No one seems to be asking where he got this STD?? And she gets frequent UTIs because of him 🤢🤮

IDontAgreeSorry · 2022-01-07T14:23:57+00:00

“I hAd tO rEsPeCt HiD dEcIsIOn” nah girl you don’t have to anything. You should gtfo out of there tho lol.

BasieSkanks · 2022-01-07T12:58:41+00:00

This is actually super common. Women tolerate attitudes and behaviours from men that men themselves wouldn’t tolerate. Men expect a certain standard from women and are unapologetic about cutting women off who don’t meet that standard. Women need to bring that same energy.

wondertarget · 2022-01-07T12:55:53+00:00

"Well since you put it that way..." proceeds to dump him

DiosaCordilia · 2022-01-07T13:04:07+00:00

When men speak out: 'I would leave you if the situation would be reversed'. It can also means that actually he wants you to leave and break up with him whilest actually HE wants to break up with YOU but doesn't dare to say this in your face. So he can be the sadboii that got dumped. It's a common manipulative tactic and can be used as a guilt trip even.

Comfortable-Star-611 · 2022-01-07T12:53:20+00:00

Um... wtf? I can't. Women actually stay with men like this? This is so foul. Wake up. Don't put up with nothing from the get go.

Electronic-Two-839 · 2022-01-07T13:28:53+00:00

She mentions in another post that she's 24 and he's 34. Typical.

Astral_weaver · 2022-01-07T15:46:42+00:00

She should RUN from him. This man already resents her for being compassionate towards him and he will go on being an asshole in more overt ways. No man who really likes a woman says something like that to her, even if it has crossed his mind. He WANTED to hurt her.

AnniaT · 2022-01-07T16:50:30+00:00

Men be telling their girlfriends they hate them or that they don't give 2 shits about them in the loudest ways and women still won't listen. Nothing good ever came from accommodating and being supportive of men that hate us.

xpressurself111 · 2022-01-07T14:43:22+00:00

When my ex cheated on me, I asked him if he at least used a condom (we had still been sexually involved before I discovered this) and he said, “No.” I said, “Okay what about getting an STI?” And he said, “Who cares?”

Me bitch. I care.

sweet_birthday_babyy · 2022-01-07T13:45:32+00:00

Oh yeah. My ex had an outbreak and discovered that he had it and his first thought was to blame me, though I never had symptoms and stayed with him and supported him through it. He still blames me.

Fuckdoesithurt956 · 2022-01-07T14:37:00+00:00

On both her posts 99% comments are warning her that they're not equals in their relationship, and she's locked into the 1% of comments defending him as clumbsy and well-meaning. Next she's going to talk to him and give him the blueprint of what to say to her.

Also, age gap.

ItsFreezen · 2022-01-07T13:05:25+00:00

Scrote would dump you, if you had an illness. Throw him into the garbage can where he belongs.

WandernWondern · 2022-01-07T13:53:21+00:00

What is there to rationalize? Your boyfriend doesn’t care for you like you care for him. And you’re putting yourself at risk for that imbalance of affections. With constant UTIs. Chileee. The world needs FDS.

fds_throwaway_4_u · 2022-01-07T16:56:29+00:00

Lol do men ever reciprocate? Do they ever show empathy?!

preppykat3 · 2022-01-07T18:02:29+00:00

A guy once told me that he admires women because the majority of them would stay if their man became disabled to take care of him and wipe his ass all the time. Then he proceeded to admit that most men wouldn’t stay if the roles were reversed.

I felt sick to my stomach. I DONT want to be nurturing. And I certainly wouldn’t stay. After hearing him say that I’m more convinced than ever that women need to start looking out for their interests MORE aggressively than men do. Or we’ll continue to get fucked over.

Determinedblonde · 2022-01-07T14:27:50+00:00

After the first line, my response would be, “where did you get that from?” Regardless of the answer, his ass is dumped and I‘d be getting tested.

Hockeygirl420 · 2022-01-07T16:42:20+00:00

Cues the “Aight imma head out” SpongeBob meme

kumquat_fds · 2022-01-07T18:41:36+00:00

Classical male entitlement. They have their list of demands for girlfriends, wives, even women they’ve never met, then come at relationships expecting to be loved unconditionally.

Also, I’ve not met one dude, ONE DUDE, that was concerned about contracting STDs. They’ll have unprotected sex with whomever, whenever, wherever. If you won’t sleep with him until he provides negative full-panel results, you’re “paranoid” and a “prude”. But women always have to be the bigger people and be “clean” for his satisfaction. ¯_(ツ)_/¯ which do you want, scrotes?

halebaIe · 2022-01-07T13:12:01+00:00

Reminds me of Yandi Smith being told by her jailbird husband baby daddy that he wouldn’t stay with her if she kept getting locked up like he does.

oddcharm · 2022-01-07T15:35:56+00:00

She knows deep down that this man doesn't love her but she'll stay out of fear. \sigh**

basicbiddy · 2022-01-07T15:56:11+00:00

I read this post, she’s way too giving.

tellmesomething11 · 2022-01-07T15:38:33+00:00

I personally don’t care if the std is common, I’m not willing to risk myself and get it. And I agree, I like my partner to be tested in the beginning so if it’s a while in and you have an std, you’re def getting dumped. And that’s that.

a_million_questions · 2022-01-07T15:44:41+00:00

It's clear here that we need better sex education. HSV can lay dormant in your system for years and blood tests are notoriously wrong as the virus doesn't live in your blood. The only accurate conclusive test for HSV is taking a sample of a sore. This is why HSV is not on the standard STD panel and why it's generally not recommended to test for. The virus can also be shed without symptoms and is transmissable even when using condoms. This guy should be held accountable if he did in fact cheat but please stop being ignorant.

fdsyassified · 2022-01-07T14:10:22+00:00

Men really don’t think rules apply to them do they? They just expect women to cater to their will and desires, but they never want to accommodate anyone. I hope she dumps him before she gets it, because knowing his LVM ass I’m sure he’s asked for sex without protection because “it doesn’t fit babeeee”

Davina33 · 2022-01-08T08:07:13+00:00

Can people please read this as I've seen some discrimination on here against people with HSV 1 affecting their oral health.

Most people have this and it's usually parents or adults kissing children! Both my mother and stepfather kissed my three brothers and on the lips and they certainly weren't educated enough to know they could pass on cold sores to us. I had my first outbreak at 8 years old. It's not fair to compare people like me to men slinging genital herpes around to different women. The huge stigma against cold sores doesn't exist in the U.K. thankfully.

https://www.healthychildren.org/English/health-issues/conditions/skin/Pages/Herpes-Simplex-Virus-Cold-Sores.aspx

https://www.healthline.com/health/does-everyone-have-herpes#oral-vs-genital-herpes

My second article explains the way genital herpes is more likely to affect women than men due to the way our vaginas are more susceptible. We cannot afford to be careless about sex.

AceTabby00 · 2022-01-07T15:09:08+00:00

I SAW THAT AND I WAS THINKING THE SAME THING. WHAT??

WHERE DID HE GET IT??

Sorry for caps I just could not believe what I was reading.

Softrito · 2022-01-07T16:21:30+00:00

Sometimes I cringe at how stupid women can be. Like why stay with someone who treats you with disrespect?

Attheatelier · 2022-01-07T13:46:27+00:00

I'm sorry but that's just pathetic... I want to sympathize with her but he literally told her he wouldn't want her if she was in the exact same position that he's in rn and she wants help "rationalizing" it? There's no explaining this away. Just leave.

I can't believe people tolerate bullshit like this.

ginnapp · 2022-01-07T14:25:59+00:00

This is why we should have double standards that benefit us! Make sure you do a prenup if you have more assets than him and do not accept a prenup agreement if he has more assets than you. If he has more assets than you, you want to make sure you are protected and safe if the the marriage falls apart.

JadeBaby2211 · 2022-01-07T17:04:15+00:00

While herpes isn't life threatening and is essentially a cold sore on your genitals, having a cold sore on your genitals sounds so uncomfortable and my body tends to hate any long term medication I try and take, so imma defend my clean STI status very aggressively. There is a definite encouragement for women to be wishy washy and settle for a partner who doesn't value their sexual health. A guy literally got upset at me for asking to see his recent STI panel. Like ok bro just trying to be safe?? Sick of the gaslighting because I value my safety in all areas of my life.

saint-jezebel · 2022-01-07T16:14:40+00:00

He told her he had HSV. I wouldn’t really care the how, just nope my way out of it. It’s not something I want to deal with because the other way around, it wouldn’t be tolerated and I would be all types of heauxs.

It’s an emotional play. Feel sorry for my penis because I want to be raw with everyone but you be pure for me. Have the same standards for everyone that you have for yourself, especially men.

LonchuraStriata · 2022-01-07T13:13:48+00:00

I hope she at least got her HPV vaccination so her risk to get cervical cancer as well as herpes from her cheating scrote of a (hopefully soon to be ex) boyfriend is lowered. Genital herpes is not harmless and absolutely no joke. If he picked that up somewhere who knows what other STDs he exposed her to?

I wonder what lie he told her. Got it from a public toilet seat?

Biracial_tooth_fairy · 2022-01-07T18:33:56+00:00

She's too good for him. Block and delete

cryptohobo · 2022-01-08T00:12:06+00:00

I saw this too. I think later in the comments she said she’s going to sit down and have a talk with him. That’s nice, maybe she can change his diaper too while she’s at it. 🤡

YesPleaseMadam · 2022-01-08T05:25:54+00:00

HUSBANDS walk away on their WIVES. when they have CANCER.

herpes and boyfriend seem to be close enough.

-25T · 2022-01-07T18:16:52+00:00

Girls and boys have about the same level of confidence until around age 12. Then MEN happen and it tanks. Men have all the audacity because they always had that level of confidence. Women were made small when they are girls. That's why women put up with BS they have no place putting up with.

If you want a partner to stay through something like an STD or jail, that's fine, but never stay for a partner that wouldn't reciprocate that.

xfelugirlx · 2022-01-07T19:57:34+00:00

I mean he’s telling himself, believe him. He wouldn’t do it, i remember how my ex lvm had bucal herpes and getting mad at him because he didn’t “know”, girl get mad at him and D U M P H I M

Maleddie · 2022-01-07T15:10:23+00:00

I'm glad I've never had to deal with the herpes question. Apparently most adults under 50 have the virus - many people never display symptoms, and condoms don't necessarily protect against getting it. So it feels harsh to judge someone for having it (I mean, you could have it right now). That being said, I don't want to knowingly put myself in the way of getting it!

I'd be devastated if it showed up on my body; but less because of the symptoms, and more because of the stress of the stigma associated with it.

ETA: Herpes can lie dormant for a really long time before a break-out occurs. So he didn't necessarily cheat! Not saying he's a great person, but just wanted to mention as it's one of those lesser-known facts and it seems fairly important.

Myplummms · 2022-01-07T17:47:37+00:00

I’m sorry but at this point, why is this person on Reddit?? You only need half a brain cell to understand how fucked this relationship is. There’s a 100 percent chance he got herpes from cheating AND if she cheated, he would leave her but not vice versa. Oy vey

terrapigeon · 2022-01-07T16:09:16+00:00

HPV is way worse for women. It is a cause for cervix cancer. Men love to play down STDs as generally 'not a big deal' when they have them, because for the most part they aren't nearly as dangerous for them.

cryptohobo · 2022-01-08T00:16:17+00:00

Ladies this is just a reminder to not get intimate with a man before he shows you a recent clean bill of health. If you think that’s over the top I’ll have you know this was advice passed down by my male psychotherapist.

thythy147 · 2022-01-07T22:13:12+00:00

Genital herpes can’t be treated with medication. You can take meds to manage outbreaks and prevent spreading.

If I were her I would dump him, no offense. Not to be that control freak but I wouldn’t trust him to manage his herpes meds schedule. Men don’t have sex on schedules. If you are exposed just once, you carry it for life and will pass it on to your children.

Also he said he would dump her if the roles were reversed so this really is a no-brainer. Why cater to someone who tells you boldfaced he wouldn’t cater to you? Sis you can do better. Dump him and thrive.

theblushinglilac · 2022-01-07T23:29:58+00:00

Sounds like he needs to break up with himself.

Any/all interpretations welcome 😂

Equal-Ear2312 · 2022-01-08T17:20:53+00:00

she will dump him, she's not in the fog anymore.

purasangria · 2022-01-08T01:19:33+00:00

I would dump right away. No man is worth contracting an incurable STD, and I hope he did this before they had sex. Sorry dude, just no.

Title	No one seems to be asking where he got this STD?? And she gets frequent UTIs because of him 🤢🤮
Author	binbeenbetter
Upvotes	950
Comments	112
Date	January 7, 2022 12:46 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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