Backstory: have had a hookup with a dude who ended up ghosting me because he just kept telling me he was busy with work and never agreed to another meetup. Another was a date that was lame and made me realize I’m not even interested in doing dates right now. The rest have been total creeps and pervs just looking for a penpal to try and sext with me, wasting my time and mental energy trying to get past words and into action.

I don’t feel confident enough or even ready to seek out a proper relationship right now but I do want a regular FWB. It’s just time to be physical again after a long self imposed dry spell. I matched and hooked up with a complete god. A god I want to keep having a regular thing with. Now I’m in that weird stage of:

“Do I text him?”

“Should i bother him?”

“Should I send GM or GN texts?”

“Should I ask about meeting up again right away or wait a few days or just wait for him to ask me?”

We already talked about meeting up again but our schedules are both very busy. We left it at TBA. I want to be calm and just wait for him to let me know what’s best for him but also I don’t wanna be too distant and have him think I’m not still interested. I really could use advice on how often and what kinda stuff I should text, if anything to let him know I’m still interested but not too eager, I’m available but not desperate.

(He is genuinely gorgeous, seems kind, and is definitely worth trying to figure out a way to see again without coming off needy or too distant)

I am terrified that if I go too hard with my texts to say gm or just hi during the day that it’ll put him off or if I inquire too soon about meeting again he’ll just blow me off. I don’t personally believe he’s that kind of guy. He’s given me no reason to believe he’ll ghost me but, he’s younger than me and I have already seen up close how temporary these guys are off these dating apps. They seem to just be looking for whatever emotional or ego high they can get then run. The difference is we did the sext thing and then he dicked me down into another dimension! He isn’t just all talk obviously. I don’t wanna scare this guy off because he really is a catch and he has said more than once he’s also looking for a regular hookup.

TLDR: Please ladies! I’m so bad at this part! I need advice on how often I should text before our next meetup, what kinds topics to talk about, and whether I should even ask when the next time will be or just relax and let him come to me with asking first?