Ugh so I didn’t listen to my gut and now I’m in a situation. I know what I have to do, but it would be nice to have others affirm that these are In fact red flags. I’m 21, I’ve been dating this guy who’s 35 for several weeks. He’s pretty rich and maybe I’ve been overlooking the warning signs because I like his lifestyle. A couple days ago was our 5th date, he asked me to be his girlfriend, I said yes, which I regret in retrospect. I have only kissed him and made it clear that I don’t have sex until I know someone for a while.

So last date we went shopping, and then the plan was to go home and change to go to a nice restaurant for dinner. He drops me off at my place and I’m like, “alright I’ll be back in 20 minutes”. He looks puzzled and says, “you want me to just wait in the car?” He obviously thought he was going to come in my house which was baffling to me. Then we went to his place so he could grab a jacket, and he asked me if I wanted to see his apartment, to which I said “no, I’m gonna stay in the car.”

He acted totally weird after that, gave me the silent treatment on the drive to dinner, and I felt super uncomfortable. After asking him twice if something was wrong he told me that he “thought I didn’t trust him” and said “what did you think was going to happen in my apartment”. I explained I’m not just gonna go in a man’s house!

The tension of the situation resolved and we ended up having a really lovely time at dinner. In the moment I found him super charming and he asked me to be his gf and I said yes... But now I’m having second thoughts guys.

Red flag: I told him that I don’t like when he speeds in his car, he told me he always speeds, and continued to speed after I mentioned that I didn’t like it. Red flag: yesterday he texted me a selfie where he wasn’t wearing a shirt which I thought was inappropriate, and he acted really pissy when I told him that. Red flag: he makes jokes about hitting pedestrians and makes off color jokes

Ughhh. So basically, can I just block him, or do I need to text him/call him and say I don’t want to see him anymore. I’m just worried he’s gonna guilt me since he’s bought me shit and taken me to nice dinners. Thanks guys.