reply is acceptable?YES. Your standards for everything should be to add value to your life. I'm literally starting over in every aspect of my life because I upped my standards. I kicked 10+ year "friendships" to the curb over the years because I realized how unvaluable and toxic they were and I'm so so so much better because of it. I used to be a pick me with my girldriends too. Its better! vet friends, hobbies, jobs...everything using the same personal standards you've set for yourself! You'll be better off! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/20 11:47 PM |
| 7 | Message from sketch almost employersRight!? It's fucking creepy, thats the exact word I used and also heebey jeebies. Why would I visit your organization if I'm declining working with you? Why would I remain in further contact at all!? It just further solidifies trust your gut and vet EVERYONE! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/20 10:52 PM |
| 26 | Can we just talk about how insidious this is?Found this photo from a blog post a man wrote boo hooing about his fee fees being hurt because his married friends came to him with marital issues and he told them "happy wife, happy life right?" And they walked away deefeated or some bs, I only read a few lines and skimmed. It was utter bullshit and extremely sexist. How dare a woman have standards, why the fuck would the wife be unhappy in the first place? What did the man do??? Men can't seem to stand the fact that some woman won't stand for … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/20 10:18 PM |
| 3 | Friendly reminder not to date pornsick menExaxtlyyy | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/20 09:31 PM |
| 5 | Friendly reminder not to date pornsick menshit. Go for it lol. Lmfaoooo | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/20 09:30 PM |
| 7 | Got this intro today. I blocked but this is a weird way to say he just wants to smashDont put that in your profile. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/20 09:19 PM |
| 1 | Can a guy who is less educated than you be a HVM for you?For me personally, no. I am educated and I want to be with someone who is also educated to the same level minimum. I knew a real LV creep who was getting his masters degree in a social science and he was the lowest of the low. He somehow thought his education was a pass for his persistent and inappropriate behavior. In this instance, an educated low value man so education does not equal high value. But I prefer someone who is educated , for that dude I just nexted him. I knew of LV uneducated me… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/20 09:18 PM |
| 36 | Asked me out for dinner and drinks and then told me he wanted sex. Was offended when I sent him a link to local escorts. Told me to apologize to him and then called me an as*hole 😂 didn’t screenshot the rest of the convo cause I reported him. Men think Tinder is a vending machine for sexHe's literally asking women including you to prostitute themselves for him and when you send him an appropriate link he's offended? That's what he asked for. And then he had the audacity to want the woman to "like" him. Its sick! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/20 03:50 PM |
| 34 | “She is crazy!!” is any man’s favorite description of a woman he used to date 🙄Spot on! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/20 03:48 PM |
| 10 | Don't have the energy for over-discussing.Was this a phone call or text exchange? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/20 03:32 PM |
| 56 | Asked me out for dinner and drinks and then told me he wanted sex. Was offended when I sent him a link to local escorts. Told me to apologize to him and then called me an as*hole 😂 didn’t screenshot the rest of the convo cause I reported him. Men think Tinder is a vending machine for sexLove your sending him that link! Lol then his little fee fees got hurt!! What a dumbass! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/20 03:30 PM |
| 5 | Ex Happy BirthdayNO! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/20 02:21 PM |
| 7 | Women Are Being Trained by Porn to Like Degrading, Violent, Male-centered SexThank you!!!! I've facee some very harsh realities of the abuse I went through and the conditioning and the lack of self respect and dignity I had for myself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/20 02:16 PM |
| 30 | Women Are Being Trained by Porn to Like Degrading, Violent, Male-centered SexMy abusive ex was my first relationship. He mentioned he watched porn and I thought "well all guys do" and let on thst I didn't care. I was so nervous to have sex with him because he would constantly make remarks about loving women with large asses and/or thicker more voluptuous and curvy women. He commented on his love of women wearing stockings too. It clicked later that this is the porn he must've been watching! So what did I do? Bought a new pair of stockings, a lace thong and watched a shor… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/20 04:51 AM |
| 9 | Practice makes perfectWhat kind of look? It can be telling, be cautious. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/20 04:23 AM |
| 5 | Is this negging?I definitely get the joke now lol and it makes his texts even more bizarre!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/20 11:23 PM |
| 29 | When you think there are red flags...believe it!Sureee. He really expects you to believe that!? He had to have done something to her to convince her to waste her funds on him! Unless she is pickme-ing him or he is manipulating her in some way for her to be doing this! Some sort of delusion is happening! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/20 10:02 PM |
| 5 | Is this negging?Thank you! It was a real shit show!! He didn't care about me at all! It is VERY odd that he is bringing it up and VOICING it to you the way that he is. It's manipulative af. As soon as you get the feeling that something is off/isn't right/you can't put your finger on it, RUN! Don't second guess your gut. Something is up with that guy and don't be the one to find out what it is! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/20 09:59 PM |
| 42 | When you think there are red flags...believe it!How tf did he convince her to get that credit card??? Sighhh!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/20 09:35 PM |
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