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saint-jezebel/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/22 10:54 PM
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LIES MEN TELLsaint-jezebel/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 02:19 PM
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FDS HUMORsaint-jezebel/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 03:23 PM
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PICKME CULTUREsaint-jezebel/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 12:28 AM
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NICE FOR WHAT?saint-jezebel/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 10:01 PM
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STRATEGYsaint-jezebel/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 01:47 AM
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STAY WOKEsaint-jezebel/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/22 07:47 PM
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STAY WOKEsaint-jezebel/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 05:10 PM
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saint-jezebel/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 04:14 PM
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NICE FOR WHAT?saint-jezebel/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 01:16 PM
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NICE FOR WHAT?saint-jezebel/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 03:39 PM
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LEVEL UPsaint-jezebel/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 02:54 AM
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RED FLAG 🚨saint-jezebel/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 02:08 PM
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saint-jezebel/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/19 12:25 AM
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NAH, SISsaint-jezebel/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/19 02:02 AM
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NAH, SISsaint-jezebel/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 10:59 PM
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NICE FOR WHAT?saint-jezebel/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 12:35 AM
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Excel can compute VALUE better than these clowns.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/22 10:18 PM
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That’s why they’re still going on coffee dates and no second dates. Imagine going on a date and feeling like I don’t want to feel obliged and then wonder why nothing good is happening. Backwards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/22 11:11 AM
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I think it’s more that dating is bad. Sometimes it’s best to generalize things because BOTD gets us nowhere. Most men just wanna pull the wool over your eye so you always have to vet and remain alert. It’s also ok to just be single, take a hiatus from dating, spend time alone and figure out when you want to start again. Women have the luxury of taking a hiatus from dating, use it. Stick to your standards. [He] Gotta check all the boxes to reach the next step.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/22 12:59 AM
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A) who doesn’t want to tell him 🙋🏾‍♀️. B) these men be emotional over their own fantasies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/22 02:19 AM
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LMFAO!!!! Imagine paying a man $400 to sleep on the couch until you’re ready to pay him $400 for the worst sex of your life 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/22 10:19 PM
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Never listen to or even give any amount of time to self-proclaimed HVM and alpha males. They sleep with the rats.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/22 11:41 AM
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The TL;DR on this is if you’re not bragging or even bringing these things up, more like he’s probing and asking, run. This man will continue to compliment, until it turns into competing, negging and a continued downhill battle. He’s making everything about you, about him, just subtle. This is a man who thinks he’s smarter than you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/22 12:15 PM
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Moira-Spice, In my DJ Khaled voice “You Da Best”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/22 09:30 PM
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Wow OP. I’m sorry for what happened to you in the past. You were right to cut her off and make new friends. It’s clear she coveted your relationship and mostly your ex and it might have been her objective to get you out of the picture. In the end she learned the hard way. She wouldn’t have had too but she did. I definitely agree that too shouldn’t reconnect but this is a lesson for her too; she needs to grow up and be a better person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/22 03:22 PM
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I noticed this. Because these men lie to other men about what their standards should be and are also worried about what other men think. The irony too is that these married prophets are, essentially, married with the “life” that many of these men they teach want but still can’t get and through red pill tactics from these prophets, will never get that life or even an “average” women. And this is just the generalization.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/22 01:09 PM
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Many of these men that are duping other men (haha) are getting women but here is where you enter the molehill. Men who cheat on women and advocate casual sex, spinning plates and 50/50, are lying to other men. Men who preach to get money and you’ll get the woman you want are lying to men. Men who say you don’t need a woman to be happy as a man are lying to men. Men who can’t get the woman then want so they become celibate are lying to men. Men who say they don’t date pretty women because they ar…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/22 04:46 PM
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Girl! Isn’t just disgusting at this point? They’re past telling on themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/22 05:29 PM
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The patriarchy is not here to hold men accountable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/22 05:26 PM
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I’m not giving statement the BOTD in thinking that’s not what others think. I know what it feels like to be cheated on, and I’ve seen long ago it can happen to anyone. Yes, it can happen to anyone, but it’s not a guarantee but that’s how it gets treated. I’m pointing out the overall picture that was set for everyone by her: he cheated, let me reduce the other women to “this”, let me do these collabs with him and take these pictures and put up these posts to prove a point. We (FDS) may see she go…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/22 08:34 AM
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What’s interesting is I have a friend I have spoken about your last bullet with. Jay-Z is well known for being a player and non-committed. It was ironic she even went for him because even his friends said he wasn’t 💩. I mentioned to him, she thought she was different, and he completely agreed. We tried to conclude what she proved by staying and really, just that she won, but it really isn’t a win.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/22 12:03 AM
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That last line is facts and will put a man in his place every time!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/22 11:52 PM
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I get it but at the end of the day, it’s still an excuse giving the man and out and putting the blame on the woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/22 11:50 PM
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I totally get you OP. I want to say two things. In reference to your friend, you did a great thing. Sometimes it’s all about delivery and In this case, I don’t think delivery would have helped. You sounded frustrated with her. You gave her things to think about and that’s all that matters. I’ve planted a few seeds in people head and sometimes, that’s all it took. If she comes back around, try framing things in the form questions because that will really make her think. In reference to you being …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/22 02:03 PM
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At work, I’m told I have the patience of a Saint. I basically teach adults as well as deal with ones (directly and indirectly at work) all day. It’s weird because a lot of it isn’t patience. It’s really letting people look stupid and dig themselves in a hole and all I have to do is sit there and watch and maybe ask a couple of questions. Over the years, I’ve really had to improve on being non-reactional, so idk know if it’s really patience or being unbothered, but I really try my best to find it…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/22 02:57 PM
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I love those pants. Men just itch for the chance to tell a woman what to do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/22 02:49 PM
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I watched some of it and while I get the point of many posters, I think some of us are getting stuck on one focal point and not looking at the forest as a whole. All of a woman’s life, we are told that we are only good for one thing and after a certain age, we need to go in closet and hide because no one will want us. We’re ugly, we’ve hit the wall and we are useless to society unless it’s unpaid. I can look at the thotty pippen outfit, I can look at the young girls, I can look at a multitude of…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/22 03:21 PM
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I wouldn’t be friends with a guy like this. It’s one thing to not see eye to eye on certain things, but it’s another for a guy to be completely trash in thinking and treatment of women. He’s a walking double standard and he will not change once he’s in a relationship. Trust and believe he’s also judging whatever you tell him about yourself. He’s not for the streets, he’s for sanitation to pick him and take him to the dump. Not compostable, not recyclable, just dump it and go.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/22 11:20 PM
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I knew you had to be here! Love your post OP.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/22 11:16 AM
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OP, please don’t let this scrote allow you to blame yourself. Most of us have learned that you never divulge too much of your past to men because they use it against you. Post history and scrotes count too. I’m in a lot of subs but comment on very few. I take the info and learn. Not because I have nothing to hide but because I’m selective about sharing. I keep this attitude in real life as well. Over the years, I’ve cleaned up much of my social media and it helps even more in real life. The scro…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/22 03:31 PM
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Totally agree. Men project. The real question is are men who think you’re banging every guy even bagging women? Many of them are not, but are jealous of the fact that you can get any man any time without any effort and they can’t. As the saying goes “dick is low abundance”. For the most part, men know they have to put in work for sex and they don’t want too. Men want to be like women and just smile and get the drawers. It doesn’t work like that for them. So they project because it must be easy f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/22 01:24 AM
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You shouldn’t feel like you screwed because you didn’t. She wanted you to tell her “their loss” and “it’s not you, it’s them”. She wanted cajoling and she needed a hit on the head. That’s what she got. The fact that a man she didn’t knew got her drunk means she can’t say no. He had sex with her. She can’t say no. The next night she went out again only for it to begin to happen again. She can’t say no and has no discipline. It took for the situation to start again to realize men don’t respect her…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/22 05:10 PM
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I’ve seen it and at the end of the day, the general attitude I usually have is “IDC” followed by “Why’re you so obsessed with me (us)?” For men who place us in categories such as So BaD, ToXiC, AnGrY, LoW VaLuE and UnAtTrAcTiVe, they sure follow us a lot and since they can’t sub, they actively type in the sub name and read our posts. For men who claim to think so little about us, they go out of their way to find us and get our attention. Outside of messages, cross-posting is the other way to get…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/22 04:44 PM
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Your first sentence nailed it and they can’t see beyond that. At. All.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/22 01:08 PM
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I thought I was the only one that called them that 😂😂😂😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/22 01:06 PM
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Be careful of one’s who do offer congratulations but either that’s it, they don’t want to talk about it anymore (changing the subject) or they cast doubt/suspicion/neg very subtly after.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/22 07:33 PM
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I agree. It’s very weird.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/22 06:04 PM
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OP, because I’m likely in the same subs, that’s one of the issues. The amount of pickmes in those subs are insane but let’s talk about the 40 something billionaire with a 28 year old bf. Pretty much, it was a relationship built in being “casual” and then turning into a relationship, in which we know what causal means. How many times do we talk about how something casual never turns into a relationship and if it does, you were the only option, with countless after countless stories proving that c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/22 05:41 PM
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I think cold approaches are fine. At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter if a man cold approaches you or tries to go the friend route, both want the same thing in the end. One just puts more efforts so you know from the beginning and the other one is being more lazy yet calculated, aka low effort. Cold approach still requires a man to cross the room for you, put in effort and pursue you, but he is ultimately the initiator. Men at work are just biding time and it can also get messy. I’d take a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/22 09:40 PM
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Correct. Women find a way to control a narrative and the nature valley bar men crumble.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/22 08:47 PM
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Another reason I don’t support dating apps. Men always want to see full sized pictures of your body so they can sample and categorize you before meeting you. Then, they determine how you are and there is no changing that. This man likely had a picture of her from a dating app and then sending it to his friends. He pushed her in the P category as if he was sure he had a chance. He showed more of his ass then she did tits. How about that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 10:03 PM
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I sleep in my hoodie, sweats, with a sheet mask on watching YouTube in my king sized bed with a weighted blanket to keep me warm. For added comfort, I may even put my vibrator on one side. In the morning, I wake up to the sweet comfort of Alexa telling me good morning with some boring ass joke and I don’t have to pretend laugh 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 02:45 PM
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Just a friendly reminder than Plan B is only effective 2 days out of the month.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 11:39 AM
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“She gave him a baby” and “she had a baby for him” are language differences. In the Black community, it depends on the location and part of the diaspora you’re from. I hate it. It always sounds like she baby trapped him and not like these dudes weren’t begging to stick the tip in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/22 05:36 PM
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So, I was just listening to the podcast omw to work and it happened to be the episode on Twitter sex workers. I also remember a post on here of a women saying a man argued for 3 hours on the phone ;banking customer service) to get his paycheck returned to him after spending probably a good majority of it on porn (she could see). Conversations like this, especially more in depth ones, just go to show you that these women aren’t winning in the name of sex work. They are not. They don’t own the rig…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/22 03:27 PM
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Age gap relationships are pure manipulation and just don’t work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/22 12:07 AM
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This is facts. Thank you. No lies told.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 11:46 PM
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🎯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 03:53 PM
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And you know what’s funny. Lol. He told you he married the wrong woman which is along the lines of “my ex was crazy”. Right? But then later on, you find out he cheated. Equivalent to finding out all the crazy things that were done to the ex, hence her being crazy. And men never leave unless they have a backup plan. Another thing I learned is if a man has what he perceives as a “backup plan” but never uses it, it’s because he knows the backup plan will leave him and/or see him for what he is once…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 03:19 PM
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100% facts!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 03:11 PM
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Men will watch you to make sure you’re within this limit. The minute you show you’re not playing, “I thought you were nice”. Now why would you think that? No answer. Because you were literally prey to a predator. They never observed anything “nice” about you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 03:00 PM
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Age does not equal maturity. If it did, a man 10+ years older than you wouldn’t be available.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 04:54 PM
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He wants her to pay off his mortgage and then pay her back with her own money 🗣 This is not Burger King. You cannot have it your own way!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 12:10 PM
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He needs to change his preferences to Male. He’s clearly on the wrong side of the app.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/22 10:12 PM
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Mark as spam.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/22 03:40 PM
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It absolutely is. Then women are blamed for having a choice, not choosing better and so they shouldn’t be choosy next time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/22 12:07 AM
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It’s amazing how only depraved men think depraved acts (sexually) are the only way you’re going to get a man. If anything, it will repel your even more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 05:05 PM
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Amen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/22 03:32 PM
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Total sidebar but it’s fun being a villain.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/22 02:30 PM
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I don’t speak bird but let me try 😂 as I had to figure out for myself (mainly through a man who “tried”), 50/50 is a form of manipulation by the man on the woman. Men propose 50/50 because it’s safe for them as it’s no investment while making the woman believe she is secure and can use her money for the things she likes. When women aren’t smart enough to realize it, they believe the false sense of security and don’t save for their future, meanwhile, it’s the whole purpose for the man. 50/50 is p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 11:12 PM
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A lot of these men are also the reason why so many exist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/22 05:44 PM
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I agree with a lot of the ladies in the comments and it all comes down to a man having and understanding value and knowing what he has to offer of himself as a whole to a woman. Sex and securing sex will always be a priority to a man, but a man with value and something to offer will put in the effort and take the proper time to secure a woman and sex because he knows the time is worth the money he is spending. The men we talk about on Reddit and the internets have nothing to offer. They have no …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/22 03:14 PM
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I have to remember the dates of the article but I still feel like we have a way to go with womens rights and treatment. He did this because he knew it would cause her emotional distress. He also treated her like property and wanted her to suffer in a way that if he couldn’t have her [sexually], no man could. This is a woman being treated as property, not as a human being. Don’t ever tell me men don’t know what they’re doing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/22 07:04 AM
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“Has you can see…” 😂😂😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/22 05:46 PM
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Men: men are simple. Women: all you need is a pretty face and nice body. Men: it’s not simple.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/22 03:33 PM
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I consider it serious mom issues 😂 but yeah, you mentioned a superficial viewpoint of what they want. Of course, we both know it goes deeper. Their moms put men before them so their way of thinking is as men, they should be put before anyone else. They also don’t respect their mothers for valuing dick more than them, so while they want a woman who will put them first, they still will dog her out because, again, they don’t respect their mothers. These are the same men who vie for their mothers lo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 01:38 PM
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The way these men talk about single moms… the contempt and projection about how they feel about their own moms allow them to tell on themselves all of the time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 07:48 PM
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He wanted you to prove yourself. That was the point of the question. Why? Because he’s not masculine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 12:30 PM
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Chad is some imaginary man that lives rent free in their heads. They swear this one Chad has women lining up for them with panties already off. There is a man who would be considered a Chad by these fools in my work building (I don’t work with him). This man was trying so hard to get me and my friends attention so bad. We kept talking and walking. Just goes to show how these men literally know nothing about how women work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 11:30 PM
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They don’t and will tell you to do the same. Be brutal because men waste your time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 11:22 PM
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I don’t see anything pornhub does as smart. Opportunistic and exploitive? Yes. That’s their brand. Smart? Only when legalities are involved.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 06:23 PM
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For the most part, I would say no. It would take a very mild case for that to happen and for most of these men, it’s never just one little thing that makes them this way. Like, it’s not just a man being check out broke at the time. Majority of these men really act as if you owe them something or hold views that are very dehumanizing to women. It would take a lot of work and most men are too entitled to ever get close to do the work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 11:11 AM
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It never ceases to amaze me how men who can’t get women grow bitter and resentful of them, always wanna go their own way but never really do and then think they are the prize. How many circuses are in town at the same time????
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 04:19 PM
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The best part of this thread is you have to swipe left on everyone. Except Simon. By the time you get to Simon, you’re deleting the app.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 09:45 PM
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Hope I’m on time here. For me, majority of men put in little to zero effort in their profiles. This shows up in person. I even saw one (who some would consider a chad and he matched with me first) that said he’s only into donuts (we know what that means). Swipe left, like what? For ones that put in some effort, it didn’t make them any better, for they were either liars, or were “poly” and again, we know what that means. When these men message you (and I got A LOT) they were trash. Even with a ti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 01:16 PM
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I experimented with this and the perfect answer for me was to never mention it. Or deny it. Reason being because men focus on it and use it as a way to gauge whether they can use and abuse you or if you’re NWTS. My examples. Guy one: I told him and my answer was succinct. It didn’t work out, but he already knew he had to come with his stuff together. He had yellow flags that turned into red flags so that was that. Guy two: probed and I let him ask his dumb questions. They all centered around why…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 12:16 AM
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They’ve likely had sex and he’s not being open about that (based on OP). Why else would she “…wanted a relationship with him over the years but he had rejected her,…” she’s been sticking around waiting for him now he’s prancing got around in her face with the relationship she sees in her mind she could not secure. Middle of last year, she might had wanted to start up again and he declined… ultimatum or impasse… December they cleared the air just so she can stay close. She going to act as if she …
/r/askFDS21/02/22 08:15 PM
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Try to call him while he’s at work to hear his tone when talking to others too. Does he mute himself or cover the speaker? If not, how is his tone and speed of his words. Even the words he says. If you have ever told someone how they come off and their only takeaway is that they should change their tone, but not the words, run.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 08:02 PM
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No. They’re not. That’s why they’re still here in PPD whining about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 01:53 PM
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Pickme cousin 1 is still marinating on that speech. She will likely be the first when you least expect it. Most women don’t want hear these things because we are raised to believe that if you can’t keep a man, then there is something wrong with you. Meanwhile, men who can’t keep a woman are heavily criticized in most circles (despite what Reddit wants you to think) while women not as much. You should be in a relationship and both of you should be working, but there is always emphasis on what the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 01:06 PM
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FDS principles are more than fine. There is nothing wrong with being alone if it means women don’t have to deal with some NVM/LVM who won’t contribute anything to the relationships. The standards exclude 70-80 percent of men, which would only be a problem for the 70-80 percent of men who feel this causes them to lose access to women. There is nothing wrong with wanting better, even if that mean being alone, but men aren’t the end all be all.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 12:41 PM
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My disclaimer: I’m not a real one. I’m not a ride or die. I’m out at the first sign of distress and will not look back ✌🏾
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 01:16 AM
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A man like that reeks of rapey and/or drugging you. I bet if she went over, it would be for boxed Celeste pizza and beer leftover from Super Bowl. She’s questioning this, meanwhile, he could be perfecting his roofie technique. Women really need to see no effort for what it is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 11:59 PM
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😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 05:00 PM
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I remember telling a man who stated he didn’t want kids, that if he truly didn’t want them he would get a vasectomy. If you choose to have sex then you need to be responsible. Condoms aren’t enough to stop diseases but you expect it to stop babies? Ok. Women shouldn’t have to be on birth control because you don’t want to use condoms but you also don’t want kids but you’re still busting nuts. Make some sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/22 12:52 AM
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Got to the second slide. Too Deep South for me. There is a lot wrong here, starting with her mom being married at 17 and allowing her daughter to be married at 15 was it? I’m done.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 04:23 PM
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M30. “… she will bring books out her kindle to read when we’re hanging out it my room…”. Nothing too dude here folks. Good night.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 01:08 PM
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Men going every way but TOW.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 06:32 PM
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Bad breath is linked to excess waste in the intestines. Being full of shit and having breath smell like shit is a complete repellent for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 04:40 PM
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The sad part is these men don’t get women like that to even know how to keep them. If all you have to do is fuck a woman good, then why is sex so hard to get for men. The same men that sit on forums complaining that they can’t get sex but want to be swallowing every pill but the hard ones??? It definitely is constant intervention along with monitoring what they regularly watch. Raising sons is tricky because you need a lot of male intervention while reinforcing your feminine role. The other part…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 04:08 PM
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Nick doesn’t have time for condoms; he’s spreading seeds, disease and possibly HPV. It’s really sad and disgusting and looking at the picture, even he knows he isn’t using them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 02:00 AM
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Second account set to private. His profile picture is cringy at best. Greeky guy who loves coffee dates, gaming, 50/50, love bombing, thinks he’s the prize and dogs because we know cats discriminate hard body. Living by my own standards translation: I’m in a polyamorous relationship my wife knows nothing about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 03:04 PM
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Never feed the trolls. Also, they don’t want these women (pickmes) because they want effort without putting effort in. They think they deserve the best while being mad women putting in the effort because they want the best and it’s not them. That’s why they are in PPD.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 12:54 AM
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Firmly? She confessed to pimping you out. There is no firmly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 06:07 PM
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Kitchen?!! I guess if they have one 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 02:44 PM
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So, a woman is supposed to fall for the bait solely to want to suck your wee-wee? Is that how this works? Because if anything, now no messages are being delivered.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 10:08 PM
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I love that 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 12:10 AM
105

He explained it to me some time back and while how they approach relationships are different, quicker (I told him oh hell no) everything else can be more parallel.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 10:52 PM
19

While I have various books in here and know what I know, I was watching a live the other day and someone commented on how to make intention oils. The content creator said he doesn’t know how to make them and honestly, that’s what women are for. That women are healers, so we are more knowledgeable in herbs, oils and flowers. I was honestly surprised by his comment because males and misogyny will really have you thinking women serve no purpose. Most of what know about healing in general, has come …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 12:44 AM
24

Most men want a submissive woman but what they really mean is they want a woman without a spine who’s essentially a doormat who will be walked all over. Most of these men don’t understand that in order for a woman to submit he has to submit too. When you described him, all I saw was an act. He acted in a specific way to determine how to bring you down. Now that he’s gotten there, he thinks he got you. There is nothing you can say to him at this point. Your best bet is to just leave in silence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 03:49 PM
5

Hood mentality 201. Disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 01:00 PM
4

No. I would rather sell water to whales and then go home to feed my cat. RP men are too feminine and therefore will never be real men.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 10:30 PM
105

You wouldn’t get downvoted here. Many of these women think they are special and their behavior consistently shows it. They constantly want to show that they won but what is the real prize? Nicki imo was the worst because you married a whole felon who has to register everywhere you go so no privacy and he can’t drive so she has to drive him around like a Princess. I agree with you about his racist and colorist comments which brings me back to comments he said about Rihanna back in 2013 I believe.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 08:41 PM
19

I completely agree. Who is to say it hasn’t started already. There’s a lot more to this, but she is starting at his focus on women because it’s where he hit her first. I got a message asking how to recruit her but this is a sticky situation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 05:46 PM
90

I just saw this. He basically got her and she has to slowly dig herself out. He started through a pattern of negging her so now she always doubts herself. Now she’s married to him and his behavior hasn’t changed, if anything, revealed itself more. The fact that he’s following women is disturbing. This man shouldn’t be excused off of adhd and we shouldn’t be led to feel sorry for him either. He’s a creep and he needs to be left asap.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 04:48 PM
42

No. Neither of you will have as much in common as you think and he will use that to try to take advantage of you. You also don’t have a good feeling. Trust your gut.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 04:46 PM
10

Instead of feeling like you’re being a bitch think about this: he probably knows/knew/heard about where you’re at now and is trying to capitalize off of that. You bought a home and he still lives with his parents (likely by choice). You don’t owe him kindness when he’s trying to work you from your past while also leeching off your present and future.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 10:24 PM
99

They don’t. It’s only one way. I knew a girl who was poly but had a breakdown when she found out her bf ex reached out to him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 09:23 PM
76

When wanting to open up your relationship because you think you can do better goes wrong. Also, ok.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 01:39 AM
21

I choked 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 09:11 PM
74

I got wine, a cat, a vibrator and just ordered some food from doordash or Grubhub and man, is it peaceful. Oh, and I got no dishes in my sink. Let me go light a candle for the fallen ones who are so happy but still can’t get a chance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 07:22 PM
8

Low value men cannot teach you how to be a High Value Man. At the end of the day, they all use the same tactics because they never change their ways on how they think of women: like objects. They continue to resort to the same low budget tactics, so the more they hype themselves up, the faster the mask falls off. They can keep trying but as long as the community keeps growing, they will keep losing. We are the target, not them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 06:24 PM
33

I have two responses. The first is I don’t cook. The second is I cook but I’m not cooking. They run fast each time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 12:09 AM
23

I totally agree. I don’t think I was ever one either and I always learned from my mistakes to take my standard time and time again. Even when my standards were there, I just continued to learn and raise them. I am fine with recognizing my mistakes and where I need to toughen up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/22 07:41 PM
99

The comment is a man. That’s not woman language.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 09:49 PM
125

I had a scrote do this to me. The first time, I felt so bad but then I realized that this is stupid. I have to walk on eggshells for you? When you’re mind isn’t going to change because you’re already blaming me? So I just taunted him daily will all the nice things men did for me on daily basis. “They just want sex”. Me “🤷🏾‍♀️” because at the end of the day, it doesn’t matter. The fact that other men that you perceive to be able to take someone you haven’t bothered to secure lives rent free in yo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 02:57 PM
20

I don’t think you understand how risky it is. Your mission may have been successful but many are not. For the most part, they take a toll off your mental health and friendships when people refuse to see that there is better out there. A lot of women live off fear and desperate mentality, so it’s easier to walk away rather than wasting precious breath on someone who is possibly years away from seeing their truth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 01:08 PM
1

No one. Women know in the first 5-10s and no amount of talking and coercing has ever changed that for me. Attraction is also in the eye of the beholder and sometimes the beholder sees things that are literally a downright no. Last, if a guy is not attracted to me, I couldn’t talk my way into his pants, so why would I allow the same?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 12:13 AM
100

Men who have to resort to negging and bottom of the barrel behavior literally have nothing to offer. Not even cheap dick. Learning the subtle signs of a “texter” will save you a lot of time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 11:08 PM
4

Hate that place. Had my algorithm good, then they popped up one day and now they keep coming up. Don’t debate them, simply say what you say and let them respond in anger and incompetence. Most of those men have never had a girlfriend, live in their head so everything is a theory that’s mostly invalid, illogical or bitter Bruce’s. They live in the internet and are in the lower 20% so what would they know about the upper 20%. I promise we have more experience with the top 20% then they do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 09:57 PM
9

Thanks. I forgot about that one. It would definitely be the food insecurity. I didn’t mind talking while eating but after a while, I never wanted to sit near him and eat, but it was inevitable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 02:19 PM
41

For the most part I’ve never been picky or anything about mannerisms (guess I never had to notice it and I notice a lot lol) but last guy I dated, he annoyed me when eating. We would always turn his head in the same direction when putting food to his mouth and then make this weird clucking sound while chewing. It was irksome. He also always ate hunched over. I can’t pinpoint it to anything specific, but I never have to see or hear that ever again. For the question you asked, I’ve never asked bec…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 01:23 AM
7

You’ve never had a girlfriend. Everything you say is theoretical.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 06:19 PM
58

I saw this post and was happy the comments roasted him. Like, he’s intentionally going after these women. One younger than the first. But then you’re mad that they are doing exactly what they’re supposed to do? Make it make sense. You have to pay for a sugar baby and you have to pay for the girlfriend experience too. It seems to me he is intentionally targeting younger women because he believes they’re naive and thinks he’s smart enough to get the upper hand as if a way to teach them how to act.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 10:34 PM
49

OP your brother doesn’t sound HV. It seems more like you idealize what you think he is/should be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 06:29 PM
43

This is so true. They don’t get picked by LVM, mostly dogged out by them, so they try to get their sons to be the men who will pick them (out of obligation). I wish they would unlearn as well, but they rather believe having their children will keep the men around.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 07:35 PM
67

Never argue with a man because you’re anger is enough. Anger is due to not being heard, disrespect or a boundary being crossed (usually). Arguing just allows them to defend themselves even when they’re wrong. Don’t give them the chance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 11:49 PM
55

Dear Noah, We don’t want you. You are not the target. We will not apologize for contributing to the open discussion for the identifying factors of how to weed out shit men so that they never have access to us. Also, note that by suggesting we date women, deep down, hurts you more than you want to admit. We like men. We date men. We just don’t want one with shit stains, an attitude and low value traits like you. Have a good year. Signed, Saint Jezebel
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 09:51 PM
3

This how I see it: it takes a small amount of trust for me to even go on a date with a man, but even then he has to prove himself. He can be great or he can be not good, but he has to prove that. Why would I go out with a man I believe to be a predator when I had time to vet deciding on a date? Why would I assume a man is innocent because that’s rose colored glasses? In the end, something is established to get me there, but there’s nothing established to make me stay. He has to do that. Lack of …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 02:43 PM
19

Thank you for sharing your experience. I hope this serves for motivation for all the mom out there that leaving a low value husband is a better example and life than staying with one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 09:51 PM
23

He told her he had HSV. I wouldn’t really care the how, just nope my way out of it. It’s not something I want to deal with because the other way around, it wouldn’t be tolerated and I would be all types of heauxs. It’s an emotional play. Feel sorry for my penis because I want to be raw with everyone but you be pure for me. Have the same standards for everyone that you have for yourself, especially men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 04:14 PM
82

They don’t care about themselves. Why would they care about you. This is the problem we always have to navigate through. But when we don’t care, the tears.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 03:34 PM
41

Everything is spot on. And the sad part, some of these men think they’re so smart when they put in low effort because in the end, they can’t be blamed. You technically did everything. Don’t ever argue with a man, but in a work setting, never hesitate to let these men know that they contributed nothing to the final effort. Even more, feed them breadcrumbs and hold back the water. Let them look incompetent and be stuttering Stanley because these men will use you of their incompetence and then stea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 06:21 PM
91

Average to me always reads Howard from Big Bang Theory. Men like this think the woman they are with will hold them back when really the woman you’re with is the only one who wants you. And he’s saying he can do better because his gf travels for work which isn’t ideal, but it seems she has her life sorted out and is going places. I think he’s either delusional or is trying to leave before he gets left.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 12:23 PM
11

This just shows how emotionally immature he is along with the fact that he doesn’t take accountability for his words/actions. He likely never will. Everything you’ve told him about your past that hurt is used against you as a form of control and manipulation. It’s common for those who are emotionally immature to be manipulative (and abusive) because they refuse to learn how to process these things properly and so manipulation is a better form of control. If you feel that you’re not at fault, sti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 04:48 PM
7

You can love someone and not be with them. You have to like someone to want to be around and show up for them. Do you even like him? Tbh OP, he’s shown you nothing and is still giving you nothing to show he with still being with. Staying with him is pointless. Appraise the ring while you’re at it.
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/22 03:07 AM
25

I got threatened with one from the same sub because I told a woman not to stay with a man who doesn’t want kids. I didn’t mention FDS but was told not to bring those standards there. They know what they’re doing. Edit for context: she wanted kids and he didn’t. He felt she should just let the idea of being a mom go because it’s not what he wanted but I believe wanted her to relocate for him. I told her to leave and find someone who was willing to give her what she wants; comments suggested she s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 11:39 PM
73

I was just called judgmental earlier because a woman said she knows men so well because she used to be a sex worker. The comment she made defending men just didn’t sit well with me and she really made it a point to make it seem as if she was cool and knew men best. I just don’t get why these girls are deluded into believing that men like and respect them better when they would never trade places as being a sex worker. It doesn’t matter the reason. What’s worst is they all talk the same. As if th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 11:14 PM
59

And he works out “sometimes”. I’m betting he’s StOcKy too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 01:35 PM
27

Agreed. And with the amount of calculating she did, she never trusted him to begin with deep down. Guarantee it. Trust wouldn’t allow for that much control and that’s exactly what she has a lot of.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 01:21 AM
54

What’s worst is he had his daughter around the same age he met her. Not only a pedo, but also looks like he never grew up and is trying to relive the life he didn’t get a chance to live. 🚮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/21 10:32 PM
59

Delusional and manipulating. He thought all these women would want him and he would be having orgys and sex day in and day out. When he saw the reality of your situation, the realization is he had zero regard for you because he figured you’d be faithful and would get zero prospects while he raking in women. The problem is, the reverse happened and now he likes you because no one else likes him. Most men want the woman who has other men chasing her. More men need to really understand that other w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 04:12 PM
51

This can’t be real life. I’m convinced this is men trolling. Has to be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/21 07:45 AM
7

It’s always amazing to me how with every different account or story we have about dealing with men, they can only come up with the same messages to multiple women. No imagination. And the saddest part is they know we don’t care but still tell us as if they’re the magical one that will change our mind and worries.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/21 10:25 PM
107

Your vagina is priceless. As a woman, being independent is men working hard at you forgetting your vagina is priceless. Take care of yourself, don’t lose yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 09:57 PM
22

I feel not one piece bad for him. From the minute him and JLo broke up and he got with Garner, even as young as I was, I thought to myself he is going to be a waste of her time and here we are… all these years later… and he’s done nothing but waste her time and is now being a victim. He even played victim when he and JLo broke up and the reasons why. He’s a weak, can’t take accountability man, but we’re supposed to feel sorry for you? Ok.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 02:48 PM
116

Asked me to be 50/50. Also, told me his mothers dream was that they had matching cars in different colors. Then you want to argue why I want a real man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 10:41 PM
33

And it still doesn’t work. Those spidey senses always kick in. She’s realizing she’s being taken for a ride and while she doesn’t want to admit it, she also knows she’s still not being picked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 02:38 PM
62

Men with nothing to offer ALWAYS have time to write epilogues to show you exactly why they have nothing to offer but wasting time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 08:21 PM
201

Yeah, so this isn’t about respect. This is about him knowing that no one here wants him so he had to go to another country on purpose. He has to learn some things to get approval from family. Once she’s here, the beardnecking, abuse and negging begins.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 05:10 PM
11

Carl Thomas - Wish I Never Met Her. I’m going to chalk it up to him being young and catching the spirit of Diddy, but I thought good for him for falling for a women he most likely thought was low hanging fruit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 02:59 PM
11

The single women don’t want him. That’s what he doesn’t get.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 10:22 PM
32

The audacity when men feel they are the ones who have the final say to determine whether your reactions are reasonable or not. Who said we need you to approve of how we feel.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 12:54 PM
3

I’m sorry y’all, he’s a psychopath.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/21 10:27 PM
25

If he wanted too, he would. Also, that grammar is atrocious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/21 08:36 PM
35

They’re too emotional.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 10:24 PM
77

Wait. So you want them to actually work and have a purpose 🤯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 05:38 PM
117

I’ve thought about it and I’m not trying to feel empathy for any scrote on the internet telling lies, but if they’re such good friends, how did he not know she was looking for another job? How does someone just give notice and now you’re in mourning. His story doesn’t add up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 04:23 PM
23

101 degree concrete and add a magnifying glass so it can heat me up and cook me like the kids do the ants.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 03:48 PM
305

He’s crying because he knows the relationship is one sided and once she leaves he’s never hearing from her again. Confessing his feelings will be a form of manipulation to at least keep her as a friend. And wanna bet he might be part of the reason she is leaving?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 02:50 PM
29

In Bell Hooks’ All About Love, she explains that the reason why love has no true meaning or definition is because men are always the ones who are describing or explaining it. It never makes sense because they can’t even explain it without making it seem like an action. In the end, men have narrated a feeling into being an action and it’s the reason why love can not only not be defined, but also explains the reason why so many of us don’t know the meaning and are lost when it comes to love.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 12:58 PM
14

Right! Men are not victims. They either get their freedom or the minimum or Carte Blanche.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/21 11:04 PM
45

My favorite topic. If I could mention all the times I switched and left gyms because men are creeps. I was at the gym with a friend once and she caught the personal trainer looking at my rear while in a plank. She told him I thought you were more professional than that. At the same gym, a man yelled at my friend when he knew she was alone (I walked away for a minute) and when he apologized the next visit, I told him she doesn’t accept. I’m a tiny little thing with a soft voice, but I had to make…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/21 08:06 PM
22

The Netflix thread was a good example of this. Men are allowed to lie time and time again to women, even when they lie to themselves and want us to believe the lie, but when it comes to women and lying, it’s psychotic and unforgivable. Men only care about role reversal when they don’t benefit. Look at when women use their sexuality to get what they want. I’m not talking sexual, I’m talking when you know being a woman can get you what you want faster i.e work. I asked for something at work that w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/21 07:56 PM
44

I just wanted to mention the family court and victim statements. It’s always a weak argument on the side of men because even when we see settlements in favor of the mother, men are still rewarded. Man get upset about child support, because why am I giving this women money (they never look at the child though) but in the meanwhile, unless a man is asking for custody, most men are allowed to pay money for their freedom. So yes, men are the ViCtIMs but women have to demand support and visitation ju…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/21 07:43 PM
136

“A romantic comedy about the lies we tell for love”. No. A documentary about how men lie and we have to give them a chance, but role reversal and it would be “A thriller of when obsession and lies becomes a fatal desire”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 05:51 PM
75

Always. It’s so disgusting. They do it to other ethnicities as well, but with Asian men, because they’re so shitted on in the dating world as well as having low marketability, this theme of him being the ugly guy further perpetuates that. And they used a white guy as the catfish. So what are we trying to really say?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 05:49 PM
38

He doesn’t even know what he did and he’s never going to tell it because he gaslit the title and story. The fact that someone told him about his comment history and his response was that he should not have used his post porn account (correct me if wrong), along with racism and opioid usage? How much you want to bet this girl was a BIPOC and he wanted her to see past his indiscretions. The next problem one comment saying she doesn’t deserve someone like him. The only thing I got is …ok. She absol…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 01:54 PM
15

He only does 50% of childcare which likely entails him getting off of work and sitting on the couch while the kids play in front of him and he watches tv. He thinks he does 50%. And she does the cleaning and cooking. Which means he literally does nothing. That man is intentionally clueless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 03:55 PM
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Cheating is the least of the issue here. Let’s start with she is wife in name (conversation depending on who) only. Let’s not stop there. If he says wife (girlfriend) it means that’s his girlfriend but I’ll get more cool points/sympathy for calling her my wife. She’s been single for 10 years. He’s just getting his life together meanwhile she’s been in a dead end “relationship” for 10 years. How much can we bet he’s put her through numerous emotional, financial, physical, mental ringers but he de…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/21 01:19 PM
83

Meanwhile, he looking like the voodoo priest from Child’s play. The first one. She’s way too good for him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 05:21 PM
13

I don’t think may people caught that, but I don’t think it was meant to be caught in the first place. You don’t find out about it until that lady has her tied up, but it’s very hidden. It is a part of their sexual relationship but it’s not the main selling point of their relationship. I don’t think it’s make or break in it’s message of how he cherishes her, which is not the same as women who are into it for approval and validation from men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 03:30 PM
12

Loved Debbie. I’ve definitely told a man or two to give me a $20 for a handhold 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 03:14 PM
68

Men don’t like generalizations because it helps us to understand them, thereby affecting them and their access to us. But it’s ok when they generalize us because we are all the same and need to be taught a lesson, broken down, or they hate us to the point to write dialogues of nothing about us. We don’t generalize men out of hate. They do the opposite. As long as they stay mad and leave me alone, we’re good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 12:05 AM
24

This is all one person 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 11:06 PM
106

He’s a broke, trash, ain’t shit ninja with money. The sad part is women will stay pay him dust because they will want his money or think they can save him. Hence, his string of baby mommas. It’s nice Dani put his business out there, but at the same time, if you have to record stuff (I saw things on IG) you knew he wasn’t shit from the beginning.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 10:40 PM
28

I’m definitely not disputing it because I’ve seen it often too. Too often. I wish women would stop building men, period. If you’re not ready built and good to go, I don’t want it. No batteries not included, no some assembly required. Built and done.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 08:01 PM
19

Let me know when you’re ready for that one. I’m here for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 07:59 PM
19

100% facts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 12:56 PM
59

Very true. They also consider a lot of Black women to be high maintenance because we expect them to be providers. So since we won’t build, they know others will appreciate them for even noticing them. The LV behavior spills over and they get the man we are running from. It’s sick and sad. A lot of these men have confessed that’s it’s easier to “build” with white women. And what’s less commonly known or talked about is these same men will leave and go back to Black women. I know these men seem fl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 12:29 PM
68

The sad part is they shouldn’t have to be told to listen to Black women. They should be listening to Black men who aren’t fetishizing other women. This is the problem. And they call use bitter because we don’t put up with the nonsense as much anymore. Part of it fetishizing and the other part is what they can get away with. Sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 12:18 PM
27

His height has absolutely nothing to do with it, but it’s a cop out. Men use this as an excuse going in to deem the woman already not liking or approving of him, so pull her down a notch by making her pay for already not liking him due to height. Now he thinks he’s got over. This kind of thinking spills out into personality and conversation and I can guarantee these women split during the date or ghost/block right after.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 01:55 PM
16

You need to let them pay for wasting your time. Get out asap. Waiting to pay is risky and definitely makes it harder. If you feel you need to leave, make an excuse to have to take a phone call and step outside, then go. If you have to get an Uber, order it and step out when it gets there. But do not pay for letting a man waste your time. Ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 01:52 PM
16

Want to guarantee his conversation and mentality have gone up in age either? Because that’s exactly what’s happening.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 01:38 PM
14

I’m sorry for your experience. It seems many of these women aren’t ally’s but instead just want company.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 11:10 PM
24

This was a comment made to her which others felt since he wants to continue building a life with her (buying the house) he’s not planing on leaving 🎻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 07:56 PM
13

When i joined, definitely. Now, it definitely has been infiltrated and resulted in me leaving.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 07:55 PM
60

100%. I think she was asking what she knew the answer too. The buying the property was a huge ding ding and she’s starting to see that this man is leveling up on her back and now wants marriage. You want to open your eyes now…ok. You better make moves then and not be trampled.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 06:12 PM
106

“🤪” = emotionally unavailable, fuccboi, incapable of normal human things, will waste your time 100% of the time, have no purpose or direction, still live with my mom and expect you to be my mom adjacent, 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/21 08:39 PM
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Run. Which is exactly what she should be doing. I’m not sorry but he’s disgusting and she needs to plans her exit asap.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/21 03:47 PM
61

Men like him know they’re wasting your time but figure out all the right things to say to continue to waste it. This is why it’s always important to question a man and have him explain what he means. Men are so logical that they explain themselves into a hole. 50/50 is for lazy men but most of all, men who don’t like you. Men who want common law marriage don’t like you enough to give up being single. Men who want joint accounts with no marriage are men who want to run with your money, they going…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 11:47 PM
21

I made an edit but I meant to say he is unavailable. He will not change unless he wants to and if he is already this way with you, it won’t change. The only thing that will happen is he will breadcrumb you and then justify his crappy actions to you as “you two didn’t talk about this” “he’s not ready” “you knew what it was” “sorry you thought otherwise” and a slew of other excuses. It’s not worth the pain and insecurities you will be left with afterwards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 02:55 PM
80

He’s emotionally unavailable. These type of people can do enough to keep the focus on you when they’re there (and even when they’re not) but there is no depth to it. You don’t realize it until you feel empty later. The emptiness comes from not feeling emotionally filled and so it causes you to question things you wouldn’t have to if he was filling those areas in your life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 12:50 PM
34

Pieces of shit deserve nothing more than to be flushed down the toilet. Half these men can’t get a woman and if they can pull one, they already go in knowing the relationship has a shelf life and guess who will be leaving who? They know they will get left every time. These men are miserable because we do the discarding and live happier in the process.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 01:58 AM
166

He definitely did that on purpose to gauge your reaction. He was never going to back pedal. He opened an opportunity and wants you to take it. If you haven’t blocked him, stop responding but I definitely would not delete that text.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 06:54 PM
294

I just saw this maybe an hour ago! This was so disgusting. “Successful guy in Tech” my culo. He makes money but not enough for a bed frame. Nah. And how much you wanna bet he gaslit that girl to believe she was over reacting about the bed on the floor before she left? How much you want to bet the four play was bad? And he was clearly lying about it never being a problem before because why is it a problem now? I don’t think she was special, I think she was the only one (as in girl he could get to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 05:02 PM
9

Men who are intimated know they can’t measure up or even meet you. What do you have to be intimidated about? If a man can pinpoint that, it means he can never measure up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 11:39 AM
141

Reminder to women to not date broke men and don’t give broke men a chance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/21 01:25 AM
91

He did what he needed to do to let her guard slip, cheat and figured he’s a nice guy, so she would give him another chance. She should have asked for jewelry, not poems. At least she’d have something of value. Now, she has to give constant side eyes if the next guy she meets is a writer like wtf 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 12:53 AM
44

This is very true. Always keep your standards to yourself. People will beat you up and put you down before you even have a chance to get your feet wet finding someone compatible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 02:19 PM
42

Likewise. Like literally just hitting it and scrotes we’re big mad then. I don’t wonder how they’re doing now 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 07:22 PM
26

All of that and still getting nothing. These jerks are funnier than dogs chasing their tales.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 09:38 PM
56

I agree with this. Doing it for a man is the no-no. Doing it for yourself is fine. I like to look neat down there, but the remaining area can keep some hair down there; it’s there for protection. Keep it short. I think this is a topic where you have to determine how it overall affects you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 12:38 PM
106

I know this post has nothing to do with 50/50, but this is exactly why it’s a sham. Being a SAHM means you’re lazy, but taking care of the home is not easy work. When I stayed at home, I did so much and by the time end of day came, the day still doesn’t end. Staying at home is very productive but these jerks are too underpaid and overbroke to get that. So imagine some dusty telling you to get up, go to work and pay him to stay with you, then, your value is so low that YOU have to cook dinner, cl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/21 11:07 PM
61

I’ve been catfished by men who post old pictures, so ideally, they’re lying about weight, appearance and the life they’re living, but get upset at women for filters. IMO, posting an old picture is not ideal because if you don’t look like that, you’ll be quick to ask the woman for sympathy. Using our feelings against us. I block these men because they’re lying from the jump and I’m not with the games. Want to add this only happened twice and I quit OLD so quick after this 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 05:00 PM
14

I definitely get that, but in this case, I’m going to agree with the condom company. Men are lying, women should know (this is more common that we give it credit for) and make that man put on a condom because he’s lying. It takes one little lie to make women question men and after that, now we see how communities of women are coming together. Because of the LIES 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 02:35 PM
112

Yeah, that’s the point. It’s doesn’t matter what they think. Initially, they may either be mad or think you’re dumb. If they think your dumb, they will try to explain it more. Don’t understand. Let them explain more. A lot of men can talk themselves into holes they can’t get out of simply because they are too LoGiCaL to see through your dumbness. If they get mad, it will have the same effect but it will be more emotional masked in LoGiCaL.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/21 01:30 PM
203

Going to therapy literally saved your life. I got shivers reading this. So glad you’re doing well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/21 11:18 AM
159

I never tell men I want a relationship because they exploit you. Breadcrumb you and gaslight you to basically hook you and then never deliver. Or they want to rush and that’s a whole other red flag. I’ve had women tell me that if I say I’m just having fun, no pressure, seeing what’s out here, I sound uninterested. That’s the point though? When men feel no pressure, they begin applying it like their life depends on it. The thing about game is the only to play it is by knowing how to beat it in th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 12:11 PM
64

You’re past 3 months so his true nature is coming out. That’s what you will have to deal with going forward.
/r/askFDS19/10/21 11:08 AM
106

The things we deal with they can’t handle on a good day. Men are so emotional we have to walk around their feelings. You can’t tell them that though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/21 08:48 PM
25

My ex used to joke about his dad having girlfriends in his home country. He’s now back in his home country, divorced and with a women basically a few years older than my ex, his oldest child. Every year, he would vacation but wouldn’t take his ex-wife, and again, I wouldn’t believe it. Sure enough, he is taking the girlfriend in trips, spending money, everything he wouldn’t for the first. Another machismo upbringing. The sad part is most of the men in the family do this and it’s just what it is.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/21 09:29 PM
-16

They only kissed? I mean, it’s deceitful, but cheating is a stretch. Mind your business OP. You’re more invested in this than you should be. Worst case scenario, you blab and they stop talking to you. Best case scenario, you break people up because you think you have the moral high ground, when all you’ve done is judge and pushed your ideals on others. Leave it alone.
/r/askFDS10/10/21 02:02 PM
88

It’s means you’re in a relationship and only with him, but he’s not in a relationship and not only with you. Also, if you get hurt, it’s your fault, because he was never in a relationship with you to begin with.
/r/askFDS08/10/21 10:06 PM
265

Yeah. I remember this. It’s disgusting. Like, you raised this child and then married her? I wouldn’t be surprised if he molested her, groomed her and the mother was ok with it because it keeps access to the money. It’s all around nasty.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 10:52 PM
58

The audacity. That’s all it is. Men think they know so much better, but you even said he had to catch himself when he was mansplaining. Why is that? Because they know they talk crap. He’s a man, he’s going to cape for men. “You just didn’t want to fuck him”. No. You didn’t and you’re not obligated too either. This man wanted you to have variety so he could shoot his shot. That’s literally it. And he has to build you up (because that’s what you’re paying him for) and tear you down at the same tim…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 03:39 PM
53

He’s either ugly or off putting. Men stay lying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 12:40 PM
40

Someone get him some Vaseline and A&D because he is big hurt
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 04:48 PM
12

That’s normal. It’s going to happen anyway. It’s when it turns to ABF that it becoming concerning.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 12:00 PM
15

Because college was a determining factor of a man being a suitable mate. All these articles do Is make excuses for men to gain their pity while somehow blaming women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 10:14 PM
102

I was once told (not asked) how do I expect to be provided for and not cook? I then asked how do you expect me to provide your “half” if you can’t cook? Grand opening. Grand closing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 02:57 PM
3

OP’s downvote for the win 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 11:14 AM
54

Police officers are known to be the biggest domestic abusers among any other work force. Something like 70% of male officers something like that. So how can we expect them to protect women when their own wives are being abused. And female officers… forget it. They just Pickmeisha in a uniform with a gun. Extra dangerous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 06:05 PM
40

Hell is still too high. They’re surviving the heat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 11:56 PM
97

I’ve read exposes about this. That a lot of them really are men and I believe it. What better way to dupe women
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 01:50 AM
41

I completely get it 🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 01:48 AM
80

Yup. They mention partnership when you won’t bend because it’s close to relationship. Ask them to break it down and they can’t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 01:44 AM
59

We talk about her at work. That man holds onto her like the wallet she is. Imagine going so low, you have to pick up the barrel and pick from under there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 01:42 AM
253

More like the court jester.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 01:41 AM
356

I remember dating a guy who asked me about my credit, said he wanted a partnership, to build, 50/50 and had the nerve to ask what I bring to the table. I told him I don’t work with a brother, his true love is still out there. He acted as if I was losing out. Draining. I’m living my best life. Pickmeisha, if you’re lurking, stop building him. I promise, he will leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 12:35 AM
110

That’s the point of 50/50 for men, to spend their woman’s money while they keep theirs. They don’t want the woman to have their own so in turn, 50/50 allows for women to give men their money while also having some kind of dependence on the man. Men say “well you should still have enough to save” but don’t believe the woman actually will because a) they don’t believe women can save, b) 50/50 is only beneficial to the man and c) women spend money on frivolous things becsuse they’re stupid. Men kno…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 10:53 AM
44

I agree. I find making them wait doesn’t make sense because what is a man entitled too or own that I’m making him wait for? I don’t have his car, ran out for errands and now he’s waiting for me to bring his car back. What about my body does he own that I’m making him wait to get back? You’ll get it when I’m ready to give it you and be prepared to for the possibility of never getting it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 10:10 PM
32

Let men help other men. We have enough to worry about. It’s not our job to fix, rehabilitate or correct them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 11:28 AM
16

Jane Rizzoli and her boyfriend that was injured after being deployed. Initially it was ok, but after he was injured, he was a whole jerk and worst, she kept chasing him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/21 11:46 PM
11

You know what’s funny? A friend, I told him broken men have nothing to offer but love. He said that it’s not true that men have to be broke so offer love, but then told me that if he didn’t have money, he would offer to cook and clean and offer love. I didn’t bother to mention he proved my point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 07:11 PM
75

Marrying for love is for the masses. There is a financial reason for this. Broke men always have love to give. Financially stable have security to give. Always choose security.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 03:18 PM
177

A polyamorous relationship is not the same as wanting a side chick. She need to tell her sister because all he is going to do is cheat anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/21 05:25 PM
11

I want you to get out lol. Ngl, when I read the OP, I stopped talking a guy last year but it wasn’t until 4 month ago he tried to explain why I shouldn’t have left and I was like …ok. Same behaviors, which is why I peaced out. I’m sorry to project that on you but I’m like same guy or not, run fast.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 11:54 PM
10

There is still not justification for it. Handful is roughly 5 and it’s been 4 months. I get the sense you like this guy, but you’ve got to understand he doesn’t really like you, just using you. We never like to admit these things, but the sooner you do it, the better you’ll be. What you settle for now won’t change in the future. A man who isn’t trying to take and utilize your time in person just doesn’t want you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 11:42 PM
32

It is not fulfilling. Let me point some things out: No social media means you don’t exist. Every Saturday means you revolve your schedule around him and he etches out one day to see you. So you spend 6 days alone to see him one day. Every Saturday means he’s putting in no effort to see you other days. Every Saturday means one day he likely doesn’t allot to social media or speaking to anyone else to make you feel like you’re the only one. If he’s never on his phone around you, that’s a 🚩. If it i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 10:54 PM
55

You have to make sure you ask for proof and check things before hand. A man who is proud of his bank account is going to show you. Watch how a man lives and watch to see if he’s just spending money or actually providing. I can guarantee he’s just lavishing his money and she didn’t think twice about it. Now that he’s deceived her, which you know worked, she’s rethinking because she’s trapped and now he’s trying to guilt her. I just hate that it took until marriage for her to fully open her eyes. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 09:30 PM
11

Men are stronger than women. It’s a scientifically proven fact. Period.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/21 05:59 PM
4

White feminism doesn’t include any other race or religion other than white. That’s why including toxic, it’s also dangerous.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/21 05:54 PM
24

I saw that but I was confused between that and the sheet on the couch which is probably covering holes and duct tape. No fung shui.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 01:56 PM
101

I didn’t even bother to turn the sound on. Between the “curtain” with no rod (notice before I read the OP lol) and the way he’s moving, he screams “ain’t 💩” and that’s all folks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 01:02 PM
50

The fact that she had to leave is the reality most women are placed with. It seems what the tweet is implying is for him to work it out because he ain’t built for the streets like he think he is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 12:42 AM
56

I agree with her. It’s disgusting. Men literally don’t understand that as a woman, we are aware that a man has flipped, dipped and licked us in their head before they even give a polite hello, so imagine the creeps. It’s all about behavior, which you know is the externalizing of the thoughts and that’s the problem. Her friend is a whole jerk and is trying to justify bad behavior and it’s not flying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 11:14 PM
27

It’s like one gaslighting sentence after another. To think that I have to prove myself? How should I do that? By hoping for a relationship based on commission only? Ima just keep talking to God because this ain’t it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 07:54 PM
3

If it’s been a year, it’s not going to happen. I’m in the boat that soul ties don’t exist (and I’m spiritual) we just need to let go. You’re angry, so YOU haven’t let go and are likely hoping they come back in your life (not consciously). Normally when we are angry about a past relationship, it is because we gave too much and got little to nothing in return. You’re angry at yourself for giving and not recognizing you weren’t getting back and angry at him for not giving back but continuously taki…
/r/askFDS22/08/21 12:56 PM
3

This is what happens when men get banned, make mistakes, double on their mistakes and then have to figure out how to worm their way it without realizing it’s still not working.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 06:22 PM
44

That’s exactly what it is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 01:47 AM
-1

You need to leave women alone. Keep your damaged self away from women everywhere. You’re not entitled to a woman’s body. If a woman wants a relationship and you don’t, you need to leave. Not give a choice. Also, you’re not entitled to a woman’s body and leave women alone. Train wreck.
/r/seduction20/08/21 08:22 PM
97

It’s funny, years ago I used to tell people to make sure they carry roach spray to keep no good men away. This makes so much sense now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 05:54 PM
31

Right. I read the remaining slides on IG and she’s a piece of work. She claimed she stayed because she needed to debate him. The gay guy was sweet though. She really should have kept her thoughts to herself and bolted because situations like that can easily turn bad. She’s all “he wasn’t getting a second date 😂” when really she should be worried about if this man will stalk her or threaten her after she blocks him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 02:31 AM
103

If he’s not already investing into you, it’s a no. Having kids with a boyfriend is a no. As for SAHM, there is nothing wrong with it, and in your country it seems normal so he can’t do it, he just won’t. He wants to jump on you, have you around and save his money. You’d likely be doing more of the work if you go back to work. He’s not going to help, just saying so to sound good. Last, if he’s not investing into you, he won’t after a child. Investment means marriage, paying all of the bills and h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 02:13 PM
35

This is what men do in general. It allows for women to lower their standards so more men who don’t deserve them have access to them. This is why I try to tell women don’t follow men dating advice unless they are already dedicated to helping to improve men (not that red/black pill stuff). And even then, the men shouldn’t be focusing on women, it should be one-offs because the focus is on men. Follow women who teach femininity, dating, self-love and game. We don’t like to hear the word game, but v…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 03:22 PM
52

So, I’ve been reading Bell Hooks “All About Love” and this very relevant. A lot of men aren’t raised to show emotions or to mask them or hide them. This causes men to not feel and the result is the bullshit we have to deal with. And then have the nerve to justify it as being LoGiCaL. In the end, we are told we are emotional but at least we have a handle on our shit and own up to it. There is no way you can tell me punching a wall or needing to check my phone is not emotional. Telling me you like…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 04:46 PM
35

A whole other animal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 02:37 PM
9

Our requirement is their reward. Nothing to see here folks. Just another day another lvm logic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 07:25 PM
2

I stopped watching because the whole love situation was just stupid. I remember when the wife came back I was like I’m extra out. Like we sharing them now? No, this cant be it. Even worst, I remember right before that season, I had dumped a guy for telling me he was fighting with his baby mother in the street because his daughter was holding her new boyfriend hand. he asked why I still didn’t want to be with him. I was like I am not Meredith Grey, I’m out. Shonda can keep her pick me agenda.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 11:45 PM
25

Charge it to the game and don’t do it again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 03:30 PM
66

Lesson learned. Hopefully. Because he knew exactly what he was doing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 01:52 AM
33

Don’t
/r/askFDS26/07/21 01:36 AM
22

It’s for real girl….
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 09:51 PM
12

Me: the bar 😩 People: Where everybody knows your name? Me: 😩😩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 09:22 PM
1

😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 01:57 AM
6

Thank you ☺️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 08:37 PM
10

It’s his responsibility to do his part to ensure she doesn’t get pregnant and if he doesn’t wish for a child, either with her or at all, he needs to take better precautions. These can include celibacy and/or vasectomy. There is no reason a man who doesn’t wish to have children now not protect himself in the fullest way possible and even more no way a man who doesn’t want children at all not have a vasectomy. The problem is they think it’s the women’s responsibility. Which you’re agreeing on. Thi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 07:22 PM
34

Bet he wasn’t saying that when he was sweating while asking to put the tip in. Or even better, proclaiming that condoms are for slut people 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 07:17 PM
159

There are layers to this but to the point, he’s suing her so that she can purposely see how he’s living and this is the most drastic way to get her attention. He knows otherwise, she is not checking for him to the point that she’s engaged and moved all the way on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 02:48 AM
5

I get the question but again, you’re comparing procedures that can’t be compared. Vasectomy is safe, ligation is not. The responsibility should be on the man.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/21 02:40 AM
16

No. Neither are comparable so the question is moot. A vasectomy is reversible. Men get women pregnant so birth control should be just as much of their responsibility and not only on the women. Look up the procedure and you can see how silly this entire post is. Again, neither are comparable.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/21 01:58 AM
15

Went to school for science and it is true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 01:48 AM
119

Sidebar: Couture Aesthetics sells sac wipes which are for men and their sweaty balls (listen, i follow her just trust me, I’m not being mean). Back to the topic. This, as usual, puts the onus on women being clean and prepared while men show up with smelly balls and questionable hygiene. It’s always the women’s problem and it’s just sickening at this point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 01:46 AM
8

I don’t completely disagree. What I will say is by dropping expectations, I’ve been much happier. The problem though, is that if a person is pushing boundaries and can’t reach standards, then you adjust accordingly by leaving, not staying and adjusting relationships. If it’s not for work, leave me alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 04:13 PM
20

Leave that man alone and spare all women not involved. Again, these are the type of men who will complain we don’t want to be with them and only be with hot looking guys, not realizing they’re the problem. Men don’t self-reflect the way they should. He probably has issues deeper than this and she needs to leave him alone. She’s not doing anyone any favors and for her to have the insight that he’s sexist and ignoring it? Shame on her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 01:05 PM
46

Projecting. We are not the same. You’re in my DMs. I’m not in yours. And you’re still not an option. These men are so sad the way they act then will go to another sub and justify it as we only like chads or were bitter. Sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 02:00 AM
144

Second this. After a good 🥜 that clarity will kick in. I don’t even think about seeking a man physically. All the gain with none of the pain.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 06:02 PM
60

I tried to put a similar definition for another phrase in and it wasn’t received well 😭 I’m proud of this definition. The word needs to be spread. You’re better than being a pick me 😩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 05:29 PM
51

He wants you to do all the work. I’d work on blocking him and keep it moving.
/r/askFDS20/07/21 04:54 PM
29

Imagine his hygiene and underwear 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 03:18 PM
16

Omg. I had a man tell me this. And during our conversation where we “communicated”, I pointed out all things I wanted that he fell short on. Every. Single. Thing. And when he asked “why didn’t I ask again” he couldn’t comprehend that “it’s something he should now bring up because his feelings changed and I shouldn’t have to feel like I’m begging” but he could very well comprehend “why waste my time on you when another man is willing to give it to me the first time”. Bet that second one hit him l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 06:30 PM
0

MGTOW hates women. FDS doesn’t hate men. Any woman could pull a follower of RP/MGTOW because it’s easy and low standard. Not any men could even get close to a woman who follows FDS because they don’t have the range. While men claim they would never date an FDS woman, they’re liars (which is why they’re the biggest lurkers). It’s like height requirements on a ride where you’re too short and you can’t get in. You can try to wear stools, but after a couple of dates and having to “wait”, you’ll elim…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 06:16 PM
22

Questions that will never get a non-gaslit answer 😇
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 05:33 PM
93

I didn’t even know those were men. I thought they were coral reefs 😭😭😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 02:37 PM
1

Why would they troll men by not wanting to have children by them? Women don’t want to deal with your shit and having your child keeps them bound to your shit. Which mean children are bound to your shit. Who wants to be bound to shit? It stinks.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/21 10:38 PM
294

Men need to go through the discomfort of knowing that women may not want to sleep with them for various reasons and just accept that. They always want to be logical behind it. No logic is needed; we don’t want to sleep with you so quickly and if you wanna have a hissy fit and leave, better for us 🙂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 10:12 PM
5

Wow. Abusive. She probably too scared to leave. He also whines about his problem while acknowledging she has problems but needs to care about him. That’s too much for two months. He’s exhausting and justifies his poor behavior too much that he’s justified being the victim. I’ve blocked men for much less.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 06:15 PM
1

Options to a man mean sex. Women don’t value sex the same way men do, so options to a women don’t mean sex. Which makes vetting harder. Just because a woman had options doesn’t mean she is even considering them. Also, women are allowed to not be attracted to a man or even like him, but that is always such a horrible thing for a woman to exercise.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/21 02:09 AM
37

But they want you to believe that this family was cursed. Ok.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 05:37 PM
29

Don’t forget on purpose.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 06:52 PM
3

Your dreams are definitely trying to tell you something. It’s mostly in the subconscious. If you’re having dreams, take the time to sit down and look at the meaning. Based on past and now this experience, with him coming up, there may be issues you need to hold yourself accountable for so that you can truly level up. It’s likely you have more to learn from this time then the previous man, since the experience may have been repeated, traumatizing (from being unhealed) with extra layers added on. …
/r/askFDS14/07/21 11:24 AM
6

You have to ask yourself what you are and if that’s what you want to be seen as, you will. It you love plants but say yes to everyone, you won’t be seen as a person who love plants. Learning to come into yourself is going to come with people who don’t like you and people who will leave you. They weren’t meant to be in your life in the first place.
/r/askFDS11/07/21 01:56 PM
31

Sadly, one of the most effective ways to deal with it it to not take it personally. If you say no, mean it. Don’t back peddle. People will get over it but it’s not your job to soothe someone if they’re hurt by your boundaries. Tables turned they wouldn’t do the same for you. If it’s something that bothers you, always remember you come first. It’s not about being selfish or conceited, it’s about protecting yourself at all times.
/r/askFDS11/07/21 02:16 AM
33

Yeah, stop thinking this way. You’re settling and lowering yourself with scarcity mentality. Other men will come along and even if he is a good guy, he’s not going to stay and you likely will be broken up with or misled. He’s good for telling you he’s moving but won’t be good for anything else that comes along.
/r/askFDS06/07/21 06:28 PM
76

The whole date was a red flag. Do not give him any money; NONE. Block him everywhere. He’s upset that he was rejected and wants a refund on your time wasted. Change your name on Facebook for the time being after you block him and anywhere else you may use your name. Don’t send him anything. Just block and move on.
/r/askFDS05/07/21 11:48 PM
27

Unpopular opinion but there is a chance he was ok with splitting because he may have been dating other women and this was a cost effective option. He may be honing in on you and now showing you he wants to secure you. You should let him continue to do so. Now, splitting and then transitioning is a risky situation. It depends on the man and you run into the risk of it setting the tone rather than him investing in you. Being independent is about you being able to sustain yourself when not in a rel…
/r/askFDS05/07/21 04:40 PM
166

I’ve had people ask me why I’m not afraid of making mistakes and it’s simple: mistakes help you to learn. Not acknowledging our mistakes causes us to double-down and continue to repeat them while adding in this extra sprinkle of salt which translates to “how can I make this work better the next time” so we add in more stipulations/rules/explanations that make us think we are making this mistake work instead of seeing that it’s not working and just learn and let it go. Doubling down on mistakes +…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/21 04:32 PM
10

That’s leaves opportunity for any other man that wants you. Don’t settle and don’t think age makes you less worthy of what you want.
/r/askFDS04/07/21 07:22 PM
3

The beauty bliss sells the cream (.05%) but there are lower percentages. It’s cheaper than curologt only because it’s retin-a solely and you can mix it with you cream. It lasts longer too. I’ve had curologt and it’s cool, but it’s also a subscription and I had issues when their products began irritating my skin.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 02:14 AM
16

The sunken cost fallacy is so fear based it literally will keep you trapped if you let it. Think of how many women remain miserable and how many other women encourage it because you’ve “invested so much time” “do you really wanna start all over? Omg the horror” “it’s hard getting to know new people” “I would never want to date again” “when you leave, all your hard work is going to go to the next women” yadda yadda. It sucks that we are made to believe that we have to be miserable even though OUR…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 02:27 PM
302

Stop having sex with men who don’t like AND cherish you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 09:39 PM
6

It can be, that why negging is also a thing. Saying your negative is to take you from being against him and moving toward him, sometimes with guilt. It can be a tactic used when a man is not getting his way and it’s not because you’re being negative, but because whatever is happening (in that situation or moment) is pushing against him. It’s also a way to not get you to stand up for yourself. It’s ok to be told you’re being negative but determine when it’s being used against you versus when you’…
/r/askFDS09/06/21 11:38 AM
68

Three dates is too soon to be disclosing personal information AND thinking this man is HV. You should vet him a tad longer; you may disclose something you really didn’t need to disclose. It’s also may be too soon to be talking or thinking about sex.
/r/askFDS06/06/21 01:51 PM
10

If they’re free it’s understandable and usually for men, different platforms will have different women. For women, different platforms expand your options but it’s not necessary; not the same for men. Not caping for him, just something I noticed after I had a man (friend) tell me because I bought the same thing up to him. I chalked it up to him striking out everywhere and though he matched with me, I unmatched with him because it seemed desperate to me. I do agree it’s a red flag. I figured nobo…
/r/askFDS31/05/21 09:53 AM
21

I think you know the answer. The problem to recognize is that the same people who tolerated you when you’re not your best did so because it made them look good. Some people don’t like to see you level up because in a sense, you surpass them. They project that you’ll think your better than them for pursuing your goals while they do nothing. This is a friend that saw you at your worst and doesn’t want to see you do better. She says these things to remind you of the old you because it bothers her t…
/r/askFDS30/05/21 02:08 PM
5

I think if more men figured out a way to make more money rather than worry about how much [more] a woman was making, they’d have less insecurities and be better men. These men have princess behavior then wonder why they have the problems they have. Wanna be compensated for being lazy. Sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/21 03:56 AM
1

I am not rewording out because I said what I said and I said what you stated. I am not a LVM and will not be compared to one.
/r/askFDS24/05/21 07:46 PM
21

Negging at its most basic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 07:22 PM
6

You can’t help anyone a second sooner than they want to help themselves. There are times when people think low of themselves that they can’t make the changes but will still support you because you have it within themselves. IMO, it nothing to lose a friendship over, but have your boundaries, keep them to yourself and stick to them. When she is ready she will come around.
/r/askFDS18/05/21 07:17 PM
33

Wasp spray.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 06:38 PM
9

But he’s a good guy? Ok.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 05:29 PM
119

Easy. You have three choices: cheap, easy and good. You can only choose two. OLD is cheap and easy, therefore it will never be good. Men like cheap and easy and OLD checks all the box: no work, scroll from the couch, chat from the toilet and maybe a cheap date a woman will accept and breadcrumb her to believe no pressure will allow him to lead but he never does. Negging. Preying on the ones who know no better. Accept nothing or be labeled a gold digger. The list goes on. It’s just easy to be les…
/r/askFDS10/05/21 08:57 PM
29

Your head is not in the right place and you are going about this in the wrong way. A good man will always exercise good behavior (for this sub, we will say high value) regardless. Look at your points 1-6; none of those make a good man, regardless of status and money. A better job and more money not a good man makes. If that’s the case, if you worked at a fast food place making minimum wage and a guy worked at the same chain as a manager making $.50 more, by the logic, he’s better than you? Good …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 02:37 PM
13

Process the feelings to understand that it’s natural to feel this way and this is the best way to move on. Walk forwards, not backwards and know this isn’t the end of the world. We often feel this way because we don’t realize at the time that we gave a lot and didn’t get much in return. So it makes us feel “sick” and we don’t know how to go from there. This is fine and you just need to take time to yourself to recuperate. Just don’t stay there! I promise, the loneliness goes away and there is a …
/r/askFDS09/05/21 02:27 PM
3

Purplepilldebate
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 02:18 PM
19

PPD is so toxic, degrading and disgusting. I only stay for the discussions to know the type of men to avoid. So far, it works.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 04:57 AM
7

She did 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 12:03 AM
13

User name checks out. You want an obedient woman, go find Eve 🙊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 10:33 PM
6

I’m going to tell you how I feel personally: you have to take what resonates and ignore the rest. You should probably try watching Deborrah Cooper because she’s going to get to the nitty gritty. I watch her and Shera as well as the Universe Guru. I will be honest, IMO listening to them, they’ve never preached about your only value on what you bring to the table is bearing children. You can absolutely be provided for if you don’t have children; women are provided for daily with or without. If a m…
/r/askFDS28/04/21 04:03 PM
32

Living in a van? We are giving them too much credit for having the cojones to move out of their moms basement now. And I agree, try to post as little as possible about yourself. These fools are on missions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 01:15 AM
25

This is very much true. Along these lines, make sure they aren’t tone deaf and very aware of BIPOC injustices and issues. It’s not enough to just have “friends” but they need to be aware and active. There are so many points to make about this, but before you even move forward, there are many clues you can sort out in just a few months rather than being hurt years down the line.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 07:24 PM
11

Stop sleeping with him.you don’t need this in your life and you don’t want to be messed up for children in the future.
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/21 10:45 PM
71

Never. It could be years before someone shows their true selves and use your past against you, no matter their perceived quality.
/r/askFDS09/04/21 10:55 PM
19

Block that number too. It’s doesn’t matter how they perceive they didn’t treat you, if they know they’re blocked and created or use another number just to reach a person, it is disrespectful. This is a person manipulating you to not have your own thoughts or feelings by invalidating them because they don’t accept it. That just has to be their problem. Leave it alone and don’t put too much thought into it.
/r/askFDS09/04/21 07:46 PM
13

Run. He’s porn sick.
/r/askFDS07/04/21 03:56 PM
19

The best thing is to show her. Most women don’t believe in the values because they are set in their ways and still think what they are doing works. If they are pickmeisha but still get men, have a man or attract men, even if they are not quality, they will stick by the fact that they still get men. Leveling up is about using what you learn for better. You don’t have to convert anyone, you just have to set an example and the rest will follow.
/r/askFDS06/04/21 12:21 PM
286

Men: Women have it so easy. All they have to do is blink and they get sex. Also Men: below the bare minimum which is on the floor and downvoting a man who is telling them to at least put on deodorant. Not shower, just control your odor via deodorant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 10:03 PM
94

I love Tracee Ellis Ross. She has said many times she is happy with being single, an aunt and loving her life the way it is on her terms. She is amazing. I wish more women followed her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 01:30 AM
21

You can’t change grown men; they don’t wear diapers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 12:28 PM
38

I completely expect this from a Christian school in Texas. Religious groups love to hide behind their religion when bad things happen. In this case, as you already state, the onus will always be on the girl. She bad if she turns the guy down, its good if she accepts but if something bad happens, then the problem is still her. This is the brainwashing religion does and it hurts women the most while benefitting men the most. Guarantee the Headmaster or principal is a man. And I would never promote…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 02:12 PM
20

Pick mes get played because they don’t know how to play the game.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 11:35 PM
2

Yes. I know those voices lol. You feel burnt out because you are listening to those voices telling you “it’s a two way street” but it’s not exactly. Then you burn out from putting in masculine energy you aren’t inclined to be in. I’ve been there and it’s tiring. Men and women arent equals, we are complements, with men having the larger portion. By being equals, you lessen a mans jobs by picking up where he gets smaller. That’s not your job. It also allows a man to do less because he knows you wi…
/r/askFDS17/03/21 11:24 AM
16

You’re thinking too much about it and giving them too much credit. Effort is effort and it’s either low or high. Never make excuses for low effort. Anyone who wants to secure you will. Men who want a car will figure out a way to get one, they know what to do. If you want to OLD, then go for it, but don’t hang around waiting for men to do what they are supposed to.
/r/askFDS16/03/21 11:17 PM
35

Online dating is simply too much with low return. Not worth it. There is no effort on the mans part and it will leave you frustrated in the process. It’s easier just to not reply. You’re not missing anything.
/r/askFDS16/03/21 05:45 PM
18

I agree with u/ASeaOfQuotes Most women want the tools to get a man but not keep the right one. Dont give them advice or talk to them; they have to live their own lives and learn, just as you have to do with yours. Keep practicing and putting FDS to use to save yourself.
/r/askFDS15/03/21 09:13 PM
25

This is always my issue: We create these spaces for women by women so we can have the motivation to do better but the same men who don’t deserve us see our empowerment as a bad thing. Why can’t these men go and level themselves up too. For a man, it is not hard and that’s a whole fact. Here is my next issue: More men need to create spaces for men and you know what they need to do? Keep the focus on men. So many times I see men make a platform for men just to then cater to women because we have l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 02:57 PM
27

You can talk to him about it and see what excuses he comes up with, but he’s not interested in your pleasure, just his. Even if it does change, he will always revert back. Dump him.
/r/askFDS11/03/21 08:43 PM
52

Hop from person to person to avoid seeing they’re the problem. Excellent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 04:58 PM
28

High hopes on the woman achieving orgasm.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/21 01:53 PM
122

Men are visual creatures with a side of misogyny followed by standards that aren’t meant for them. You definitely have to be careful of the company of these men. They will look at you, critique you and your housing (clean, comfort, decor) and see you based on that. Oh, it’s nice and comfy and you like candles in the bathroom? You have good taste. No messes? Great. No vermin? Excellent. But turn it the other way around and the garbage in their rooms are piled high and their moms are cleaning the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 03:41 PM
13

An average or even slightly above average salary is not the target for a gold digger. Ever. The most you will ever be is gas money and even then, not to a gold digger. Repeating for emphasis: you are not the target.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/21 12:40 PM
7

The most you can do and reinforce she is deserving through quality time, gifts and acts of service. Make sure to spend time with her away from your father. Talking and preaching what you know won’t work, so actions are the next best option. She has to feel good about herself first. You have to also realize she may never want more for herself, but the fact that she has you show that she wants better for her children. Your dad is LV and that will never change so it’s probably best to ignore or cal…
/r/askFDS27/02/21 12:35 PM
12

Ignore him. You are just at a newer, higher level for him to try to knock you down from. Im not trying to be mean, but please break that down if you need to. Keep him far away from.
/r/askFDS23/02/21 05:25 PM
26

Be alone then until better ones come along. I’d rather be alone them to keep trash in a rotation just to say I’m dating. It’s not worth it and the smell gets bad after a while.
/r/askFDS23/02/21 01:10 PM
10

Dump him.
/r/askFDS22/02/21 11:55 PM
5

YMMV. I’m not a burn bridges type of person. Just a scenario but if you’re dating two guys and it’s been 3 months. If one secures you and the other doesn’t, I say give it time still. Now let’s say a month goes by and the first guy doesn’t work out. You still have the other one until you find another one. Now let’s say things are going good with guy one. It’s up to you, but a simple “I’ve met someone” is fine. No details. No explanations.
/r/askFDS22/02/21 04:18 AM
50

Never tell them you’re dating other men. It’s their job to secure you. Don’t worry about breaking anything off because you don’t put all your eggs in one basket until a man has secured you. There is no reason to feel guilt over people you don’t know or owe anything too. Dating multiple people will help to keep you focused and your feelings in check. Never forget that.
/r/askFDS22/02/21 03:06 AM
181

They want a natural girl but then fawn over women who wear a full beat. Total sidebar but I had a bunch of guys at work telling me I’m pretty, that’s why I don’t wear makeup. Full beat daily. That’s why when men say makeup looks cakey, I know they don’t know what makeup looks like for real real.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 10:01 PM
9

They want a woman but can’t afford one. What’s worse is to be able to afford a women, you have to know what it entails to be a man. When, as a man, they fail to even be that, whatever comes out their mouths is audacity and the nerve. Most of these men don’t know how to be men but expect women to know how to be a wife. It will never make sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 03:26 PM
27

Facts! "How low can you go?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 04:56 PM
47

It’s interesting. I was reading a post in a “neutral” pill sub earlier today and what’s funny is even the scrotes with dookie stained Hanes know that FDS is not just about “dating” or “strategy” but understanding that at the end of the day, women don’t need to do a damn thing compared to men and it’s preached to choose yourself over settling. Just like the fools in the meme, they can play stupid all they want but they know. They “know”. I will choose me all day everyday.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 10:40 PM
349

Russell is a simp meanwhile Future had to get a gag order to stop talking about her, still writing songs about her and apparently Baby Future is his favored child 🤔 Women are still having his babies to be associated with having Baby Future as their half sibling and an extension to Ciara. Ciara leveled all the way up while the other women are begging for scraps... but Russell is a simp. Bird logic never ceases to amaze me. Probably because I still don’t get it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 06:51 PM
27

If he needs viagra, thats the precursor that its gonna be bad, but not quick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 12:36 AM
47

I would recommend a full body pillow or a stuffed animal. Those work good. If it’s the heaviness you miss, try a weighted blanket. Hope this helps.
/r/askFDS15/02/21 10:55 PM
9

Yes. Start with a small list of things you want to set boundaries on that are small. Things people won’t notice but are more for you. For example: don’t accept calls after 9 unless it’s a parent, learn how to pick your battles, and don’t buy/eat/settle/accept what you don’t want. Then step up. So, wrote down no more than 5 things you don’t have boundaries on and make them. Or use the examples above. Little by little, you will build on them but also understand to know what you will tolerate and w…
/r/askFDS15/02/21 02:53 AM
623

A lot of mothers dont understand the importance of validating your children so they dont have to seek it elsewhere. Your validation sets the ultimate standard for them in life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 11:31 PM
56

Yes. It’s easy to just from one extreme to another. You sound avoidant now. Your previous style sounded anxious. To get to secure, or at least close to it, you have to learn to take accountability but more importantly, spend more time alone and gain more hobbies or interests. Have healthy boundaries. Right now, you still have none, but by being avoidant you don’t even allow yourself to recognize your boundaries. You need to be clearer with yourself and reconnect with your intuition. Avoidant or …
/r/askFDS14/02/21 08:45 PM
20

I agree. Drop him. Me, personally, i wouldnt even tell. Just go no contact.
/r/askFDS13/02/21 11:16 PM
3

Ahh. Got it. Sorry about that. Still, never tell a man. You see how easily it was misinterpreted.
/r/askFDS09/02/21 11:00 PM
14

You need to stop contact with him ASAP. There is no point in seeing potential in someone who a) doesnt deserve that from you and b) doesnt see it for himself. Just because he is seeing a therapist doesnt mean hes any good period. He is insecure, projecting and using therapy as a ruse to make you feel like he is a great guy and then do a switcheroo on you but then default back to being in therapy. Stop attaching to men based on potential they dont even have for themselves and just vet for those w…
/r/askFDS09/02/21 02:35 PM
8

Please dont focus on being divorced because then it makes you feel like you need to be with him and work it out due to lack. Being divorced ins not a bad thing and the last thing you want to do is put yourself in this situation when you could be learning from it now. Next, he may bring a down payment, but I can guarantee he will expect you to bring more because you already have a home and are able to get more from it so you can put down more. Do not include this man on a deed or trust of any kin…
/r/askFDS03/02/21 10:52 PM
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If he is hesitant, hes not sure and that equals no. DO NOT let him invest anymore time into your home. He is using you for his advantage; using your money to get his name on a deed so you can never kick him out. The best thing I can tell you is hes not the one. Small renovations dont compare to thousands on a down payment and mortgage.
/r/askFDS03/02/21 10:38 PM
3

I agree. I was just restating what she was stating about previous experience and habits but for her, I think it’s just learning as she moved along.
/r/askFDS02/02/21 08:17 PM
41

The first red flag was when he didn’t ask you out after a week. Three weeks, he’d already made his decision about you. You should have left it when he broke contact. Second flag. Then you reached back out. He said he was waiting for you. That was the next red flag as he wasn’t interested in you and wasn’t going to ever ask YOU out. You missed all the flags. You attached yourself too quickly, mixing words with actions. Read the handbook, work on your emotions and controlling them and find hobbies…
/r/askFDS31/01/21 02:32 AM
3

It is completely normal to take time to yourself to heal and self-reflect after a break up. For the most part, he was potential and he was settling. Otherwise, it wouldnt be an 11yr relationship. In American years, you'd be 29-33 and should be married, not just in a relationship. It was going nowhere and he spared as well as the Universe sending you a very hard message. What is good is that you recognized that you were/are toxic and work through it. That will be very important for you success in…
/r/askFDS30/01/21 05:34 PM
11

This is realism and realistic. Once you have too many clashes is just exhausting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 07:21 PM
11

Men: Do you have [social media]? Me: No. Im not on anything. You? Men: [insert handle here] Me: Oh... Ill ask my cousin if she can help me No is still a complete sentence that avoids the harassment.
/r/askFDS27/01/21 11:38 PM
3

First, hes not a provider. Next, do you make more than him. If you do, or he is not financially stable, thats not your issue. You should not be splitting anything with him to doing halvsies because once you give men like this a little, they will begin to ask for more. He also may secretly resent you because while you do contribute, the next issue is that you are needed by him to carry his weight, so shame on you either way (not me to you, but him to you). You may really need to drop and block hi…
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/21 10:53 PM
83

This is such a sad mentality and one men use to their advantage. If you are on your own, stay there. If you have a support system, use them. I hate to see these IG post and TikToks and various other posts in which men say all the right things and do half of these things to women seeking something, just to sit back and wonder why the ring isnt coming, or why they dont care or why they move on with another quickly and "treat her better" giving her everything you begged and hoped and prayed for. Mo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 05:36 PM
4

Of course. Your role is still support and there are men who don’t want children or who already have children and it can go either way. I don’t think you should concern yourself with that, just find someone who shares your preference.
/r/askFDS22/01/21 09:40 PM
10

Yes. I watch both and the are very correct. They are saying the same thing. Essentially, building with a man is basically helping a man achieve financial stability. So what does that mean? It means you’re helping him to build as long as you are contributing to the relationship (predominantly) financially. Shera always advises dating older men who are more established to keep yourself from going down this road. Both are going to tell you to not contribute financially. The best way to do that is t…
/r/askFDS22/01/21 04:23 PM
15

Women are more about emotional rejection, as women usually are rejected down the line, getting to know a man and putting her feelings in. Men are usually rejected upfront, so just pick up your bottom lip and go on. It’s usually not as personal. Hence, why women are told to date more than one and look out for red flags.
/r/askFDS21/01/21 01:12 PM
2

I watched a video recently and when asked to men what they really want in a woman, pretty face does not come up. Fit body is the first thing they say. And many times, when women lose weight, they lose excess fat on the face which hides a beautiful face anyway.
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/21 05:59 PM
45

My profile is private. No body pics. If you must, barely one and leave mystery to it. I maintain less than 30 posts at all times. You don’t need to know anything about me. Since I’m private, that kinda says it all. Block when ready. Don’t be afraid to ignore and delete comments.
/r/askFDS20/01/21 02:14 AM
7

Along with kick him out, never tell a man his actions make you insecure.
/r/askFDS15/01/21 01:13 AM
10

I already told you. Focus on breaking your patterns. Start first with smoking. Put him in a hefty bag and throw it in the incinerator.
/r/askFDS10/01/21 08:50 PM
68

You need to help yourself first. Help yourself by showing up and being available to yourself first. Validate yourself first. Work on yourself first. He has got to go and you need to realize that first before anything can change.
/r/askFDS10/01/21 04:58 PM
4

Stay with your parents for a while. Like. Long while. Work on yourself (mentally, physically). You’re codependent. The first thing you need to do is stop smoking. Immediately. Start detaching from your boyfriend and stop paying any bills. Start saying to his behavior, apologies, stupidness, everything. You will need to take it one day at a time, but FDS is not about just a question; you have to incorporate the lifestyle.
/r/askFDS10/01/21 02:48 PM
11

Stay with your parents for a while. Like. Long while. Work on yourself (mentally, physically). You’re codependent. The first thing you need to do is stop smoking. Immediately. Start detaching from your boyfriend and stop paying any bills. Start saying to his behavior, apologies, stupidness, everything. You will need to take it one day at a time, but FDS is not about just a quesfion; you have to incorporate the lifestyle.
/r/askFDS10/01/21 02:48 PM
16

One thing I will say that I always tell women is that when you agree to 50/50 (him/you), you are also agreeing to 0/100 (him/you) in the sense that if you are ok with contributing 50% then you have to be ok with contributing upwards of 100%. Men who typically want to put in 50% aren’t motivated enough to be bothered with putting in anymore than that and when men aren’t motivated, they are ok with you holding it down when things get “rough”. Men who aren’t motivated are ok with you picking up the…
/r/askFDS10/01/21 12:25 AM
57

This. For the most part, this is why I dont follow or listen to men give relationship advice UNLESS his platform is predominantly based on coaching men. Women definitely need to learn that hope is stupid and words are worth dodo unless signed with a lawyer or notary. But more of the issue is that men will tell you "you need to know that hes not into you" but dont get that these same men do and say all the things to make women believe things are going somewhere. In the tiktok they clearly live to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 01:29 AM
3

Yeah, I remember on OLD, Ive always been sketchy about guys who like hiking. I think a guy asked me once if he could take me hiking for a date. I never respond, but i guess too many LMN movies left me with some kind of message.
/r/askFDS09/01/21 12:08 AM
5

Brunch. Don’t drink. Have witnesses.
/r/askFDS08/01/21 11:46 PM
11

He cheated and is telling you he’s been trying? He’s deflecting. It’s very typical; men cheat on you and then scrutinize you as if you’re the one that needs forgiveness. Work on your self esteem, do a self-love ritual and heal to move on. He’s not worth it. He cheated but you are to feel bad. No. That’s not how this works.
/r/askFDS08/01/21 06:42 PM
20

Right now, you are still young, so practice discernment with men. Dont tell men you are a virgin because this will only push them to push you more. It will just have to be something you keep to yourself until you feel the moment is right and thats far down the line, even in a relationship.
/r/askFDS06/01/21 02:43 PM
6

That answer is long winded and gives too much information. Also, it’s not needed. The question is also stupid (not to you OP) but it’s another way to ask “how long have you been on dating sites”. Men shouldn’t be asking this because it’s none of their business. Me, personally, my answer would be to unmatch because it’s intrusive. And if we want to take this question as what it is, dating during covid has been trash period but who needs to know this too. All in all, it’s a tactic to see how long …
/r/askFDS02/01/21 03:36 PM
16

He should be bugging you constantly.
/r/askFDS31/12/20 04:12 PM
4

No. It is not. Be it the other way around, it wouldnt be "perfectly fine".
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/20 03:06 PM
1

It might be standard but 50/50 implies that a man and woman are equal and regardless to how you cut it, men and women are not equal.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/20 08:32 PM
18

For the most part, a lot of this is general while the actual issue isnt general. I have seen graphs which show that (on average) women lose sexual interest in their partner much quicker than men lose sexual interest in their partner. Women, especially those who feed into the partnership and 50/50 mindset, lose interest because they realize they are losing and are exhausted in being with a man who only views the "partnership" in terms of money. He can get it up, but shes too turned off at this po…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/20 07:12 PM
1

Scarcity mindset goes a long way. What exactly are you in scarcity about?
/r/askFDS26/12/20 01:03 AM
28

“It’s nothing, I don’t even see her like that”? So how often and when are you seeing her?
/r/askFDS24/12/20 10:26 PM
111

He’s not that “busy”. He’s a loser who thinks he’s doing women a favor and is mad to have found out he’s the favor no one ever wants to take or pay back. Worse, he keeps hope alive to see he’s been unmatched 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 01:42 PM
-1

You need to deprogram your masculine ways quick! The first thing you need to do is to let go of your attachment to your school/work/financial status/accomplishments. The reason I say this is because do you want to lead with your femininity or masculinity. Its very much the latter in the OP. It is perfectly ok to want to know to protect yourself, but you are leading with what you bring to the table and not on what he can do for you. If you like to invest money and save it, you need to keep that t…
/r/askFDS18/12/20 12:48 AM
33

Its funny because its true. Them: What do you bring to the table. Me: He built a table for me to come sit at.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 09:46 PM
18

He either had a girlfriend or wasnt into you.
/r/askFDS13/12/20 11:13 PM
-3

Your wife paid for you. I feel sorry for her.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/20 04:50 PM
2

I watched a guy try to get logically get himself out of dog dodo with me and I could literally see his wheels spinning. I said “I kNoW yOu ArE sO LoGiCaL...” but he was scrambling. He had no logic. I came with all the logic and now you’re crying. How’d that happen?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 10:24 PM
12

Yeah. I don’t think NY honors squatters that aren’t on a lease. It works a bit differently here. I’ve know a few sheisty people try to use that to their advantage.
/r/askFDS11/12/20 07:07 PM
22

Stop telling him and put yourself and children first. Even with making him wait, it will still be abrupt. Is he on your lease? If not, depending on where you are, it doesn’t really hold too much weight, but again, depends. You’re also still telling him what to do and helping him. I definitely understand your frustration but you’re just going to need to do it.
/r/askFDS11/12/20 06:30 PM
1

It’s the giant bag of dicks for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 06:14 PM
64

The problem was you let him stay longer instead of letting him figure it out. He needs to find a roommate and begone. Don’t try to be cool because no parts of FDS tell you to be the cool girl. Let him know he needs to be out by the 31st. That whole “waiting for his credit” is an excuse to stay longer and it takes about/up to 3 months for scores to typically change depending on the circumstances. So if he is waiting for January 1, it will be too late and you’ll be stuck.
/r/askFDS11/12/20 06:13 PM
5

This is a great response. The problem (you knew it was coming) was the pestering lol. Then all of a sudden “well you should be thinking about what you want” and “how will you find a man if you don’t think about it” and other stupidness. I don’t bother to answer the question for anyone because people, mainly women’s, attachment to attachments is almost sickening. Like, can I just date and figure it out. No, you can’t do that because how can you date without knowing what you want? I’m not hunting,…
/r/askFDS07/12/20 03:16 PM
10

Omg. I want to tweet it so badly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 03:15 PM
37

Women have to learn that if you are ok with 50/50, you need to also be ok with being upwards of 0/100 because if you have to give 50, you’ll have to give 100 at some point. You will always need to bring something and something more than 50. This woman discounted herself and paid the ultimate price. I wish her well because no woman deserved this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 08:49 PM
4

The Pink Pill SheraSeven1 Sheneka Adams (simplysheneka on IG) shes more on IG though Dr. Michelle
/r/askFDS03/12/20 03:30 PM
1

You’re comparing yourself and trying to be like men and overall, it will not work. Men are supposed to be charming. You are also trying to avoid the problem which is working on yourself. You can just simply not share anything about yourself, but the minute you meet someone that you like more than they like you, you will fall back in the same pattern. That’s the issue and that’s why the times that you didn’t, it was because you didn’t like the guys that liked you like that, and you were able to h…
/r/askFDS02/12/20 12:40 AM
1

Yes, because these emotionally unavailable men have women who want to fix/save them and that’s why they are the lambs to slaughter. I don’t think the goal is to be like them; it’s to work on yourself and learn how to have some discretion, watch what you say, have boundaries, watch actions, and don’t care and don’t worry about outcomes. You can close yourself off, but just know it will always keep men at a distance.
/r/askFDS02/12/20 12:12 AM
15

If your goal is to be in a relationship while letting off the least about yourself and being emotionally unavailable while have this great, loving guy, it wont work. They will figure it out and push them away. The other option is to work on yourself and still be vulnerable but put a filter on yourself. If you know how you are getting hurt (talking too much) then begin limiting your words, experiences and business.
/r/askFDS01/12/20 12:10 AM
21

I’m not sure where you are from so I can’t speak on the laws. Your husband will continue to take you for granted because a) you make more than him b) your job affords you the luxury to stay at home and work so he doesn’t take you seriously even though you do work c) his perception is your job is easy to downplay you and d) he thinks it’s your responsibility anyway to take care of the house and work since you’ve been doing it. He also thinks he works harder because he has to leave to go to work a…
/r/askFDS30/11/20 01:14 PM
16

First thing I will tell you is to stop all talks of buying a house and dont even go further with the topic or process. You will regret it later on without marriage. You are entitled to change your mind at anytime and if he doesnt like it then its his problem. I think you want marriage but youve put so many negatives on it (as stated in OP), that you think of marriage as a bad thing and its not. If his feelings are on never about marriage, but thats what you want, you will need to muster up the w…
/r/askFDS28/11/20 12:34 AM
67

You need to stop caring. He doesn’t call, then don’t reach out. It’s only been 4 weeks. I wouldn’t call someone out on bs so early. Just get another one.
/r/askFDS26/11/20 04:56 AM
1

This will not get these men anywhere. So sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/20 02:57 PM
3

Im not sure if you just disagree because I said it more easily, but you basically said what I said, but what bigger words.
/r/askFDS22/11/20 08:51 PM
6

I get that but if you were all in the same age range (28 to him) and you werent interested, I doubt he would still not tell another one of them no. They would have gladly accepted coffee.
/r/askFDS22/11/20 06:12 PM
15

My thoughts are I wouldnt go, but I wouldnt say he is LV yet. LV isnt something you always see right away and based on what you describe, its not clear cut. I think it is a red flag that he wants someone so young and as much as some women scoff at it, its still not uncommon. If you told him your age and he still wants to take you out, its because anyway grandpa cuts it, you will always be younger and look good and that makes him look better. It also shows a specific age is not a deal breaker; he…
/r/askFDS22/11/20 05:46 PM
2

Listen. You (and I) learned first hand no one will do something a second before they’re ready. You can give her the material and just have to be happy with that.
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/20 08:15 PM
0

She is jealous because she is weak. Some people arent able to just let it all go and what will be, be. Its hard to admit that what we have been doing isnt working, but even harder to change it for the results we want.
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/20 04:16 PM
37

Only the brokies worry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 12:48 AM
17

If you want an independent woman who will pay her own way so you don’t have to spend money on her, just say that. There are plenty of men who want to take care of their women and have careers vs being poverty minded “wage slaves” and will value their women doing their own thing while they still take care of her. It’s not hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/20 12:39 AM
36

How I sleep knowing I wasn’t going to buy it anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 09:42 PM
9

🚮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 02:28 AM
39

Yeah, I saw a man on IG basically saying then women who change their bras 2-3x a week are nasty for whatever reasons. The women in the comments were like “are you buying my bras” and “they’re expensive”. Women in the comments who have to buy $50+ bras because of special cup sizes (some quoted $70 for roughly H cup bras), meanwhile, this man was saying women should have 14 days roughly worth of bras at minimum. Others got into care too. It’s like, why don’t you figure out how to clean your drawer…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 03:09 PM
72

Boys like this are a joke for several reasons. First, men swear they are experts on how women are but they literally have no idea what we go through. They think we just wake up, roll over and are supposed to be perfect but when we aren’t, they can tell us how to be. I remember a man saying a woman should be changing her bra daily, but knows nothing about the cost of a bra. Next, he got all this time to make memes, but he look like dust reincarnated. Then, he making fun of women’s stomachs but wo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 02:12 PM
23

Send her a SheraSeven1 video "Are you a Pickme Chick" and "Why are women so desperate" I believe are the name of the videos. You can link her to FDS, but I think FDS is where you get to, not where you start. I leave it at that. You cannot make someone level up or change their way one minute or second sooner than they want to.
/r/askFDS11/11/20 02:58 PM
23

Never fails <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 08:36 PM
7

Being EU isnt going to work, but being emotionally selective can work. Determine which emotions worst suit you for getting attached and keep them locked in a safe on a deserted island. That way, you have to go through so much to access them, you wont go for them so often. The ones that best suit you will keep your eyes and ears wide open, as these wont allow attachment. When you are EU, that can be felt/seen by others and can cause treatment you dont want. Have a rotation. Stop using being young…
/r/askFDS05/11/20 03:33 PM
79

Ive learned that when you stop talking, most men will make up for the silence. Just listen to them. If I think something needs elaboration, I may ask "why?" "can you elaborate?" "how does that work?" etc. I dont ask questions because men can have answers to questions scripted and it doesnt weed out the red flags. This is an approach Ive used and it has worked so far.
/r/askFDS23/10/20 02:24 PM
9

What I don’t agree with is if she met him in college and has been with him 5 years, I get the amount of time they have been together but depending on age, I don’t agree heavily with the marriage bit. Op described herself established in a well paying career, so she’s clearly defining herself based on her education and not herself. If OP leaves, it should be to get to know herself and value herself, versus staying and competing with other women. Her self-esteem is low; she’s got to work on it.
/r/askFDS23/10/20 11:43 AM
11

Recognize your worth, value and the flags. You will learn the first two by setting up boundaries and sticking to them. The flags... you have to listen to what is being said and learn to take things at face value as well as reading between the lines. First guy told you he didnt want you when he said he wanted to date others. Thats your cue to leave. The second told you why his previous relationship would not work. You need to learn you are not special or the exception and once you realize that, y…
/r/askFDS20/10/20 11:06 PM
1

The whole sex thing I believe is what made her known, so she may not stray from it completely. As long as she has some discernment, the attention won’t matter, because they will always find attraction. The issue is them approaching and you choosing. I do agree she could find some tact or deflect from herself, but that has to be something she wants to do.
/r/askFDS19/10/20 01:20 AM
13

I think you are overthinking things too much and definitely need more boundaries. I also think you attached to quickly and made things too easy. Read the handbook and read the bolded as possible correction. First, if you're overtired, do not make plans to be with other people. You are extending a hand you dont have and expending energy from an empty reserve. This is why you need to be selfish in a sense. Put yourself first. Stop oversharing. Period. If you can, limit what you say and responses t…
/r/askFDS17/10/20 04:35 PM
26

You need to start your mental level up. SheraSeven1 has two videos called “defeated and level up don’t mix” and the second one is “why you can’t stop seeking validation from men”. If you can get through at least half of the videos lol, it can help you with your mental level up. I will watch her videos from beginning to end because she drops gems all throughout her videos, but you don’t need too much (if you can’t).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 03:35 PM
39

No. I mentioned in another sub that porn is always negative to women. Im not sure if the person who replied was being sarcastic but they replied that they didnt know there was another kind of porn (towards women). There are also some women who think porn is ok for men and women. Porn is not empowering because while it seems women focused, it is completely derogatory in nature and views women simply as objects. Porn industry is dominated by men, from directing, producing, casting, acting, consume…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 03:50 PM
1

It’s ok for the entourage to be broke. Rapper already got bottles paid for. It is not happening for a broke man to even think when it comes to a hot woman. Period.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/20 10:38 AM
-5

Nurture is something between a parent and child. Nurturing is the caring for and encouraging the growth and development of something/one. The same logic does not apply to two people in a relationship. Your argument states that a women should pick up where the mom left off. Not to be confused. Roles parents play shape how one views others and select partners (eventually).
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/20 07:18 PM
0

Men cheat usually for the following reasons: -You’re not the one -He doesn’t care about losing you -Mommy issues I’ve never dealt with this personally but I do know of someone who is a serial cheater, girlfriend with at least four women on the side. I try not to talk about it much but hearing how the mother was growing up, lack of love, attention, nurturing, affection, even lack of talking and listening and watching this mother be over masculine and treated like trash by trash men takes its toll…
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/20 04:20 PM
3

You have to remember, he was part of your life for a good while so you are used to his presence. It will get easier over time to get used to his absence, until he is no longer a thought. You are going through the motions of hurt, anger, pain, just emotions in general. It will get better. Just give it time but please remember to work on yourself in the process. It is so important. I promise it will get better.
/r/askFDS11/10/20 08:18 PM
8

Block him and leave him in the past where he belongs. Going forward, make sure you're engaging in your hobbies and take your time learning about femininity. It is very important. Your relationship sounds like you were a doormat to him and felt that as long as you were complacent and meeting his needs then he would be better to you. Learn to stop people pleasing and starting working on yourself.
/r/askFDS11/10/20 07:27 PM
3

You have to learn to stop caring. It’s a harsh sentence but that’s what it all boils down too.
/r/askFDS11/10/20 02:01 AM
2

What woman would be for porn when porn is negative in its portrayal of women? You cannot really be serious.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/20 02:02 PM
1

I can’t tell you what to do or not to do. Idk if this question is even in line with the rules because I’m on mobile. But I can definitely tell you to not have sex with him. Don’t even put it on the table if you consider giving him your time.
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/20 07:44 PM
31

That’s exactly what I thought. He was trying to tell her I have space for one more and these are the gift you can get.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 11:18 AM
0

Then it’s excuses at this point. Get a cat.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/20 01:58 AM
-1

It can, but in my experience, the skills were just never developed. Another poster said something about watching chick flicks and see how women are taught to basically make men like them. You can learn these skills, the problem is that these guys tend to live in a bubble and there is no niche in dating. Women face a lot more pressure to not be boring, so most of us have to literally use work especially as a platform to learn social skills and learn how to converse with different types of people.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/20 01:17 AM
5

They usually lack social skills.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/20 12:50 AM
2

Learn from your past but also understand you need mistakes in order to learn lessons and improve going forward. I think your real issue is you have attachments to things/titles that you think make you sound good or better, and therefore may be unconsciously seeking validation. That can be more of an issue. Generally speaking, a man who really likes you will not care about anything other that your interests, happiness, what you want and how you make him feel. Dont worry too much about your past, …
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/20 05:21 PM
11

A lot of women fall into the trap of listening to words versus seeing actions. If your timeline is not lining up with his, its a no. If he has no timeline but shows he is willing to change to fit yours, thats a yes. If he is showing you, thats a yes. If he isnt bringing up long term but you are and hes avoiding and it turns to a fight, its a no. If he is acting like he is trying to avoid your interests and life, its a no. Like, you should get along with his family but not the other way around. I…
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/20 12:18 AM
0

Sounds like you’re explaining pick me women and dusty men. Have a great week.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/20 06:41 AM
1

Yes, they do. But you enjoy.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/20 02:38 PM
17

The boners you all have for women who pass you by, FDS or not FDS, is astonishing. Like, you werent the target before and now you're mad because you will never be. Worst than CeeLo Green and his thesis after WAP.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/20 02:24 PM
13

Sailor Moon dropped gems but it was really Luna with all the knowledge. Usagi (Sailor Moon) tended to skate the lines to partying with Pickmeisha. Sailor Mars was a bit more seductive when she was ready (night side of Mars) but very aggressive to the point of distasteful (day side of Mars). She was better at hiding Pickmeisha but she was a masculina. It is a very good show and if you are into more advanced astrology, you can learn a lot more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 07:08 PM
1

Statistics are already made to put your mind in the negative.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/20 09:08 PM
30

Yes. We are told to be very accepting if we are being looked at and also because it will allow other women to allow these type of men/commitments/behavior. When we are not, we are shamed. We are made to not be allowed to normalize luxury and if you do, you are spoiled and entitled and a brat. When you learn to not care, shamed even more. I’m glad more women are learning but Black women need the confidence much more. We are much more successful when we have it, even if it’s a little harder to get…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 03:52 PM
79

I follow her and her lives are everything. If you are Black/AA, POC and grew up poor, came from nothing, it is especially helpful if you follow her as these women tend to struggle the most everywhere in life. It is motivating to have those who started from such humble beginnings teach you enough of the game to succeed. Sheneka is very transparent and down to earth, so she is worth the follow. Total side note lol, but this is FDS after all and Sheneka is 100% it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 03:08 PM
1

Hypergamy has nothing to do with securing a sexual partner. This is the problem: men think they know women but they only know men.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/20 04:20 PM
4

I could read the frustration lol. You’re 100% correct, there is a balance and being feminine is an energy, not an act. Femininity is the way you are, not how you look. You can’t be aggressive and wear a dress and pink nail polish and just say “I’m feminine”. I see so many women do this and they wonder why they continue to hit road blocks.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/20 02:50 PM
4

You’re masculine. You need to go back to the drawing board because you do not understand what femininity is. Being aggressive and taking the lead and forcing your views is not feminine at all. “You don’t want the word misused...” Chile... bye. You’re already misrepresenting it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/20 12:16 PM
3

Being feminine is not weak at all. That’s proposed by masculine [women] that is meant to insult feminine women for getting what they want without having to do all the work because they are able to choose a partner who will put in the effort to keep them. However, approaching and leading is a masculine trait. Women can lead in a feminine way but when it comes to chasing, leading and approaching, that’s masculine. You can exert both energies without losing touch with your femininity but you have t…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/20 12:11 PM
8

As a woman, asking a man out has a greater chance of leading to your own detriment. It’s more likely you will be looked at as dominant and the initiator and the man will just go along. You never have to question yourself when the man is the pursuer/initiator but you will if you take that role. You can always speak up in the relationship but you can’t take back how something starts and establishes your role.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/20 11:59 AM
3

Your issue is not her coolness, it is with you not being [as] liked. And that is ok, but you have to worry less about what others think about you and more about what you think about yourself. It is good to be dependable and be emotionally available but make sure you have boundaries. Do not extend yourself too much. Dont be afraid to have fun while knowing your limits. Some people are ok with approaching and others need to me approached; you are likely the latter. Work on your mannerisms (not see…
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/20 01:52 PM
3

It seems your standards are already anti-FDS so why even bother joining if your thoughts are buy him a PS5 that will last 5 years and so will our relationship. You may changed your name from Pickmeisha, but your views shows you will do and say anything to not be like other girls. Your post longevity here is only due to being anti-FDS; glad you got someone to like you.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/20 11:22 AM
3

This is the problem. A man’s first goal is sex. A woman’s last goal is sex. Stop shaming women to believe that enjoyment is only sex based and should be done as soon as possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/20 11:06 AM
1

Fortunately for you, I’m not a feminist, as feminism is for my people, but nice try. Outside of STDs, there is no reason to be giving anyone my entire rundown. I know you may have justified it in your head, but on the streets of the real world, going down a play by play of your sexual history is reason for people to categorize you and whether it’s 1 or 10, it’s reason enough for manipulation. Most men will volunteer this information because they want women to know that they are good, virile. Whe…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/20 08:31 PM
2

Go work on your self esteem.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/20 01:34 AM
2

Who cares? Why phish for that kind of information. Once again, ask questions and use the questions to manipulate to the mans advantage. You literally proved the point you were trying to negate. Thank you going in a full circle.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/20 12:51 AM
6

Mainly because the men who ask are judging you even if they don’t tell you. If you tell a man you’ve had one night stands but you make him wait because you’ve decided you change for the better of yourself, men will feel like you’ve already been doing it, so why are you stopping now? It’s a way for them to hold your past against you and make you feel bad or entitled for wanting better. They know where to place you and how to treat you. When they can’t get answers to direct questions, they’ll go i…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/20 10:46 PM
1

Why even try getting it lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/20 09:05 PM
6

a) I dont talk to men about sex b) I dont talk to men about sex c) I dont talk to men about sex d) I dont talk to men about sex If thats a problem, dont let the door hit you...
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/20 08:36 PM
3

💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 06:34 PM
8

Classic!!!! I need a dust free playlist now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 01:38 AM
13

What kills me is pickmeisha is in every other sub asking you what’s the best way they can approach you so that you can have a pity relationship with them and instead of being happy with them, they are here. What’s the problem of getting it where you fit in? We are not bothering anyone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 09:53 PM
21

They literally mention FDS even when the conversation is about everything but FDS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 09:44 PM
72

As a child, I listened to Never Gonna Get It and whatever song she said “No romance without finance”. As a teen, I listened to No Scrubs. This song, however, I don’t know her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 09:41 PM
1

Sunken Cost Fallacy is something most should at least know but don’t. It just makes sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 07:54 PM
-1

Once again, they have to approach you. It seems women have to do all of the work for you. You being in contact can also be seen has keeping your options open, keeping them attached, or toxic, depending the extreme. Either way, if you dont have children with them, its not ideal. And Im a woman, I know why men approach me. So no, I dont have LTR with ALL the men who approach me because I have to have a thing called discernment for a reason. And as to a ring, yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/20 05:38 PM
1

You're basically admitting that you took what you could get all because women approached you. Plural, so they all ended. FDS still remains correct.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/20 04:11 PM
9

I’ve actually gotten more attention with my natural hair versus when it was straight (relaxed). Regardless of style. More about how I carry myself.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/20 01:48 AM
7

PPD in a nutshell
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 02:31 PM
1

I get that you’ve grown with him but it’s evident you aren’t happy. I don’t think leaving will put you in a vulnerable situation, but it’s up to you to also limit the amount of information you put on the other person. You can have a couple of cousins in the city (figuratively) if you don’t want to feel vulnerable. You’re scared and I get it. But you’re putting too much emphasis on age. As if you’re at your end of good days and can’t leave or else doomsday. I can’t tell you what to do, but you ar…
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/20 01:44 AM
1

Your situation now or if you leave?
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/20 12:21 AM
8

Sorry to hop in on another comment OP, but looking at C, there are a few red flags here: Wait 2 years to have a child but the waitlist for school is 2+ years so that number could be longer. You'd still be stopping your life for him. Date and still meet someone within that time. "If" we get married? You are too attached to time and possibly wasting it at the same time.
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/20 10:02 PM
9

If this is your only reason for staying, then you dont value yourself and you will still leave him eventually, you are just delaying it and potentially damaging more lives (children if you decide) by doing so. He is complying to give you what you want, but with no ambition to do more. He showed you his colors, so if you are expecting for him to change, you need to make decisions now to determine if you want to stay. 30 is not the end all be all but your happiness is entirely up to you.
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/20 09:57 PM
41

I’m not trying to prove how smart I am to any one but men aren’t stupid. Even talking simply allows them to see. If you can’t keep up, remove yourself from the table you bought nothing to in the first place; a better man is waiting to bring all the courses and dessert.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 03:06 PM
5

Nah. I was shook. Y’all can’t do this to us 😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 09:37 AM
37

Why no one will ever pick a pick me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 04:52 PM
1

Or do you prefer men loving women more because of their appearance and personality and "essence"? This.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/20 07:25 PM
10

I totally agree. While I didnt care for the song or video, I didnt hate it. I think if women shut up long enough, they wouldnt find a reason to hate the video or song because so many men are up in arms about it, writing think pieces, and hurt because woman are doing what they want and without men around. Men probably are the reason that song is number 1. Im not saying not to find reason to not like it, Im just saying be quiet about it because just like the tweet posted, if you sit back long enou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 01:57 PM
6

As long as youre 50/50, youll never trust him. You summed it up by saying you have to work and cover him. Its not "masculine" as in diminishing your femininity, but I could see why you view it that way, as its his job to cover you, but you are playing that role. You cant do all the work AND submit. Doesnt work that way.
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/20 03:10 PM
192

Men learn faster when you leave them versus when you tell them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 02:54 PM
6

When a man says a women should be nurturing, run. That’s a mother’s job, not a requirement of a woman you’re dating. These fools think the right words thrown together will get them with the woman of their dream. Bye.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 10:30 PM
5

What a mighty mighty good man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 01:45 PM
2

It is your feeling. It is not a fact.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/20 12:12 PM
79

Run. You’re a placeholder and the minute he gets the chance, he will dump you.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/20 01:29 PM
7

Other posters have good advice. At this point, I won’t tell you to get over it, because your feelings do not need to be explained. However, if you plan to stay, you will have to drop the resentment because you can’t stay and be angry at the same time. Set your requirements/standards and hold yourself to them. If he isn’t paying court ordered child support, he might need to file and request visitation to further limit communication. You may need to be more involved in that aspect of his life unti…
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/20 01:38 AM
3

His number is on the picture.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 01:09 AM
21

I definitely just saw an IG post that Cuffing Season has arrived. Chile. Bye.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 12:39 PM
1

Get help. Have a good night.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/20 01:19 AM
1

From your first sentence, it’s evident my post was t for you. Good night.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/20 01:18 AM
2

In the end, women should not be chasing. If a woman is basing high value on attraction, then she needs to go back to class because that’s not how it works and not what high value makes. High value is about looking at his actions, not him looking like PrisonBae. If 80% of women are chasing, only 20% are the actual prizes (these numbers are terrible and unrealistic btw and they paint women in the low, perhaps that was your point). Which means HV men are competing for the 20% while the 80% think th…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/20 09:48 PM
2

I’m not competing with women for a man. His job is to compete with other men. If you missed economics, then you can takes classes with seemedgood too. You want to compete with a man for him to pick you over the others? Go ahead. In the end, he will not pick any of you.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/20 09:25 PM
2

Men are not a scare resource. They are dime a dozen. You missed several classes.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/20 09:23 PM
5

That’s Pick-Me mentality. The “insane” rule of FDS helps you to understand that you’re not monogamous until marriage because then you understand that you’re looking for the best man. Competing with other women is letting him know he’s the best without proving himself.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/20 12:28 PM
2

Eat healthier. Tabata or HIIT strength training. Make sure to work all areas. Get rid of soda and juice and drink mostly water.
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/20 10:58 PM
11

This scenario is dumb. If a man settles for a women, because she has a great personality, but isnt attractive to him: -Not finding her attractive equates to not desiring her. Thats a huge red flag and would be seen immediately through his actions as he wouldnt be the chaser; -A great personality is wonderful for friendships; -Only dust settles, so do you want to be where dust (him) settles (her). Unless you're a masculine woman chasing a feminine man, there is no other way the red flags would be…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/20 01:55 PM
6

The thing is, only dust settles. Do you want to be where dust settles.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/20 01:40 PM
10

You really shouldnt speak on something you dont know. If the poster remembers you're a virgin, they remember enough to know that you're putting sex on a pedestal and havent even experienced yet.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/20 04:28 PM
3

Who in their right mind would tolerate or compromise with a red flag. That has nothing to do with options and everything to do with a healthy mind state and knowing you do not have to put up with anyone’s crap. Sometimes, not putting up with someone’s shit is a great option, versus fear mentality and “tolerating” red flags.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/20 10:04 PM
5

Women be funny. "I cant stop his eyes but you can look unattractive and androgynous so he wont notice you and I can feel better about myself". This is why having a personality is important.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 12:01 AM
15

The first this I would tell you is to stop comparing yourself to others. It will drive you crazy every single time. Instead, think of what you see on this person and think of positive ways you can improve yourself. Sound weird right? Its not that you think more highly of the other, its that you dont think highly of yourself, so you think the other person looks/appears better when really its a quality or "something" you are looking for. My sister and a coworker have similar hairstyles right now. …
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/20 02:33 PM
3

Something that I dont think gets talked about is that women are shamed for masturbation, not recognizing it places you with a good bit of sexual freedom and self esteem. If more women did (and werent shamed) more women can be in control of their orgasms, how they are to be sexually satisfied and not dependent on a man for satisfaction. Women often attach themselves to men simply because they are not in control of how to please themselves which doesnt help women at all.
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/20 01:23 AM
2

Go lookup Project Pat on YouTube...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 09:20 PM
60

Pickmeisha dont want to be saved. Dont save her. She dont want to be saved.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 01:13 PM
2

You need to lean back and let him take the lead. Its not about you having a job and its not big deal, its about the fact that you are in the presence of a man so you need to let him be one. I understand that he left when the waiter went to get the check, but you should have just let him wait for your date to come back and watch him pay or fumble, Now, you will always question yourself. Let him suggest the next date and when he does, tell him a cuisine you would like and let him do the rest.
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/20 10:51 PM
1

Your feelings are not facts. You cant fake being an Alpha when you know nothing of being an Alpha; it wont work for you. The very thing saving you is also destroying you.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/20 07:45 PM
3

I love Wild Yam. He's lit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 02:03 AM
2

Men often use asking about age as a gateway to other probing questions which are used to size women up and have a man put them in a box or category. So, it not necessarily offensive, just more like a setup.
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/20 11:56 PM
3

Women are the gatekeepers AND dungeon masters of sex and relationships. If they weren’t, [beta and substandard] men wouldn’t be so pressed to have one or trying figure out how to get one or be upset when they can’t get one or crying when they are blaming better looking men for having all of the luck.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/20 06:47 PM
2

I dont think amount matters, you need to keep it for yourself and always be prepared for a rainy day. A rainy day can be anything and kinda like a proper planning prevents poor performance kind of thing. So many women get left behind due to openness and honesty while men can kinda depend on that to get over on you. Keep it in a separate bank too. I wouldnt keep that money around the house either. Also, if you are already putting in half, revealing this will only put you at exposure for a) hiding…
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/20 01:27 PM
45

I did this twice. And at the end of each date, I gleefully said "Look forward to hearing from you again".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 08:16 PM
1

You are very wrong. Context for learning
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/20 08:12 PM
30

I told yall one of those man-jerk moderators in pickmeover30 deleted a comment I made because I told OP that "you cant get a man to change his mind and so you shouldnt change yours" and "dont drop to his level". Apparently, FDS is one of many "cult" practices. All of the subreddits mentioned are apparently "cults". And what is funny is all have common themes, just different executions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 03:14 PM
10

I feel like these young girls (and I have a younger sister their age) got late 60’s to late 70’s parents who parents were getting wasted during that Woodstock pure drug era, so their parents are showing them something even better or gave them different brain cells than a lot of us with boomer parents, allowing them to wake up sooner. They lied when they said drug free is the way to be. FYI both my sister and a close cousin of mine (same age 20’s) are either on some level up stuff like them or ca…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 12:54 AM
25

Sidebar but r/datingover30 has to be ran by men because apparently we are a cult. So this explains it well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 10:21 PM
81

I cringed the entire time. Like, you’re paying half AND have to supply the entertainment. Omg.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 01:48 AM
21

I’ve seen a lot too. I’m starting to think either they don’t or pickmeisha and nem want us to believe that if we get with the program, it can be a collective effort.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 11:51 PM
21

Totally agree. Not only are they stingy, but they truly have no gold to dig and even when they get some, they are worried about losing it and how will they get it again. Time only matters to a man when he is losing money. There are some men who dont have a lot, like you said, who will give everything and like provider males, make sure they have to give. That is the difference. Provider provide but soul diggers want to take and take and take.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 04:51 PM
1

I did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 06:26 PM
7

Something else you have to realize is that the sub gets lurkers and new women daily. Just because we know doesn’t mean they do. The messages may seem repetitive to us but on time for others. So while we wouldn’t do this stuff, Pickmeisha lurking and realizing “I don’t have to do that? But how?” And this sub is teaching her the ways, whether she joins or lurks. It’s your choice but not all women are raised to believe they have one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 04:55 PM
36

It’s not that hard (and I’m not being sarcastic). Don’t do “wifely” duties for a man you aren’t a wife too. Do you go to work for free? Would you even do a job you aren’t paid or being paid for? So why bust your behind for a man when you are not being properly compensated for it. Why’re you cooking, cleaning and even doing his laundry as a start? Please stop. The most I do over here is pop popcorn but I have a friend who messes up boiling water on purpose. Now mind you, I can cook, lol, and when…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 12:29 PM
9

Having an abundance mindset means not living in lack. It means that if I turn you down, I’m not worried about you ghosting and another showing up. There are plenty more. If I don’t have anything going on, then I should entertain you because I don’t actively have anything going on? Oh no. If I don’t like what you’re proposing, I can turn it down and be completely happy having sitting in my pajamas watching some bake-off show. That’s something better to do. Do not let the door hit you...
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/20 02:15 PM
143

It’s always the one who never had a chance in the first place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 01:26 PM
6

You’re nice. If I don’t get a text/phone call the day of, the date is cancelled. I’m not reaching out either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 12:40 AM
3

In the beginning yes. Regardless of the reason, they are likely giving the men free reign while they pick up all the slack just to say they have a man. If they arent ignorant, the response is still the same as the ignorant ones. Self esteem and scarcity mentality is low and high, respectively, in both individuals. In the long run, no. Yes, Pickmes get married and have kids, but over time, their work load continues to increase and they dont understand why. These are the women that age so fast but…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 09:34 PM
65

Most of them aren’t black so it’s just going to all the other parts of reddit lol. And men seem to think it’s ok to use women up, like they’re gods gift, but it’s wrong to ask for anything in return. You can always tell the ones who get no play.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 05:50 PM
6

Why are you so mad about women who don’t want to have sex with you anyway? You a think a subreddit is getting in your way? Sorry. It’s not. You RP guys so bent out of shape over women who wouldn’t even notice you once on the street. The same RP men that lurk the subreddit y’all hate so much, then message women in the sub, because y’all are so desperate for attention, from women in a sub y’all hate so much. Stay in your lane.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/20 12:19 AM
6

OP, I posted a video maybe last weekend of someone else on TikTok who posted similar content and her video got deleted too. They are on to us and don’t want the word spread 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 01:49 PM
149

He better bring his own can and opener too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 11:17 PM
106

Men have egos and those are filled with nothing but emotion. Men aren’t emotional is one of the biggest lies out there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 09:14 PM
11

I am the smart woman. No one has to listen to me. Especially if it’s not going to make or break my survival in the end 😘
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 09:52 PM
13

I think some are missing the point (those who are following the narrative that men hide their feelings). Men are action oriented. Even if they are "hiding their emotions" if they are acting in a way to express that, and really express they want you back and not the typical "I miss you" nonsense, what hes hiding is moot; he does not care to come back and shows that whether he did or didnt invest, his actions, even lackof, only show he didnt or doesnt want to any further.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 10:23 PM
96

I want the confidence AND audacity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 06:13 PM
2

It’s kind of like “The More You Know”. My eyes went wide at the images.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 01:15 AM
11

FDS and Sis just sitting back, looking at the bar point to the same floor he’s on. Oh. No.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 07:21 PM
21

The problem is, women don’t even know what commitment is when they are trapping these guys. All the understand is “the baby will make him stay”. Yes. He will stay coming back to your Tom foolery behind because that’s what you want, but you don’t understand the value of commitment and that’s why you barter you life, body and 10 months for someone who still finding other women in his spare and non-spare time just so he can stay coming home to you. Not worth it one bit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 03:29 PM
14

We don’t have to catch them all 🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 07:49 PM
56

“Don’t save them. They don’t want to be saved.” -Project Pat
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 04:40 PM
-1

I posted this on WhatsApp over a year ago. Man, I hurt some people feelings. Mostly men. Actually 🤔 only men. One is still here lol, but man, when I say triggered 😭😭😭 Hit dogs always gonna holler.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 01:14 AM
58

That clown stage can hit you hard in the end. Like, everyone but you saw that coming 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 11:01 PM
6

A pretend meal to go with your pretend words.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/20 05:11 PM
11

It means that when time=effort=money, he comes 0 for 0 for 0 in all three categories.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 11:14 PM
103

If a man wants you to pay half, then you can be by yourself and pay all of it. What do you need him for? If a man wants to pay half, that means he’s not supporting you. This has nothing to do with “contributing”. To those who don’t agree with Pickmeisha, but that she should pay half, remember, Pickmeisha got friends, one specifically Barbara the Builder. While he’s “paying half”, he’s not supporting her or investing in her, but still expects to have sex with her, meals and a clean home. While he…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 01:55 AM
38

I’m single because only dust settles.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 11:01 PM
6

Take them emotions off the table and watch how a man starts to work overtime for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 03:28 PM
16

It’s funny because it’s true. I had to leave that sub 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 05:06 PM
2

He’s a whole lie. Ain’t no way he was struggling to make rent and eating red lobster 4x a week. And if that’s the case, run because he’s broke broke. Broke pockets and broke mentality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 11:43 AM
5

🤣 vaccines please.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 02:34 AM
6

A tragedy Shakespeare couldn’t write if he tried.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 02:33 AM
28

But what kills me is his double texting. Don’t they teach us women in “how to keep a man and be submissive” academy to not double text? 🤔 the irony.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 08:42 PM
5

Yup
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 08:39 PM
4

He like Tommy. Ain’t got no job
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 08:38 PM
21

Yes there are. I just read ones rant yesterday on IG about how a woman should be on a man’s timeline if she wants a relationship. Idk who that man was but I blocked him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 08:38 PM
11

He’s crazy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 08:37 PM
39

Here is link to add context. Hope it works. If not, someone help a Sista out. Basically, she asked him what he wanted to eat and showed him. Told him she had limited funds and that she couldn’t afford red lobster, since that’s what he was craving. She basically offered a meal on her terms. A. Meal. He was upset. When she reminded him that they weren’t in a relationship, he went off. He basically told her (in the update) something to the effect of not giving her a relationship which all women wan…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 04:17 PM
2

Cold blooded
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 01:11 AM
8

And all levels go down, not up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 08:46 PM
10

They need a lesson on how they should look to be appealing and then maybe they can piece together a thought about how we should look. And when that piece of thought starts to form into a full on thought, take a needle and pop it and stop it because just stop it. Signed- All 2 million women who will not date you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 11:37 PM
10

I don’t want any parts of that galaxy thank you very much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 07:42 PM
30

If you treated then the way they treat you, they would either leave, feel ignored or neglected or complain about it and start acting right. The order depends on the man and it’s up to you to put up with it, depending on your circumstances. Something I learned a little while ago is “Men always want a second chance, so they will always give you one”. If you treat me how they treat you, you’d be surprised how far this line and motive will get you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 10:29 PM
17

Something to be mindful of is men who live with their parents and siblings, especially grown ones and you getting along with the family means peace for you to come and stay over. That acceptance of comfortability. Then, if the family depends on him, you’re screwed because the whole purpose of having someone while him giving nothing in return. That’s a huge flag too. Sometimes getting along with family only serves his purpose while you’re the fool having comfort in that promise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 11:16 PM
12

Clown faces have never been so accurate these days.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 02:17 AM
28

There’s another one with his children and baby mommas at that exact same table.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 11:06 PM
10

None! Ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 05:51 AM
10

Yes. And I’m a B cup.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 05:50 AM
18

Some people don't realize their goals are not my goals. Mine are better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 10:06 PM
28

Backstory: posted something saying like what do you do when you’re holding a knife in someone’s heart. I told her to twist it. So (she laughed of course and asked me wtf) but after she explained, dude is guilting her into staying by being suicidal. I told her she still young, pretty, ambitious and smart. She better run before she get wrinkles by these fools.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 03:43 PM
27

These are the things that must always be remembered: HVM aren’t on reddit, YouTube, or bothering with their silly podcasts. It ain’t a secret. They swear we will crash and burn and then will come running to them. It will never work like that. If a man and woman were kidnapped at the same time, the man would be disposed in the woods and the woman would be held for ransom. Let this one sink in. A man has to work to get more money. Like, actively work to get money and level up. A woman just has to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/19 11:21 PM
24

I went in a date with one once. Let just say his view of women was that one should just love him, give him the secks, cook and just be happy with his way. Basically Netflix and chill. I was like wow, you’re just a whole waste of education, really good career and money. Him: I hope to see you again. Me: 🙂 Me to Me: Insert Sure Jan gif here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/19 11:31 PM
44

The problem is, men don’t see that they’re replaceable until you start getting yourself all the way together. By then, it’s too late. Then, they’re mad because you actively replaced them when they thought they couldn’t be replaced but the real kicker is you’re the one who can’t be replaced. TRP and MGTOW definitely follow after. Because woman replaced man with better man and man replaced woman with a Bob/Barbara the Builder chick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/19 05:36 PM
2

Got it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/19 01:58 AM
10

How was he garbage? What was he compensating for?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/19 01:04 AM
28

That’s funny. I agree with the creeper vibes but I think a) he’s going to the wrong places to meet women and b) he’s too desperate. I actually saw the post and left because they aren’t down for real advice in those “beyond” sections of reddit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/19 01:01 AM
12

You know, even until this day, I’ve told men I believe in condoms because I don’t want to be having “anybody’s” kids, I’m not sure id still like you tomorrow and “ewww, you don’t look worthy of checking out and renting space in my uterus”. Turns them right off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/19 05:15 PM
57

The Pick-Me Olympics are real. I’ll watch but I ain’t no contestant. I need you to be built, finished and done, bring me these envelopes of money and give me everything I want so I can feel extra special. Motivate me to not find someone better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/19 02:07 AM
13

Shera is bomb. Her videos are truth and they work!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/19 01:57 AM
40

This is why broke men love gold diggers. This is why gold diggers spray repellent to ward off broke men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/19 02:32 PM
13

I’m so tired of everyone, I feel asleep on them and when I woke back up, I just paid attention to myself. Best thing I ever did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/19 03:47 PM
2

Yes. Explained what I said more than I ever could. Thank you ☺️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/19 01:53 AM
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You’re thinking like a woman. That won’t work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/19 01:48 AM
3

My numbers are close you yours lol. I think once you’ve been there, you become in less of rush to go right back and you already know how to get it, so a lot of pressure is kinda lifted from you. When you aren’t looking for anything serious, that’s when the wolves come to scoop you up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/19 11:20 PM
9

I get that you disagree and that’s fine. I am seeking a relationship but I don’t make that known to men. I’m also not in a rush to be in one. If I tell a man I’m looking for a relationship, and ask him what is he looking for, that’s masculine. And when he answers based on what I told him already, that’s an angle men use to sleep with you faster. Pulling the wool over the eyes. You miss red flags easily. Poof, they gone. I’ve been on dates and just sat there and listened. I’m not looking for love…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/19 11:17 PM
8

Idk. I don’t think women should even be asking that question. That’s a question a man should be asking and you should be giving that “ambiguous” answer. Then he should work for you. Asking that question gives him the advantage and takes away your power. Red flags won’t pop up faster just because you’re seeking a result. JMO.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/19 08:35 PM
4

I do think it’s Pickmeisha central and have hated it since it’s first episode, and I’m sure I was in my teens then. I found it demoralizing, thinking all these women are fighting for one man. I watched one episode and will admit, you see one, you see them all and you see how not to act.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/19 08:04 PM
28

Fine wine insinuates that there is someone behind the scenes providing all the right conditions to make sure it ages properly and well. These fools aging like box of wine. Good at first but cheap in the long run, easily accessible, cost nothing to make and you only buy it based on your audience or for a quick drunk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/19 12:54 PM
15

When you are talking about gold diggers, you are talking about women who don’t chase money or a lifestyle, but women who are seeking and doing to secure a life for themselves that doesn’t involve struggle. These are women who also understand that lazy=ugly, so they all perceive themselves a certain way which allows them to be a step above and deserve these affluent men they want. Gold diggers have a target and dusties are not the target. Dusties want a gold digger because they want what comes wi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/19 06:04 PM
11

You will always be at battle with the male ego. Dating down just for respect won’t work because eventually, you won’t respect them because you lowered your standards wholly for one thing. You can date up and meet someone you may or may not respect, but to think that dating up or down means less or more respect, doesn’t make sense. Men value respect over love any day and time. Women, vice versa. So while I see your point, you want to give respect and you want to guarantee it will be given on your…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/19 09:53 PM
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MJ said it best “I gotta work 9-5, to buy you nice things, to keep me by your side”. MJ y’all. This sub is full of women promoting paying to keep men. This is not how this works.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/19 12:06 PM
1

MJ said “I gotta work 9-5 to buy you nice things to keep you by my side.” Once you learn what that means, you won’t have these problems because you won’t deal with these types of men.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/19 11:38 PM
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