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1

Very factual. You said x, what did you mean by that? What I heard was x, not what you just said. Why did you think saying x to me was acceptable? Basically just keep on until they panic and apologise. If they don't, then straight to grievance (this has never happened yet).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 07:14 AM
25

I confront, in private, (virtually, safety first) any man who thinks he can insult, patronise or belittle me in the workplace. Usually senior to me, they crap themselves and bend over backwards to apologise (I was joking! honest! sosososo sorry, etc). They never ever do it twice. I am very assertive and scary, albeit professional at all times. It helps that I work for an organisation that takes bullying and harassment seriously though...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 08:26 AM
527

I never bother to correct people who get my name wrong as I just don't care enough about them to have the conversation. Good to know my lethargy is a scrote antidote!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 08:33 AM
12

It is indeed a promise! Welcome back ladies and thanks for making my days more optimistic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/21 09:57 AM
8

Probably setting up a defence for when he murders her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 05:39 PM
278

You. Are. Not. The. Prize. Sir.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 08:17 AM
522

Oh no. Anyway... 😂😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 10:08 AM
1

Objecting to sex with you, scrote, does not make me a sex object.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 07:46 AM
27

At his 1st advance, muse out loud "I hear sexual harassment in the workplace is a crime..." Watch him backtrack at the speed of sound.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/21 05:50 AM
33

Yes. I poured a pan of water over him, opened the windows (Scotland in winter) and left him there as I took the car to work (we travelled together). He had to get up, walk 2 miles to the train station and was subsequently bollocked for being late by his boss. Didn't happen again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/21 08:55 AM
79

Cocklodger - contributes nothing bar the penis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 12:16 PM
2

Too bad, so sad... not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 06:06 AM
11

My best female friend saw my boyfriend cheating on a night out while I was at home and called to let me know. He was dumped before he even got home with her. Ruined his night apparently 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 07:49 AM
4

I do laundry as my clothes are expensive and I don't want him near them. He shops and cooks all meals. We both clean. He does gardening and DIY. I look pretty. We both work full time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 11:01 AM
5

Can I have a code please?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 06:56 AM
11

I'm going to let you know the disaster you caused me bitch but I'm scared you go to the Police, so I'm giving plausible deniability by typing the word sorry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 01:50 PM
12

Don't threaten FDS with a good time... 😁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 07:05 AM
13

Following via Spotify, thanks for the heads up!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 08:11 PM
18

The one where all of his ex girlfriend's are crazy. Errr Scrote, the common denominator is you. And yes, you will eventually become the "crazy" ex GF. Run, don't walk away from these men - unless you truly enjoy being a submissive bang maid who strives to be "different" from all of his exes by never having any needs/wants/desires of your own.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 08:05 AM
19

Haha, watch him be all "You forced me down the aisle" changing real quick to "nooo, I didn't mean it, can't you take a joke? Don't leave meeeee" when she takes him at his word and gives him back his precious freedom. It's a power play from a sad, inadequate twat who married above his station and KNOWS it. Always call their bluff and walk when they pull a reverse ferret on you, they never were worthy in the first place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 07:36 AM
3

Baggage Reclaim is another excellent resource.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 07:29 AM
19

Well done darling, you've got this 😘
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 06:45 AM
15

Slowly slowly catchee pickme 😉
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 06:42 AM
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Stick to the blow up dolls scrote, you are too ridiculous for a real live woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 11:29 AM
8

Oh no... anyway...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 07:47 AM
25

I pulled up a very senior manager this week for being publically rude to me. I politely but coldly asked him exactly what he meant by his actions?. Instant cave-in and shocked apologies. Take no crap and keep it classy ladies. They are all brave till you confront them with their nonsense, then cry like the bullies they are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 08:10 AM
4

Do it boy. So I can dump you faster.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 07:30 AM
37

It doesn't even work with him. His last wife used to literally call him "My King" and he still left her. Guy is an absolute oxygen thief.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 07:12 AM
15

When they tell you who they are...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 07:10 AM
165

As you earn more money than me (obvs) and I'm embarrassed by this fact, make sure you hand me the cash before we go to dinner with your friends so I can be seen to pay. My manly man-ness can't have them knowing I only have £2.54 left till payday cos I HAD to get myself those £450 pair of trainers. Men like it when you let them look good, do more of that to keep a real man. Oh and the taxi home is on you, love.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 06:18 PM
3

Looks great on you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 11:30 AM
42

That means he really loves you in loser-speak. Bless his empty sad heart.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 09:59 PM
19

She spelled Handmaiden wrong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 04:58 PM
5

I would make my adult kid regret ever spouting this crap for the rest of his miserable life. I would also seriously question my parenting skills.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 10:10 AM
2

I have a 70s house. Which I'm grateful for every day since we both now WFH. Doors and walls are everything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 09:06 AM
8

Go away. Go. Shoo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 10:39 PM
1

My husband paints my toenails, he has a good eye and a steady hand. Also not bad at fake tan application and French braiding. I give him the odd facial and sort out his eyebrows. Fair's fair.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 09:12 AM
4

Astrology? Seriously???? LVM are universal, not mandated because they were born in a specific month.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 09:08 AM
8

She doesn't know or care about your existence, scrote.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 08:44 AM
15

I've done this for years. It's my birthday and I'll spend it doing exactly as I please. In my case it's a day off work, Yoga, nice self care products, trip out to purchase lunch for me only, new loungewear and a very nice candle or 2. I'm not changing this ever, it's bliss. You can keep your celebration meals out where everyone has to be invited, I'm a coeliac, non-drinker, so not exactly a treat for me to organise or go to. Took about 10 years for my family and friends to accept my wishes. Yes …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 08:42 AM
7

We actually had that discussion. Yup, he's toast 😊. He totally agreed, no brainer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 03:38 PM
5

Yes, I do. Very happy in all of my relationships. I'm very resilient and good at managing myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 01:47 PM
23

We don't need repayment. Watching you live your best life is all the reward we will ever need. And your presence at holidays, of course 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 09:40 AM
9

True. I've just completed 3 months of work to re-tone my lockdown body. Diet, exercise, self-discipline, etc. The husband just ate the same stuff I did with additional snacks and was back to normal in a month.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 07:44 AM
13

I don't unless I have to. I'm not handing over the keys to my psyche to anyone except a qualified, professional therapist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 07:31 AM
8

Most people will not care. People are surprisingly uninterested in the minutiae of others lives. Do you spend time mulling over who was the biggest twat in your pal Brenda's break-up? If so, for how long? Most things are soon forgotten if you let them lie.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 07:58 PM
48

Shoes? I'm taking night vision goggles, a back up phone, blankets and snacks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 07:51 PM
16

This. They know deep down in their black soul that they are monsters, despite the bravado and yo bro'ing. It must be exhausting and ultimately self-defeating. Too bad, so sad 🤭🤭🤭🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 11:02 AM
84

She won't get to keep the money. Report all suspected human trafficking instead.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 10:57 AM
66

What a loser. It's almost funny. Almost... 😒🤢🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 10:56 AM
28

Very very married, fucktard 😏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 10:55 AM
5

She's in the UK, so abortion is free.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 08:12 AM
58

No probably about it. In his nest 🤢🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 01:15 PM
23

Never ever ever accept being demoted from GF to convenient shag. HE KNOWS YOU CARE ABOUT HIM and is taking advantage regardless. Understand that he is only interested in having sex with you while he is actively looking for a new GF/victim. Get him gone from your life, he is no friend to you. Oh, and when he realises that he is no sex God, when the rest of womankind is not rushing to fall on his penis, do not take him back. No matter how hard he cries.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 07:15 AM
35

My bangmaid is broken!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 07:15 PM
14

They want an easy fuck. They disappear on to the next one in the roster when their lame attempts do not end in sex. It's no mystery and it's certainly not a compliment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 06:41 AM
7

Quick tip. Get a tight elastic band. Place it on your wrist. Whenever you think of him, snap the band, yell No! (internally) and imagine a big stop sign. This will retrain your brain to associate him with pain.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 06:38 AM
28

Then she levelled up and left him for her karate instructor. King, notsomuch...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 06:31 AM
6

Assuming he can get it up in the first place... 😏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 06:29 AM
14

This. You cannot "babysit" your own damn child.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 06:24 AM
23

All the while Mike from Physics is sporting 4 day old underwear, death breath and BO that could knock you out from a 50 yard radius.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 06:05 AM
13

Mommy, mommy, mommy notice me!!!!!!!!!! Pathetic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 05:53 AM
3

"Why, do you think I look stupid?" 'I know" (insert withering stare). "Thanks" (insert bored expression). They won't do it twice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 06:59 AM
23

You got demoted and still entertain this hot mess? Sweetheart, cut him out like the cancerous boil he is. Best Friend??? This loser is no friend to you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 06:48 AM
22

This. Remember they are emotionally little children without the mitigating cuteness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 06:32 AM
8

How absolutely tragic for the poor lil menz. It's a bit like toddlers, any attention is worth it. Good or bad, they want us to notice them. Sad really... 🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 06:23 AM
67

"I don't want to". Practice this and say it often.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 05:58 AM
6

Ah, the word salad. The insecure male diet food of choice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 05:49 AM
14

Always be prepared to walk
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 07:53 AM
1

Have very strictly boundaried responsibilities in the home. Do yours and yours only. If he doesn't do his, get rid. Bonus points if your tasks are only the jobs you like doing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 08:39 AM
6

When they confuse personality with their hobbies. Tragic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 07:21 AM
26

They begin to get turned down on the regular while all their friends are busy with their families. Funny how only once their options are shrunk that they claim to "settle down". Spoiler - they will still try to fuck anyone they can on the side while performing Family Guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 07:15 AM
3

If he's not going to the store to pick up your sanpro, chocolate and Ibruprofen, he is not the one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 07:44 AM
5

Still acting out to get Mummys attention. I'd be sad for them if I GAF. But I don't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 07:04 AM
10

Yes, how dare they threaten us with a good time?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 01:54 PM
12

Self loathing 2020 style.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 08:45 AM
2

Beauty Pie Brandalley You're welcome 😉
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 07:18 AM
11

Congratulations deadbeat. Hope she saw this and left your worthless arse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 07:06 AM
35

If your opposite sex friend is truly a friend they would be excited and welcoming towards a new partner. They would want to get to know them, not be jealous and offish. If your friend was unwelcoming and rude to your partner, would you accept it without question and continue to spend time with them? No, because that would be disrespectful to the relationship. This one is not a keeper, throw him back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 10:56 AM
69

Back in the day I dumped a guy because he decided that staying out drinking was more fun than coming to visit me when I was sick. No brainer, right? My best friend at the time was disgusted by my terrible behaviour and felt oh so sorreee for my discarded man. She has never held down a healthy relationship yet. I've been happily married since the 90's. Go figure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 10:50 AM
13

If you want to marry a sexist pig and be his mummy, then yes, great advice. If you want an equal partner in life, start as you mean to go on and always be prepared to walk if you need to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 10:42 AM
9

MN? 😁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 05:50 AM
83

This is true and I have a very long, very happy marriage. If he were to disappear tomorrow I would never get married again. Marriage was for raising the kids in a team and it was beautiful. I'll never have that experience again with another man so I'd just keep a few around for sex and compliments.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 11:11 AM
7

Hope she gets picked 🤞
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 05:57 AM
6

Aww, did he get dumped? Too bad, so sad...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 05:51 AM
1

Your husband is a fully functioning adult. Expect nothing less than him taking care of himself. Why would you pack for him? They are his clothes. He has to wear them, not your problem. Constantly on a console? No, you don't need a manchild. Just don't do it. Sort of like the anti- Nike for men 😉.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 05:38 AM
2

Hidden shallows.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 07:13 PM
9

I've never done any of these things. Not once. I've been married for over a quarter of a century.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 04:40 PM
10

Ach, at least she's got one handy for when she breaks up with Mr Promise Ring, wises up and finally meets someone who is actually interested in marrying her... Or it will sit, Miss Havesham-like in her wardrobe as a sad sad reminder of WHY YOU DONT GET THE DRESS ON RECEIPT OF A PROMISE RING
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 02:29 PM
3

No we don't, you cockwomble. We don't have to accept shit!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 06:21 AM
4

Practice yoga.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 06:19 AM
3

They need to come out already and leave us the fuck alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 10:22 AM
1

Behold! A man hath spoken!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 10:21 AM
1

Hahaha, get some therapy dear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 10:16 AM
31

I think you're looking for a chap, Ryan...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 10:09 AM
34

I've BF 2 children. This guy needs locking up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 10:07 AM
2

Beautiful. So happy for you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 09:02 AM
6

By an arsehole... 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 08:58 AM
17

Do not feel that you need to ditch him in person. A text is too good for this one, frankly. Ditch and block. If he gets annoying, call the Police.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 06:52 AM
8

King... of what exactly? His couch? 😂😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 06:45 AM
13

Head tilt. Smile. "That's the spirit! Keep telling yourself that!" (sashay away with a huge grin). Is all you need in these situations. Laughing at LVMs is your superpower ladies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 06:57 AM
20

Of course. But that's not the point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 05:59 AM
1

Doesn't exist here. Want a life partner? Get married.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 05:54 AM
15

"Get off, I'm bored" works well in these situations.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 06:21 AM
3

I wear yoga pants every day. Because I practice yoga every day. Not to flaunt my (admittedly fine) arse, scrote. Not for the benefit of any man, ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 06:17 AM
6

Ask this idiot what part of the word "No" he doesn't understand.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 06:05 AM
2

Get rid of them both. New guy is already putting his ex relationship drama on you? Run like the devil is chasing you, love.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 06:11 AM
4

Get away as quickly and safely as you can. Block and delete is not just for online activity. Do not engage them in any way, even negative attention is worth it for these NVM. Stay safe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 06:00 AM
4

I've been married for a long time. Have your own money always and be prepared to leave if he becomes an arsehole. Never ever be dependent on any man, especially one you live with. DO NOT SACRIFICE YOUR CAREER FOR WIFEDOM. You are only as free as the choices you have available. Men know this and will use this to leverage their position if they can. I can walk at any time and MY life will be just as great. Feels good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 05:57 AM
11

Still hasn't got over being turned down in high school and has made an entire personality about it. If be sad for him if I GAF, but I don't, so 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 05:23 AM
15

One of the things that attracted me to my husband initially was his spotless, well decorated house that he owned at 23. We notice these things. I also had my own home, was I hell taking on a scrote that couldn't take care of himself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 06:14 AM
19

Rest in peace Daisy, I'm so sorry you had to live through all that pain and suffering. I hope that everyone who contributed to your persecution never has a happy day for the rest of their miserable lives.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 06:09 AM
5

Nope, never happened. And before the scrote lurkers start frothing at the mouth... I've got mine and can very comfortably support myself if I need to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 06:05 AM
138

Exactly. They secretly love to hang our rejection on something like this because god forbid they spend one second on realising they have a horrible toxic personality. Much easier to call us shallow bitches than look at themselves and change.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 05:59 AM
23

Oh Chris, I'm sooooo devastated to know I will never be your wife! How could you crush my dreams of being with a yellow toothed, unemployed, charmless loser for eternity? How???? 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 05:55 AM
5

Hang on in there. One day you will look back at this and be proud you did everything you possibly could to get this insect gone. This too will pass. You are awesome.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 05:48 AM
40

Haha, this is true. One of the best parts of every family meal out is how creative the men in my family get over getting to the bill first. My dad once called the restaurant and gave them his cc details before we even got there to out manoeuvre my husband... 😁 My husband, on our first date, waited till I went to the loo (before dessert even arrived) to pay, so I wouldn't even see a bill and attempt to go 50/50. He would not be impressed if a guy ever expected our adult daughter to pay. I keep te…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 05:33 AM
3

You live and learn, shake it off, read the handbook and treat this as a learning opportunity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 07:56 AM
77

Doing God's work mods, much appreciated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 07:40 AM
15

As if you'd even get through the door, loser.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 07:39 AM
4

Be kind to yourself. You can't expect to change completely overnight. Keep on as you are, working on yourself and the sane voice will be louder and louder until the Pickmesha is silent and gone for good. I believe in you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 02:06 PM
6

True, I didn't marry him till I was certain and I never gave up my independence to rely on him. I could still walk at any time, should he become an arse. I'm here because I choose to be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 09:54 AM
2

Over 25 very happy years together 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 09:51 AM
2

We can, we just don't want to 🤷‍♂️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 07:47 AM
1

Good luck with that Yera...🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 07:41 AM
1

Of course it's cheating. They'll say anything to keep getting their dick wet. It's as simple as that lovely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 07:36 AM
6

Aww did the couch creature get dumped?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 07:34 AM
2

You should never have to doubt his intentions. Mine proposed after 3 weeks. When they know, they know and are not going to run the risk of losing you. Know this (obligatory Alison Dubois vape exhalation 👑).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 07:33 AM
2

Expired, like your hairline, Scrote? Aww, did she turn you down? Hahahahaha!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 07:28 AM
12

He likes it, he buys it and if he's lucky and I like it, I MIGHT wear it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 07:24 AM
3

The fish boys are triggered! 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 07:22 AM
7

You are not very smart, are you Tommy?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 07:18 AM
11

I was gifted the "field of fucks" quote on a mug from my colleagues. Good to know they get me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 07:13 AM
6

Well done in levelling up, leaving and setting the best example for your daughter. You will reap the rewards of this over and over for the rest of your life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 07:08 AM
3

They are not the only 2 men in the world, darling. Listen to your gut, get rid and work on yourself before concerning yourself with men. You will then be in a much better place to properly evaluate them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 07:06 AM
45

I'd want references from his past 3 girlfriend's. And your sister...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 06:55 AM
35

Say it early, say it often ladies. Any response other than complete acceptance of your "no" is a red flag. Also if they ask why, "I don't want to" is all the explanation you need.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 06:50 AM
3

Congratulations lovely, you did it! 👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 06:44 AM
1

I haven't cooked since 1986. I don't food shop. I don't keep track of the larder. That's his job along with gardening, bins, cleaning floors... It's been 50/50 since day 1 when it comes to chores. I couldn't care less about food, he does - so he does it. This has always been my stance and not 1 guy has ever had a problem with my flat refusal to cook for them. For my children? Sure, I did it willingly, but for a man? Never. It's funny, he actually worries about my eating when he is away and batch…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 07:36 AM
23

Quelle Surprise 😁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 07:08 AM
6

Better without Mr Inadequate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 07:50 AM
10

How charming. I'm sorry you are a criminal and all, but you still don't deserve a mommy bangmaid, Sir. Sort out your own shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 10:58 AM
12

British. Never had this problem. My dad pays, my husband pays, my FIL pays, my other male relatives pay... hell, even when out with the girls we fight over who pays, we all want to. I pay for my adult kids and their friends when eating out with them. Even in my dating days, I never paid. Granted, I'm an auld Scotsburd but it has never happened to me. Oh and lurkers, just for the record, I am very financially solid and always have been able to pay for myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 10:54 AM
6

No love for your child is wasted, your son will grow up feeling secure in his heart. I've always believed you ought to give children roots and wings. Roots to know they are safe and loved, wings to fly away and live their best lives. Don't worry, all is good, only very disturbed parents would want to cause conflict or emotionally damage their children. That's not you 😉
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 04:09 PM
7

Haha, I smashed mine with a hammer before returning it, in the box, (after I dumped him for cheating). Wish I'd been there in person to see his face, but I've always been an FDS gal. Bye bye bastard, see you never...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 08:09 AM
16

I don't even want to think about what went on in that home to have a daughter act out that way. Horrific.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 08:01 AM
2

No worries, happy to wait, you are more than worth it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 07:53 AM
9

Do you honestly believe he is anguished over this? He isn't, so neither should you be. Tell him bye if you must but he's really not worth the headspace.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 07:42 AM
86

As the mother of a much adored adult son I fully endorse him putting his wife first. I can't understand why anyone would think otherwise? It's not healthy to keep your children enmeshed and worse to triangulate. I want my children to love me, certainly, but not at the expense of their own family.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 07:28 AM
7

Bravo 🤗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 06:57 PM
35

Yes, the "with you" is always silent. Always there, but silent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 06:49 PM
95

Me me me me me wah wah wah me me me..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 11:38 AM
30

Or, but he's a great dad! No love, that's what you tell yourself to justify staying in your toxic relationship. He's not and never will be a great dad. Great dad's do not disrespect the mother of their children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 10:53 AM
15

All women should say no and mean it right at the beginning of any relationship. His reaction will speak volumes. Won't take no for an answer? Dump. Sulks or gets upset? Dump. Gets angry? Double dump from a great height. Any response basically other than "Ok, no problem". Dump.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 10:46 AM
33

The jealousy is real folks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 06:57 AM
6

Well done and welcome to the rest of your fabulous life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 04:48 PM
2

He has a classic case of takingyouforgranted-itis. Shit enthusiastically or get the fuck out of your pot, Sir. Or you could just dump him now and have a great life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 08:19 AM
39

Newsflash, we still don't want you. HTH.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 01:54 PM
12

Call the Police and tell them this turd is refusing to leave your property and you need assistance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 01:53 PM
68

Only expose one part of skin per outfit. If you are showing leg, no boobs out and vice versa. Also arms. Take off the last accessory you want to wear. You don't want to look like a Christmas Tree.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 11:51 AM
73

He only values what he thinks he can't have. His distress is nothing to do with you as a person. He's about as evolved as a spoiled child whose had his x box privileges removed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 02:52 PM
7

Sweet guys, their mother must be so proud.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 07:18 AM
7

26 stone, surely?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 04:46 PM
13

I'm married and delusional...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 08:41 PM
5

That sounds like a pile of shite!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 08:13 PM
3

This. It's wonderful to just be yourself. For yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 11:10 AM
26

How's that working out for you love?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 11:08 AM
12

I got "Ice Queen". You'd better believe it, scrote.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 11:06 AM
12

Can we have one that warns us he is no damn good?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 06:43 PM
104

I hate this Hallmark holiday and refuse to acknowledge it. However, the Husband bought and prepared my favourite meal, stocked the treat cupboard with my favourite expensive chocolate and snacks and made me rest (as I've had a long week working away) - without once mentioning the V word. I'm reconsidering my stance, lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 06:08 PM
3

You did great, disrespectful arse!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 05:46 PM
40

A waste of space
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 12:34 PM
6

Let's not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 07:08 PM
2

Yoga daily, walking, travel, music, books.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 04:31 PM
7

Know your audience stupid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 03:56 PM
8

Just goes to show that being jealous of "the one who got him" is futile. A dog is a dog with or without a wedding ring. Poor fiancee.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 08:14 AM
2

You smile, say hello politely, then make an obvious excuse and go. That's it. Like an acquaintance you barely tolerate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 08:16 PM
9

No, just no. Honey... no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 08:12 PM
12

I work in a professional environment where formal dress is de rigueur. The amount of disgusting single men with unironed grubby shirts that used to be white, frayed collars and cuffs, shirts that barely button up the front (giving a generous view of hairy man-gut), shiny, unwashed worn trousers is noticeable. Buy a new shirt Kevin, spend that £10. It's not that difficult. You earn more than enough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 05:46 PM
2

Is he 12???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 08:07 AM
5

I say "what part of the word "NO" do you NOT UNDERSTAND?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 07:39 AM
5

Only if his name is Z
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 07:31 AM
1

That's when you laugh in their face. Hard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 09:20 PM
7

I hope his sores burn like the flames of a thousand suns.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 09:13 PM
7

Oh dear Lord. Hope she stays this happy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 06:30 PM
25

Remember when being a flasher was a shameful, illegal thing? Sad old men in overcoats getting their thrills exposing themselves to women and girls who would never willingly want to see their pathetic offering. We need to bring this scorn back to these pathetic online flashers and their unsolicited pictures. It's a crime. And if it's not, it bloody well should be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 04:52 PM
21

Nope, my first thought too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 04:44 PM
3

My mother said exactly that. Then divorced him, got a great job and eventually met my incredible stepfather and lived happily ever after. You will get through this eventually. And when you do? Go get your happy, whatever that is to you. You deserve it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 04:42 PM
18

Honey, no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 12:03 PM
4

You are on the right path, you'll get there. No-one knows this stuff right out of the gate unless they have a strong example while growing up. You are growing and moving up. Some people never do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 11:13 AM
2

It's a lesson. You learned it. Let it go. Be grateful that your abuser showed his arse. You'd still be stuck there if he didn't! What a blessing to be free from him and his fucked up psyche! Get help to put this behind you if you are struggling. You are worthy of all the happiness in the world, go get it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 10:50 AM
5

They want to keep mommy around while looking for the one they really want.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 10:44 AM
9

Sweetheart, you are better than this. Than him. Than this whole experience. You are a perfect, beautiful soul who should protect and nourish yourself 24/7 by only allowing those who love and respect you into your space. You need to practice letting go of whatever it is that allowed you to be treated so badly. We all have our issues and blind spots, the trick is to identify and work on them, to be better, to be happy. I'm so glad you found FDS. We've got you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 10:36 AM
5

Your parents are wrong and it's very sad they don't want the best for you in life. Ask for the moon sweetheart, you deserve it. I have a daughter, both her father and I have drilled it into her that she should never ever settle for less than. If that means never meeting anyone suitable, so be it. I want happiness for her more than grandchildren or God forbid, a loser son in law.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 10:27 AM
5

Come on now, he's fucking with you as punishment for not getting to fuck you yet. He's trying to make you jealous, the manipulative arse. No man who is genuinely interested will taunt you with another woman as he'd be too afraid of losing you. This guy has no respect at all. Block and ghost.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 10:17 AM
31

She's his free hooker. Sad because he'd probably respect a hooker more, since he'd have to pay her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 10:14 AM
152

This sub is important. Keep speaking the truth sisters. Every timea wee scrote cries, a new born queen begins her rise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 12:48 PM
76

I only do the laundry. Haven't cooked my own dinner in nearly 30 years. How on earth have I stayed very happily married? It's a puzzler... 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 08:56 AM
38

Complacency. They WILL get comfortable and try to take you for granted. Never get tired of saying no, put yourself first and always be prepared to walk. If they can't take you for granted, they won't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 08:54 AM
3

Haha, karma is indeed a bitch. Stay in your lane next time granddad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 08:32 AM
36

Look at the scrote managing down her expectations. On the ONE day men are expected to make an effort. He can't even be bothered to do that! That's what accepting LV behaviour from the outset gets you. Nothing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 08:25 AM
53

Ah, when wanking at home to porn loses its charm. They don't think, better stop wanking. They think, what if I watch porn in public! They'll be peeping into college dorm windows next, while justifying themselves in some sad lame subreddit, with all the other defectives.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 08:17 AM
22

She's buying him a drink? You should feel bad for her that she's so desperate for male approval that she'll even entertain him. You made it out, feel proud of that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 08:11 AM
26

Yes, never ever have I had that problem. Porn then was Playboy magazine. A more innocent time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 08:07 AM
139

The only response to that it "Well, you should".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 05:27 PM
15

I had a friend of a friend who had a cheating lowlife, utter loser of a husband. The man was uglier than sin to boot. She actually got mad at me once because I complimented some DIY he did. I clearly wanted him, according to her deluded mind... No Diane, you have eyes, why would anyone want your goblin of a husband. No one can even understand why YOU want him. I was being polite.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 05:09 PM
2

"No", then if they push it and ask why " I don't want to".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 06:44 PM
8

How about "none of your business, nosey".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 06:42 PM
5

I already have a job, Mr Twatface.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 06:41 PM
5

Daddy issues. Sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 06:38 PM
2

Sod off Liam you controlling abusive arse. Hope she leaves you ASAP.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 06:37 PM
16

Aww, is Mr Divorce just realising all his ex-wife did for him and is now scrabbling for a replacement? Mow your own lawn and raise your own children already.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 06:34 PM
22

Playing fast and loose with the word "logical", no?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 06:26 PM
9

You can't keed a keeder. But you can block them, thankfully 😁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 08:45 PM
9

Fantastic news!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 08:42 PM
12

Excellent. Keep him gone. How dare he try to stroll back into your life like that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 08:41 PM
19

Ah, the forever girlfriend's guide to low self esteem...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 08:40 PM
1

He means, man, right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 05:35 PM
4

"Ah, it's the guy who claims I'm obsessed with him! My memory must suck, because I distinctly remember turning you down." Then just stare at him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 05:32 PM
12

Entitled much? Good luck with that...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 05:25 PM
8

If he's not enthusiastically planning your future married life together it's because he doesn't want to. He should be afraid of losing you. He is not. Don't waste any more of your precious youth chasing rainbows. He's not for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 05:24 PM
19

Don't be his therapist, maid, driver, childcare provider, chef, stylist, PA or personal porn star.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 05:20 PM
5

He got what he deserved. Alway be prepared to walk away if they displease you. Don't even acknowledge he exists. You did well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 05:13 PM
3

I have no problem telling them to stay away unless they are minty fresh and newly showered. Either they do or they don't. Their choice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 05:11 PM
1

I'd have ghosted after the 2nd cancellation. Once is pushing it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 05:09 PM
10

He's not happy. He will never be truly happy. All the games are what he needs to feel good about himself. Imagine being that person? Not good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 05:06 PM
24

They are lazy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 05:04 PM
12

She misspelled Idiocy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 07:47 PM
4

Matt should throw himself back into the sea.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 05:58 PM
10

He had me at "FEMALES" (swoon) 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 06:29 AM
40

Woman: Cleaned the house, fed the kids, did the laundry, did the shopping... Man: Took out the bin. Waaaahhhh!!! She didn't even say thank you!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 06:17 AM
58

Report that guy to the Uni. He does not get paid to harass you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 06:12 AM
10

I had a good friend who was similar. I could ignore her toxic low self esteem around men, until the day she berated me for dumping a boyfriend who attempted to stand me up. I was too harsh, apparently.. Girl, just because you accept trash behaviour, do not scold me for having standards. She's still a forever girlfriend, 30 YEARS later.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 09:55 PM
14

Ah the arse scratching holes. Sexeh, not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 09:46 PM
23

Do not have sex with him again until he learns some manners. Complete drought till he ups his game. If he won't? There's your answer...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 05:17 PM
29

Same, 27 years and counting...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 01:21 PM
115

Haha, well played ex-girlfriend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 07:38 AM
37

Just when you think the bar couldn't possibly be any lower... enter Steve-o
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 09:44 PM
70

Aww, he expected all the girls to come running for a piece of him. And got a reality check. If she went back to him he'd be happy for about 3 days then start wanting to break up again. It's his ego that's hurt here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 09:43 PM
13

You make them do their share, right from the off. If I'm caring for the kids, you are too. Kid sick? Who stayed home from work last time? that's right, get calling your boss. Kid has dentist. On you go husband. If I'm going to Sports Day, so are you. I'll was the clothes, your job is to iron them, etc. Anything except breastfeeding, he can do. My womb is not your get out of childcare free card.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 09:00 PM
33

Like they wouldn't lick her feet if she told them to. Pathetic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 08:52 PM
37

Isn't it past his bedtime?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 08:49 PM
3

Come on love. This is really bad. Talk to your mum and lose his number.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 06:36 PM
7

Smile, laugh, be your delightful wonderful self. Until he displeases you in any way. A cold, hard stare followed by complete disengagement let's them know instantly that they are toast. Don't complain or explain, just ice them out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 06:33 PM
8

What the hell is with the partial man-fur?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 06:29 PM
25

"You're not THAT hot" I laughed in his fat, ugly face. As if negging would work on me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 06:18 PM
82

Hope he never finds another woman who loved him like she did. Hope she has moved on to bigger and better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 05:56 PM
5

Leave it. Why on earth do you think he's interested?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 06:07 AM
32

Say no to him and mean it. Watch his reaction carefully. If he accepts your refusal with good grace - that shows respect and maturity. Any attempt to argue, convince you to change your mind, sulk, etc. Ditch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 08:02 PM
77

Congratulations on getting out after only 2 months. Some women waste years trying to convince him to commit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 06:26 PM
7

I'd consider it money well spent to teach you never ever to pay for the privilege of any encounter with a LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 05:54 PM
51

Divorced is the best option. Misery is an unhappy marriage to an arsehole. Better single than stuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 05:48 PM
20

Unless he's drinking alcohol to excess regularly, I'd say porn sick with a death grip. No porn or masturbation for a month will sort him out but frankly, why bother when you can get one who has a functional penis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 05:46 PM
27

Better single and happy than shackled to a pervert for a husband. So much for the happiest day of your life!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 05:42 PM
81

How fragile is the male ego.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 05:41 PM
29

Normal for a porn sick death wanker.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 03:56 PM
69

How desperate for attention she is. Sad, really.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 07:52 AM
17

Yes, I don't spend time and money making sure my skin is great to have it messed up by Dave and his toxic brillo pad face pubes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 07:51 AM
6

When someone tells you who they are, listen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 07:43 AM
2

My exact thought too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 07:42 AM
13

No, sets a terrible precedent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 07:21 AM
14

Have always disliked them. Would never kiss any man with facial hair.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 07:19 AM
8

This guy has no respect for either of you. The cheek of him to choose your friend over you then come back for scraps? Lose his number.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 03:02 AM
24

Honey, he's already gone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 06:08 PM
1

Gosh, How did we survive the impossible task of getting home by ourselves without a man checking up on us? In my car dickhead, like I do every damn day in life. You are not my mother.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 09:46 AM
68

You are A scrote With anger issues No Joshua Tree with me. Be gone For good I'd rather eat My eyeballs raw Than be with you again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 09:37 AM
150

I don't fuck my friends and neither should you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 06:15 PM
2

Run.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 06:13 PM
3

That'll be a no, Joe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 06:06 PM
5

Do exactly this and please yourself. Let no man in unless he enhances your life. You have a wonderful future.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 06:05 PM
18

All of them. But do you really want a shallow arsehole?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 05:58 PM
3

That is so inspiring. What a woman!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 05:56 PM
16

Just think. All this experience cost you was some hurt pride and the cost of a gift. Not every woman is given the gift of a LVM outing himself so early in a relationship. Think of that money as the best you ever spent to learn a valuable lesson. Block him and breathe a sigh of relief.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 05:54 PM
46

Mine took sole charge of the kids, house, food, disabled parent care every night to give me peace to study for my masters (was working in the day). And never once complained. And brought me snacks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 05:50 PM
15

Hope that attitude sticks when he leaves you for one of his other women. Somehow, I think not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 07:52 PM
11

Honey, doesn't matter how much you metaphorically suck their dicks, they will still use you up and spit you out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 05:03 PM
13

Even if they do manage to snag a gold digger, they will never be happy. Because deep down they know that is the only reason she's still there in their shallow, transactional arrangement. She probably can't stand the sight of him. Go bankrupt Bob and see where your trophy wife's affection lies. And to think, if you'd just had a bit of sense, you could have been loved.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 04:58 PM
26

They always want something from you. Whether it's sex, emotional intimacy, companionship, financial support or a replacement mummy. They never think about what they bring to the table believing that their attention is enough. Spoiler: Its not enough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 04:47 PM
9

We'd been split up for 7 years kalli, 7 effing years...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 05:28 PM
2

Probably the only way he can get a HVW to pay him any attention. And he knows it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 05:15 PM
5

I got the ring and the wedding booked before he got the privilege of my presence in his home. I'd spent plenty of time there, no nasty surprises. Even after the wedding I have always been prepared to walk if need be. Not happened yet, but it could. Never get complacent, always have an escape plan.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 04:56 PM
2

On behalf of my people, I apologise for this twat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 04:49 PM
29

Even back in the day before mobile phones, they always came back. They'd call your landline, turn up at your workplace and one one memorable occasion, appear AT MY PARENTS HOUSE when I was collecting my children. No, Brian, I don't want to meet you for a drink. Ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 04:40 PM
17

-ing face it, you are a loser, mate. How dare he!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 04:31 PM
8

Only works if 50/50 chores split and a routine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 05:01 PM
51

Your only mistake was not blocking after "why". Men who don't hear "No" do not deserve explanations.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 11:20 AM
11

Only if they have unexplored issues. Otherwise, no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 11:19 AM
5

Honey, stop. He's not for you. Relationships are supposed to enhance your life, not make you anxious and upset. Cut him loose and do whatever you need to do to work on you. Only when you are secure within yourself should you date again. You are so young, invest your time in you, not some flaky man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 11:17 AM
3

This. He led straight away with sex. Block as soon as they do this, it never ends well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 11:11 AM
6

Google "trauma bonding". I'm sorry he happened to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 11:09 AM
32

I will shame you and your kink all day long no matter how hard you stamp your foot. Get some therapy and stay off pornsites sicko.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 11:08 AM
17

Hi, I'm a rapist..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 11:05 AM
15

How sad and desperate he is. Can't find a woman by conventional means so feels he has to offer his (assumed) prowess as bait. Tragic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 11:05 AM
13

This is just brilliant. What a great idea.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 10:17 PM
31

Is Jerred in an MLM?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 10:12 PM
4

Yes, the best!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 08:45 PM
30

Change that child's nappy and put down that controller, you absolute arsehole.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 08:12 PM
36

Set up by a friend at a party without my knowledge.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 04:03 PM
10

Scrotes be scared of a little boss girl. Figures.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 02:08 PM
2

Spelling and Grammar
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 02:05 PM
8

What a lot of shite he made up to coerce you into performing for his pleasure. Turned down a threesome? Did he fuck. Bullet dodged love.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 11:31 AM
18

You can't fix stupid. And he is stupid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 09:51 AM
20

Back in the day (80s), I used to think "What would Madonna do?" Then act accordingly. In those days she was a take no crap, HVW. The best compliment I ever got was from a co-worker who confessed, she thinks "What would Scotsburd do?" when faced with a difficult decision. That one still keeps me warm at night.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 08:37 AM
4

Come out of the closet, sir. Womankind won't miss you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 08:33 AM
3

I love my perfect pert teeny boobs. They look great in all outfits, don't cause backache, don't get in the way during yoga practice, can be worn braless in comfort and STILL LOOK GREAT AT 50. Oh, and I BF 2 children with ease. No man has ever complained. Years ago I asked the husband if I should get a boob job. He was horrified.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 08:30 AM
9

They aren't emotionally intelligent enough to be captain of a bath boat. Never hand over your power to a man. They can't handle the responsibility.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 08:24 AM
5

Thankfully no one cares what you think, Reddit arsehole...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 08:20 AM
2

In my dating days, I never found strangers attractive. I needed to get to know someone first before my brain would go there. I know now that was pure self-protection from trauma in childhood but it has served me well. One thing to thank my POS father for, I suppose.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 08:17 AM
2

His SPAG needs some work but he seems keen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 08:15 AM
11

I'm not doing it unless I get off. And he will never ever get another opportunity with me unless he enthusiastically agrees with this and makes it happen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 08:11 AM
2

Jealous, much?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 10:56 PM
10

And these men wonder why we despise them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 09:39 PM
15

"You like younger men?" Looks scrote up and down slowly. "No... no I dont"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 08:14 PM
17

Never take any shit. Refuse to do more than 50%. Have your own life and career outside the home. Be with him because you want to, not because you need to. When they know you can walk away tomorrow, they have respect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 01:25 PM
5

Harry is a pervert.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 01:11 PM
12

You did fine. Stay mad with that manipulative shithead for ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 07:18 AM
22

Send her a link to here. They don't know what they don't know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 07:16 AM
31

Protect yourself, you wuss.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 07:14 AM
13

I used to put a thick rubber band around my wrist, then whenever unwanted thoughts of getting in touch came over me I snapped it hard and imagined a big STOP sign. I yelled STOP in my head at the same time. I have no idea why this worked, but it really did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 07:47 PM
5

I had him at 45 too. Hope his wife sees this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 06:20 PM
12

Why do you want to be friends with such nasty, LVM? You are a plaything to them. Spend your time more wisely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 06:16 PM
17

Be afraid scrotes...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 06:25 PM
8

How to buy yourself a husband. Amazon are missing a trick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 05:32 PM
38

Ask him when the wedding is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 09:18 AM
23

He's attempting to make you jealous and he and his mate probably have bet on who gets you first. Block both of these scrotes for ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 08:58 AM
29

Whiny, entitled, thrice divorced, jealous loser Ross Geller? I judged Rachel hard for not going to Paris.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 08:55 AM
23

Let's you???? No man is the boss of you. Ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 08:54 AM
4

Sammy got dumped hard and is taking it out on womankind. Poor, sad Sammy and his toxic scrote perma singledom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 08:28 AM
47

"Oh honey, I don't want to take care of a man." BLOCK
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 08:32 AM
7

HVM will have concrete plans for the future to be financially secure. My husband was broke in the beginning because he'd just bought his first place after starting a great new job. The rest came quickly (unlike him 😁).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 08:31 AM
4

We don't need anyone to pay for us. That's not the point. Does this genuinely never happen in Australia?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 08:26 AM
20

What league is this of which you speak, Sir? Fuckboy All Stars? STD Masters? Narcissist Premiership?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 08:21 AM
20

He's way too young to feel proud of that Dad bod. Lay off the booze and eat some vegetables Jay.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 08:19 AM
50

I don't do grocery shopping. That's his job. Funnily enough, we never run out of milk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 08:17 AM
14

He knows what to do. Save your sympathy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 08:15 AM
1

No.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 08:14 AM
13

"Don't hang up!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/20 08:13 AM
18

Nothing about being good in bed I see. Must be impossible to please... 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 09:03 PM
7

That bedoom makes me itch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 08:58 PM
95

Oh bless his heart, he thinks he gets to choose.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 01:09 PM
29

Even then, this deviant would still be unfucked and alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 10:29 AM
27

Off you fuck, dear...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 10:28 AM
8

Incel fantasy bullshit. As if we would worship them when we don't even acknowledge them IRL.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 06:49 AM
14

Yay, a murdery obsessive stalker!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 06:39 AM
4

"Fun loving" - Alcoholic/Addict
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 04:13 PM
1

Was unknowingly set up by a friend. He knew all about me, I knew nothing about him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 10:05 AM
9

Do not tell him you have no support system in your new place. Lie if necessary.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 10:31 AM
3

Block him. He doesn't get to downgrade you to friend after his behaviour. He is not your friend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 08:35 AM
4

Yes, having your own money buys you choice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 08:25 AM
3

I haven't cooked since the early 90's. Not because I'm helpless, but I really don't GAF about food and am Coeliac. Would happily eat salad/fruit/veg/eggs every day. He cooks because he likes to eat. I let him feed me. I'm nice like that 😇
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 08:20 AM
11

This. Threaten them with legal unless they remove this predator from your workplace. If this happened to any of my staff, I'd take great pleasure in firing the fucker.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 08:12 AM
11

Take him down. Sweetly neg him under the guise of concern. "You look so tired Brian, I read somewhere stress causes hair loss, are you ok?" (staring at hair line). That sort of thing. 😈
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 08:03 AM
8

Imagine being hectored by an insecure thicko. Actually, I can't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 07:58 AM
11

"I don't want to."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 07:56 AM
21

Never, ever, ever be a stay at home mother. Unless you are rich in your own right. Think it's hard to leave him? So much harder with kids and no money.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 07:52 AM
7

Yip 😁😁😁😁😁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 07:48 AM
5

No Lindsay, we don't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 08:05 PM
14

Ah! Never been there, was confused 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 06:24 PM
3

?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 05:53 PM
75

The funny thing is they do sometimes marry her. Then as soon as babies come, he's shocked to find cool girl is now unsatisfied bitchy mom who doesn't find your shit cute any more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 05:12 PM
39

No. Birthdays and anniversaries acknowledged only. No cringe, ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 05:09 PM
6

Porn sick
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 12:24 PM
47

Hell hath no fuckery like a LVM who is punching above his weight.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 12:14 PM
3

You've got this. Work on yourself is never ever wasted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 10:05 AM
49

Keeping it classy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 09:51 AM
11

But at least he was thinking of his girl all the time... 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 08:28 AM
57

A real pickmesha, he means.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 08:20 AM
17

Work out why you allowed yourself to become so subservient to your creep of an ex and never be that girl again. Oh, and it's never too late to put on your crown.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 08:11 AM
4

Yes and mine was a right place, right time scenario. I'd still be single and a queen if I'd never met him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 08:05 AM
4

New designer coat and bag, jumper and hair straighteners from himself. New laptop, cashmere, boots, cash, etc. from everyone else. My loo looks like Molton Brown opened a pop up store in there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 08:02 AM
14

It's nobody's business but yours. Never hand over the keys to your soul.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 07:58 AM
19

Ah, the "a big boy made me do it" LVM excuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 07:56 AM
27

Congratulations to you and your LVM, hon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 07:53 AM
9

Nononononononono. No!!! No. Just no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 07:50 AM
4

He doesn't want to marry you. I'm sorry, but at least he gave you a heads up before you wasted any more of your youth on a bad bet. Let him go.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 06:33 PM
15

Inadequate man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 06:23 PM
9

So she noped out after 1 date? Can't think why? 😁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 06:20 PM
38

He's probably looking through her dustbin right now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 02:49 PM
38

So thoughtful to put your psycho right out there. Issues, much?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 02:48 PM
6

Sex and ego strokes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 09:16 AM
33

We don't fight with children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 09:15 AM
9

When self-esteem has left the building...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 09:13 AM
14

What a Billy Bullshitter! Be glad his attempt at love bombing crashed and burned and you are free from him and his toxicity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 09:11 AM
9

He's an inconsiderate cocklodger. Why are you allowing yourself to be treated like his mum?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 09:09 AM
34

His entire attitude is ugly. Hope he never gets to see her vulva again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 09:06 AM
15

Is he on meth???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 07:31 PM
4

Loads of cool folks hanging out at the clap clinic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 07:23 PM
5

Wow, he's upbeat for a wanker.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 07:17 PM
2

Ta ta Tay
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 07:15 PM
6

New phone, who is this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 11:38 PM
8

He has toys (boak) 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 11:37 PM
33

You don't fraternise with the help.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 07:04 PM
29

And yet, here he is...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 05:40 AM
78

Their moobs are bigger than ours, though 😁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 05:43 PM
19

Why waste your youth and precious time?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 11:23 AM
32

Wah wah wah wah 'Merica wah wah wah I can't get a woman wah wah wah (goes off to shoot stuff on his crusty Xbox). Twat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 11:21 AM
23

Wow, that's so powerful. Congratulations, you got him TOLD!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 10:15 PM
58

Nope. Call these porn sick deviants what they are. "Kink Shaming" is made up bullshit. YOU decide what you like. No-one else gets to decide that for you. Never do anything sexually that you are not completely enthusiastic about. Ever. And get the hell away from guys who put that shit on you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 10:08 PM
31

The only person you should be all in with 100 percent is yourself. Some distance is healthy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 10:05 PM
25

My mother left her abuser and married a HVM. From pickme to Queen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 06:32 PM
12

Monica Geller and Paul, the wine guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 06:28 PM
36

I hope so too. Be brave and choose yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 05:18 PM
27

Yes, another one here!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 05:17 PM
43

The comments! Why the he'll should she live a lesser life to make Mr comfortable? He gets to save money and live in a better place. She gets Butlins.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 05:15 PM
9

Win????? The only thing you are winning is the game of destroying your life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 05:12 PM
11

Not your circus, not your monkeys. They shouldn't be putting you in the middle of this. And your mother is my age and I'm not past it yet. Neither is she.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 05:11 PM
28

Last year's psycho bitch will be you in 2020.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 05:09 PM
7

Bob wants to see if he gets a better offer over Christmas. Ditch him, he's a time waster.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 01:10 PM
24

A chance for what? To disappoint and disgust you more? Bugger off with that nonsense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 12:33 PM
11

Ryan is tight, not good enough for our recap Queen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 12:32 PM
41

What an obvious pile of made up shite.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 06:29 PM
232

True. The non-porn sick just think "yay, naked lady!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 10:53 AM
8

Posts like these make my heart happy to know that the young Queens have got this. Bravo ladies, a happy life awaits.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 09:11 AM
29

They just cant help themselves. Bet he had his dick in his hand when he wrote this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 08:48 AM
4

Haha, I use that one most days, not for FBs per se, but when anyone decides on a stupid course of action. With a smile too, for added effect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 08:46 AM
14

When I couldn't use my preferred method of BC any more, my husband immediately booked a vasectomy. That's what HVM do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 08:41 AM
10

Girl needs to find this sub. Fast.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 08:36 AM
79

Better alone and successful than badly accompanied and broke.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 08:35 AM
8

Socks. For some unbeknown reason, most men never buy themselves socks. Source- wife and mother of son. In addition, I have a male relative who actually had a hissy the ONE year, I didn't buy him socks for Christmas.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 08:34 AM
16

Shave that shit off your face, Nathan.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 08:29 AM
17

I also have a daughter who has been indoctrinated with my views since she was old enough to understand 😁 Our house was always the meeting place for the teens, so all her friends got to hear it too. I also have a son, who we raised to be a HVM. I want all women and girls to be happy in life and love. That's my motivation for being here, HVM and all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 08:26 AM
6

Indeed. You decide first, last and always.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 08:21 AM
27

Bet he's still pining for Christina in 20 years time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 08:20 AM
13

Cardigan guy looks like he would tie you to the railtrack and run off, twirling his moustachio going bwah hahahaha.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 06:30 PM
6

Of course 😁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 02:59 PM
82

Never overshare. And avoid Henry Higgins-esque fixers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 12:16 PM
2

Nothing is wrong with you love. You are 16. A baby in the scheme of womanhood. This is the time to make mistakes. The trick is to learn from them and do not ever put yourself in situations where mistakes can be lifelong and detrimental to your mental health. Your primary focus should be on self improvement. You should be utterly selfish and ruthless about protecting your best interests. Doing this will build your self esteem and confidence to such an extent that LVM will not even be a considerat…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 11:39 AM
56

Never really wanted to get married, had turned down a few other wannabe husbands. He was a serial monogamist. We met, lightning bolts and a deep feeling of "THERE YOU ARE". That was it. I just knew. 10 months later we got married. HOWEVER, I never gave up my financial independence and have always been prepared to walk if he turned out to be a disappointment. It's been 27 years, he's doing great. So far..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 10:10 AM
32

They can and you will have no doubt whatsoever about their intentions. Mine proposed after 3 weeks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 09:25 AM
36

It won't get better. He already thinks she is his servant and nanny.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 06:31 AM
5

Glad you are back. Look forward to your posts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 06:24 AM
43

You are his fall back shag. He probably has no idea you are an actual person, with feelings and hopes. And if he does, he doesn't care. Ditch and go have fun with the better contenders. Throw this one back to his bros.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 05:54 PM
37

When they don't even try to hide that they think of you as a servant...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 05:50 PM
53

He really believes he's all that and a bag of chips, doesn't he? Utter melt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 05:49 PM
74

By lonely, you mean horny, right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 05:42 PM
26

Only if his name is Z.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 05:40 PM
40

Play stupid games, win stupid prizes. Sex leads to pregnancy. All men know this. Don't want a baby? Keep it in your pants boys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 05:39 PM
16

He'd be wearing that Roomba if it came to me as a gift. And I'm saying that as someone who has one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 05:37 PM
25

Please. These guys would sleep with anything they can get their hands on that stands still long enough. Comparability my arse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 02:30 PM
10

I'll let you know when it happens. 27 years and counting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 02:27 PM
6

Ah, the girlfriend experience. How dare he demote you and still expect that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 02:26 PM
5

Nope. And if he did he would be waiting forever for his next chance to see me naked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 02:18 PM
76

What a lot of word salad to basically beg for sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 08:34 AM
18

Aww, he has a micro penis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 06:24 AM
6

Clearly shame is a foreign concept to this lady.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 06:23 AM
13

No worries mate, no problem at all! 😁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 06:20 AM
12

No, you are underreacting. He only cares about your money and your chauffeur skills. I understand to you he is less of a bastard than your ex, but he is still no good. Pick up your dignity and end this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 06:19 AM
8

He doesn't want you to run into his other women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 06:08 AM
6

I refuse to chat with everyone. If I've anything to say, I say it on here. HOWEVER, now I know about the Superfans, I'm almost tempted to read their crap for sharing purposes. Almost.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 09:09 PM
5

Good. He'll be back though, beware.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 09:06 PM
59

No, let him stew over his clumsy attempt at getting a shag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 09:03 PM
6

It works for me. 27 years and counting. I have yet to cook a meal or pay for one. He proposed really quickly and adores me to this day. I had to dump a lot of losers before I met him though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 08:00 PM
17

Love this show.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 07:50 PM
2

If you have a wedding date, fine. Otherwise no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 06:08 PM
6

They always give themselves away eventually. Which is why it is important never to invest until you are sure they are a keeper.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 06:07 PM
3

Do not bring this man around your friends. They are not unwilling participants in his orgasm. As for sticking with him, how could you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 06:04 PM
7

Cut them off. I know, faaahhhmmilly is (supposedly) everything, but these men have zero respect for you and see you as something to be used. Disabuse them of that notion by blocking them forever. Neither of them deserve a second thought from you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 05:58 PM
2

This guy has clearly never seen a RL naked woman. Pure fantasy. We should pity the fool, but naah...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 05:54 PM
14

Yes love, come back when your tired of wiping Liams arse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 05:45 PM
27

The state of him 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 11:59 AM
26

Cheap with money, cheap with love.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 06:02 AM
12

Gosh Mike, you're sooooo quirky! ...said no-one, ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 09:34 PM
23

As if grandad can still get it up...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 09:28 PM
37

Did somebody buy Jeremy a Thesaurus for Christmas? Lots if words for - I know you're not going to shag me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 09:26 PM
2

You in danger, girl. You already have the feels and he is not interested in anything except the contents of your knickers. Continue at your own risk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 05:49 PM
26

If it involves participation in the sex industry, he is free to go. Just like I'm free to divorce him if he does.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 05:45 PM
16

So why are you still in your oh so terrible relationship you absolute chancer? Probably because she had no idea you are trawling for strange on a dating site and she completely facilities your life, like mommy used to. Did she send you to bed with no supper, the nasty meanie? Hope she sees this and boots your toxic arse out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 04:43 PM
54

A man's true character always appears once you tell him no. Look at how he scrambles to make you less than to justify himself. Pathetic. Glad you got out, that's a nasty one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 04:30 PM
12

Deep down, they all know 😀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 04:26 PM
10

Hope she's spent that cash on an initial consultation with a divorce lawyer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 06:12 AM
2

Think of this as a learning opportunity. Next time you will behave differently. We all have had to learn at one time, don't beat yourself up, move on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 09:08 PM
14

No. Just no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 08:58 PM
21

They probably are looking around their stinky spunky shit tips and thinking, it's not that bad, women are so demanding!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 08:56 PM
46

In other news, water is wet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 08:53 PM
45

And keep him working for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 07:24 PM
14

He'll probably give them to the woman he's actually interested in. Can just imagine his colleagues reaction and how hard he's going to ghost her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 06:58 PM
11

Yes, slow build ups are the best.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 06:52 PM
47

Politely excuse yourself. Forever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 06:47 PM
96

Men are men. At least, if he's hot, you can admire the scenery.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 06:46 PM
14

I wait until i think i might spontaneously combust if I don't get him naked. So, a couple of months getting into his head before I get into his pants. Strangers have never done anything for me regardless of hotness. Which is a relief as I love sex and if were wired up differently would have been a dreadful hoor in my heyday.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 06:45 PM
37

Finally, an honest one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 06:40 PM
2

Only put food in your mouth that is good for your body. No alcohol as much as possible. Love yourself like you would take care of a child. You wouldnt feed your child bad things, right? You deserve only the best. Tell yourself that enough and you will believe it. There's where motivation starts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 06:39 PM
4

Let's not, arsehole.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 06:35 PM
56

Mute, doormat bangmaid please!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 06:32 PM
6

No. Why waste your time and risk getting attached? He's told you what he wants. Believe him. If he had any thought of wanting you permanently, he would never have put that out there as he would be afraid of losing you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 06:30 PM
20

Because they think they want a doormat. Until they get one. Then they want a new doormat. What they actually want is someone they respect but are too idle to put in the work to get a HVW.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 06:28 PM
19

Getting off to women in agony. Sounds about right...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 06:26 PM
7

Couldn't agree more. Schedule those appointments and go religiously. Just in from my 4 weekly facial and eyebrow appointment. Cut and colour every 6 weeks. Diet, exercise, waxing, mani pedi. Then the at home upkeep. Worth every minute.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 06:24 PM
31

No amount of sex will ever make a man love you. Ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 06:21 AM
8

It's a kindness, really and I'm really, really kind... 😁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 06:19 AM
65

It's none of anyone's business. Full Stop.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 06:15 AM
96

Talk about begging for scraps of attention...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 06:13 AM
15

😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 06:32 PM
3

Imagine how much worse you would feel if you had slept with him and been ghosted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 06:05 PM
15

Tis the season, burn his Joggers a-la-la-la-la, la-la-la-la
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 05:25 PM
58

You need to leave him. Now. He'll either shape up once you are gone or he won't. Either way, you shouldn't be his provider and whipping dog. If he gets it together, gets sustainable employment and shows consistent improvement in his mental health , you can discuss getting back together with him. If you still want to, that is. Somehow I think distance won't make your heart grow fonder... Don't let him take you down with him. Free yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 05:22 PM
9

Possibly the worst sugar baby ever 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 05:15 PM
8

Well done lovely. You've got this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 05:14 PM
41

Imagine coming home to that. No don't, it's too horrible. I'm itching just looking at that hovel.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 05:03 PM
15

Clearly was the highlight of his life. I doubt it was hers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 04:59 PM
13

How dare he be so disrespectful as to bring up sex right off the bat? Who does Derrick think he is?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 04:58 PM
24

I wouldn't hold your breath...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 04:47 PM
8

I said no twice. Then yes to HV batchelor number 3 😁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 06:21 AM
38

He wants a free hooker. Never be a free hooker.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 06:16 AM
30

Vitamins. Sleep. Healthy diet. Yoga.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 06:10 AM
36

I would send someone else to exchange your stuff. Why put yourself in that position when it's still so recent? You know he's going to try to get something from you, hence his bullshit wish to talk. Forgiveness? Reconciliation? Sex? Don't go, there is nothing good for you there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 06:06 AM
23

We speak the truth. Scrotes are afraid of that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 02:22 AM
41

LV unattractive men know they are unattractive. And are insecure about it. Therefore, when they trick an attractive woman into being with them, that immediately devalues her in his eyes. He will then attempt to reduce her to less than, in order for him to feel secure in the relationship. HV unattractive men work on their insecurities, develop other means of attraction and are proud and grateful to have a HVW in their life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 01:02 PM
83

And MP ISN'T privileged and rich??? How hard of thinking are these idiots?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 12:55 PM
47

I would watch the HELL out of that show.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 12:52 PM
193

This. Mine yelled at me. Once. I took myself, the baby and my cash card and fucked off out of there. He was there with his tail between his legs, begging forgiveness within 12 hours. He has never raised his voice towards me again. 24 years and counting. Always be prepared to walk. Never let them get comfortable misusing you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 10:49 AM
47

Always be prepared to walk. Always.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 10:31 AM
14

I know! Like we haven't spent weeks doing this for ourselves already? Not to mention, where's the date? Not even that basic respect before launching into "Do my thinking/wifework for me". Bye bye batshit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 10:30 AM
30

Do not hand over the user manual for winning your heart. Manipulators will use this firstly to get you, then to abuse you. Stop this now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 10:26 AM
57

Mens value to me: Lifting heavy stuff Admiring the considerable efforts I make to look good Satisfying me in bed Money Doing half of all chores Supporting me in my ambitions Planning trips and activities that I like Being a present, loving, active parent Being honest and faithful Protecting our family Giving equal weight to my preference when making decisions that affect our family Wanting me to be happy and going the extra mile to make it so No porn No substance abuse Now, I do all of the above…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 10:23 AM
24

What a tool. Woman love to do our shopping, right? He's probably thinking this is a great date. Plus you can tell him what to get for his female relations? And maybe he can get a free shag too? Bingo. Err no sir, you do not own a solid, gold penis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 10:13 AM
16

He's back to try and waste your time for another 10 years. You got that time to spare on a LVM who vaguely misses his support animal? No, didn't think so. BLOCK HIM
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 10:08 AM
31

Porn and Drugs/Alcohol. Who knew that these would be the reason for so many sexually loathsome LVM? Errm, we did. Natural selection at its best.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 10:05 AM
8

Happy New Year (for me, without you in it).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 10:02 AM
18

Like there aren't a billion guys out there. It's impossible to run out of options. Still, better to be alone than badly accompanied.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 05:27 AM
37

Or clothes and footwear and bags and jewellery...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/19 04:59 PM
19

They truly believe the best form of defence is attack. Might have worked in the Napoleonic War, but nowadays, notsomuch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/19 01:48 PM
95

If your shower was in the am, you are not clean enough for any action by the pm. Take a shower beforehand and actually wash while you are in it. Also brush your teeth before you come anywhere near me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/19 01:46 PM
9

Good God. Is this what the world has come to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/19 01:44 PM
3

No, I won't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/19 08:27 PM
19

Because they have no idea they look worse, hanging on to their nasty, threadbare locks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/19 08:05 PM
28

We don't eat off the floor, even for hotdogs. LVM are the hotdogs on the floor.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/19 07:57 PM
23

Imagine being this desperate. Some men really are pitiful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/19 06:15 PM
19

No, when committed, HVW do not cheat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/19 05:32 PM
3

Ew.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/19 05:31 PM
18

Why if they didn't, then they would have to face the fact that they are undesirable, which would never do! 😁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/19 05:30 PM
12

No, he's grooming you for fuckbuddydom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/19 09:15 PM
9

Honey no. The only thing that motivates men to change is loss. Not loving him better, not accepting what you can get when it's substandard. Fear of the unknown is never a good enough reason to stay when he's just not that into you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/19 05:29 PM
25

What part of NO does this fool not understand?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/19 05:02 PM
82

It's so beautiful when they show themselves so quickly. If only all scrotes made it this easy from the beginning.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 09:53 PM
1

Kindness, Sense of humour, generosity, trustworthiness, cleanliness, intelligence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 09:51 PM
3

Kindness, Sense of humour, generosity, trustworthiness, cleanliness, intelligence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 09:50 PM
37

Never allow yourself to be demoted by a man. The very fact he thinks this is reasonable demonstrates the low regard he had for you. Leave and never speak to him again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 08:54 PM
34

Don't be a stepmother either. No matter how much you love him or "what a great dad he is". Kids take your time, money, social life, sex life, make a fuckton of mess and are a constant worry. Which is fine if they are yours. Different ballgame being stepmommy. Beware.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 07:51 PM
5

"Thank god" said I when faced with exactly the same statement. He was confused for at least a minute, till he got it. Bye boy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 07:42 PM
4

I hate him and I've never even met him. I have second hand outrage. How fucking dare he have the cheek to think you were sitting around, eager to jump at his command to win the prize of precious. Some men really are insane.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 07:40 PM
12

My MIL once tried to tell me how lucky I was for marrying her precious. Because he did his share around the house... She was treated to my Ted Talk on exactly why there was no luck involved and if precious did not pull his weight he would be my ex precious. She has STFU ever since. Just no MIL.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 07:38 PM
2

My father was an abusive philanderer. Mother left and levelled up to a prince amongst men for husband 2 during my formative years. I learned really early what a HVM was and refused to settle for anything less. I was ruthless in dumping for red flags. Use what you saw and didn't want. Ruthlessly dump every LVM who waves a red flag in your face. And therapy. Lots of therapy. It can be done.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 07:33 PM
4

This is fantastic. Perfect explanation of what getting over an unworthy is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 07:25 PM
1

No, I do not "want to chat". I want to read stuff on the internet, eat sweet and salty popcorn and laugh at you instead.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 07:23 PM
6

You have plans and he's telling everyone, so I think you are ok. Be wary though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 07:20 PM
20

She is probably too afraid to propose as she deep down at the bottom of her denial, knows the answer. So she doesn't ask so she can continue to live in hope.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 07:17 PM
29

Completely without concern telling disgusting anecdotes in mixed company after a few drinks. Forgets that he is a filthy limp dick voyeur of exploitation and assumes everyone knows what he is talking about. Had no idea others think he's a loser.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 07:07 PM
6

And you are the one he'll be crying over to all the poor unfortunate women he tricks into dating in the future...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 06:27 PM
64

Bet she's a cookin and a cleanin, being his therapist and personal porn star, trying to get that ring. While he's glued to his phone trawling for her replacement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 06:20 PM
40

He actually expected his friend of 20 years to cry with joy over being offered her turn on his discarded dick. And then feels entitled to be butt hurt over her putting him back in the friendzone. Can't think why he's no longer married...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 06:18 PM
6

But that would require them getting out of their fun stained hovels and actually do something? So I think civilization is safe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 06:19 AM
21

My grandmother was one of these women. The original HVW. There was nothing she couldn't do. I miss her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 06:17 AM
18

Bet it took him a week to come up with that. Loser.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 06:14 AM
11

Him him him. What do you feel? Do you see this going somewhere? Someone who is not demonstrably happy and excited to be with you? If you feel neglected, it's probably because you are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 08:22 PM
51

What terrible advice. Chances are she's shagging someone else and you are but an anecdote to her. Sociopath??? The entitlement!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 11:23 AM
21

Damien sounds like he was having a go with the Devils dandruff before your date. Take that as an Omen (I'm sorry, I'll get my coat). Seriously, this is fascinating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 10:50 AM
80

Exactly. They just say words to get you to restore the status quo and STFU. A truly remorseful man will change his behaviour (and they only get to that stage when you leave them).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 08:52 AM
18

Some drunken arse grabbed my behind while dancing with my girls at a club once. I punched him square in the face, (totally a reflex reaction). His friends almost died laughing at him getting laid out by a tiny little woman and laughed even more when security threw him out. I hope he's still getting mocked for being the rapey little fucker that he is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 08:50 AM
6

No point whatsoever, would be better off with a dog. At least they are loyal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 08:40 AM
15

We don't beg, we expect. If our expectations are not met? We ghost. The pickmeshas are welcome to our leftovers. Good luck making a silk purse out of your pig. One day you'll wise up and level up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 08:32 AM
17

Misplaced confidence while bored and horny. It's never, ever a compliment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 08:12 AM
14

Also, philosophy class? He needs remedial English.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 08:07 AM
6

I'm so sorry you are having to deal with this. Hope it gets resolved soon and he crawls back under the rock he came from.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 08:04 AM
3

She? 😁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 08:00 AM
56

We don't want your sub-standard sperm. It's that simple.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 07:58 AM
4

Men suppress their emotions until all that's left is a ball of fear and anger looking for a place to explode. Women express their emotions, talk about their issues and seek help when life becomes hard. And we are the weaker sex? Just no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 07:47 AM
12

Sure she is. Take one of my husband's friends on a date? I think not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 07:45 AM
7

I hate them. You're not a lumberjack Trevor, you drive a Honda and work in IT.. .
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 07:43 AM
60

It's not your job to educate filth. Just block and ghost.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 07:39 AM
15

Haha, I found 8 of these in my FB hidden folder recently (had a look when I discovered it existed). I've been married for over a quarter of a century...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 07:35 AM
7

Because they want what they can't have and know it, hence the toddler tanty. Eat your heart out lowlives.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 07:11 AM
80

You get up, you get dressed and you nope the fuck out of there until he learns some respect. Which will be never while he's still a porn addled faplord.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 07:05 AM
14

Fool.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 10:25 PM
10

Tell him you want to go through his phone. If he says no without a verifiable excuse (work phone, classified, can't let anyone else use) dump his arse. If my husband ever wants to look through mine, he can feel free. There is nothing to find because I'm not a cheating lowlife. I would welcome the opportunity to demonstrate this (then torture him for thinking I could).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 07:39 PM
88

Just this. He's not really sorry when he gets caught, either. Sorry for himself? Yes. Truly sorry for what he did? Rare.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 07:30 PM
7

Not for years, if ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 07:24 PM
8

I beg your pardon?????
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 07:21 PM
27

You don't have to date anyone you do not want to. Full stop. How creepy that someone else thinks they have the right to question and berate you for having a preference.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 05:43 PM
31

He doesn't need a sex friend. He needs a dictionary and to learn some manners.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 05:40 PM
5

Autocorrect. Should have been Experian. 😁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 05:39 PM
81

This breaks my heart.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 12:11 PM
10

I'd go one step further. Men shouldn't be allowed within 50 yards of any woman until he's been Police checked, Expedia checked, STD checked and comes with positive references from women who know him well. We accept this when applying for a job (well, maybe not the STD part 😁), so we should demand this before risking our health, both mentally and physically. Even then you need to be wary, in case you end up with a porn sick, limp dicked loser, but at least you could weed out some of the abusers b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 12:10 PM
25

Jesus, I express more concern and care over my colleagues minor upsets than this guy does over his girlfriend's distress. What a cold bastard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 11:59 AM
20

Having to pay for your own violation? Sickening.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 11:56 AM
39

Oh FFS. I'm mortified for her. I know we are socialised into "yo sister" when we read these stories, but why give them boasting rights forever? "Tell me about when Daddy proposed Mummy?" "Well I went to Zales (WTF) and got down on one knee and lowered myself by offering my soul to your father. He didn't have to lift a finger!" What a soul destroying message to pass on. Don't do it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 11:54 AM
29

Well done for bailing. Never allow anyone to take you for granted. Everyone is busy, if he wanted to make time for you, he would. Too often we fool ourselves by making excuses for men who CBA. They don't even need to excuse themselves, we do it for them! Onwards and upwards, sister. Throw that one back into the swamp.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 11:46 AM
3

The absolute arrogance of these mouth breathers to believe HVW put in effort over our appearance for their pleasure??? We do it for ourselves fuckwit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 09:36 AM
14

YES, we do the work to overcome or not be like our toxic parent. LVM just want an easy life and expect you to get with the enabling programme. A particular flaw of mummys boys and sons of mysogenist men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 08:47 AM
27

No HVW is too old for anything. And they know it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 08:44 AM
29

The only consent is enthusiastic consent. Any man who doesn't know this is not worth getting naked for. It is not your job to service him. It is his job to get you hot enough to want to give him pleasure. If he can't or won't put in the effort? Dump his arse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 08:43 AM
15

Nooo, cuteness dies not compensate for having to listen to him whine about all the women who have dumped his inadequate arse in the past.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 08:39 AM
36

I have a theory, that LVM want a virgin so women can't compare their small penis and terrible technique unfavourably. Actually, that's not a theory. And then they will be on here complaining of a dead bedroom. Or that she's cheating. Or she is depressed and has put on weight. Or only cares about the children... Women like sex if their man is a HVM and is good at it. Health conditions aside, if she's not into it, it's because he sucks in the sack or is a LVM .
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 08:37 AM
10

Wall? What fecking wall? 😁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 08:31 AM
11

My mother gave me the greatest gift by drumming it into my pretty teenage head, never be dependent on a man. Ever. My daughter has been similarly indoctrinated. You stay with one because you want to, not because you have to. She did try once to set me up with a guy... once. I was incredulous that she thought I couldn't get one if these idiots if I wanted to. I mean, she had answered the phone constantly to my many pursuers over the years, why would she think that? I was single because I wanted t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 08:29 AM
12

Ive been married for over 25 years and have never paid a restaurant bill when out with my husband. Or father. My mother and I argue over who is going to pay every time we have lunch, she usually wins. I've only just realised that 😁. I have plenty of my own money, which I spend on me and my adult kids. I don't let them pay when out with me. The circle of life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 08:21 AM
5

Thats great, time invested in self care is never wasted. You are here, that is a good start.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 08:12 AM
20

Desperation is never, ever attractive. Not even to the lowest man alive. Women's socialisation has taught some women that men will only value them if they give, give, give. Which is laughably untrue. Men value who they respect. Never give them reason to think otherwise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 08:11 AM
10

Or maybe it's because he knows he can't sustain the act he's been putting on to keep you interested? Who cares, either way the trash took itself out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 08:07 AM
9

This. I do all of that. For me! I like being healthy, both physically and emotionally. I enjoy taking care of my body and mind. I prioritise self care over everything (now the kids are out of the house). Not for the male gaze, but for my self-esteem and future health. It's not shallow or letting down the sisterhood to do whatever you need to to feel good about yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 08:04 AM
3

I'm proud of you too. It's so hard to motivate yourself when drowning in depression. You are fighting for your happy, that is truly everything. Bravo sister!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 07:57 AM
10

My mother insisted on driving lessons and bought me a car as soon as I was legally able to have one. Not because I was a spoiled brat, but to keep me safe from opportunistic rapey scumbags. The amount of mental labour women have to do to protect ourselves (and each other) from these men is staggering. How about women live freely as they choose and men stop being rapists? But no, once again we are expected to restrict ourselves to attempt to reduce harm. We should be furious. I am furious, but do…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 07:50 AM
9

It applies not only to men you may date, but all men in your life. They may not like you (who cares) but they damn well will respect you. Oddly, I've found that even the worst pigs will modify their behaviour around you once they have felt the deep freeze of your disapproval. It's great not having to be a cool girl and listen to their shite.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 07:40 AM
2

You hurted his fee fees. Good. It's a kindness, really.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 07:35 AM
3

Well done lovely, so proud of you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 07:33 AM
14

I always think it's funny that there are no success stories. As in "hey guys, I took your advice and got a HVW to marry me! I'm so happy and fulfilled!" Never happens. They are playing themselves into a sad, bitter, lonely little life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 07:31 AM
7

If ever there were a thing about someone having a punchable face. This is it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 07:19 AM
37

Sounds like her body is saving her in spite of herself. Good, hope it lasts as long as she's with this fool.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 05:34 PM
0

Let them have their messed up revenge fantasies. That's on them, not you. Really, when you start not GAF what others think it is very liberating. I used to almost apologise to my friends for being attractive. Got me nowhere and validated them. The moment I started shrugging that off and refused to own their issues, it stopped.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 08:33 AM
51

Exactly. Didnt want a penpal in primary 6, dont want one now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 08:24 AM
10

Texting is lazy communication. Reward calls by being charming and talkative. Reward low effort texting with even lower effort responses. A solitary "K" is ideal. Even the lowest mouth-breather will get the hint eventually, and if they don't? Not worth even a "K".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 08:22 AM
4

You don't have to take on the insecurities of others. It's literally not your problem so why compensate? What others think of you is none of your business. As long as you know you are a good person and don't actively seek to hurt others, why care if randomers hate on you out of jealousy? Shrug that shit off and be your best, queen self.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 08:15 AM
7

She's gone, get over it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 08:11 AM
25

It's not about being hot (though it helps), you need confidence. You need to devote your energy to self care, exude charm and warmth with an undercurrent of "fuck with me and die". Make the most of what you have. For you. Do not underestimate the confidence gained from looking your best. Stand straight, shoulders back, tits out and walk like you own the street. You have the most important part covered (financial), you just need to work on your self-esteem. That comes from within. The rest will f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 08:03 AM
102

Its the way of the future. Only HVM should be allowed to mate. Watch those scrotes rush to level up when the pickmeshas pick women instead.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 07:53 AM
55

Mean with money. Has toxic parents (you marry them too). Does not react well to the word "no". Dislikes your friends/family. Obsessively follows a sports team. Has ED. Lives in a manky sloth-pit. Can't drive. Is secretive with phone. Wants anal/threesomes/choking (insert whatever porn inspired deviancy that applies) Has a harem of female best friends who he has fucked. Gets into alcohol fuelled fights in bars. Has a criminal record. Has baby mama's. Plural. Does not pay child support. Has a wors…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 07:33 AM
8

I'm guessing Dungeon Master? I'm also guessing not a sex Dungeon Master, since Lord M has never, ever seen a naked woman that's not on his cum-splashed computer screen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 12:34 AM
12

You see, I really like sex. But only with someone I trust who understands how my body works. So no randomers ever appealed as I knew it would be terrible for me. Faking is just short-changing yourself and teaching them bad habits. Fuck that noise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 12:31 AM
15

I had a friend like that. She was always looking to make her hook up her boyfriend. It was like the only currency she felt she had to get attention. Copious amounts of alcohol were always in the mix too. Never once had an orgasm. She eventually married a LVM who turned out to be an asshole, did not end well, but she remarried a second time to a good one and has been happy ever since. She puts her hook up days down to low self esteem. I believe some women can have carefree sex with randomers, so …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 12:26 AM
34

Oh for fuck sake. If I ever leave my husband, it's celibacy and cats for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 12:16 AM
15

Shame needs to fuck off and take his flatulence with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 12:12 AM
8

Yup, alcohol adds absolutely nothing to my life, cut that out many, many years ago.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 12:11 AM
23

They will cause you endless stress Unless you go by FDS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 08:50 PM
10

You'd have to deal with his Samson-esque ego crash over his baldness AND his creeping realisation he looks more like his dad than Vin Diesel.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 08:48 PM
15

Oh noooo. Not one of those? The oafish bore? I thought they died out in the 80's, along with vinyl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 08:29 PM
59

But he's got to be smarter than you! His magic penis bestows magical intellect! Bet he has an article saved that says just that too. Poor baby, clearly threatened by a smart HVW. Bet he was up all night maintaining his cognitive dissonance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 08:21 PM
22

Shame they age out of their target demographic eventually, isn't it? Still, there's always alcoholism, humiliation, loneliness and ED to look forward to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 07:59 PM
20

The second hand embarrassment is real.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 07:07 PM
14

Yes, this. Me too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 07:02 PM
53

And it's so simple to fix. Step away from the sex trafficked abused online ladies. Get a better hobby than grunting sweatily over your weak, feeble, sad wee orgasm. Get some exercise (and no, fapping like it's your job is not exercise). Lay off the drink and the drugs. Keep your hands off your dick. Think about something, anything, other than your dick. Ponder, maybe, what a sad, miserable waste of skin you are? Do not subject any woman to your penis until you are cured. You're welcome.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 07:00 PM
56

Say it loud, say it proud, sisters... "Never ever be FINANCIALLY DEPENDENT ON A MAN!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 06:51 PM
73

Isn't it typical that a limp dicked ED porn-soused faplord blames the woman? God forbid he realises his limp noodle dick is a result of his death-grip.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 06:23 PM
45

Imagine running your hands through that dirty, greasy, stringy thin hair. And it coming out in handfulls... 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 05:49 PM
13

He is enjoying making sure you stay in fallback position by giving you just enough hope to keep you hooked. This is a nasty, selfish fuckwit. Pity his new GF and cut him out like the festering sore he is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 05:41 PM
21

That thin, stringy greasy haired thing thinks he's Adonis? Bless his heart.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 05:37 PM
7

And then they'd be begging for nudes and sharing them with their scrote mates.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 09:46 AM
18

Maybe a card with "I love... spending time with you"? Or an Oxfam Goat. Or both if you are feeling seasonally generous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 09:44 AM
9

Uncared for pets bite.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 09:20 AM
8

Some people are too stupid to educate. Save your breath and leave them to their clusterfuck lives. Congratulations on your recovery, you sound great. Don't let the unfortunate drag you down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 08:29 AM
5

Yes, this is true. They always know a HVW when they are lucky enough to find one. Just like we do. I knew within a month that my husband was someone I could potentially marry. He knew after 3 weeks. It was "oh, THERE you are". Intelligent, genuine, friends who loved him, solvent, homeowner, career, funny, kind, loyal, good family, no harmful habits, fit, handsome, worships me... Bingo. I had all of the same qualities to him (minus worship, that's a one way street. I choose him, I don't need him)…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 08:26 AM
10

When someone tells you who they are, listen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 07:35 AM
29

Indeed. I have always maintained my career. However I have reduced days/hours over the years to care for our children. Had I been the main breadwinner, that would have been impossible. Can't imagine how the children would have been able to complete their studies to the level they are without money. It's not romantic to worry about money once you have children. Financial security is so important. Make your own but he has to at least match your effort.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 07:14 AM
22

Of course he did. The cheek of him!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 08:39 PM
13

He ask, he pay.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 08:14 PM
69

Charity work is always admirable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 08:12 PM
7

I know, was just being obnoxious 😉
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 08:09 PM
9

You had me till "natural beauty". You'll take my girl accoutrements out of my cold, dead, hands.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 07:51 PM
54

It was an excuse to dump her so she gets to be the bad guy. Common tactic of little bitches that can't face ditching you themselves. Either that or boys got issues. Either way, bullet dodged.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 07:48 PM
26

I love you (in a sisterly non creepy fist-bumpy way). That's just poetry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 07:45 PM
3

You'll be fine. You've got this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 07:40 PM
19

That's very smart. Don't let him rush you. If it doesn't feel right, it isn't. Doesn't mean if he takes it like a gentleman and proves his worth you may change your mind in the future? But right now, no. Maybe never with him and that's ok. When you are ready, you will know. You set the pace always.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 07:16 PM
29

If she wanted to go she would be happy and excited. As she is anything but, he needs to back off. She decides the pace, not him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 07:09 PM
33

And an air freshener. I always forget to replace them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 07:06 PM
50

Yes, due to friend group, he got to watch her get married too. His face in the pictures is priceless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 06:22 PM
41

He hurts you. He makes you feel less than. He will never love you the way you deserve to be loved. Every day you stay in this relationship is a miserable day you are not getting on with the rest of your life. You have to let this go. It will hurt, but that will pass. Staying now is just putting off the inevitable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 06:19 PM
15

Not only that, why give them gloating rights for the rest of their lives? Start as you mean to go on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 05:39 PM
103

This actually happened to my BFF. Her fiance decided he needed to "sow his wild oats" (fuck more randoms) before marriage, so split with her. She rightly ignored his many attempts to reconcile and married his close friend instead. He's still unmarried many, many, many years later and has never got over her. One of the many reasons I love her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 05:35 PM
40

IKR??? Guess that top notch education really missed the mark there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 05:31 PM
41

He straight up overplayed his sad, desperate hand. Now he has to play with his sad, desperate other hand 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 05:27 PM
113

So he power played a breakup, thinking he'd get her back on his own terms and got ghosted? Cry me a river, idiot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 05:16 PM
3

You don't need an excuse. "Because I don't want to" is a perfectly valid reason. Hobbies are still good though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 05:14 PM
8

No. He is the predator here. You did nothing wrong except trust someone who claimed to be there for you. He knew how vulnerable you were and exploited that. This is on him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 02:39 PM
73

He is not your friend. He thinks you are a piece of meat. Disabuse him of this notion by blocking him forever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 11:59 AM
7

An 8???? Hahaha, a 2 is but a dot on the horizon to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 11:21 AM
8

You hate women who are better than you. Which is every single woman alive. Good luck getting out of mummys spare room loser.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 11:19 AM
10

It's for their wank bank. Don't do it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 11:08 AM
8

Ignore and treat him exactly like every other person in your workplace. If he tries to talk to you alone, stare blankly, smile sarcastically, then walk away. He is dead to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 11:07 AM
32

If he tried to shame you for looking, tell him you couldn't care less if he's offended. Your peace of mind is more important than him safeguarding his wank bank.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 10:59 AM
3

You are wasting your time. Cut him off and don't give him any more headspace. Who cares what his issues/gameplan/motives are? He should be trying to convince YOU he's worth your time. Never try to convince a lacklustre man you are worth it. If he doesn't know that already, bin him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 04:43 PM
252

You don't let up when you're married either. Always make sure you can support yourself and never be afraid to walk. Don't do everything for them, they take it for granted and don't appreciate your effort. My husband once criticised a shirt of his I ironed. That was the last thing of his I ironed. 26 years ago...I won't cook, that's his job. I do exactly my share and no more. Never accept less if you want to be happy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 04:30 PM
79

Form an orderly queue ladies... 😂😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/19 01:17 PM
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