Just Forever Girlfriend Things ❤️

thewetdog_ · 2020-01-28T20:15:33+00:00

11 years? *Openly admitting you’re not in love?

Boyfriend quite possible could be gay and girlfriend may be just the beard 👀

Imagine a straight man staying in a monogamous relationship when they have admittedly lost feelings several times? Lost the spark?

Parking-Act · 2020-01-28T20:18:14+00:00

That is truly sad! I was reading a post someone made about their husband being mean to them when angry and doing typical pathological cluster b behaviors and many were shouting "marriage counseling" at them while Im just thinking leave him , kick him out! I think many women are waking up to atrocious men. But sadly, many are enduring horrible relationships for years they can never get back because of "love" and "relationships take work" tropes.

1Here4Bach · 2020-01-28T20:23:29+00:00

I stopped reading after I saw “boyfriend” and “11 years” in the same sentence.

Aigonorus · 2020-01-28T21:12:05+00:00

He never loved her to begin with.

11 years no ring in sight. Wow!

It takes a special strain of virus to infect people's brains with this level of pickmesha and LVM behaviour

timetofliptables · 2020-01-28T20:35:55+00:00

That Gottman book is a good one, but any relationship book only works in a genuine partnership. No book is going to help if you have a non-committal man baby or worse, an abusive partner.

bloompth · 2020-01-28T21:02:55+00:00

People really dont understand that love is less about feelings and more about actions and choices, especially since our culture conflates love and infatuation. I've fallen "out of love" with my husband before but that's because true love for a person is not something you can just fall into. He truly is my world and fluctuating infatuation (which is affected by anything from having a bad day to where I am in my cycle) has nothing to do with our bond.

I say all this in the hopes that this is what the author is talking about. But still: lol @ 11 year boyfriend.

extraacct1234 · 2020-01-28T21:15:06+00:00

This sounds like fun 🙃

Scotsburd · 2020-01-28T20:40:01+00:00

Ah, the forever girlfriend's guide to low self esteem...

MagicAte_8 · 2020-01-28T23:26:19+00:00

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2020-01-29T01:48:17+00:00

Even as someone who believes that good relationships can hit rough patches and recover this really makes me feel ill. 11 years of being someone’s girlfriend and “I don’t love him” isn’t a reason to leave? That is for when you’re dealing with postpartum depression/dying parents/cancer/layoffs and need to remind yourself that you’re in it for the long haul. It’s not for when your bf can’t get his head out of his butt long enough to decide whether or not he wants to marry you and resorts to lying on the couch drinking beer playing vids every night so he doesn’t have to talk to you about it.

buffysummerrs · 2020-01-28T23:46:16+00:00

Um, it is when you don’t want to have sex with them, when you don’t feel anything when they walk in the door. Also, did this book ever ask WHY you fell out of love? Maybe he’s a LVM type of guy and you realized he sucks at life.

I don’t even know why I need to explain myself. I don’t need to explain why I hate Brussels sprouts either or why I like cats over dogs. You either feel something or you don’t. There is no grey area... that’s called friendship.

7_0f_9 · 2020-01-29T05:00:05+00:00

What fresh new hell is this lol

Title	Just Forever Girlfriend Things ❤️
Author	cachecowgirl
Upvotes	94
Comments	29
Date	January 28, 2020 8:04 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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