I’m really not sure what’s going on now and I’m honestly freaking out a little because I’d hate to have messed things up with him.

Dave appears to me to be a HVM. He’s handsome, charming, he’s got a great career, is really after a LTR>marriage. I know and trust that because i know people who’ve known him for years and they all have the same stories about him. He’s dated 4 women long term and seriously pursued a future with them all. Almost married his most recent ex but she cheated and that was over a year ago.

From the very beginning, he was intentional. He sought me out and asked me out directly. He took me on the type of first date you’d expect from a bad movie, and I mean that in the best way. He’s taken me on great dates and not just low effort bullshit.

He texted me first all the time, I’d wake up to good morning texts and well wishes.

I’ve been loving every second of this actual courtship. He works around MY schedule, he comes TO ME, he respects my boundaries. On top of that, he’s funny, he’s charming, he’s handsome, he even dresses well.

But I think I made a mistake around this time last week. We were texting and he tried to make plans for another date. He said he wanted to make sure I wasn’t single for Valentine’s Day. I loved that and I almost canceled my plans to spend some time with my little sister at my parent’s house that weekend, but I didn’t want to be a pickme.

I bounced back and forth on that for a while before I finally had the thought “a HVM could wait a week”, and I told him I already had plans this weekend, but that I might be able to see him during the week.

He took a while to respond but he eventually said he understood and to have a good weekend. That immediately caused me to panic more than I’d like to admit. Idk I just felt like he’d normally follow up and ask what my plans were but he didn’t. But I figured I was overthinking things.

So then he’s just silent for days until I messaged him Sunday evening (I know I know I shouldn’t have) and told him I was going to be available Wednesday. He responded and said he got called into work and was out of town and wouldn’t be back until Monday of next week.

He didn’t try to set up any actual plans though. This all really got me frustrated and worried and I asked a friend if she’d knew or heard anything and she came back to me saying that she heard through the grapevine that he doesn’t think I was interested in him.

I told my mom about this and her response worries me even more. She made this I can best describe as her “you messed up” face and basically said I might have made him think I didn’t like him and that you’ve got to meet men in the middle after they’ve put in enough effort. She said a good man is going to know his worth and if he thinks a woman isn’t interested, he’ll find another one who is.

Now I’m sitting here fighting the unimaginably strong urge to call him and be an unabashed pickme because I do really like him and think he’s HV but part of me also wonders if maybe this is a LV game? Idk. Help I can’t make sense of this