LVW on this sub are usually described as being doormats, but does she have any traits that actually hurt the people around her?

pickmieshaexorcist · 2020-01-26T05:20:09+00:00

Being a doormat DOES hurt people. It chips away at relationships slowly over time in so many ways.

like another commenter said, the doormat is so desperate for attention and scared of confrontation that they end up bringing shitty people around their kids.
a doormat will often make nice with people who are shitty to you, playing both sides in a desperate attempt to make everyone happy.
because they don’t state their needs or stand up for themselves, they let resentment simmer in your relationship until it reaches critical levels.
doormats won’t have your back with abusive family or friends. They are so desperate to avoid confrontation that they will accuse YOU of being petty or immature, urging you to “let it go” and “be the bigger person”.
if someone mistreats you and they don’t witness it personally, they won’t believe you when you confide in them later needing support. They’ll hint that maybe you misinterpreted the situation, or that maybe you were rude. They’re so pathologically averse to confrontation that even when there is no risk of confrontation for them, they will still throw you under the bus.

People pleasing doormat is IMO one of the most toxic personality types that people don’t really talk about because they can seem so nice. It’s the foundation of the Pickmeisha. It sucks because women are SO heavily socialized you be this way but it’s a terrible way to be.

blackopium777 · 2020-01-26T05:26:49+00:00

Don't forget that doormats literally set the tone for how males think they can treat every woman in their lives. If she lets a male get away with shit, he will try to do it with every other woman aswell, so yeah it DOES hurt the women around her.

afroteacherism · 2020-01-26T05:06:56+00:00

When they have children and they allow abusive men into their lives... Yes.

heavenlycaterpiller · 2020-01-26T06:27:39+00:00

being a side chick/"man-stealer"
tearing down other women/ always putting men before women
upholding a misogynistic worldview

AyemHerself · 2020-01-26T07:17:46+00:00

Competing for men. This leads to tearing down women around her to make herself look better, or willingly homewrecking and being some guy's side chick because "his marriage is practically over anyway," and so on.

AntiCircles · 2020-01-26T07:00:03+00:00

Putting the men in her life over the women in her life

Title	LVW on this sub are usually described as being doormats, but does she have any traits that actually hurt the people around her?
Author	binbeenbetter
Upvotes	5
Comments	11
Date	January 26, 2020 5:04 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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